Kukhala Ndi Kudzudzulidwa Kwanthawi Zonse Kuchokera kwa Alamu

Taganizirani izi: muli ndi mwamuna wabwino, banja labwino kwambiri, nyumba yokongola yokhala ndi dimba, komanso kagalu wokongola kwambiri yemwe mwakhala mukumufuna. Zikumveka bwino, sichoncho? Zonsezi zimangokhala m'dziko langwiro, chifukwa ngati muli ndi zonse zomwe mumafuna, chinachake chimene simunachiganizirepo chidzalakwika. Ndipo nthawi zambiri, ndiko kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza m’banja ndi apongozi anu.

Kuphunzira momwe mungathanirane ndi kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza kuchokera kwa makolo ndi ntchito ya herculean ndipo akazi ambiri amakakamiza amuna awo kuti adule maubwenzi ndi makolo awo kapena ngati sakufuna kukhala 'woipa' muubwenzi wangwiro wa mayi ndi mwana, zinthu zimazungulira ndikusintha. M’mawu ena, amasudzulana.

Kusudzulana Kokhazikika muukwati Kuchokera kwa Alamu

Zotsatira za kutsutsidwa kosalekeza zimakupezani mwamsanga ndipo posakhalitsa zonyoza ndi zachipongwe zotsika mtengo zimakhala zovuta kuzinyalanyaza. Mwamuna wanu sangakuimirireni pamaso pa makolo ake chifukwa ndi mwana wamwamuna wa amayi ndipo sakufuna kuwononga ubale wake ndi iwo chifukwa chakugwa pang'ono.

Koma kodi mukudziwa amene angakuthandizeni kuthana ndi kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza m’banja? Ana anu. Agogo onse amakonda mdzukulu wawo kwambiri ndipo satha kuwakwanira. Mwina n’zoona kuti apongozi anu angakudzudzuleniko chifukwa cha luso lanu la kulera koma ikani kukwiya kwanu kwa kamphindi ndi kumvetsera zimene ana anu akunena. Nthawi zonse amakhala ndi njira yapadera yothanirana ndi mavuto akulu.

Kuwerenga Kofanana: Chifukwa chimene ndinakhalira wosangalala kwambiri nditasiya kusangalatsa apongozi anga

Mkamwini 'wangwiro'

Tsiku lina, nditakhala mu shopu yogulitsa khofi, ndidamva azimayi awiri achikulire akukambirana zomwe zikuyembekezeka - apongozi awo. Popeza kuti inenso ndinali mpongozi komanso wopenyerera chibadwa cha anthu, mopanda manyazi ndinamvetsera zimene ankakambirana.

“Mpongozi wanga wamkazi amakwiya msanga,” anatero mayi wovala diresi labuluu. “Sakonda kudzudzulidwa, ndikumufunafunabe njira zothana ndi mpongozi wansanje. Adzayankha mwamsanga ndikamkwiyira.”

“Ndani sakanatero,” ndinaganiza.

“Mpongozi wanga ndi wokoma kwambiri motero,” anatero mayi wina wobiriwira. Ngakhale atakhumudwa ndi zomwe ndanena, amakhala chete osatsutsa.

Ndinaponya maso anga.

Kumva nkhani imeneyi kunandibwezanso kukumbukira zosasangalatsa za azakhali achikulire a m’banja mwanga akundiuza mmene apongozi awo amawanyoza pa ‘zolakwa’ zawo zosiyanasiyana koma anakakamizika kuzitenga ngati masewera abwino chifukwa ndi zimene apongozi/akazi abwino amachita.

Zoyembekeza zake nzosatheka

M'dera lathu, pali zambiri (zambiri!) zogwirika ndi zosaoneka zomwe mpongozi akuyenera kukhala nazo. Kuwonjezera pa zodziŵika bwino monga kukhala wochokera m’banja labwino ndi kukhala ndi ntchito, mkazi kapena mpongozi ayenera kukhala wokhoza kuphika bwino, kuchapa zovala, kusamalira banja, kukhala mkati mwa bajeti ndi kulera bwino ana.

Kuphatikiza apo, pali chiyembekezo chosaneneka kuti mtsikanayo alumikizana bwino ndi banja la mwamuna wake ndipo gawo lalikulu la izi ndikukhala wakhalidwe labwino pakuvomereza kutsutsidwa - zonse zomveka komanso mwano mopanda chifukwa. Akuyembekezeka kumvetsera kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza kwa mwamuna wake popanda kutulutsa mawu.

Khalidwe lopatulikali limaposa mikhalidwe ina yonse, ngakhale palibe amene angavomereze poyera mfundo imeneyi. Mkamwini yemwe adzayika otsutsa poyera m'malo mwawo ndikudziyimira yekha si lingaliro la aliyense, ngakhale atakhala ngati Jennifer Aniston ndikupeza ziwerengero zisanu ndi ziwiri.

Ndi kuzunza maganizo

Zinanditengera nthawi yaitali kuti ndizindikire kuti mawu osaonekera komanso achipongwe a achibale awo amene cholinga chake ndi kuwapweteketsa mtima sali mbali ya moyo wa m’banja, koma kwenikweni ndi mtundu wa nkhanza za m’maganizo. Mpaka nthawi imeneyo, ndinawavomereza ndipo ndinadzinyadira chifukwa chowapirira, poganiza kuti zinandipangitsa kukhala munthu wamphamvu. Sizinatero. Nthawi zonse ndinkaona ngati ndikusowa makhalidwe abwino a mkazi.

Kuyesera kuphunzira momwe ndingathanirane ndi kudzudzulidwa ndi achibale kunandipangitsa kuti ndisiye kudzidalira ndi kudzidalira. Zinandipangitsa kuti ndiiwale zolinga zanga ndi zokhumba zanga. Zinandipangitsa kuti nthawi zonse ndiziona kuti chimwemwe cha anthu ena n’chofunika kuposa changa, chizolowezi choopsa kwambiri chifukwa chimanditsimikizira kuti ndilibe chimwemwe.

Azimayi amazolowera zinthu zosaoneka bwinozi moti samazizindikira ndipo sadziwa kuti kudzidalira kwawo kukuchepa pang'onopang'ono. Pang'onopang'ono, mkazi amayamba kutaya umunthu wake ndikukayikira nthawi zonse kufunika kwake. Amapangidwa kuti azimva ngati palibe chomwe angachite chokwanira.

Zotsutsa zimatha kuchulukirachulukira nthawi zina

Mkazi wantchito adzakayikira yekha akadzudzulidwa chifukwa chosasamalira kunyumba ndi banja. Mkazi wapanyumba angadzimve kukhala wonyozeka chifukwa chosapereka ndalama zothandizira banja. Mayi yemwe ali wodziwa kuphika sadzayamikiridwa koma amadzudzulidwa mosalekeza ndi apongozi ake chifukwa chosunga nyumba yosokoneza.

Amuna kaŵirikaŵiri amachitiridwa zinthu zoipa ngati zimenezi. Tsiku limene ndinaona kuti nthaŵi zonse ndinali kukwiyira ana anga ndilo tsiku limene ndinazindikira kuti ndinafunikira kusintha moyo wanga. Sindinafune kukhala munthu wodzudzula, koma kudzudzula kumawoneka ngati gawo lofunika kwambiri la maubwenzi, ndipo akazi ndi apongozi amakumana ndi zovuta kwambiri.

Mfundo za banja zisakhale za kuyesa kuumba anthu kukhala angwiro. Ziyenera kukhala za chikondi ndi kuvomereza. Nyumba iyenera kukhala malo ofewa obwererako dziko likakhala lolimba, osati malo othawirako!

Chosangalatsa n’chakuti, anali ana anga amene anandiphunzitsa mmene ndingachitire ndi kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza m’banja ndi kukhumudwa mwachisawawa. Nthawi zonse akamadzudzulidwa amene akuona kuti n’zosayenera, amangomwetulira n’kupitiriza kuchita chilichonse chimene akuchita.

Ngati sakonda munthu, amangonyalanyaza munthuyo popanda kumuyankha, kwinaku akumwetulira pankhope kuti mnzakeyo asamve chisoni. Izi zimagwira ntchito. Ndinayesa ndekha. Anthu amatopa ndi kudzudzula akamaona kuti palibe vuto. Panopa ndine munthu wosangalala kwambiri. Chilichonse chimene ndikuchita lero, ndimachita chifukwa ndikufuna kutero osati chifukwa chakuti ndinasokonezeka maganizo ndi kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza.

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