Te āhua i kitea ai e au he wahine taku hoa tāne

Porohia te aroha

I tō māua tūtakitanga, e 28 ōku tau, ā, e 29 ōna tau. E rua aku hononga, ā, i kōrero mai ia ki ahau kotahi tana hononga, mō ētahi marama, kāore i tua atu i te pupuri ringa me te mirimiri māmā. Kāore au i te wahine, engari i kī ia he wahine ia. Koia ahau i mōhio ai he wahine taku hoa tāne. I kōrero wawe mai ia ki ahau.

Kāore au i pātai me pēhea ia i noho wahine tonu ai i te 29 o ōna tau, kāore hoki ia i pātai mai i ngā taipitopito mō aku hononga aroha. I tukua e māua kia puāwai tō māua hononga. Ko te mea he wahine taku hoa tāne engari kāore au i te wahine, kāore i pā ki aua rā tuatahi o te aroha whakahihiri.

Me kī atu ahau he tino kaha ia ki te kihi, ā, ko te āhua o tana pupuri i ahau i tana awhi i whakaoho ake i ahau. I te kitenga i tōna maia, i ētahi wā ka ruarua ahau mēnā he wahine tūturu ia, he teka noa iho rānei tāna e kōrero ana. I whakaaro ahau he tohu tērā kei te wahine tonu te tāne, engari mōna, te āhua nei kāore i kitea. Āe, i te mea kei te tīmatanga tonu tā māua hononga ā-tinana.

Kāore au i noho roa ki tēnei, ā, i pai ki ahau te whanaungatanga piripono. Engari i tere taku mōhio he wahine ia – tino, pono rawa.

5 Ngā Tohu i Whakaatu ai he Wahine taku Hoa Tāne

Ripanga o Ihirangi

I roto i ngā marama torutoru o te whakaipoipo, i muri i tētahi pāti, ka haere māua ki taku whare noho mō te kawhe. I noho ko au anake i tētahi whare noho iti. I mua atu i tēnei, kāore ia i whakaatu i tētahi hiahia ki te haere mai ki tōku kāinga engari i taua pō i hihiri ia, ā, i haere noa ahau.

Koinā te huarahi i mōhio ai ahau he wahine tāne taku hoa, me te tikanga hoki mō tō māua oranga moepuku:

1. Kāore ia i te wheako

I hangaia te kawhe engari kāore i a mātou te manawanui ki te mitimiti. He hiahia nui tō mātou katoa. He tino porangi tae noa ki te wā tika kia haere katoa. Kāore i taea e ia te kite kei hea ia e tomo ai.

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu tino kitea kei te wahine tonu te tāne ko te kore ia e mōhio ki te āhua o te tinana o te wahine. Ehara i te mea kāore ia e mōhio ki ngā wāhi tika mō te whakangāwari tinana, engari kāore ia e mōhio ki te wāhi e tika ana mōna.

I te mea he wahine taku hoa i mua i ahau, ehara i te mea miharo i tana uaua ki te mārama ki ngā āhuatanga hangarau o te moepuku. Nō reira, i te whakamahi pai i aku wheako, ka ārahi ahau i a ia ki roto.

Kāore ia i te wheako — I uaua ia ki te mārama ki ngā āhuatanga hangarau o te moepuku

2. Kāore i a ia te mana whakahaere mō te nekehanga

He pātai tonu tā ngā tāne, "Mehemea rānei e pai ana ki ngā kōtiro te noho tahi me te wahine tauhou?" Whakaarohia kei roto koe i tētahi āhuatanga e mura ana te hiahia, engari kaua e werawera, engari ka puta he werohanga ohorere, kāore e roa te haere, kia rongo ai koe i te ahuareka.

Ko tēnei hoki tētahi o ngā whakakitenga i tino whakaatu i te mōhiotanga he wahine tāne taku hoa tāne. Kāore ia i te mōhio he aha te kaha e hiahiatia ana kia mau tonu ai te mahi. Kāore i a ia te mana whakahaere i te nekehanga, ā, ka haere tonu ia ki waho.

E toru, e whā rānei ngā wā i pau i a mātou kia tika ai. Engari i te mutunga, i tana tika, kāore he mea hei aukati i a ia.

3. Kāore ia i te mā, engari kāore i te mōhio me pēhea te wetewete i te matau

Ina kōrerohia ngā painga me ngā huakore o te noho wahine tāne, he maha ngā wā ka kīia ko he whakama ngā tāne wahine i te moengaKāore rawa taku hoa tāne wahine i whakama. Kāore ia i whakaaro ko te kore o te wheako moepuku he whakaata i tōna kaha ki te whakamanawareka i te wahine i runga i te moenga. I tino miharo ahau ki tēnā.

Engari kāore taua whakamoemiti i tino rite ki te utu mō te korenga o ia i te mōhio ki te wetewete i taku pōtae. Nā te mea he wahine taku hoa i mua i ahau, ā, kāore anō kia moe wahine i mua, kāore rawa ia i haere ki te turanga tuarua, ki taku whakaaro, he mea e tumanakohia ana.

He mea hou ki ahau te kite i tētahi tangata e ngana ana ki te whakaoti rapanga o ngā matau e rua, engari kāore au i tino māharahara. I aua rā tuatahi ka āwhina ahau i a ia ki te wetewete i te matau, engari inaianei kua tohunga ia.

Kāore ia i mōhio me pēhea te wetewete — He mea hou ki ahau te kite i tētahi tangata e ngana ana ki te whakaoti rapanga o ngā matau e rua.

4. I mamae ia

E kīia ana, mō ngā wāhine, ka mamae te wā tuatahi. Tērā pea ka whati te hymen, ka whati wawe rānei. Nō reira, tērā pea ka toto te wahine i tōna wā tuatahi, engari kāore pea. Ehara te toto i te tohu he wahine ia, kāore rānei. Engari nā te mea he kuiti tonu te ara nā te mea kāore i mahia he moe tāne i mua, ka mamae pea i ētahi wā i te wā tuatahi.

Kāore au i mōhio ko te mamae me te kore whakamarie ētahi o ngā tohu he wahine tāne te tāne. I pāngia hoki taku hoa tāne e tēnei āhuatanga i ngā wā tuatahi. I mamae ia, ā, i whero tōna kiri. He iti noa ngā pata toto i puta. Engari i tere te pai haere i te mea ka tīmata māua te puremu pinepine.

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5. I a ia ngā mātauranga ariā katoa

I roto i ngā painga me ngā huakore o te noho hei tāne wahine, ka ara ake te pātai mō tōna mōhiotanga ki te taatai. Ahakoa he maha ngā tāngata e kite ana he ngoikoretanga mārama te mea he ariā noa iho ōna mōhiotanga, i ahu mai i ngā pakiwaitara pono me ngā pakiwaitara taikaha taumata-B, he tino painga nui tēnei mōna.

I a ia ngā mōhiotanga ariā katoa — Ka pā mai ia ki ahau i ngā wāhi kāore au i mōhio ko aku rohe moepuku

I te haere o ngā rā, ka tīmata taku hoa tāne ki te whakaaro i ngā mea rerekē ngā tūranga moe pai ā, pā mai ki ahau i ngā wāhi kāore au i mōhio koinā taku rohe moepuku. He maha aku pātai ki a ia me pēhea ia i mōhio ai ki te nui o te mea? Ka kata ia, ka mea kua maha ngā tau e pānui ana ia. I tino harikoa ia i te mea ka taea e ia te whakamātau i ngā mea katoa me ahau.

Ināianei, he maha aku tawai ki a ia mō taku mōhio he wahine ia. Ko ngā tohu rongonui katoa o te wahine tonu o te tāne i kitea nuitia i roto i te take o taku hoa tāne. I kī mai ia ki ahau kāore ia e hiahia ki te haere tonu ki te kore ia e tino mōhio ki te whanaungatanga. E koa ana ahau i tino mōhio ia, i tino haumaru hoki ki ahau i te ngaronga o tōna wahinetanga. Heoi anō, kāore te āhuatanga katoa 'he wahine taku hoa tāne engari ehara ahau' i arai i tō māua whanaungatanga.

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