Chikondi chimabwera kwa ife mosiyanasiyana. Masiku ano nthawi zambiri mukangodina batani kapena swipe pazenera. Ngakhale kupeza chikondi pa intaneti sikwachilendonso, kuthekera kwakuti munthu yemwe ali kumbali ina akufuna chikwama chanu osati mtima wanu sangalephereke. Ichi ndichifukwa chake kudziwa momwe mungapitirizire katangale wachikondi kumakhala kofunika kuti mudziteteze pazachuma komanso malingaliro.
Anthu ambiri sasangalala n’komwe zimenezi akamayamba chibwenzi pa Intaneti, poganiza kuti chinthu chodabwitsa kwambiri sichingawachitikire. Kuti iwo ndi ochenjera kwambiri kuti agwere chinyengo ngati chimenecho. Ganiziraninso, chifukwa monga mwa US Federal Trade Commission, anthu akuti adataya ndalama zoposa $547 miliyoni chifukwa cha katangale zachikondi mchaka cha 2021 chokha. Chizungulire kuganizira, sichoncho?
Potengera ziwerengero zodabwitsazi, zikukuyenerani kuti mukhale ndi chidziwitso choyenera pazanzeru zachinyengo zachikondi komanso njira yabwino yothanirana ndi katangale wachikondi. Kuti muwonetsetse kuti kufuna kwanu kupeza chikondi pa intaneti sikukupangitsani kukhala pachiwopsezo cha kutayika kwachuma komanso kukhumudwa, tiyeni tifufuze mozama momwe mungawonere mbendera zofiira ndikupambana mwachinyengo wachikondi asanakubereni.
Kodi Mungadziwe Bwanji Ngati Wina Ndi Wonyenga Wachikondi?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Kuti mudziwe momwe mungapitirizire katangale wachikondi, muyenera kudziwa zachinyengo zachikondi ndi momwe zimagwirira ntchito. MO wa anthu omwe amayendetsa ma rackets awa amakhala ofanana nthawi zonse. Amafufuza zomwe angathe kuchita pa intaneti - anthu omwe ali okha, omwe ali pachiwopsezo, komanso okhazikika pazachuma. Chifukwa chake, gulu lawo lomwe amalikonda limaphatikizapo osudzula, akazi amasiye kapena amasiye, komanso osakwatiwa azaka zawo za 50 kapena kupitilira apo.
Onyengawa amapanga mbiri zabodza pamasamba ochezera komanso malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndikufufuza zomwe mungakwanitse. Kenako, woberayo amalumikizana ndi munthu amene wamufunayo pamalo ochezera a pa Intaneti kapena pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, amayamba kukopana atangoyamba kumene kucheza, ndipo mwamsanga amalowetsa zinthu m'dera lachikondi. Akakhazikitsa ubale ndi wozunzidwayo, amayamba kuwathamangitsa mwachinyengo chimodzi kapena china. Kuyenda mwachangu komanso molimba mtima ndi gawo limodzi la MO omwe akupitilira katangale zachikondi.
Kugawana nkhani yake ndi NBC News, Joyce yemwe amakhala m’dera la Chicago, yemwe anataya ndalama zokwana madola 200 miliyoni chifukwa cha chinyengo chodzionetsera kuti ndi wachikondi, anati: “Sindingathe kufotokoza chifukwa ndiwe wosokonezeka maganizo. Mumakopeka kwambiri ndi mauthenga achikondi a WhatsApp scammer ndi mawu achikondi kotero kuti kukayikira zolinga zawo kumawoneka kolakwika kwambiri, kunyoza kwambiri.
Monga momwe Joyce ananenera, anthuwa amachita bwino kwambiri moti anthu amene amawavutitsa amakonda kunyalanyaza mbendera zofiira zowala n’kugwera mumsampha. Izi zimadzetsa funso: mungadziwe bwanji ngati wina ndi wonyenga? Kuti mudziteteze, muyenera kukhala tcheru ndi zizindikiro zodziwikiratu za munthu wachinyengo polowa m'dziko la zibwenzi pa intaneti:
1. Ndi zokopa
Wonyenga wachikondi nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zithunzi zowoneka bwino pa mbiri yawo, kaya pazachiyanjano kapena patsamba lachibwenzi. Akafika kwa inu, mwina mungadabwe ndi mfundo yoti munthu wokongola chotere - komanso wochita bwino - angakukondeni. Mwachidule, zikuwoneka njira kunja kwa ligi yanu ndipo pafupifupi zabwino kwambiri kuti zisakhale zoona - ngati kuti angotuluka pachikuto cha magazini ya mafashoni.
Ngati izi zikukuvutitsani ndikukusiyani mukudabwa chifukwa chomwe wina ngati iwo ali ndi chidwi ndi munthu ngati ine, musalole kuti ziwonongeke. Kumbukirani kuti ngati china chake chikuwoneka bwino kwambiri kuti chisakhale chowona nthawi zonse chimakhala.
2. Iwo ali patali ndi inu;
Munthu amene ali mmenemo kuti akunamizeni sangafune kukumana nanu pamasom'pamaso ndikupereka chizindikiritso chake chenicheni. Ichi ndichifukwa chake njira imodzi yodziwika bwino yazamwano pazachikondi ndiyo kudzinenera kukhala kutali, kutali ndi inu. Mosakayika, munthu woteroyo angakuuzeni kuti ali kudziko lina. Zina mwa zonyenga zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito ndizo:
- Kugwira ntchito m'malo opangira mafuta
- Kuchita ngati dokotala ndi bungwe lothandiza anthu padziko lonse lapansi
- Kutumikira usilikali ndi kutumizidwa kunja
- Wabizinesi yemwe amayenda kwambiri pantchito
Mukuwona kuti ndi chivundikiro chabwino kwambiri chogulitsa nkhani yawo yokhala dziko la US kuwononga ndalama kwanthawi yayitali kunja. Kupatula apo, zimawapatsa chifukwa chomveka bwino choti akuvutitseni komanso pakafunika. Safuna kukhala ofikirika mosavuta kwa inu kuti asunge chinsinsi chamoyo chomwe ndi chomwe chimapangitsa wozunzidwayo kukhala wokokera!
Psychology ya scammer yachikondi idakhazikika kuwotcha mkate. Amakupatsirani timiyeso tating'ono tachikondi ndi kutamandidwa, kudziwa nthawi yoyenera kuchoka, kuti mupitirizebe kuwakonda akamalumikizana pafupipafupi. Izi zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zosavuta kwa iwo kukhala nanu m'malo awo ndikupangitsa kuti muchite zomwe akufuna.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Nazi Zina Zomwe Ndalama Sizingagule
3. Nkhani yawo ikumveka ngati nkhani ya zisudzo
Munthu wokongola mwamisala uyu yemwe ali ndi ntchito yochititsa chidwi adzakhalanso ndi mbiri yochititsa chidwi. Ngati mumvera, nkhani ya moyo wawo imamveka ngati chiwembu cha sopo kuposa chilichonse choyandikira zenizeni. Mwinamwake, anganene kuti anataya mwana wawo ku khansa, ndiyeno, anaganiza zopita ku sukulu ya zachipatala ndi kuthandiza ana ovutika padziko lonse lapansi.
Ichi ndichifukwa chake adasankha kugwira ntchito ndi Madokotala Opanda Malire ku Syria kapena Sudan m'malo mopeza malipiro ochulukirapo ku US. Zikumveka chidwi chabwino? Ganizirani mozama, ndipo mudzatha kupeza chiwembu chofananira Gray's Anatomy mwina kapena Wokhalamo. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi scammer yemwe amakutengani ngati chitsiru ndikuwauza zatsatanetsatane wamoyo wawo.
Ndi kumanja mafunso kufunsa wonyenga wachikondi, mutha kupangitsa kuti nkhani yawo yopangidwa mwaluso igwe ngati nyumba yamakhadi. Choncho, pitirizani kuwafunsa,
- Kodi mwanayo anali ndi zaka zingati?
- Kodi anali kudwala khansa yamtundu wanji?
- Adalandira chithandizo kwanthawi yayitali bwanji komanso kuti?
- Ndi sukulu iti ya udokotala yomwe adaphunzira? M’chaka chanji?
4. Iwo ali ndi njira ndi mawu
Khalidwe lina lachikale la ochita katangale wachikondi ndilakuti ali ndi njira yokhala ndi mawu ndikuyesera kukupatsirani mopitilira muyeso. manja achikondi. Mauthenga achikondi a WhatsApp scammer nthawi zambiri amakhala okhudzidwa. Akhoza kukutumizirani ndakatulo zachikondi kapena kulemba manotsi aatali osonyeza mmene mumawafunira. Adzakuuzani kuti akumva kugwirizana kwambiri ndi inu ndikudzinenera kuti amakukondani.
Kukula kwa chibwenzi kungakulepheretseni kumva kuti ndinu omasuka chifukwa, pamlingo wina, mumazindikira kuti si mmene anthu amalankhulirana. Ngati mungafufuze mosavuta Google zomwe zili m'mauthenga awo kwa inu, mutha kupeza kuti izi zachotsedwa m'mabuku osadziwika bwino, mabuku andakatulo, kapena mawu omwe amapezeka pa intaneti.
5. Simunakumanepo nawo pamasom'pamaso
Chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zodziwikiratu zosonyeza kuti mukuberedwa pa intaneti ndi chakuti simunakumanepo ndi munthu amene mukuyenera kukhala naye pachibwenzi. Akhoza kukonzekera kukumana nanu, kukuuzani kuchuluka kwa zomwe akufuna kukudziwitsani kwa achibale awo, kapena kudya chakudya chamasana ndi anu, koma nthawi zonse. kuletsa pa inu pa mphindi yotsiriza. Kodi izo sizosamvetseka?
Nthawi zonse pamakhala zadzidzidzi, zovuta, kudzipereka kwantchito komwe kumakhala patsogolo kuposa tsiku lanu. Iwo amapepesa kwambiri, amakupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti iwonso akhumudwa chifukwa cholephera kukumana nanu, ndipo amalonjeza kuti adzakubwezerani. Kupatula kuti samachita.
6. Amapanga kusuntha koyamba
Wobera zachikondi nthawi zonse ndiye amene amasuntha koyamba. Adzalowa mu ma DM anu pawailesi yakanema kapena kuwonetsa chidwi ndi mbiri yanu patsamba lazibwenzi kapena pulogalamu. Ndipo adzamanga pa kugwirizana koyambako mwamsanga. Mawu ngati "Ndinakuwonani ndipo ndamva kuti pali china chake chapadera pa inu" kapena "Ndinakopeka ndi inu nthawi yomweyo poyang'ana chithunzi chanu" amawonetsedwa mochuluka.
Lingaliro ndikupangitsani kuti mukhulupirire kuti kulumikizanaku, ngakhale kukuwoneka kosatheka bwanji, kudayenera kukhala. Timabwereranso ku mfundo yathu ya chinthu chonsecho chomwe chikuwoneka ngati "chabwino kwambiri kuti chisachitike". Ngati izo zikumveka choncho, mwina zili choncho. Musaiwale mfundo imeneyi.
7. Amakukondani mwamsanga
Kodi munayamba mwakondanapo ndi munthu amene simunakumanepo naye? Kodi pali wina amene anayamba kukukondani pomacheza nanu pafoni kapena pafoni? Kodi mukudziwa anthu omwe adayamba kupanga mapulani aukwati atakhala paubwenzi wapaintaneti ndi munthu wina? Ndipo kwenikweni, anapita patsogolo ndi kukwatira? Ayi?
Ichi chikuyenera kukhala chidziwitso chanu chachikulu kuti muwone kapena kugwira munthu wachinyengo wachikondi ndikuwaletsa kutsatira. Iwo, mosalephera, adzanena kuti amakukondani mosalekeza patangopita masiku ochepa kapena masabata akulumikizana. Ndipo pitani pamwamba ndi kupitirira kuti mukhulupirire ndi kubwezera. Imani kaye ndi kulingalira ngati muli kugwa mchikondi mwachangu kwambiri.
8. Amafuna kulankhulana kudzera pa imelo kapena pa meseji
Ngati mwalumikizana pa nsanja ya zibwenzi, wonyenga wachikondi angafune kusamutsa zinthu ku njira yolumikizirana ndi munthu mwachangu momwe angathere. Atha kukufunsani imelo kapena nambala yanu yafoni pakangopita masiku angapo. Ndi chifukwa chakuti kuyanjana kwa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi mapulogalamu akuyang'aniridwa, ndipo safuna kuyika pachiwopsezo chogwidwa.
Momwemonso, ngati akufikirani pamasamba ochezera, atha kuwonetsa changu chofanana. Akufuna kulumikizana ndi inu musanatchule mbiri yawo kapena kunenedwa kuti ndi yabodza. Mutha kudzitchinjiriza ku machitidwe oyipa a munthu wachinyengo wachikondi pongoumirira kuti zinthu zipite patsogolo pa liwiro lomwe mungakhale nalo. Osachita chilichonse chomwe simukufuna chifukwa chokakamizidwa kapena kukakamizidwa. Izi zitha kukutetezani osati kwa ochita katangale achikondi komanso kwa ena ambirimbiri kuopsa kwa chibwenzi pa intaneti.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Kodi Kusakhulupirika Kwachuma Ndi Chiyani Ndi Momwe Mungadziwire
9. Koma mutha kupewa kuyimba pavidiyo kapena mawu
Njira ina yodziwika bwino pazachikondi ndiyoti atha kupezeka kuti akutumizirani mameseji tsiku lonse koma amangokhalira kuyimba foni ndi mawu kapena makanema. Makamaka yotsirizira. Ndi chifukwa chakuti amafuna kuteteza chizindikiritso chawo chenicheni mwa njira iliyonse.
Kupatula apo, ngati muwona kuti munthu yemwe ali kumbali ina ya mzere ndi wosiyana kwambiri ndi munthu yemwe ali pa intaneti, mutha kudula nawo onse. Ndipo kulimbikira kwawo konse kudzakhala kwachabe panthaŵiyo. Pamene munthu amene mukuyenera kukhala pachibwenzi akufuna kuchita chibwenzi chonse kudzera m'malemba ndi maimelo, ndi nthawi yoti muwawonetse.
"N'chifukwa chiyani mumapewa kucheza ndi ine pavidiyo?" "N'chifukwa chiyani ndimadzimva kuti sukufuna kuti ndikuwone?" "N'chifukwa chiyani mwasiya usiku wina wa tsiku la FaceTime?" Awa ndi ena mwamafunso ogwira mtima kufunsa munthu wachinyengo wachikondi kuti asokonezeke komanso mwina kukusiyani nokha.
10. Imelo sizikufanana ndi dzina lawo
Chimodzi mwazizindikiro zodziwika bwino zamwachinyengo wachikondi ndichakuti imelo yawo simakonda kufanana ndi dzina lomwe akupatsirani. Itha kukhala dzina lodziwika ngati '[imelo ndiotetezedwa]' kapena kukhala ndi dzina losiyana. Zitengereni ngati chizindikiro kuti akugwiritsa ntchito ID yabodza kapena foni yoyaka moto kuti apitirize kukambirana nanu. Zikafika pamenepo, inunso simudzatha kuzitsatira.
Ichi ndi chizindikiro chachinyengo chazachikondi pa intaneti, ndipo muyenera kuchiwona ngati chenjezo loti wina akufuna kukupusitsani. Chifukwa chake, nthawi ina mukadzamva mawu m'mutu mwanu akukuuzani kuti china chake sichikuphatikiza pazachikondi chomwe mudakumana nacho pa intaneti, musachichotse. Samalani ndi chidziwitso chanu ndipo chingangokupulumutsani kuti musanyengedwe mwachinyengo.
11. Amapempha ndalama mosalephera
Ngati munthu amene mumacheza naye ndi wonyenga, ndiye kuti akupempha thandizo lanu. Ngongole zachipatala kapena zowonongera mwadzidzidzi, akaunti yakubanki yoyimitsidwa, kirediti kadi yosokonekera - zifukwa zake zikuwoneka ngati zovomerezeka komanso zachangu kuti mufune kuthandiza munthu amene mwayamba kumukonda.
Zina mwa njira zachinyengo zachikondi ndikupangitsa kuti wozunzidwayo amve zambiri asanasamuke. Pambuyo pa zonse, iwo ali kucheza nanu chifukwa cha ndalama basi. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi scammers zachikondi ndikudziteteza ndikusathamangira kuwathandiza ngakhale atakhala mwachangu bwanji. Chitani khama lanu ndipo nthawi zonse mumangirira mnzanu wodalirika kapena wothandizira musanasaine zopempha zilizonse zachuma.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Kukhala pachibwenzi ndi Gold Digger Kunakhala Chochitika Choipitsitsa Kwambiri
Momwe Mungapititsire Mwanzeru Wonyenga Wachikondi?
Ngakhale mutadziwa machenjezo onse okhudzana ndi zibwenzi ndikumvetsetsa psychology ya munthu wachinyengo wachikondi, ndikofunikira kuti musamachite manyazi. Ngati nkhani ya Simon Leviev, aka The Tinder Swindler, amene ananyenga akazi angapo ku Ulaya ndalama zoposa $10 miliyoni, akutiuza chirichonse, n'chakuti zibwenzi zibwenzi zikuchulukirachulukira.
Kudziwa za MO ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yosokoneza ndi scammer ndikudziteteza. Monga momwe wofufuza wakale wakale wa FBI wofufuza zachinyengo pazachuma a Christine Beining akuti, "Uwu ndi mlandu wovuta kwambiri kutsimikizira. Munthu akamagwiritsa ntchito kompyuta kubisala, chinthu chovuta kwambiri kudziwa kuti ndi ndani. Titha kudziwa komwe makompyuta ake akugwiritsidwa ntchito padziko lapansi. Kuzindikira kuti iwowo ndi ndani ndiye gawo lovuta kwambiri. Ichi ndichifukwa chake munthuyu amakhalabe wothawathawa."
Monga mukuwonera, nthawi zambiri zimakhala zosatheka kuzindikira zachinyengo zachikondi. Kubetcha kwanu kopambana ndikupewa msampha uwu poyamba. Ngati mwafikiridwa ndi m'modzi kapena mutayamba kucheza naye, nayi momwe mungapitirizire wachinyengo wachikondi ndikuchepetsa zomwe munaluza:
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Anasiyana Nane Ndipo Sandibweza Ndalama Zanga
1. Samalani pouza ena zaumwini
Mukamapanga zibwenzi, khalani osamala kwambiri pazomwe mumagawana. Kudziwa za ziwopsezo zomwe zimakumana ndi zibwenzi pa intaneti ndipo dziko lenileni, nthawi zambiri, lingakuthandizeni kuyenda mosamala. Maadiresi, zithunzi za katundu monga nyumba yosanja kapena malo otakasuka, ndi tsatanetsatane watchuthi chapamwamba zitha kukopa achiwembu ngati njenjete pamoto.
Momwemonso, ndikofunikira kukhala osamala pazomwe mumagawana pazama media. Ngakhale mutafuna kugawana zambiri za moyo wanu pazambiri zanu zapa social media, onetsetsani kuti muli ndi ma protocol onse otetezedwa kuti muwonetsetse kuti anzanu kapena olumikizana nawo okha ndi omwe angawapeze. Kusagwa pa radar ya iwo omwe akufuna kubisa anthu m'dzina lachikondi ndi yankho losavuta la momwe mungapititsire chinyengo chachikondi.
2. Yang'anani zithunzi zawo
Ngati munthu amene akufika kwa inu akuwoneka kuti ndi wowoneka bwino, fufuzani m'mbuyo pa chithunzi chake pa Google. Izi zikuthandizani kudziwa ngati chithunzi chomwechi chakhala chikugwiritsidwa ntchito patsamba lina kapena chabedwa muakaunti ya munthu wina. Kapena ngati yajambulidwa pogwiritsa ntchito mawonekedwe azithunzi zosiyanasiyana.
Kuchita kafukufuku wanu kwenikweni ndikofunikira kuti munene zachinyengo kwa aboma asanakuwonongeni. Ngati simukudziwa, funsani munthu wina kuti akuthandizeni. Musalole kuti kuopa kuweruzidwa kukuikeni pachiwopsezo chogwidwa ndi chinyengo.
3. Jambulani mbiri yawo kuti mupeze zolowera
Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji scammer? Musanayambe adakopeka ndi chibwenzi potengera mbiri ya munthu, dutsani ndi chisa cha mano abwino. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muli pa social media,
- Onani ngati mbiriyo ikuwoneka yaposachedwa kwambiri
- Kodi pali ma post ochepa komanso omwe ali odziwika kwambiri?
- Kodi mumawona zithunzi zilizonse ndi anzanu kapena achibale? Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti mwina ndi mbiri yabodza
Pa pulogalamu ya zibwenzi, yang'anani mtundu wa zidziwitso zomwe adagawana za iwo eni.
- Kodi zikumveka zachidule kwambiri kapena zojambulidwa? Kapena wangwiro kwambiri?
- Kodi imayang'ana mabokosi onse azomwe mumasankha za munthu yemwe mukufuna kukhala naye pachibwenzi?
Muzochitika zonsezi, pali mwayi woti mbiriyo ndi yabodza. Mwina, idapangidwa ndi cholinga chokhacho chofuna kukuyang'anani. Kusamala mwatsatanetsatane ndi gawo lofunikira pakuzindikira momwe mungabere munthu wachinyengo ndikudzipulumutsa ku vuto lolimbana ndi kutayika kwachuma komanso kusweka mtima.
4. Yang'anirani zosagwirizana pakulankhula kwawo
Kuti mugwire wamwano wachikondi, yang'anani zosagwirizana pakulumikizana kwawo ndi inu. Ngati munthuyu ali m'gulu la bungwe ndipo sakugwira ntchito yekha, ndiye kuti pali anthu osiyanasiyana omwe akugwiritsa ntchito akauntiyo kuti alankhule nanu. Izi ziwonetsa momwe amalembera.
Mukhoza kuona kusiyana kwa kalembedwe, kalembedwe, kamangidwe ka ziganizo, kagwiritsidwe ntchito ka mawu achidule, zizindikiro zopumira, ndi zina zotero. Inde, pamafunika diso lalikulu kuti mudziwe zambiri kuti muwone izi. Koma mukatero, itha kukhala kiyi yanu yofotokozera zachinyengo. Mukhoza kuwalozera zosagwirizanazi ndikuwona momwe amachitira. Njira yabwino yothanirana ndi munthu wachinyengo wachikondi ndikuwagwira mwabodza ndiyeno kuwafunsa kuti afotokoze okha.
5. Tengani zinthu pang'onopang'ono
Wobera zachikondi amapita patsogolo mwachangu kwambiri. Iwo amachoka pa kulumikizana nanu mpaka kukuwuzani kuti amakukondani m'masiku ochepa kapena masabata angapo. Izi zili choncho chifukwa akufuna kukuchotserani ndalama musanamvetse zomwe zikuchitika. Ndiyeno, pitirirani ku chandamale chawo china.
Nthawi zonse mukayamba chibwenzi chatsopano kapena mutayamba chibwenzi ndi munthu pa intaneti, limbikirani kuchita zinthu pang'onopang'ono. Ngati winayo sali wokonzeka kugwirizana ndi liŵiro lanu, musawope kupita patsogolo. Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yopitirizira chinyengo chachikondi ndikudzipulumutsa ku a ubale wabodza.
6. Osagawana zambiri zandalama/mapasipoti
Ziribe kanthu zomwe mungachite, osagawana zambiri zanu zachuma monga nambala ya akaunti yanu yakubanki, mawu achinsinsi akubanki pa intaneti, kapena manambala a kirediti kadi ndi munthu yemwe simunakumanepo naye pamasom'pamaso. Chidziwitso choterechi sichingagwiritsidwe ntchito kukuberani ndalama komanso kukuberani zinsinsi, zomwe zingakugwetseni m'mavuto akulu kwambiri.
Ziribe kanthu momwe anganene kuti amakukondani kapena mumamva kuti mumawakonda ndi kuwakhulupirira ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe amadzinenera kuti ali pavuto lalikulu kapena loika moyo pachiswe, musagawane ndi zambiri zandalama kapena zina zofunika zaumwini monga nambala ya chitetezo cha anthu kapena ndondomeko za inshuwalansi. Sakuyenera kukufunsani kuti mugawane nanu zambiri zachuma, poyambira. Mfundo yakuti iwo ali iyenera kukhala yokwanira kukweza mbendera yofiira m'maganizo mwanu.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Zifukwa 5 Zofufuzira Tsiku Lanu Lapaintaneti Musanakumane
7. Lankhulani ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira
Kodi mungapitirire bwanji munthu wonyenga wachikondi mukakhala kuti mwakopeka naye? Kapena mukusokonezeka kuti ubalewu ndi weniweni? Chabwino, kupeza malingaliro a chipani chachitatu nthawi zonse ndi njira yanzeru yopezera malingaliro pazovuta zotere. Osazengereza kapena kuchita manyazi kuuza mnzako wodalirika, wachibale, kapena chinsinsi kuti mwakumanapo ndi munthu pa intaneti ndipo tsopano mukukayikira zolinga zake.
Gawani zambiri pamphindi iliyonse ndi munthu amene mukutembenukirako kuti akupatseni uphungu ndikutsatira malangizo awo. Osalola kuti mafunso monga momwe scammer angakonde kukondana ndi wozunzidwayo kapena wozunzidwayo kuti asinthe malingaliro anu panthawiyi. Mukugwira udzu ngati mukuyembekeza mopanda chiyembekezo kuti munthu amene akukunyengani adzasintha mtima ndikukondana nanu. Osapita nkomwe kumeneko.
8. Ngati sizikumveka bwino, khulupirirani chibadwa chanu
Pofotokoza mmene katangale zaubwenzi pa Intaneti zimagwirira ntchito, John Breyault wa pa Fraud.org anati, “Chikondi chili ndi malingaliro amphamvu kwambiri ndipo anthu achinyengo amene amaumirira kuchita zimenezo akhoza kuwononga moyo wanu.” Amapanga chidaliro ndikukupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti mwapeza kulumikizana kosowa komwe kumayenera kukhala kokhalitsa. Popeza kuti ndi amene amakoka chingwe, ubale ndi wonyenga wachikondi umasokonekera m'njira zambiri. Pokhapokha mutakhala pansi ndikuganiza.
Mwachitsanzo, talingalirani nkhani ya Ellen Floren yosimbidwa ndi ndi New York Times. Mlendo wake wachikondi, yemwe adadzitcha yekha James Gibson, adafika pachibwenzi ndi Ellen, tad mochedwa kwambiri ndipo adangomuuza kuti akuyenera kupita ku Europe kukagwira ntchito mwachangu. Pambuyo pake, adamuyimbira foni ndikumufunsa ngati angamugulire khadi la Netflix la $ 100, popeza anali atatha ntchito ndipo atha kuzigwiritsa ntchito powonera makanema paulendo wake. Patatha masiku atatu, adayimbanso, akumveka ngati wamanyazi, ponena kuti adasokera chikwama cha zida zamtengo wapatali zokwana madola 4,000 ndipo amafunikira $ 2,600 kuti agule choloŵa chofanana.
Anafunsa Ellen ngati angamutumizire ndalamazo ngati ngongole. Anamva fungo la khoswe. Kodi nchifukwa ninji munthu wapaulendo wapadziko lonse lapansi sangakhale ndi njira - kugwiritsa ntchito kirediti kadi yake yaulendo kapena kupempha mabwana ake kuti amuthandize, mwachitsanzo - kuti apereke bilu? Atamuyitananso Ellen adamupatsa kachidutswa kakang'ono ndikumuuza mosapita m'mbali kuti akudziwa kuti akumupusitsa. Anangotaya $100 yokha. Choncho, ngati m'matumbo anu akukuuzani kuti chinachake chalakwika za munthu amene muli naye pachibwenzi, musaletse mawuwo. Kapena musayang'anire mbendera zofiira zoonekeratu chifukwa mukuwopa kuti mukhale nokha. Ngati munakopeka ndi munthu wozembetsa zachikondi, kusweka mtima kumakhala kosapeŵeka. Osachepera, mwa kukhala tcheru, mukhoza kudziteteza ku kutaya ndalama.
9. Kuumirira pamasom'pamaso/pamaso pa munthu
Yankho la momwe mungagwirire wonyenga wachikondi asanakupezeni mwayi lingakhale losavuta monga kuumirira pamasom'pamaso komanso pamasom'pamaso. Mukayamba chibwenzi ndi munthu pa intaneti ndipo ubalewo ndi wongopeka, konzani makanema apakanema ndi Madeti a FaceTime. Ngati munthu amene mukuchita naye ali wowona, adzakhala okonzeka kutenga nawo mbali. Ngati sichoncho, ndi mbendera yofiira kuti chinachake chalakwika.
Momwemonso, musanatengere zinthu ndi munthu amene munakumana naye pa intaneti, limbikirani kuti mukumane naye pamasom’pamaso. Pangani izi kukhala zosakambitsirana mumayendedwe anu ochezera pa intaneti ndipo musagwedezeke mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa momwe wina akunyengererani ndi manja awo akulu ndi malonjezo okwezeka.
Kuwerenga Kofanana: Malangizo 15 Ofunika Kuti Mudzipulumutse Kusodzi
10. Afunseni mafunso ambiri otsatila
Mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungabere munthu wonyenga wachikondi? Chabwino, chinsinsi ndikuwatchera msampha mu ukonde wawo wa mabodza ndi kuwamenya pamasewera awa othamangitsa amphaka ndi mbewa omwe akuganiza kuti akwaniritsa. Kuti muchite izi, choyamba muyenera kuyang'ana mbendera zofiira monga,
- Pali zosagwirizana zambiri m'nkhani zawo
- Kukayika kuyankha mafunso aliwonse omwe mungakhale nawo okhudza moyo wawo
- Kupewa zinthu zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mukumane maso ndi maso, kaya m'moyo weniweni kapena kwenikweni
Ndondomeko ikayamba kuwonekera, yambani kuwafunsa mafunso okhudza moyo wawo, zochita zawo, zakale, ndi mapulani awo amtsogolo. Lembani mayankho awo, ndiyeno bwereraninso kwa mafunso omwewo pambuyo pa masiku angapo. Ngati mayankho awo amasintha nthawi zonse, ndi chizindikiro chodziwikiratu kuti iwo si omwe amadzinenera kuti ndi - ndipo ndi yankho la momwe angagwirire wachinyengo. Kupatula apo, mafunso onsewa angawapangitse kukhala omveka kuti muli nawo ndipo akhoza kusiya lingaliro lakukunyengani.
11. Osatumiza ndalama
Ngati munthu, amene amati amakukondani koma sanapeze nthawi yokumana nanu kapena kukhala nanu, akupemphani ndalama, palibe kukayika kuti akungofuna ndalama zanu. Choncho, yesetsani kuti musamatumize ndalama kwa 'wokondedwa' kapena 'mnzanu' yemwe simukumudziwabe. Osati mongotengeka.
Pempho loterolo likabwera, muuzeni munthuyo kuti muwone zomwe mungachite. Ndiko kuti ngati simukufuna kuyamba kuwaneneza kuti akukuberani nthawi yomweyo kapena mukufuna kuwapatsa mwayi wokayika. Kenako, lankhulani ndi banja lanu, mlangizi wazachuma, loya, kapena anzanu. Ganizirani pang'ono za mkhalidwewo, ndipo muwone ngati zikumvekabe zenizeni komanso zokhutiritsa monga momwe zimakhalira poyamba. Mwayi, sizitero. Mukatsimikiza kuti mwagwidwa ndi munthu wachinyengo, mutha kudandaula ndi Mtengo wa FTC.
Zolozera Mfungulo
- Kugwa mphwayi zachikondi ndi chiopsezo chachikulu chokhala ndi zibwenzi pa intaneti, osataya poganiza kuti ndiwe wanzeru kwambiri kuti ungagwere pachibwenzi chonga ichi.
- Ngati munthu amene mudalumikizana naye pa intaneti akuwoneka kuti ndi wabwino kwambiri kuti asakhale wowona, ali kutali kwambiri kotero kuti kukumana naye si njira yabwino, ndipo akufuna kupitiriza chibwenzicho mwachangu kwambiri chomwe simumasuka naye, pali mwayi waukulu kuti mukuberedwa.
- Kuzindikira zizindikiro zochenjeza ndikusanyalanyaza mbendera zofiira zomwe zikukuyang'anitsitsani kungakupulumutseni dziko lachisoni komanso kutaya ndalama.
- Nthawi zonse mukalumikizana ndi munthu watsopano, chitani khama lanu, funsani mafunso ambiri, limbikirani kuti mukumane nawo pamasom'pamaso, ndipo musavomereze kutumiza ndalama kapena kugawana nawo maakaunti anu aku banki ngakhale atakhala kuti akuvutitsa bwanji.
Kukhala wochitiridwa chinyengo pa nkhani zachikondi, mosasamala kanthu kuti wolakwayo anakulakwirani kapena munatha kumuposa wachinyengo wachikondi, kungakhale chochitika chowononga maganizo. Zingathe kugwedeza chikhulupiriro chanu pa lingaliro la chikondi ndipo mwinanso kukulepheretsani kukhala pachibwenzi kwa nthawi yaitali. Ngati kumenyedwa kwa munthu womangidwa m'dzina la chikondi kukupweteketsani kwambiri, musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Mlangizi waluso kapena wochiritsira atha kukuthandizani kuzindikira malingaliro anu odziimba mlandu ndi manyazi, ndikukuthandizani kuti mutengepo gawo loyamba pakuchira ndikupitilira. Ngati mukuyang'ana thandizo, alangizi aluso komanso ovomerezeka Gulu la Bonobology zili pano chifukwa cha inu.
Ibibazo
Ayi, ngati wina akufuna kukunyengererani, azipewa kuyimba foni pavidiyo iliyonse. Angachite zimenezi chifukwa angakhale akubisala kuseri kwa mbiri yabodza. Mukawonana ndi munthu weniweni yemwe mukukambirana naye, vuto lawo lonse limagwera pansi. Kupatula apo, mafoni amakanema amakupatsirani chithunzithunzi chamoyo wawo. Nanga bwanji atanena kuti ali msilikali ndipo ali ku Afghanistan koma akugwira ntchito kuchokera m'chipinda chapansi pa mzinda wanu? Kuitana kamodzi kungathe kumasula zonse.
Ngati mukulankhula ndi scammer, choyamba, iwo adzawoneka ofunitsitsa kutenga ubale ndi inu patsogolo. Wobera chinyengo amakhala waukali m'mawu ake achikondi ndikuchita chilichonse chomwe angathe kuti inunso mumve chimodzimodzi. Ukangotenga nyambo, amangobwera kudzafuna ndalama. Mwachidule, bwenzi loyembekezera, yemwe akuwoneka kuti ndi wabwino kwambiri kuti asakhale woona, amapezeka pafupifupi koma nthawi zonse amabwera ndi zifukwa zoti asakumane nanu, ndi wonyenga. Dziwani kuti adzakufunsani kuti muwachotse pamavuto azachuma nthawi ina.
Zinyengo zachikondi izi nthawi zambiri zimayendetsedwa ndi mabungwe omwe amagwira ntchito m'mizinda yosiyanasiyana padziko lapansi. Nthawi zambiri, anthu angapo 'amayang'anira akaunti' ya munthu yemwe angakhale wozunzidwa. Kwa iwo, ndi bizinesi ndipo njira yawo ndi yachipatala. Mwayi woti scammer ayambe kukondana ndi wozunzidwayo ndi wochepa kwambiri. Pokhapokha, mwina, munthu uyu akugwira ntchito yekha ndikuyesera kuchotsa nthawi imodzi kuti atuluke m'mavuto a zachuma. Koma kachiwiri, mwayi woti zichitike ndi wocheperapo.
Momwe Ndinachokera Kumoyo Wamba Kufikira Kukhala Mwana Wamchere
Nawa Upangiri Wabwino Kwambiri Pazibwenzi Paintaneti Mungapeze Pa intaneti
Zopereka zanu sizikupanga zachifundo Mphatso. Zilola kuti Bonobology ipitilize kukubweretserani zidziwitso zatsopano komanso zaposachedwa pakufuna kwathu kuthandiza aliyense padziko lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
