Me pēhea te tīmata i te whakaipoipo: Ngā tohutohu mō te hunga tīmata me te hunga e tīmata anō ana

Ko te tīmatanga ki te whakaipoipo mō te wā tuatahi, i muri rānei i te okiokinga roa, ka rite ki te takahi i tētahi whenua kāore anō kia kitea. He mea maori te ruarua, te whakaaro "Me pēhea te mahi a te whakaipoipo?", te noho rānei ki te whakaaro "Kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea te whakaipoipo, he pai ake te kore e whakamātau". Tērā pea he taumaha rawa ēnei whakaaro, engari kāore te tukanga i te uaua pērā i tō whakaaro. Ehara te whakaipoipo i te mea mō te tino pai—engari mō te hononga, te tipu, me te kitenga tahi. Ahakoa kei te whakaaro koe mēnā kua tika te wā, kei te rapu rānei i ngā tohutohu whakaipoipo whai hua mō te tīmatanga o te whakaipoipo, kua kawea mai e mātou ngā whakautu katoa ki a koe! 

I kōrero mātou ki tētahi tohunga hinengaro me tētahi kaiwhakaora whanonga hinengaro nō California, Tākuta Shefali Batra (MD i roto i te hinengaro), he tohunga ki te tohutohu mō te wehenga me te whakarere, te wehenga me te whakaipoipo, me ngā take hototahi i mua i te marena, hei kawe mai i ngā mahi whai hua me ngā tohutohu a te tohunga ki a koe.

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Ko te whakaipoipo mō te wā tuatahi ka rite ki te ngana ki te whakakotahi i ngā taonga IKEA me te kore he tohutohu—he nui rawa, he pōhēhē, ā, i ētahi wā he katakata. Kaua e manukanuka! Mā ngā nekehanga tika me te paku whakakatakata, e kore e whakatere noa koe i te ao whakaipoipo engari ka koa hoki koe ki te tukanga. Kei raro nei ngā tohutohu whakaipoipo 11 a ngā tohunga kua hangaia hei āwhina i a koe ki te mahi i ngā hikoinga tuatahi me te maia me te pono.

1. Whakaaturia te wāhi e noho ana te tangata

Hui tangata me noho ki te wāhi e noho ana rātou. 

• Hono atu ki ngā rōpū whakangahau
• Haere ki nga huihuinga
• Ahakoa ngā whare kawhe auau 

Hei tauira, mā te whakauru atu ki tētahi karapu pukapuka, ki tētahi akomanga yoga rānei ka āwhina i a koe ki te kimi i ngā tāngata whai whakaaro ōrite i runga i te āhua tūturu. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ki te mataku koe, tīmata noa mā te iti: mihi atu ki tētahi tangata hou, mihi atu rānei ki tā rātou pukapuka, ki tā rātou kākahu rānei i whiriwhiri ai." Ka taea e ngā taunekeneke pono, ahakoa he mea noa, te whakanui ake i tō whakapono ki a koe anō, te whakanui ake i ō hononga, ā, nā reira, te āwhina i te whakaipoipo. 

2. Pania me te kāhua

He rite ngā taupānga whakaipoipo ki tētahi taputapu whakaipoipo hou. Te hanga i tētahi mea pai kōtaha kōtaha he mea nui:

• Tāpirihia ngā whakaahua hou, mārama hoki, me tētahi kōrero whaiaro e whakaata ana i tō tuakiri me ō hiahia.
• Āta karohia ngā kīwaha pēnei i te "He pai ki ahau te haereere" me te kore he horopaki; engari, tuhia tō haerenga tino pai
• Panukuhia kia āta whakaaro; he mea nui ake te kounga o ngā hononga i te rahinga

3. Whakaharatauhia te kōrero poto

Ehara i te mea he koretake te kōrero pakupaku; he tūāpapa ki ngā kōrero whai tikanga. I a ia e tohutohu ana mō te tīmatanga o te whakaipoipo mō te wā tuatahi, e kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Whakaharatauhia ō pūkenga kōrero ki ngā hoa mahi, ki ngā hoa noho tata rānei. Mena kei tētahi huihuinga whatunga koe, pātaihia ngā pātai tuwhera pēnei i te, "He aha te mea e tino pai ana ki a koe mō tō mahi?" Mā te whai wāhi ki ngā whakawhitiwhiti kōrero māmā, māia hoki ka āwhina i a koe kia marino i te wā o ngā whakaipoipo.

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4. Pātai atu mō ngā whakaritenga

He aha te mahi a te whakaipoipo mō te hunga kāore e pai ki te rapu hoa ipurangi? Ka taea e koe te whai i te ara tuku iho! He maha ngā wā ka mōhio pai ngā hoa ki te hunga e pai ana ki a koe. Kōrerohia kei te hiahia koe ki te whakaipoipo, ka pātai atu mēnā e mōhio ana rātou ki tētahi e rite ana ō hiahia ki a koe. Kei roto i te whakaritenga he wairua whakawhirinaki kua hangaia i roto i te hinengaro nā te mea kei te tautoko tō hoa i a kōrua. Kia mahara kia noho noa te tūtakitanga tuatahi, pērā i te rā kawhe.

5. Ngā whakaaro tuatahi a Ace

Mā ngā mahi iti pēnei i te whakakakahu, te tiki putiputi mō tō hoa, te titiro tonu ki ngā kanohi, me te menemene ka whakaatu i te mahana me te hiahia, ka whakatakoto i te reo pai mō te hoa. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ko te whakapono ki a koe anō te mea nui, engari ehara i te mea he tino tika. Whakaaturia te pono - kata ki a koe anō mēnā ka maringi he kawhe, ka hē rānei koe i tētahi katakata."

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6. Kia tuwhera te hinengaro

Awhitia ngā rerekētanga; rātou kia whakamere ngā whanaungatangaAhakoa te āhua rerekē o te tangata, pērā i te aroha ki te pīta paināporo, ka taea te kata tahi. Kaua e whakahē i tētahi mō ngā mea iti noa iho; engari kia arotahi ki ōna uara me tōna āhua.

7. Nekehia i tō tere

I a koe e rapu ana i te huarahi hei hoki anō ki te whakaipoipo, kaua e whakaroa i te tukanga. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ka taea e te tuku karere kuputuhi tonu, te tūtaki pinepine rānei, te taumaha rawa atu, inā koa kāore anō kia whakaipoipo mō tētahi wā." Mā te wāhi ka hanga he tumanako me tētahi manawataki tūturu i roto i te whanaungatanga. Nō reira, tukua ngā mea kia puta noa i te ao.

8. Whakamaherehia ngā rā iti te tūponotanga

Nga ra tuatahi kāore e hiahiatia te nui rawa o ngā mea. Mā te whare kawhe noa, mā te hikoi rānei i te pāka ka arotahi te kōrero. He iti noa te pēhanga o ēnei āhuatanga, ā, ka marino ngā taha e rua. Kia māmā, kia ngahau hoki te noho hei whakatenatena i te hononga pono.

9. Kia tino whakarongo koe

He mana nui te whakarongo kaha i roto i te whakaipoipo. Whakautua me te whakaaro nui, me te whakaatu i te hiahia ki ngā mea e kōrerohia ana e tō hoa. Hei tauira, ki te kōrero rātou mō te aroha ki te tunu kai, pātai atu mō ā rātou tohutao tino pai. Mā te whakarongo ka hanga whakawhirinaki me te whanaungatanga.

10. Kia mataara ki ngā haki whero

He mea pai tēnei i te tuatahi tohutohu hononga nā te mea, ki te kore he wheako, ka tino miharo koe ki te tangata e aro nui ana ki a koe (Kāore he take e riri ai, i pērā katoa tātou i tētahi wā). E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "I mua i te tīmatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga, kia tūpato ki ngā whanonga e tohu ana i ngā raruraru pea, pērā i te nui rawa o te kino, te kore rānei e taea te whakaute i ngā rohe. Whakawhirinaki ki ō kare ā-roto; ki te mea he ahua hē tetahi mea, he pai ki te hoki whakamuri."

11. Kia noho koe

Ko te tohutohu tino tawhito tēnei hei āwhina i te whakaipoipo. Ā, whakapono mai, whakapono mai rānei, ko te mea tino pono hoki. He mea ātaahua te pono. Tuhia ō āhuatanga me ō hiahia, ahakoa he aroha ki ngā kai o te pō, he kiriata pakipūmeka rānei. Mā te pono ka poipoi i ngā hononga whai tikanga, ā, ka whakarite i te hototahitanga.

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Ka taea e te hokinga atu ki te ao whakaipoipo te ahua taumaha, inā koa i muri i te okiokinga roa. Mena kei te whakaaro koe "Āhea ahau me tīmata anō ki te whakaipoipo?" Kei tō kare ā-roto te whakautu. Ma enei tohutohu koe e āwhina ki te whakatau mena kua rite koe, ā, ki te ae, me pēhea te hoki ki te whakaipoipo, mena kei te rite koe. te tīmata i tētahi whanaungatanga hou he whakamātautau noa iho rānei.

1. Tirohia ō kawenga kare ā-roto

Ngā kare ā-roto kāore anō kia whakatauhia hononga o mua ka taea te whakapōrearea i ngā hononga hou. Whakaarohia ō kare ā-roto, ā, kia tino tukatukahia e koe. Ka taea e te tuhi pukapuka, te whakaora rānei te āwhina i a koe ki te wetewete i ngā take e toe ana. Ki te taea e koe te whakaaro ki tō hoa o mua me te kore he kawa, he tohu tēnei kua rite koe. I te mea ko tēnei Reddit kaiwhakamahi i kōrero, "I te mutunga, ehara i te mea mā tetahi atu engari māu ake. Kia tino mohio kei te whakakī koe i te āputa i mahue i te tangata o mua. Me whakaora e koe tēnā."

2. Whakaarohia ngā akoranga o mua

I mua i tō tīmatanga ki te rapu huarahi hei tīmata anō i te whakaipoipo, kati te tātari i tō whanaungatanga whakamutunga. Pātai atu ki a koe anō ēnei pātai:

• He aha i hapa?
• He aha te mea i taea e koe te mahi i tētahi atu huarahi?
• I he koe i tētahi ara, ā, mēnā āe, me pēhea e taea ai e koe te whakapai ake? kia pai ake tō hoa mahi?

E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "He akoranga kei roto i ia whanaungatanga. Whakaarohia ngā mea i angitu, ngā mea kāore i angitu, me te āhua o ngā whanaungatanga ā muri ake nei e hiahia ana koe kia puta. Whakamahia ēnei māramatanga hei whakatakoto i ngā tumanakohanga mārama, hei karo hoki i ngā tauira e whai ake nei."

3. Hono atu anō ki a koe anō

Kimihia anō ōu hiahia me ōu mahi whakangahau. Ka whakanui ake ngā mahi pēnei i te peita, te hikoi rānei i te whakapono ki a koe anō, ā, ka whakamahara anō hoki i a koe ki tō tuakiri. He mea nui te whai whakaaro pakari ki a koe anō mō ​​te whakaipoipo, kia kore ai koe e whakaae ki tētahi mea iti iho i te mea e tika ana māu. Ko tēnei Reddit kaiwhakamahi i kōrero mai i tā rātou haerenga i muri i te wehenga, "I hoki ahau ki te whakaora hinengaro, i tuhi nui i roto i te puka, i arotahi ki ngā mea ka taea e au te whakapai ake kia kore ai e uru mai ngā taumahatanga kare ā-roto mēnā ka hiahia ahau ki te whakaipoipo anō. He pai te mahi uaua katoa i roto i ahau nā te mea kei roto ahau i tētahi ao whakamiharo." hononga hauora"

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4. Whakaorahia i mua i te whakakitenga

Ahakoa te maha o ngā tohutohu whakaipoipo e whaihia ana e koe, ko te urunga wawe ki te ao whakaipoipo ka arahi pea ki ngā hononga papaku. Kia tino rite koe ki te whakapuaki i tō oranga ki tētahi tangata hou. Kia ata noho, kia aro nui ki tō hauora hinengaro. A Reddit kaiwhakamahi i whakapuaki i ō rātou tirohanga mō tēnei take, "...i ētahi marama kua pahure ake nei i mutu taku hononga ki tētahi tāne i whakaaro ahau ko ia te tangata tika. Kāore anō kia rite ahau, ahakoa kua rongo noa ahau kei te piripono taku hoa o mua ki ētahi atu tāngata inaianei. Ki taku whakaaro kāore e taea te ine i te whakaoranga, ā, kaua e tere ki te whakataetae ki tō hoa o mua ina tae mai ki te neke haere"Kia ata noho."

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5. Tautuhia nga rohe

Tīmata mā te tautuhi i ngā mea kāore e taea te whiriwhiri—ko ētahi o ēnei ko:

• Kia pehea te nui o te wā e pai ana koe ki te whakatapua ki te whanaungatanga
• Ngā manakohanga whakawhitinga
• Ngā momo whanonga rānei e kore e whakaaetia e koe

Kia mārama ake ō rohe, kōrerotia whānuitia engari me te whakaute. Hei tauira, ki te mea he mea nui ki a koe te wā whaiaro, me kī atu me whai wā koe mō ētahi ahiahi i te wiki. Ki te uaua tetahi ki te whakaute i ō rohe, ki te tawai rānei ki aua rohe, he mahi kino tēnā. haki whero kia mahara.

6. Whakaipoipo mā te kore wehi

Kāore te takaro i te mea nui; engari me whakaatu i te hiahia mā te takaro. Nō reira, kaua e mangere ki te mihi, ki te menemene rānei hei whakaatu i tō takakau, ā, kua rite koe ki te noho tahi. (He tino whakakatakata?)

7. Tautuhia anō tāu e hiahia ana

Nā, kua whakatau koe, "Kei te hiahia ahau ki te tīmata anō ki te whakaipoipo," whakamāramahia te tikanga o te whakaipoipo ki a koe i tēnei wā. Whakamāramahia ō tumanakohanga māu ake kia mārama ai koe ki te hunga e tūtaki ana koe. Whakaarohia ēnei pātai e whai ake nei:

• Kei te rapu koe i tētahi hoa mō te wā roa, e tūhura ana i a koe? te teití noa, he mea moepuku noa iho rānei? 
• He aha ngā āhuatanga e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto i tētahi hoa?
• I a koe e tīmata hou ana, he mea hou kei te hiahia koe ki te whakamātau? (te whanaungatanga maha, te rerekētanga o te ira tangata, me ētahi atu)

8. Kati te whakatairite

E whakanui ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ahakoa he pai tō whanaungatanga whakamutunga, ā, he rawe tō hoa o mua, kaua e haere atu me te tumanako ka kitea anō te tangata kotahi. Ka haere mai rātou me ō rātou ake āhuatanga me ō rātou ngoikoretanga, ā, ki te ngana koe ki te whakauru i a rātou ki tētahi tauira, kāore e tika ki a rātou." Ae, e hiahia tonu ana koe ki tētahi tangata tika e atawhai ana i a koe me te whakaatu i te aroha ki a koe. Engari kāore rātou e mōhio ki tōu reo aroha engari pērā i te tangata whakamutunga. Hei tauira, ki te kawea mai e rātou he rōhi ki a koe engari he pai ki a koe ngā rengarenga, kaua e hoki whakamuri ki te ara mahara. Me kī atu ki te tangata he pai ake ki a koe ngā rengarenga. 

9. Kia ata haere

Ae, e mōhio ana mātou kua eke koe ki te waka o te "Kei te hiahia ahau ki te tīmata anō ki te whakaipoipo" me te hihiri, engari kia mahara ki te whai wā ki te mōhio ki tētahi tangata. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te piri ki tētahi ka pouri koe i muri mai, kātahi ka hoki anō ki taua huringa katoa. 

10. Whakanuia tō tipu

Kei te mau tonu koe ki te kī "Kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea te whakaipoipo"? Kaua e manukanuka, kāore tetahi e mōhio. He whakaipoipo noa iho, ehara i te pūtaiao tere - kāore he pukapuka kua whakaritea. Ka whakaaetia koe ki te whakarerekē i ngā "ture" kia rite ki ō hiahia. E kī ana a Tākuta Batra, "Ko te mea kua ngana koe ki te whakapai ake koe"Neke atu i tō hītori, ā, whakapau kaha ki te tūtaki ki ētahi atu tāngata, he mea tika kia whakanuia. Nō reira, kia mihi atu ki a koe anō. E tika ana kia whiwhi koe i tēnei!"

Thoughts Final

He haerenga tipu me te tūhura te ako ki te tīmata anō i te whakaipoipo. Ka akiakihia koe e ēnei tohutohu whakaipoipo ki te awhi i tō ahurei me te whakatata atu ki ngā hononga me te hinengaro tuwhera. Ahakoa te whakaaro me pēhea te whakaipoipo, te pātai rānei "Āhea ahau me tīmata te whakaipoipo?" kia mahara ko te manawanui me te pono ka arahi ki ngā whanaungatanga whai tikanga. Tērā pea ka mataku te tīmatanga o tētahi whanaungatanga hou, engari ko ia taahiraa ka mahia e koe ka hanga i te maia. Rukuhia ki roto me te tumanako, te hiahia, me te ngākau tuwhera, ā, ka kitea e koe te harikoa o ngā hononga pono.

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