E kīia ana, kāore he whanaungatanga hauora e pārekareka ana, e takaro ana rānei, e kai ana rānei i ngā rōhi me ngā tina rama. He haerenga roa te marena, e kī ana i ngā pikinga me ngā hekenga, ko ētahi he mea kāore e taea te matapae. Heoi anō, ina waiho te wahine kia whakaaro, "Ka tīmata ngā whawhai a taku tāne, kātahi ka whakapae i ahau", he maha ngā wā i roto i te marena, […]
Hei ako atu mō tēnei raruraru (tino noa), i tahuri ahau ki aua puna tohutohu ipurangi – a Quora me Reddit – ā, i tino tutuki i a rātou. Mena kua whakaaro koe ki a koe anō, "He aha ahau i tino whakarihariha ai ki taku tāne?", kāti, kei te ruku hohonu tātou ki ngā take me te aha hei mahi.
"Ko te tikanga matua mō te whakatutukitanga o te aroha ko te wikitoria i te whakapehapeha o te tangata," te kī a te tohunga hinengaro a Erich Fromm i roto i tana pukapuka rongonui The Art of Loving. Ā, he tika tana. I te nui o tō rātou whakaaro nui ki a rātou anō me te hiahia kia pāngia e tetahi ō rātou whakapehapeha, ka whakaaro tātou mēnā ka taea e te hunga whakapehapeha te aroha pono ki tetahi, ā, kāore rawa.
Kua rongo katoa tātou i te kīwaha rorirori e mea ana "ko tāu tāne te tangata pai rawa atu hei whakapuaki i ō mea ngaro, e kore ia e kōrero ki tetahi, nā te mea kāore ia i whakarongo". Ae, he mana nui tō ngā tāne ki te titiro matatau atu ki a koe i a koe e kōrero ana, ā, kāore e rongo i tetahi mea e rongohia ana e koe.
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