I hiahia ahau ki te whakarere. He aha ahau i pouri ai?

I tono ahau ki taku tāne kia whakarere i muri i te waru tau o te marena. I tino pouri māua, ā, i rite ki te kore he aroha i waenganui i a māua. I te tīmatanga kāore ia i hiahia ki te whakarere engari i muri mai ka whakaae ia. Inaianei kei te tupu tēnā, kei te pouri ahau, ā, kāore au i te mārama he aha. Kia pēhea te roa o te wā e hiahiatia ana kia... whakarērea te whakarereKāore au i whakaaro ka uaua rawa taku whakarere i ahau, nā te mea ko au te tangata i hiahia, ā, i tino pouri ahau i mua. He maha ngā kare ā-roto e pā ana ki ahau i te wā kotahi, pērā i te pouri, te riri, te mokemoke, me te mamae.

Ki taku whakaaro kāore e taea e au te kōrero ki tētahi mō tēnei mea nā te mea e whakaaro ana te katoa ko au te tangata kino mō te tono whakarere. Ki te kōrero atu ahau ki a rātou ināianei kua whakarerea ahau, kua pouri hoki, ka mea noa mai rātou 'I kī atu ahau ki a koe'. Kei te tino mokemoke ahau. Tēnā koa homai he tohutohu mō te whakahaere i te whakarere.

Te pānui e pā ana: Kei te tata māua ko taku tāne te whakarere nā tōna whaea

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Ehara i te mea ko te whakarere anake te mutunga o tō marenaHe mate tēnei – o tētahi i roa ai tō koutou tumanako ki te aroha, o tētahi heke mai i moemoeāhia ngātahitia e kōrua, o te oranga e noho tahi ana kōrua. He mea pōuri te pouri me te mokemoke i roto i tō kōrua marena, ā, i rite te marena ki te kore aroha. I taua wā, ko te wehe atu i taua marena te mea tika hei mahi. Heoi, ehara i te mea miharo kei te pāngia koe e tēnei ranunga o ngā kare ā-roto kaha.

Hei kaiwhakaora hinengaro, kua kite ahau i te tangata e whakahaere ana i te mate, te pouri me te wehenga i roto i ngā huarahi maha, ā, kua whakaū tēnei i te meka kāore he huarahi tika, he huarahi hē rānei mō te whakaaro me te whakahaere i te wehenga, i te whakarere rānei. Anei ētahi mea hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakahaere i tēnei:

• Kia atawhai ki a koe anō, kia tukua koe kia tino pā ki ngā kare ā-roto katoa e puta ake ana. He tika tō wheako kare ā-roto. Ahakoa i hiahia koe ki tēnei whakarere, ehara i te mea kāore e taea e koe te whakapuaki i te pouri me te mamae mō te mutunga o tō marena. Kaua e whakakahoretia ō kare ā-roto.
• Kaua e ngana ki te kimi i tētahi "otinga" me te tere tonu ki te whakaora i a koe anō. He mea nui kia whai wā koe ki te noho tahi me tēnei kare ā-roto, kia wheako hoki i a ia e puta ake ana. Heoi, ehara i te mea me noho tonu koe ki konei. Me tiaki tonu koe i a koe anō, ina koa kāore koe e hiahia ki te pērā.
• Kōrero ki tētahi e whakawhirinaki ana koe, kaua e whakakorekore i ō kare ā-roto mō ngā mea e pā ana ki a koe. E mārama ana ahau kei te aro atu pea koe ki te maha o ngā whakahe mai i ō whanaunga mō tēnei whakatau. Heoi, kāore te katoa e whakahe i a koe i te rite. Ka tūtohu ahau kia whakapā atu koe ki tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei, hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatere i tēnei āhuatanga, kia kore ai koe e noho mokemoke i roto i te tukanga.
• Ka maka koe e te whakarere ki tētahi wāhi kāore anō kia mōhiotia, ka huri i tō tikanga o ia rā. I ēnei wā, ngana ki te whakatū me te pupuri i tētahi tikanga iti, māmā hoki hei whai. Tērā pea he aha noa iho, mai i tētahi tikanga poto o te ata, ki tētahi tikanga horoi, ki tētahi mea rānei e mahia ana e koe i roto i ngā tikanga e mōhiotia ana, e whakamarie ana hoki. Ka mahi tēnei tikanga mōhiotia hei punga i ngā wā pōrearea.
• Kia maumahara koe kei a koe tonu tētahi heke mai hei titiro whakamua. Ahakoa he mea nui kia whakaae me te wheako i ō kare ā-roto, kaua e noho roa ki aua kare ā-roto. Ko te neke whakamua te whāinga matua. Nō reira, i te wā e mahi ana te wā i tana mahi, me mahi ki te hanga i tētahi oranga e tino tumanakohia ana e koe.
• Whakawhanakehia te hononga ki ētahi atu, ki te taiao hoki. Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te hono atu ki ētahi atu i roto i tō ao nā te wehi kei whakahengia koe, tūtaki ki ētahi atu i roto i ngā hapori he rite ō rātou hiahia. Kia kaha ki te hanga hononga ki te taiao, ā, ki a koe anō hoki.

Te pānui e pā ana: Ehara te Wehe i te Mutunga o te Ao

Ahakoa te kino o te mutunga o tētahi whanaungatanga, he mate tonu, ā, he pai tonu kia mau tonu ō kare ā-roto uaua mō taua mea. Kia manawanui ki a koe anō, ā, kia whai wā i ia rā ki te mahi i tētahi mea e hari ai koe. Kaua e whakawhirinaki ki te waipiro, ki ētahi atu matū rānei hei huarahi whakatau i te raruraru. Engari, whakapaua te wā me te kaha ki te poipoi i te hiahia, te auahatanga me te hononga.

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