He aha tō hiahia ira tangata? Mēnā ka pātaihia tēnei pātai ki a koe, ka whakautu ā-tinana koe me te 'tāne takatāpui', 'takatāpui', 'rua-tangata rānei'. Engari, ka taea te whakarōpū i te moepuku ki ngā kāwai kāore e tino mārama? Mehemea he tāne takatāpui koe engari kua aro atu koe ki tētahi tangata o te ira tangata kotahi? Ki tēhea kāwai ka whakanoho koe i a koe anō? Mehemea kei te aro atu koe ki te ira tangata kē engari kei te aro atu koe ki te ira tangata kotahi, ki te ira tangata kotahi rānei? Kāore rānei koe i te aro atu ki te aroha, ki te moepuku rānei? Kei roto i te whānuitanga o te moepuku ngā whakautu ki ēnei pātai.
Ko te whakaaro tonu o te tono i te tangata kia tautuhi i ō rātou ira tangata, i ahu mai i tō tātou hiahia kia rite ki ngā kāwai. Ki te kore koe e rite ki tētahi, ko wai rā koe? Ko wai tāu e hono atu ai? Kei hea koe e kitea ai tō iwi? Ka noho ko te rere o te ira tangata hei wheako takitahi, ā, ka tupu te tangata i runga i te wairua kotahitanga, ā, koinei te pūtake o tō tātou hiahia ki te whakarōpū, ki te wehewehe me te rite.
I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka kōrerohia e te tohunga hinengaro tohutohu me te kaiwhakaako pūkenga ora whaimana Deepak Kashyap (Tohu Paerua i roto i te Hinengaro Mātauranga), he tohunga ki ngā momo take hauora hinengaro, tae atu ki te LGBTQ me te ratonga tohutohu huna, e tuhituhi ana mō te whānuitanga o te moepuku me te whakahē i ngā kōrero pakiwaitara mō ngā momo moepuku.
Te Āhuatanga o te Ira Tangata
Kāore he mea pango, kāore he mea mā i roto i te tangata, ā, e tika ana hoki tēnā mō te hiahia ā-ira tangata me te hiahia aroha. Neke atu i te 7 piriona tāngata kei te ao. Me pēhea rātou katoa e uru ai ki roto i ngā momo rerekē e toru? ngā momo moepuku – he tangata takatāpui, he tangata takatāpui, he tangata takirua rānei?
Pērā i te āhua o te yin me te yang o ngā āhuatanga tāne me te wahine i roto i te katoa, ahakoa kei hea rātou i roto i te whānuitanga o te ira tangata, he rerekē hoki te moepuku. Hei tauira, ki te mea he takatāpui koe i tō oranga katoa, ā, ka kitea e koe he hiahia ki tētahi tangata o te ira tangata kotahi, he moepuku rānei kotahi ki a rātou, ko te tikanga tēnei kāore koe e noho ki ngā rohe o tō moepuku e kitea ana e koe? Kāore rawa.
Tērā pea ko tō hiahia aroha ki taua tangata nā te āhua o tā rātou mahi ki a koe, me te āhua o tō whakaaro ki a koe. Waihoki, i te wā e mārama ana ki tō rātou hiahia ira tangata, he maha ngā tāngata e whakamahi ana i te ira tangata-rua hei huarahi ngāwari ki te whakaputa i ō rātou whakaaro. Nō reira, kei a koe tētahi tangata i tīmata pea he tangata takatāpui, kātahi ka mōhio he tangata takatāpui ia i mua i tana whakaae ki te noho hei takatāpui. Me pēhea e whakarōpū ai koe i tō rātou ira tangata?
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Nō reira, mā te whānuitanga o te ira tangata ka nui ake te herekoretanga ki te tautuhi me te whakapuaki i ō tātou ira tangata. Nā tēnei i whakatakoto te ara mō te wehenga atu i te tirohanga māmā noa iho, arā, he takatāpui, he takatāpui rānei te tangata, e kitea ana rāua ko ngā pito rerekē o te whānuitanga.
I ēnei rā, neke atu i te 200 ngā tauine e whakamahia ana hei tawhā hei tautuhi i te ira tangata o te tangata. Ko ngā mea tino rongonui ko:
Ko te Kinsey Scale, e whakanoho ana i te moepuku ki roto i ngā wāhanga e whitu:
1. He hunga takatāpui anake
2. He takatāpui te nuinga, he takatāpui i ētahi wā
3. He hunga takatāpui te nuinga, engari he nui ake i te hunga takatāpui i ētahi wā
4. He ōrite te takatāpui me te takatāpui
5. He takatāpui te nuinga, engari he nui ake i ētahi wā he takatāpui
6. He takatāpui te nuinga, he takatāpui i ētahi wā
7. He takatāpui anake
Ko te Klein Sexual Orientation Grid, e tūhura ana i ngā āhuatanga e whitu hei aromatawai i te tūnga o te tangata i roto i te whānuitanga o te ira tangata:
1. Te kukume ā-ira tangata
2. Ngā whanonga moepuku
3. Nga wawata moepuku
4. Manakohanga kare ā-roto
5. Manakohanga pāpori
6. Te āhua noho takatāpui/tāne/wahine
7. Te tautuhi i a koe anō
Te Tuakiri Ira Tangata o ngā Āwhā, e whai wāhi ana hoki ki te kore ira tangata, me ētahi atu āhuatanga pēnei i te kinks, te fetish, me te mahi BDSM hei whakatau i ngā tuakiri ira tangata whakawhitiwhiti.
Te Whānuitanga o te Ira Tangata me te Whakaū i te Whaiaro
Ahakoa kei te rongonui haere te whakaaro he rere te moepuku – e ai ki tētahi rangahauHei tauira, he nui ake te whakaae a te hunga millennial me te Gen-Z ki tēnei whakaaro, ki te whakatauritea ki te Gen X me te Boomers – kei te pēhia tonutia hoki e ngā wāhanga nui o te hapori. E mahi ana tēnei ātete i runga i te taumata takitahi me te taumata hapori, ā, e ahu mai ana i te hiahia kia rite ki ngā tikanga.
E kite ana ahau i tēnei āhuatanga e tupu ana i roto i te hunga e haere mai ana ki te rongoā hinengaro i ngā wā katoa. Hei tauira, ka mataku a Ron, 32 tau te pakeke, i te whakaaro o te noho takirua, engari he pono ki a ia he ātaahua ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Ko Sasha, 42 tau te pakeke, kua moe wahine, ā, tokorua āna tamariki, kāore e mōhio me aha ia i te mea e aroha ana ia ki te wahine a tōna hoa noho.
Ko tētahi o ngā take e puta ai tēnei, kāore ngā tāne e hiahia ki te whakaae, ki te mahi rānei i runga i tō rātou aroha/te kukume ki tētahi o te ira tangata kotahi, kei kitea rātou he 'takatāpui', ā, ka whakahēngia rātou. Mai i te tamarikitanga, ka akohia ngā tama kia kaha ki te whakamahi i ngā whakataukī pēnei i te 'kāore ngā tāne e tangi', ā, ka mutu, ka pōturi ō rātou kare ā-roto.
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Ko te nuinga o rātou kāore e taea te taunekeneke ki ngā wāhine me te kore e whakaatu i te taatai i roto i ō rātou hononga, nō reira, kāore rātou i te tino mōhio me aha rātou ki tētahi mea. te aroha aroha, te aroha platonic rānei Tērā pea ka aroha rātou ki tētahi tangata o te ira kotahi. I tētahi atu taha, i roto i ngā ahurea maha, kāore tonu i ngā wāhine te mana me te mana whakahaere ki te whakatau i ēnei kōwhiringa mā rātou anō.
Ko tātou, hei hapori, kei te tirotiro tonu i ngā tinana me ngā hiahia o ētahi atu tāngata, ā, mā taua mahi tirotiro ka hiahia rātou ki te whai i ō rātou ake whakaaro. E whakaaro ana te tangata he kawenga tā rātou ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi taha, ā, e pēhia ana rātou ki te kī kei roto rātou i te taha "tika" e kiia nei he taha.
He taupatupatu te whānuitanga o te ira tangata?
Ina kōrero tātou mō te āhua o te moepuku he mea rerehua, ko te pātai e puta pinepine ana ko te mea, mēnā kei roto te moepuku i tētahi whānuitanga, me pēhea koe e mōhio ai kei hea koe? Kāore ianei te whānuitanga o te moepuku e taupatupatu ana? Ki tāku nei, he taupatupatu anake mēnā kei te herea koe ki te whakaaro o tētahi iwi ki te parakore, me noho takatāpui noa koe, me noho tika rānei.
Ki te ako koe ki te noho rangimārie ki ōu ake hiahia, me te aro atu ki ia wheako ina tae mai, kāore e tika kia taupatupatu, kia pōhēhē rānei te kimi i tō tūranga i roto i te whānuitanga o te ira tangata.
Ka taea e te yin me te yang o te moepuku te noho i roto i ia tangata me te tino ōrite, mena kāore he pēhanga, he ngana rānei ki te pehi i ngā hiahia ā-tinana. Mēnā ka mōhio tātou ki te whānuitanga o te moepuku, kua tae kē tātou ki reira? Kāore. Ka taea e tātou te tumanako kia tae atu ki reira? Kāore pea. Engari ka taea e tātou katoa te whai kia ōrite, kia rangimārie hoki ki ō tātou hiahia aroha me te moepuku.
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