Ngakhale papepala zingawoneke ngati dziko likuvomereza gulu la LGBTQ ndi manja otseguka, zambiri zimapitirira kumbuyo zomwe, mpaka lero, zimatsimikizira kuti tsankho kwa gulu la LGBTQ likufala.
Ngati ndinu pafupifupit mwamuna / mkazi, mwayi inu simunayambe ndaganizapo za mmene aliyense mu lesitilanti adzayang'ana pa inu ndi kuweruza inu ngati mukupita pa tsiku. Zinthu ndizosiyana kwambiri kwa anthu amgulu la LGBTQ.
Pokambirana ndi womenyera ufulu wa anthu osintha chibadwa chawo komanso chitsanzo cha anthu osintha chibadwa chawo, Naaz Joshi , tapeza mavuto omwe anthu osintha chibadwa chawo amakumana nawo akamafunafuna chikondi.
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M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Chifukwa cha kufalikira kwa mfundo zabodza komanso malingaliro olakwika omwe anthu ali nawo okhudza anthu osintha chigololo, mavuto omwe amakumana nawo akapeza chibwenzi amakhala okhumudwitsa kwambiri.
Naaz Joshi akutiuza za ukwati wake wosweka, umene unam’sokoneza. Ndinakwatiwa ndi mwamuna ndipo tinakhala limodzi kwa zaka 2. Monga ukwati wachinsinsi, palibe amene ankadziwa kuti anakwatirana ndi ine. Banja lake litadziwa, linamutsutsa mwamphamvu kuti akwatire munthu wosiyana, ndipo anakwatira mkazi wa cisgender titangosudzulana.
Iye anati, njira yopezera chikondi ndi yokhumudwitsa kwambiri. Ngakhale kuti amuna ena amafuna kuyamba chibwenzi ndi munthu wosintha chifaniziro cha mwamuna kapena mkazi, nthawi zambiri amavutitsidwa ndi anthu omwe amakhala nawo pafupi chifukwa cha zimenezi. “Amuna omwe akufuna kukhala nafe pachibwenzi amatilandira koma amakayikira chifukwa akuda nkhawa ndi zomwe anzawo anganene za iwo. Pazifukwa zina, amaopa kutchedwa kuti ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndipo amalola zomwe ena amanena za iwo kuwakhumudwitsa. Kuzunzidwa kwambiri kwamaganizo kumatayika,” akutero Naaz.
“Ndamvapo anthu akunena zinthu monga ‘muyenera kupeza mkazi wabwino’ kapena ‘ndinu wochititsa manyazi banjalo’ kwa amuna amene anali pachibwenzi ndi akazi osintha chibadwa,” anawonjezera motero.
Kupeza chikondi ngati munthu wa trans ndizovuta zomwe zimapangitsa ambiri kusiya pakati. Koma bwanji zinthu ngati zibwenzi mapulogalamu? Kodi zinthu zikuyenda bwino pamapulogalamu apabanja apamtima?
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Kugwiritsa ntchito zibwenzi ngati transgender
Tsoka ilo, zinthu sizikuyenda bwino, ngakhale pamapulogalamu a zibwenzi. Naaz akutiuza za mavuto omwe adakumana nawo "Pa mapulogalamu a LGBTQ ngati Grindr, zomwe ndidapeza zinali anthu omwe amangofunafuna masitepe ausiku umodzi. Kuyesa kuyang'ana ubale ndi chinthu chomaliza m'malingaliro a anthu akakhala pa mapulogalamuwa, zikuwoneka, pomwe ndidawagwiritsa ntchito."
"Ndinkakonda kulandira zithunzi zamaliseche popanda chilolezo changa nthawi zonse. Ndinkakhala ndi anthu owongoka pa mapulogalamuwa amandifunsa zinthu monga 'Kodi mtengo wanu ndi wotani?'. Pali maganizo olakwika okhudza anthu amtundu wina kuti timangoyang'ana kugonana osati chikondi. Zomwe zinandichitikira zinandizimitsa ndipo sindinabwererenso ku mapulogalamuwa, "akutero, ponena za zovuta zomwe anakumana nazo pa mapulogalamu a chibwenzi.
"Mapulogalamu monga Tinder ndi Badoo amaletsa mbiri ya anthu osinthika, popanda kulankhulana kapena chifukwa chilichonse. Amuna akawona akazi a trans pa nsanja izi, amafotokozera mbiriyo ndipo Tinder akuganiza kuti achitepo kanthu pa malipoti opanda pake. Zinandichitikiranso pamene ndimagwiritsa ntchito pulogalamuyi mu 2018. Ndinkapeza machesi ambiri, koma popanda ngakhale kulemberana mameseji aliyense pa pulogalamuyo, adaletsedwa kulikonse."
Ngati zinthu sizikuyenda bwino ndi anthu ammudzi akakhala kuseri kwa zenera, pogwiritsa ntchito pulogalamu, chimachitika ndi chiyani akakhala kunja kwamasiku?
Tsankho kwa anthu trans mukakhala pachibwenzi
Anthu ena osintha gender akapeza ubale, ziyembekezo za mnzake zimasintha mwadzidzidzi, monga momwe Naazi amatiuzira zingapo zomwe adaziwona.
"Ubwenzi nthawi zambiri umakhala wokhudzana ndi ndalama. Okwatiranawo amadalira ife pa ndalama zawo. Ndikudziwa za mkazi wina yemwe adapereka nyumba kwa chibwenzi chake kuti azikhala ndi mkazi wake ndi ana pamene akukhala kwina. Akuganiza kuti popanda kumupatsa mwayi wopeza ndalama zake monga chonchi, achoka. Ngakhale amadalira iye," anatero Naaz.
Anzanga akumananso ndi mavuto ambiri.” Pamene ankakonzekera kupita kutchuthi, sankatha n'komwe kupeza hotelo mosavuta popanda kuuzidwa mawu onyansa.
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Ndi uthenga wachiyembekezo, Naaz akutiuza zomwe angafune kuwona kusintha kwazomwe zikuchitika pa chibwenzi cha transgender.
"Kuti tipangitse chibwenzi kukhala chabwino kwa anthu osinthika, tifunika kufalitsa chidziwitso, mofanana ndi zomwe mukuchita ndi nkhaniyi. Tiyenera kudziwitsa anthu kuti anthu okonda kusintha amafunikira chikondi, monganso wina aliyense. Anthu ofuna kutikonda sayenera kunyozedwa chifukwa cha izi."
Ngati anthu aŵiri akufuna kukhalira limodzi n’kumafuna kuti azikondana, bwanji osangowasiya?” Mosasamala kanthu za jenda kapena maganizo, asiyeni azikondana ndi kukhala mwamtendere,” anatero Naaz.
Chopereka chanu sichikutanthauza chopereka chachifundo . Chidzalola Bonobology kupitiliza kukubweretserani chidziwitso chatsopano komanso chaposachedwa poyesetsa kuthandiza aliyense padziko lonse lapansi kuphunzira momwe angachitire chilichonse.
