Ko ngā kāwhena iti rawa ngā mea taumaha rawa, ā, he maha ngā wā ka ngaro te hononga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e mamae ana i te mate o te tamaiti i raro i te pouri nui. Ko te hunga kua pā ki te pouri, e mōhio ana rātou ka huri te wairua o te tangata ake ake. Heoi anō, ina he tāne me te wāhine e pouri ana mō te mate o te tamaiti.
I roto i te hiahia nui kia hoki whakamuri ki te wā i rite tonu ai ngā mea katoa ki te āhua o mua, ka uaua ake pea mā ngā hoa te titiro tetahi ki tetahi me te kore e maumahara ki te mea pono e kore rawa e pērā. Tērā pea kāore koe e kite i te tīmatanga, engari mārire, engari he pono, ka tīmata pea koe ki te kite kua rerekē tō whanaungatanga, tō marena rānei i muri i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti, ā, kāore e taea te whakakore.
Ka taea e te pouri te ārahi i ngā hoa tokorua ki ngā ara rerekē, me ngā huarahi rerekē pea, ā, ko te kimi anō i tō kōrua hononga hei tokorua he haerenga e kī ana i ngā arai. He mea hou ako I kitea anō hoki e 12% o ngā marena i te US ka mutu i te wehenga i muri i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti. Ahakoa he mea whakamāmā tēnei i te tatauranga whakamataku mai i te mutunga o te tekau tau atu i 1980 i whakatau ko te reiti wehenga i muri i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti he 80%, he pono te mōrearea ka taea e te pouri te wehe i ngā hoa rangatira, ā, ka nui ake te mokemoke o tētahi haerenga uaua kē.
Hinengaro-rongoa Devaleena Ghosh (M.Res, Te Whare Wānanga o Manchester), te kaiwhakaū o Kornash: The Lifestyle Management School, he tohunga ki te tohutohu i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine me te whakaora whānau, e tuhituhi ana mō te take o tēnei āhuatanga me pēhea te ora i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti.
Te Pānga o te Ngaronga o te Tamaiti ki te Hononga o te Tokorua
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Mā te pouri mō te matenga o tētahi tamaiti ka nui te mamae ka puta te pakanga i roto i te marena i te mea he uaua tonu ki te tokorua i roto i te whanaungatanga te mārama me te whakapuaki i ō rāua kare ā-roto mō te wā poto. He maha ngā wā ka hē te aronga o ngā kare ā-roto, ā, i muri i te matenga o te tamaiti ka tīmata te pāngia o te whanaungatanga piripono.
He rerekē hoki te roa o te wā e pouri ai ia hoa, ā, he rerekē anō hoki te āhua o tā rāua pouri mō te matenga o tētahi tamaiti. Ahakoa kāore e memeha te mamae o te matenga o tētahi tamaiti, i kitea i roto i tētahi rangahau ko te pouri nui ka roa i waenga i te 4-6 marama, kātahi ka tīmata te heke haere i roto i ngā tau 3-4 e whai ake nei.
He rerekē anō hoki te pouri i waenga i te tangata me te tangata, ā, he maha ngā wā ka whakarerekētia ō rātou āhua mō te wā poto, mō te wā roa rānei, ā, ka pā anō hoki tēnei ki te whanaungatanga.
He tīmatanga hou i muri i te matenga o te tamaiti
Ahakoa ka taea e te matenga o tētahi tamaiti te whakatārewa i te whanaungatanga, ka taea hoki e te tangata te whakapau kaha ki tā rāua whanaungatanga nā te mea ka mōhio pea rātou he poto, he koretake hoki te ao.
I kite ahau i tētahi pērā he tokorua kei te rongoā e ngana ana ki te whakaae ki tō rāua mate, me te rapu huarahi hei whakatau i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti. I mate ohorere tā rāua tamaiti i tētahi mate whakamate, ā, i ohorere te tokorua, ā, i muri mai ka pouri nui. I muri i te neke atu i te tau e rongoatia ana, ka whakatau te tokorua ki te tuku i tētahi atu whai wāhitanga ki te noho hei mātua.
Kāore i taea e rātou te hoki anō ki ngā maharatanga o te whānautanga tūturu, nō reira i whakatau ai rātou ki te whānautanga whānau. Ināianei, he mātua whakahīhī rāua mō ngā māhanga. Hei kaiwhakaora hinengaro, ko tētahi o aku wā tino pai ko te kite i te haere mai o ētahi tāngata ki taku tari me te pupuri i te mamae nui ki roto i a rātou ka tīmata te whakapono kei te pito tonu o te kauhanga te māramatanga.
Te pānui e pā ana: Te Pānga o te Pōuri me te Ngaronga o te Hunga Aroha ki ō Hononga
4 Ngā Huarahi hei Whakatutuki i te Ngaronga o te Tamaiti
Ka taea e te pouri te whakarerekē i ngā tāngata takitahi, me te whakawhānui atu, i ngā āhuatanga o te marena i muri i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti. Heoi, kāore te matenga o tētahi tamaiti e tika kia waiho hei tohu mō tētahi atu matenga whakararuraru – arā, ko tō whanaungatanga. Ahakoa ka rerekē tonu kōrua ko tō whanaungatanga i a kōrua e pouri ana mō te matenga o tētahi tamaiti, ka taea tonu te kimi huarahi hei tautuhi anō i tō kōrua whanaungatanga, kia kore ai e wehe kē atu, kia noho tauhou ai kōrua tetahi ki tetahi.
Ka taea e koe te ora i tēnei wā uaua i roto i te marena. Anei ētahi whakaaro mō te ora tahi i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti:
1. Kia noho tahi me te hunga e manaaki ana
Ina mate te tamaiti a te mātua, he maha ngā āhuatanga e rite ana ki te mutunga o te huarahi. He mea noa ngā kare ā-roto o te ngakaukore me te pouri ina pouri koe mō tētahi mate nui, kāore e taea te whakatika. I ēnei wā ka nui ake te hiranga o te karapoti i a koe ki te hunga e tino manaaki ana. Ahakoa kei te hiahia koe ki te noho motuhake, kaua e pana atu i te hunga e hiahia ana ki te tautoko i a koe i tēnei wā.
2. Tukua ētahi atu kia āwhina i a koe
Ka hiahia ō whanaunga ki te āwhina i a koe i ngā huarahi katoa e taea ana e koe ina pouri ana koe mō te matenga o tētahi tamaiti. Kaua e whakakahoretia tēnei āwhina me te whakaaro ka waiho koe hei taumahatanga mā rātou. Ahakoa he āwhina mō ngā mea mahi pēnei i te tiaki i tētahi atu tamaiti kei a koe, he tautoko kare ā-roto rānei hei whakatau i te pouri, tukua tō whānau me ō hoa kia noho hei tautoko i a koe.
3. Whakaroahia ngā whakataunga nui
Ki te taea, whakaroahia te whakatau i ngā whakataunga nui kia memeha rawa te ohorere tuatahi me te pouri nui. Ka pā pea te ngoikore o te kare ā-roto ki tō whakatau, ā, ka mutu pea ka whakatau koe i ngā whakataunga ka pouri koe i te wā roa.
Hei tauira, ahakoa kei te raru tō marena i muri i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti, he mea tika kia kaua e hohoro te whakatau i te heke mai o tō whanaungatanga. Pērā anō hoki mō te whakarērea o tētahi mahi, te whakatau ki te whānau i tētahi atu tamaiti, te neke ki tētahi atu tāone, me ērā atu mea.
Te pānui e pā ana: Te Mate Ngākau Pakaru: Ina Pakaru Tō Ngākau, Tino Tika
4. Whakaarohia te whai i te ratonga tohutohu mō te pouri
Ae, kāore te mamae o te matenga o tētahi tamaiti e memeha, engari mā te āwhina tika mai i tētahi kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro kua whakangungua, ka taea e koe te ako ki te aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga. He tino whai hua hoki te tohutohu mō te pouri hei whakakore i ngā kare ā-roto o te hara, o te whakapae rānei e pāngia ana e ngā mātua i muri i te matenga o tētahi tamaiti.
I tuhituhi te kaituhi me te kaitito a Alphonse de Lamartine, "Ka honoa e te pouri ngā ngākau e rua ki ngā hononga tata atu i te harikoa." Ko te hunga e pouri ana mō te matenga o tētahi tamaiti, tera pea kāore e whakaae ki tēnei whakaaro. Ehara i te mea he tino mamae te matenga o tētahi tamaiti, engari he wheako mokemoke anō hoki. Heoi, me te āwhina tika, ka taea e koe te tīmata ki te tiki i ngā wahi o tō ngākau maru me te whakatakoto i tētahi ara hou mō tō whanaungatanga, ngātahi.
8 Ngā Tohutohu a te Tohunga hei Whakatere i ngā Wāhi Pōuri o te Hononga
Te āhua o tana whakatikatika i te mate hinengaro o tana hoa rangatira
Ina Ngaro te Whakaae, te Aroha me te Whakaute i roto i te Hononga
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
