Nō reira, ina tonoa mai ahau kia tuhituhi i tētahi kōrero mō te noho hei wahine pōuri kua moe wahine ki tētahi tāne mā, ko taku tauhohenga tuatahi he kore aro! "He mea nui te tae i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga? Ko wai e tino māharahara ana ki te tae kiri i ēnei rā? Kāore i te nui ki ahau. Kāore he tangata i whakama i ahau mō te tae." Kei te whakaaroaro nui māua ko tōku whaea i a māua e inu tī ana i te ahiahi.
"Me kōrero tātou mō ngā take 'nui ake'. Te mana o te tāne me te wahine. Ngā momo ira tangata. Ngā utu kore ōrite. Te whakama nui," taku kī. Ka mahi ngā kōrero tae i roto i te ao ahurea kotahi, e kī ana ia. "I tono atu ahau kia tono koe." multani mitti (oneone a te kaihoroi) a besan (paraoa karamu) mō te kiri kanapa, kāore he ira. He waimarie koe kāore au i hanga kesar "(he hapirone) he wāhanga o tō tikanga tamarikitanga," tana riri. Ā, e mōhio ana ahau nā tēnā i tino rerekē ai.
He mea nui te tae kiri i roto i te whanaungatanga?
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Āe, ko te tikanga, e maumahara ana ahau ki tana whakatūpato mō ngā kirimi whakamāmā e whakakīia ana ki te haukini me ngā kai whakama, e hanga ana i ngā hua kāinga mō te kiri o āna tamāhine 'ataahua' – engari ko taku e maumahara ana he kupu motuhake āna hei kī he ataahua te tangata. Pēnei i Aishwaryam (atawhai), tejas (kanapa), pakwata (whakapono) me ērā atu mea.
I hono katoa ēnei kupu ki te wāhi o roto o ō tātou tinana e hiahia ana kia whakarei ake mā te pānui, mā ngā wheako me ngā whakaaroaro, kaua ko te āhua tinana anake. Kiri kiri i whakanuia te ataahua i te kiri mā. He nui atu ngā mea o te ataahua i tua atu i te kiri mā, te kiri pango rānei.
Tae noa mai ki tēnei wā, kāore anō kia mōhio ahau koinei te take i hanga ai ōku tirohanga mō te ataahua. Ka tuhi au i ōku whakaaro kia hoki atu ahau, kia awhi i a ia, kia kī atu ehara ia i te whaea pai, engari he wahine pai. E harikoa ana ahau kāore ia i riro i tēnei matekiri kiri mā i Inia, kua tino pāngia nei e te nuinga o ngā wāhine Inia.
Ā muri ake nei, i te tina ka tirotirohia e au te roro o taku tāne 'māmā'. E mōhiotia whānuitia ana ko ana hoa aroha ko ngā kōtiro Mareiali, he wahine kiri mangu te nuinga. Ā, kua pai kē ahau ki te nui o te hiranga tauhou i ahau e noho ana hei Mareiali. bahu i roto i tōna whare Marwadi, i roto i ngā tau e whā o māua marena.
"Āe, he tino ataahua te tae o tō kiri. Ka whakanui ake i ō kanohi me tō ataata."
Ngā mihi! Engari e mōhio ana ahau ki tēnā, ā, e hiahia ana ahau ki te whakarongo ki tētahi mea rerekē. "Āe, tera pea ka taea e koe te kōrero mōku, me te rongonui e pārekareka ana ki ahau i ia wā ka haere ahau ki Kerala. Kia mahara, e whakaaro ana ō whanaunga he tino waimarie koe?" Ka kata mātou. Ka mahara mātou ki tētahi haerenga ki te temepara o tō mātou whānau. I tino miharo te tohunga o te temepara ki te kiri o taku tāne (i roto i ngā temepara o Kerala, me noho kāhore he hāte o ngā tāne), ā, i aro nui mai hoki mātou.
I kata nui mātou mō taua mea i taua wā. E kōrero ana mātou, me te āwangawanga, mō ō mātou whanaunga 'hoa' e whakatoi ana i a mātou, e kī ana ka taea e ia te tautoko i ngā kirīmi kiri mā. Heoi anō, he 'māmā, he ātaahua' ia, ehara hoki i te mema o te iwi tāne kiri mangu. I ētahi wā ka mea rātou "Kei te āhua māmā haere tō mātou tuahine; kei te āhua whai hua te kamupene ki a ia." Kāore mātou i tino mōhio mēnā he kata, he mihi rānei. Engari kua kata noa mātou.
Te whai whakaaro nui ki te tika
"Nō reira, kāore he tangata o tōku whānau (whānui) i kōrero mōu?" ka pātai mai ia ki ahau. Kāore rawa i te tino mōhiotia e au. "Kāore he matua kēkē, kāore he whaea kēkē?" Kāore rawa e taea e au te whakaaro ki tētahi. He 'take nui ake', ka hameme anō ahau. Ngā momo ira tangata. Te mana o te tāne me te wahine. Te wahine.
Kei te kōrero wawe tātou mō Mr Tarun Vijay, ā, ka huri ō tātou kanohi i ngā kōrero pēnei i te, 'Ehara i te mea he pango katoa ngā tāngata o te Tonga!' Ka tuhi anō ahau i ōku hinengaro: he maha ngā wā kāore tātou e whakawhetai ana mō ō tātou ake āhuatanga. Koinei te tikanga o te whai hoa rangatira kore-ira, ā, he rangatira hoki. E aroha ana ahau ki a ia, ā, he maha ngā wā ka ngahau ahau ki te moemoeā mō ngā kaupapa whakatairanga i reira ia e whakaatu ana i te mana wahine!
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I te aonga ake, ka haere tonu te kōrero i roto i taku tari. Tokowhā ngā kōtiro ataahua, he rerekē ngā tae kiri o Īnia e mahi ana i konei. Ka pātai atu ahau ki a rātou mēnā kua pāngia rātou e ētahi 'kōrero tae'? Ka tae mai te whakautu a Pat "Āe, he nui!" Kei hea? I ō rātou kāreti. Ō rātou kāinga. Ko ētahi tauira tuatoru. Ko ētahi tauira kaumātua. Ka kata rātou mō 'tērā' whaea e manukanuka ana mō te tangata ka marena i a rātou, nā te mea kāore rātou i te tika. Ā, ka tino miharo ēnei kōtiro, 'He mea nui te tae i roto i te whanaungatanga?' Nā te mea i kīia ki a rātou i roto i ō rātou oranga katoa kāore rātou e kitea he tama e tika ana kia uru atu rā anō rātou ki te momo tae o Īnia.
Ngā mihi pēnei i te "Kua pōuri rawa koe! Kaua e haere nui ki waho, kaua hoki e kaukau nui. Whakangao moni ki tētahi momo tikanga ataahua raumati"Ko te whakautu i ia wā he kīanga e pānuitia ana pēnei," He aha koe te manukanuka ai ki tāu ake pakihi?" Ā, ka kata rātou mō taua mea i muri mai.
He tika te kī a tētahi o aku hoa mahi, "Ko te nuinga o ēnei kōrero he mea hanga noa iho. E kīia ana 'pērā tonu'. Nō reira, āe, ka pōhēhē mātou i a rātou 'pērā tonu'."
Kāore he aha te tae
Ahakoa he āhua mārire, he āhua kore rānei, ko ēnei momo kōrero ngā taputapu e whakatū ana i ngā tikanga pāpori me ngā momo kiri mō te marena, kāore rawa e whai tikanga. Ka arahi tēnei ki ngā take nui e kīia nei e ngana ana mātou ki te whawhai: ngā momo ira tangata, te mana rangatira, te kaikiri me ērā atu mea. Ahakoa, te āhua nei, kāore i arai i aku whiringa whaiaro, mahi rānei, kei te pāngia te pāpori i ngā huarahi e whakamamae ana i ngā wāhine, ā, i ētahi wā i ētahi atu huarahi kāore mātou e mōhio.
Tērā pea kāore te aro nui ki te tika i Inia e pā tika ana ki a koe, koia te take kāore koe i aro nui atu ai ki tēnā. Engari mai i te whakahē a tō hoa noho mō tō kiri ki ō hoa e whakautu ana ki ō kōrero Instagram me te kī, 'E hine, he parauri rawa tō āhua! Whakamātauria tēnei kirīmi hou i hokona mai e au', kei te whawhai tātou i tētahi pakanga nui ake i konei. He momo pono tēnei o te whakama te tinana.
Heoi anō, hei whakatenatena i ngā wāhine kiri mangu ko ō rātou tae anake te mea e whakatau ana i tō rātou uara, ka waiho tonu ēnei wāhine kia pātai, 'He mea nui te tae i roto i te whanaungatanga?' ki taku whakaaro, koinei te hapa nui o te hapori. Kāore pea te kata noa i te mea tika.
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Ina tae koe ki te pakeketanga, ka tīmata koe i tētahi haerenga o te whakaae ki a koe anō, engari i te wā i kīia mai ai ki a koe i tō oranga katoa, mā roto i ngā tawai, ngā tohutohu, me ngā katakata, kāore tō tae i te tino ātaahua, kāore i te tino hiahiatia, kāore hoki i te tino manakohia, ka tīmata koe ki te whakapono he pono. Engari ehara i te mea pono, ko tātou tonu tātou, kāore he pānga ki ō tātou kiri, ā, e ngā wāhine, kati te tawai i ā koutou tamāhine, i te tamāhine rānei a tō hoa noho mō ō rātou kiri. He nui ake ā rātou mahi i te ao!