I tinihanga taku tāne, ā, i whānau he pēpi mā te wahine kē

Porohia te aroha

E ono tau māua ko taku tāne e marena ana, ā, kotahi tā māua tamāhine. Kāore i pai te noho o tā māua marena mō tētahi wā. Me te mea kāore e taea e māua te kōrero kotahi me te kore e huri hei pakanga. E aroha ana māua ki tā māua tamāhine, nō reira, mōna, i whakapono tonu ahau ka whakatikahia e māua ngā mea i te mutunga. I kitea noa e au kua tinihanga taku tāne, ā, kua whānau he pēpi ki te wahine kē. Neke atu i te tau te roa o tā rāua moe tahi, ā, he aituā noa iho. E whitu marama te hapu o te wahine rangatira o taku tāne, ā, e hiahia ana ia kia whakarērea ahau e ia, kia tīmata he whānau hou māua i mua i te whānautanga mai o te pēpi. Kei te ngaro ahau, ā, e hiahia ana ahau ki te tiaki i ahau anō, engari kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea. He aha aku tika mēnā ka tinihanga taku tāne i ahau? Ka taea e au te whakawakia taku tāne mō te haputanga o tētahi atu wahine? He whānau kē tā māua, ā, kāore au i te whakapono he kuware ia ki te whānau he pēpi ki tana wahine rangatira. Kāore au i te mōhio mēnā e hiahia ana ahau kia noho ia ki ahau, kāore rānei. Tēnā koa homai he tohutohu mō te aha me mahi mēnā ka hapu tētahi atu wahine e taku tāne.

whakahoki:

Aroha mai ki te rongo kei te pāngia koe e tēnei wā uaua. Ki taku whakaaro, ko te rongo mō te puremu a tō tāne , me te mea anō hoki i hapu ai te wahine kē, he mea tino kino, he mea whakararuraru hoki. He mea nui rawa atu kia rapu tautoko me te hononga koe i ngā hoa me te whānau. Ehara tēnei i te mea me whakahaere ko koe anake.

Me whai wā anō hoki koe ki te tiaki i a koe anō, inā koa i ngā rā kāore koe e hiahia ana. He mea whakamīharo, koinā ngā rā e tino hiahiatia ana e tātou. Tērā pea mā te whai i ōu ake mahi whakangahau, te noho tahi me te hunga e arohaina ana, te noho tahi me te taiao, me ētahi atu.

He wāhi pai hei tīmatanga ki te rapu whakaaro ko te ngana ki te mārama ki tāu e hiahia ana kia mahia. He whakatau uaua te noho tonu i roto i te marena, kāore rānei, nō reira kia kaua e akiaki i a koe kia tahuri ki tētahi whakatau motuhake. Kia pono, kia pono hoki ki ō wheako kare ā-roto. Ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki te whai wāhi ki te wānanga mō te marena, ki te wānanga mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, kia mōhio ai koe ki tā kōrua e hiahia ana kia mahia mō tēnei marena.

He pai anō hoki te kōrero tuwhera, pono hoki ki tāu tāne mō te take katoa, ki te pai koe ki tēnā. Ae, tera pea ka pāngia te kōrero, ā, ka nui ake te mamae o tō wairua. Engari, tera ētahi pātai ka taea e ia anake te whakautu māu. Tērā pea ka hoatu he māramatanga e hiahiatia ana e koe hei whakatau. Ki te whiriwhiri koe ki te kōrero i tēnei, kaua e uru ki tētahi whakapae. Kōrerohia ō kare ā-roto me te ngana ki te whakaatu i te aroha ki a ia i ngā wā katoa e taea ana e koe. Koinei anake te huarahi e mau tonu ai te kōrero, ā, e kore ai tetahi e ārai i a ia anō.

He mea nui anō hoki kia whakatakotoria ētahi rohe hei whakarite i tō oranga me tō haumaru. Kia mōhio ki te mea e tino hiahiatia ana e koe, kātahi ka tono atu. Ahakoa he wāhi, he wā rānei hei whakaaroaro, he āwhina me te tautoko mai i ētahi atu. Whakaarohia te rongoā hinengaro, te tohutohu rānei hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatere i te raruraru o ngā whakaaro me ngā kare ā-roto e pā ana ki a koe. Ko te whai take ture rānei hei whakawakia tāu tāne mō āna mahi, ka whakawhirinaki nui ki ngā ture o tō rohe me ngā āhuatanga motuhake o tō āhuatanga. I roto i te maha o ngā rohe, ehara te puremu i te take mō te whakawakanga, nā te mea e kiia ana he take whaiaro, ehara i te take ture.

Heoi, mēnā kua puta he kino ki a koe i ngā mahi a tō tāne, he pānga ture rānei e pā ana ki te mana tiaki tamariki, te tautoko, te wehewehe rānei i ngā rawa, ka taea e koe te whai huarahi ture. Hei tauira, mēnā ko te kore whakapono o tō tāne me tana whanaungatanga ki tētahi atu wahine ka arahi ki te whakakorenga o tō kōrua marena me ngā mate moni, ka taea pea e koe te whai i ngā rongoā ture pēnei i ngā tukanga whakarere, te tautoko a te hoa rangatira, te wehewehe tika rānei i ngā rawa o te marena.

He mea nui kia kōrero koe ki tētahi rōia whai tohu e mōhio ana ki ngā ture whānau o tō rohe, kia matapakihia ai ō āhuatanga motuhake, kia tūhuratia ai hoki ō whiringa ture. Ka taea e rātou te whakarato tohutohu me te ārahi whaiaro i runga i ngā ture e pā ana ki tō āhuatanga, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ki ō tika me ngā huarahi mahi ka taea.

Hei whakamutunga, kaua e whakakahoretia ō kare ā-roto. He tika katoa ō kare ā-roto, ahakoa he pouri, he pōuri, he riri, he hae, he pōuri rānei. Ngāna kia noho wātea ēnei kare ā-roto, kaua hoki e pehi.

FAQs

1.⁠ ⁠Me whakarērea e au taku tāne i muri i tana whānautanga me ētahi atu wāhine?

Kāore he whakautu kotahi e tika ana mō tēnei. Heoi, i mua i tō whakatau i tēnā, me whakaaro koe ki ētahi mea:
1. Ō kare ā-roto mō tēnei take, ahakoa e taea ana e koe, e hiahia ana rānei koe ki te whakahaere i tēnei marena kia angitu
2. He aha te huarahi mahi pai rawa atu māu?
3. Ngā pānga o te noho, te wehe atu rānei ki tāu tamaiti. He maha ngā wā ka nui ake te kino o ngā tamariki i te hononga kino me ngā mātua kaua ki ngā mātua kua wehea.
4. Tātarihia tō whanaungatanga marena. He pūtake nui kei reira hei hanga i tētahi mea, hei whakatika rānei i te whanaungatanga. Ki te whakatau koe ki te noho, he aha te take e noho tonu ai koe?
5. Rapua he kōrero ture me te kōrero pūtea mō te pānga o tētahi o ngā whakataunga ki a koe.
6. Kohikohi tautoko mai i ō hoa me tō whānau e whakawhirinaki ana koe. Whakaarohia hoki te whakaora whaiaro.

2.⁠ ⁠Me aha ahau mēnā kua hapu tētahi atu wahine i taku tāne?

He tino wero, he tino uaua hoki tēnei āhuatanga. Anei ngā mea hei whakaaroaro māu:
1. Tangohia he wā mōu ake, whakaarohia, me te ngana ki te mārama ki tāu e hiahia ana ki te mahi.
2. Kōrerohia ki tō tāne me te tuwhera, me te pono hoki, kia mārama ai koe ki ana whakaaro.
3. Rapua te tautoko mai i ō whanaunga, ā, whakaarohia te whakaora hinengaro, te tuku tohutohu rānei.
4. Arotakehia ō kōwhiringa, ā, ngana ki te tiki i ngā mōhiohio ture me ngā mōhiohio pūtea katoa e hiahiatia ana e koe. 5. Arotakehia hoki te āhua o tō marena, me te whakaaro anō hoki mēnā he tūponotanga kei te ora anō, kei te whakatikatika rānei.
6. Whakatairangahia te tiaki i a koe anō.

3.⁠ ⁠Ka taea e au te whakawhirinaki anō ki taku tāne i muri i tana tinihanga?

He mea taea te hanga anō i tētahi whanaungatanga i muri i te puremu, ā, kei reira ētahi tāne me ngā wāhine kua wikitoria i tēnei āhuatanga. Heoi, māu anō e whakatau mēnā ka taea, kāore rānei. He nui te mahi hei hanga anō i te whakawhirinaki kua pakaru.
1. Whakaarohia mēnā ka taea e koe te mahi i tēnei marena, ā, he aha ngā take mōu ki te mahi pēnā?
2. Me whakaae tō tāne ki te kawenga, me te whiriwhiri i waenganui i a koe me te tangata e whai wāhi ana.
3. He nui te kōrero tuwhera, pono hoki e hiahiatia ana i waenganui i a kōrua, he mea tino hoha pea tēnei, engari ka hoatu ki a kōrua te māramatanga e hiahiatia ana e koe.
4. Tirohia ō kare ā-roto me ō wheako kare ā-roto hei whakatau mēnā e hiahia ana koe ki te whakawhirinaki anō ki a ia.

Whakaarohia te whai wāhi ki te wānanga mō te marena, mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine rānei, kia mārama ake ai, kia whakatūria ai he tauira whakawhitiwhiti kōrero hauora, kia mōhio ai hoki koe ki tāu e hiahia ana.

Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.