Pamene Ana Anachoka, Ukwati Wawo Unayamba Mwatsopano

Kusintha kwa anthu awiri kuchokera kwa okondana kupita ku mabwenzi a moyo, ndiyeno kwa makolo, ndi njira yapang'onopang'ono yomwe imasintha aliyense wa iwo m'njira zosasinthika. Pamodzi ndi zosintha zomwe aliyense amakumana nazo, ubale wawo ndi mnzake umasinthanso. Masiku achikondi amasinthidwa ndi kusintha kwa matewera, misonkhano ya PTA, kuthana ndi mahomoni owopsa a achinyamata, ndiyeno, ana akamawuluka chisa, banjali limadzipeza liri ndi 'wina ndi mnzake' osati 'pamodzi'.

A College Romance

Iye anati: “Tinali kukondana ku koleji Nandita, yemwe wakhala m'banja ndi Jatinder Singh Paul kwa zaka 32. Panalibe kutsutsa pang'ono kuchokera kwa gulu lililonse la makolo, ndipo patatha zaka zisanu ndi zitatu ali pachibwenzi, awiriwa adamanga mfundo mu 1984.

Zovuta M'zaka Zoyambirira

Pokumbukira zaka zoyambirira, Nandita akulankhula mosapita m’mbali za nthaŵi imene anavutika maganizo kwambiri pambuyo pa kubadwa kwa mwana wamwamuna woyamba kubadwa mu 1985. “Mwadzidzidzi, ndinayamba kudzikayikira ndipo ndinafunikira thumba la punching, ndipo anali iyeyo.” Iye anaima pambali pa mkaziyo, “wokhazikika,” ndipo m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, moyo wawo unayambiranso kukhala wabwinobwino. Posakhalitsa, mwana wawo wachiwiri anabwera.

Zokwera ndi Zoipa za Ukwati

Kwa zaka zoposa 32, ukwati wa Nandita ndi Jatinder unali wovuta kwambiri. Pa nthawi yonse ya ntchito yake, Jatinder ankayesetsa kuti apeze malo ake ndipo anakumana ndi zovuta zosiyanasiyana. Mu 1993, banjali lidasamukira ku Dubai, ndipo mu 1996, Jatinder adalowa mgulu lankhondo. vuto lazachuma (osati za kupanga kwake), zomwe zikanapangitsa kuti atsekedwe. “Inali nthawi yovuta kwa ife chifukwa malamulo a dziko ndi okhwima kwambiri,” akutero Nandita.

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Moyo ku Dubai

Kuyambira nthawi imeneyo, moyo unali wovuta kwambiri. Nandita adayamba kugwira ntchito ndikutukuka mwaukadaulo, pomwe Jatinder adayesa kupanga bizinesi yomwe adayamba ndi anzake ena kuti apambane. Panthawiyi, anyamatawo anali akukula, ndipo wamkuluyo anasamukira ku India kuti akachite maphunziro apamwamba mu 2003. Wamng’onoyo anatsatira pambuyo pa zaka zingapo.

Empty Nest Syndrome

Aka kanali koyamba kuti Nandita ndi Jatinder akhale okhaokha, koma sizinawayandikire. Nandita anati: “Ngakhale kuti tinali ndi ndalama zabwino, tinalibe nthawi yocheza. Iye akuvomereza kuti mavuto omwe adakumana nawo pakati pa 1996 ndi 2002 adayambitsa kusamvana uku: "Tinali kudutsa m'malo athu achinsinsi."

Chiyambi Chatsopano ku Pune

Masiku ano, Nandita ndi Jatinder amakhala ku Pune, mzinda womwe adamanga mu 2011 atasamuka ku Dubai pambuyo pa vuto lina lazachuma. Ana awo analinso ku Pune. Pofika m’chaka cha 2013, anyamata onsewo anali atasamuka, n’kumathamangitsa ntchito ndi maloto awo, ndipo nyumba yawo inalinso yopanda anthu.

Kuzindikirananso Wina ndi Mnzake

Koma nthawi ino zinthu zasintha. Onse akugwira ntchito zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala okhutira. Chifukwa cha kusintha komwe kunachitika pafupifupi nthawi imodzi m’miyoyo yawo (kuchoka ku Dubai kupita ku India ndi kunyamuka kwa anyamatawo), Nandita akuti, “Tabwezeretsa ubale wathu.”

Kusangalala ndi Kampani Yanu

Amapeza chitonthozo pokhala pamodzi; amasangalala ndi kanema kumapeto kwa sabata, amapita kukagula pawindo, amapita kumalo odyera, kapena amapita maulendo a sabata. "Timagawana ndikukambirana, zomwe sitinali kuchita zaka khumi zapitazo. Timakumbukira zam'mbuyo, momwe tidakumana…," akutero, akuchoka. "Palibe kumasuka, ndipo tikudziwana bwino."

Maphunziro Akale

Ponena za nthaŵi za chipwirikiti m’miyoyo yawo zimene zinatsala pang’ono kusokoneza mkangano pakati pawo (kuphatikizapo kusamvana kumene kunawabweretsanso ku India), iye akuti, “Ndimamsirira chifukwa chosagonja pamene mayendedwe anali ovuta.”

Kupeza Kukwaniritsidwa mu Ntchito

Ntchito ndi njira yothawira kwa onse awiri, akuvomereza, motero, samaphonya anyamata kwambiri. “Maganizo a ‘nyumba yodzaza’ palibe, koma sitili osungulumwa.” Kupanda kanthu kumakhalapo, koma m’njira yabwino,” akugogomezera motero.

Pamene ana awo aamuna abwera kunyumba, “Tiyenera kuwaloŵetsa m’ndandanda yathu,” iye akuseka.

Kukumbatira Tsogolo Limodzi

Maukwati amabweretsa ‘kukwatiwa’ kwa okwatirana onse aŵiri, makamaka ana akabadwa, zomwe zimasiya okwatirana kukhala opanda mpata wa kukumbukira ubwana wawo ndi chikondi chimene chinawagwirizanitsa. Koma ngati ubale wamangidwa pamaziko olimba ngati a Paulo, kulimba mtima ndi mikuntho kumangokhala gawo lazokumana nazo zambiri za moyo, zosavuta kugawana ndi kuzisinkhasinkha. Koposa zonse, n’zolimbikitsa kudziwa kuti nyanja yabata imadikirira mbali ina.

• Popanda zofuna za makolo, maanja amakhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo yoganizira za ubale wawo komanso zosowa zawo.
• Gawo lopanda kanthu la chisa limapereka mwayi wobwezeretsanso chilakolako ndi chiyanjano kudzera muzokumana nazo.
• Mabanja ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi imeneyi kuchita zinthu zatsopano, kuyenda maulendo, kapena kufufuza zinthu zomwe anasiya kale.
• Ndi nthawi yoganizira maloto omwe munagawana nawo ndikutanthauziranso zolinga za gawo lotsatira la moyo.
• Kusintha kuchokera ku maudindo omwe amangoyang'ana makolo ndikukhala ogwirizana ndi anzawo kungakhale kovuta koma kopindulitsa ndi khama.
• Kukambitsirana momasuka za ziyembekezo, mantha, ndi ziyembekezo zingathandize maanja kuyandikirana mu gawoli.

Maganizo Final

Anawo akamachoka, amakhala chiyambi cha moyo watsopano wa okwatiranawo—nthawi yotulukirananso ndi kuyambitsanso chikondi chimene mwina chinabweza m’mbuyo ku udindo wa makolo. Kusintha kumeneku, komwe nthawi zambiri kumatchedwa siteji ya "chisa chopanda kanthu", kumapereka mwayi wofufuza zomwe timakondana nazo, kukulitsa ubwenzi wapamtima, ndikuganiziranso za ukwatiwo. Ndi kuyesetsa ndi kulankhulana momasuka, maanja atha kusintha gawoli kukhala mutu watsopano wokwaniritsa ubale wawo. Asing'anga athu ali pano kuti akuthandizeni zindikiraninso chisangalalo, ubwenzi, ndi cholinga chogawana muukwati wanu. Tengani sitepe yoyamba yofikira paubwenzi wokonzedwanso—konzani gawo ndi ife lero!

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