Ina manaakitia te tokorua ki te tamaiti, ka ngaro tonu ngā raruraru o mua. Ko te noho ki te taha o tā rāua tamaiti i ngā wā katoa te mea nui, ā, kāore he mea nui atu i te ao. Ko te mātakitaki i tāu tamaiti e menemene ana me te harikoa pono ka rewa tō ngākau, ā, i taua wā tonu, te āhua nei he pai te hua. Koia te take i kore ai ahau i whakaaro ki te whakaaro "me whai wā ngā māmā mō rātou anō". He aha tēnei 'wā mōku ake mō ngā māmā' e kōrerohia tonutia ana e ētahi atu?
Engari i te taenga mai o tētahi whai wāhitanga ki ahau, i taku haerenga ko au anake ki tētahi wāhi whakatā mō ngā kaituhi, ka taupokina ahau e te tini o ngā kare ā-roto e kore rawa e taea e au te whakamārama. He mea whakamere te whakaaro ki te kimi wā mōku hei māmā, ā, ka haere ahau.
Pānuihia tonu kia kitea ai te korenga o ngā kare ā-roto i roto i tōku mahunga e ngaro tae noa ki taku kitenga anō i taku pēpi, me ngā tohutohu hoki mō te kimi wā mōku. i muri i te whānautanga o te pēpi.
Te Wā i Kitea e Au hei Māmā
Ripanga o Ihirangi
He mea tuatahi tēnei mā mātou katoa, i taku kitenga, i a au e tākai ana i ngā mea katoa mō te wiki kotahi i tētahi wāhi noho mō ngā kaituhi me te mataku. Mō taku tāne, e tiaki ana i tā māua tama ko ia anake, me te whakarite i tana rā mō ngā wā kai, ngā wā tākaro me ngā wā moe. Mō taku tama, te korenga o ahau e noho ki tana taha i ngā wā katoa. Ā, mōku? Āe! He roa rawa te rārangi o ngā mea tuatahi, i taku whakaaro, me te ngākau e kore e pumau atu i ōku ringa.
Engari i raro tonu i tōku mataku he riri iti, e tipu haere ana, e pau ana hoki tōku harikoa mō te haerenga takitahi tuatahi i roto i ngā tau e whā. Nā te huarahi i tutuki ai te mahere katoa i ahua whakaititia ai tōku whaea, ki taku whakaaro. I tumanako ahau ki te ātete nui. Tērā pea ka tāpirihia he whakaiti iti hei utu.
I tumanako ahau ka mea taku tāne ka hinga tōna ao katoa mēnā ka haere atu ahau ahakoa mō te rā kotahi. Engari, i te mutunga, ka oati tetahi tangata kāore e kitea ana tōkena me te kore ahau, ka pupuri i te pā mō te wiki katoa! Inaa, ko ia te tangata i tohe kia haere ahau ki tēnei wāhi noho, i toa ai ahau i tētahi whakataetae tuhituhi.
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Te manukanuka i pā ki ahau i a au e ngana ana ki te kimi wā mōku
I te huarahi ahau ki te kimi i tētahi wā mōku ake. Kua tata ahau ki te whai wā mōku waahi whaiaro, he aha ahau i kore ai e rite ki te toa i taua wā? He aha i whakaititia ai tōku whakaaro ki a au anō i te mōhio kāore au i te mea tino hirahira pērā i taku i whakapono ai?
Ka tīmata te wiri o ōku ringa, ā, tata tonu te taka o taku mata mataara utu nui ki raro. Me whai wā okioki ahau i te tākai me tēnei momo whakaaro. Me tētahi karāhe wai matao. I a au e tū ana i te kīhini, e inu ana i te nui o te inu, ka hoki mai te marino. He waimarie, i kawea mai he hoa – he tirohanga hou.
I kōrero mai tētahi ki ahau, mā te wehe atu i a tātou i tētahi whārite – te tāne/te wahine, te whaea/te tama, te kaimahi/te kaituku mahi – ka mōhio tātou ki te koretake o tā tātou mahi. Nā te mea kei te kimi tonu te whārite i tētahi ara hei taurite i a ia anō. Ka urutau te ao. Ka kimi huarahi hei mahi me ngā mea kei a ia. I ngā wā katoa. Ā, he mea 'pai' tēnā.
Ehara i te mea he kare ā-roto kino te kore mahi i te mea e whakaarohia ana e tātou. Kia hipa te ohorere me te mataku tuatahi e pā ana ki taua kupu, ka kite tātou i te harikoa o taua kare ā-roto. Ko te mea e kore e taea te mahi, he rite ki te here.
Mā te kore e whai wāhi nui ka herekore tātou. Ka āwhina i a tātou kia tae ki te tino mōhiotanga – ehara tātou i te mea he wāhanga o tētahi whārite nā te mea me pērā tātou, nā te mea he kawenga tā tātou, engari nā te mea kua whiriwhiria e tātou kia pērā.
Te huarahi i taea ai e au te kimi wā hei whaea māku
Nā, ko te pātai tūturu i konei, he mea nui ki ahau te whai wāhi atu ki tēnei whārite nā te mea koinei anake te wāhi i whakaaro ahau e tika ana ahau? Kua wareware kē ahau ki tōku uara motuhake? Ā, i wehi ahau kei kitea e au te mea e herea ana ki tēnei mea i te ao o waho, e tata ana ahau ki te takahi atu i muri i tētahi wā roa?
Koinei pea ngā pātai i hiahia taku tāne kia aro atu ahau ki a rātou, mā te haere atu mō tētahi wā poto. I ahu mai taua whakatau i te aroha. Ehara i te mea kāore ia i te maioha ki tōku aroaro me taku takoha. Engari nā te mea i hiahia ia kia koa ahau ki aku taonga hei toa, me te kore e manukanuka mēnā kei te hara ahau i roto i te tukanga, mā te waiho i taku tama e toru tau te pakeke.
"Ahakoa he 15 meneti noa iho o te 'wā mōku ake' ka nui te rerekētanga."
Koia te take i taku ekenga atu ki te tereina ki te wehe atu, i pai te āhua o tōku whaea me tōku takitahi. I mōhio ahau ka ngaro rawa atu ahau i taku tama me taku tāne. Engari i tino whakapono anō hoki ahau ka taea e mātou te whānau te wikitoria i tēnei wiki kotahi, ā, ka puta ake hei tangata kaha ake, whārite taurite.
He whārite ataahua – he pai, he whai hua – i hangaia mai i te kōwhiringa mohio, kaua i te herenga – ā, he nui ake te uara o te katoa.
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Ina whakapau kaha koe ki te noho hei whaea pai rawa atu, ko te pātai "he aha te take me whai wā ai te māmā mō rātou anō" he mea koretake. Engari i taku kitenga, he mea nui te wā kore pēpi mēnā kei te rapu koe i tō ake uara, motuhake mai i te tūranga o te whaea i whiriwhiria e koe. He pai ko te marena he tautoko i tō hoa rangatira, kāore koe e hiahia ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa ko koe anake.
He mahi uaua te kimi wā mōku i muri i te whānautanga o te pēpi. Hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatutuki i tēnā, anei ngā tohutohu tekau ka taea e koe te whakamahi hei whiwhi i tētahi wā pai mōu, kāore he pēpi.
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1. Tāpirihia tō hoa
He wāhanga koe nō tētahi tīma, ehara i te wahine toa. Ehara i te mea māu anake te tiaki i ngā mea katoa o te whare, i tāu tamaiti me tāu mahi. Tāpirihia tō hoa rangatira ina hiahia koe. Kia whakarite kia takirua kōrua ki te tiaki i tāu pēpi e tangi ana, nā te mea ko te 4:30 AM te wā pai rawa atu hei kukume i te aro! Koinei tētahi o ngā tohutohu pai rawa atu mō ngā māmā hou. Mena he tāne kore tautoko, kī atu ki a ia kia tangohia e ia ētahi o ngā kawenga i te tīmatanga!
2. Karangatia kia awhina
Tō māmā, ō hoa, ō hoa noho tata, he kaitiaki tamariki utu rānei…kaua e wehi ki te karanga āwhina ina hiahiatia. Ka tino kitea te take me whai wā ngā māmā mō rātou anō ina tae mai ngā pōuri. Karanga āwhina i ngā wā katoa e taea ai e koe, kaua e tukua tō hiahia ki te mahi i ngā mea katoa kia arahi i a koe ki te huarahi e kore e taea e koe te hikoi ko koe anake.
3. Ko te wā moe he wā kore pēpi
Kāo, kāore koe e hiahia ki te tirotiro i tāu tamaiti e moe ana i ia whitu meneti kia mōhio ai kei te pai ngā mea katoa. Tukua tāu tamaiti kia moe marie, ā, me noho puku pea koe. Whakamahia te wā moe a tāu tamaiti hei painga mōu, me te moe poto i a ia e moe ana.
4. Tukua koe kia whiwhi i ētahi wā wātea
Hei whaea, i whakaaro ahau he mea tino nui ahau i roto i tēnei te whārite o tō mātou whānau. Ahakoa he mea nui ahau, me ngā whaea katoa, kaua tēnā e aukati i a koe ki te whai wā mōku ake. Kaua koe e whakama mēnā kei te rapu wā mōku ake koe. Me mārama koe he hiahia tēnei mō te katoa.
5. He rā "kawe mai tāu pēpi ki te mahi"
Kāore, ehara i te mea tūturu. Ko te whakaaro nui, ki te mea kei te rapu koe i tētahi 'wā māku', ka taea e koe te whakauru i tāu pēpi ki tō wā-mōku. Ki te mea kei te hikoi koe, ko te tūru pēpi tō hoa pai. Ki te mea kei te māra koe, ka taea hoki e tāu pēpi te uru atu. Ki te mea kei te whakakorikori tinana koe, e tino mōhio ana ahau ka ataata tāu pēpi ina kite ia i a Māmā e pekepeke ana.
6. Wehewehea ngā mahi o te whare
Ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he aha ngā māmā me whai wā mō rātou anō, kia taea ai e rātou te tuku mahi ki te whānau, kia taea ai hoki e rātou te whakaako i te toenga o te whānau me pēhea te mahi i aua mahi i te wā kotahi. He pai rawa atu, he pai, āe? He pai hoki mō te whanaungatanga mēnā ko kōrua tunu tahi ki te whakaora wa.
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7. Penapenahia te wā i ngā wāhi katoa e taea ai
Ehara i te mea ka taea e koe te tono kai kino i ia rā, engari ka taea e koe te whakamahi i ētahi mahere kai hei awhina i a koe. Tīmata ki te whakamahi i ngā whakaritenga kai, kia kore ai e roa te tunu kai pērā i mua. Me whakaiti pea i tō mahi, me utu rānei he kaiawhina kāinga hei āwhina i te horoi.
8. Kia rite ngā taonga tākaro tino pai a tāu tamaiti
Ko te kimi i te 'wā mōku ake' hei māmā he māmā noa iho, pērā i te whakararuraru i tāu tamaiti. Nā te mea he huinga taonga tākaro tō ia tamaiti e pai ake ana ki a ia i ētahi atu, ka taea e koe te tuku noa i āna taonga tākaro tino pai ki a rātou mō tētahi wā poto i a koe e hiki ake ana i ō waewae ki te inu kawhe matao, ki te matakitaki pouaka whakaata rānei. Whakangāwari i a koe e mahi ana. Ka mārama ake te take me whai wā ngā māmā mō rātou anō ina mahi koe.
9. Ngā mahi maha!
Ko te rapu wā mōku ake i muri i te whānautanga o te pēpi, me mahi koe i ngā mahi maha. Inaianei me noho tō tamaiti ki tō taha i runga i tō tikanga tiaki kiri whānui, ā, ka taea te whakarite kai i a koe e hui tahi ana me tō rangatira i runga i te Zoom. Me whakaiti noa i te haruru o te papa tapatapahi, ā, kua rite koe ki te haere.
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- Ngā Mahi e Tika ana ki te Tau: Ehara i te mea ka ako noa i a rātou te kawenga engari ka wātea hoki ētahi o ōu wā mō ētahi atu mea. Ahakoa ngā tamariki nohinohi ka taea te āwhina i ngā mahi māmā.
- Tangohia te painga o te Hangarau: Whakamahia ngā ratonga tuku kai, te peeke ipurangi, me ētahi atu taputapu hei whakahaere i tō oranga, hei whakawātea hoki i te wā.
10. Whakatikatikahia tō wā moe
Kei te rapu wā mōku ake ina tae mai he pēpi? Whakaritea tō wā moe kia rite ki tā tō pēpi. Ahakoa he raruraru pea tēnei nā te mea, he rerekē ki te tamaiti nohinohi, he mahi anō tāu hei mahi, ka taea tonu e koe te whakamātau ki te noho puku i ngā wā katoa e mahi ana tō pēpi i taua mea anō.
"He aha ngā māmā me whai wā mō rātou anō" ehara i te pātai nui, nā te mea he hiahia nui tēnei mā te katoa kia whai wāhi motuhake. Nō reira kaua e manukanuka rawa ki te whakama mōna. Whakangāwari, whakangāwari, ngana ki te hono atu ki a koe anō!
FAQs
Ka taea e ngā māmā e noho ana ki te kāinga te kimi i tētahi wā mōku ake mā te mahi i ngā mahi maha, te penapena wā mā te whakamahi i ngā kai whakarite me te whakarerekē i tā rātou kaupapa mahi mō tā rātou pēpi. Ka taea hoki e koe te waea atu mō te āwhina i ngā wā katoa e hiahiatia ana!
Hei kimi wā māu hei mātua, me auaha koe. Waea atu ki tō hoa rangatira mō te āwhina, ki tō hoa rānei, ki tō hoa noho tata, ki tētahi kaitiaki tamariki utu rānei. Wehewehea ngā mahi o te whare me tō tamaiti me tō hoa rangatira kia kore ai e oti i a kōrua te mahi katoa!
Hei whaea hou, me wehewehe ngā kawenga i waenganui i a koe me tō hoa. Kaua e whakaaro me mahi e koe ngā mea katoa ko koe anake, engari me ata noho. Waea atu ki ō mātua/hoa/hoa noho tata mēnā e hiahiatia ana he āwhina mātua, ā, kaua e wehi ki te whakauru i tāu tamaiti ki roto i ō mahi 'wā mōku'.
Thoughts Final
He haerenga ataahua, he haerenga uaua hoki te noho hei whaea. Kia maumahara ko te tiaki i a koe anō he rite tonu te hiranga ki te tiaki i tō whānau. Ehara te "wā mōku" i te mea papai, engari he mea nui mō tō oranga me tō whānau. Mena kei te raru koe ki te kimi taurite, ki te hiahia tautoko anō rānei, ā mātou kaitohutohu Kei konei mātou hei āwhina. Whakaritea he kōrerorero kore utu i tēnei rā!
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