Kodi Mungakhale Wosiyana? Zizindikiro 5 Zomwe Zimatero

Kodi demisexual ndi chiyani? Kuti tiyankhe funsoli, tiyeni tibwererenso ku kanema wotchuka, masewera. Protagonist Theodore Twombly amakondana ndi makina ake opangira AI, Samantha. Amakonda kwambiri kompyuta, nanga n’chifukwa chiyani? Osati chifukwa cha maonekedwe ndithu. Chifukwa chakuti akhoza kulankhula naye chilichonse pansi pano! Izi ndi zomwe tanthauzo la demisexual limayambira - kukopeka ndi umunthu kuposa mawonekedwe kapena mawonekedwe.

Mukadasokonezeka, ndikudabwa, kodi demisexual imatanthauza chiyani? Osadandaula, tili ndi nsana wanu. Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni pakufuna kwanu kuti mumvetsetse zomwe anthu amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mothandizidwa ndi chidziwitso cha akatswiri kuchokera kwa akatswiri ogonana. Dr. Rajan Bhonsle (MD, MBBS Medicine and Surgery), yemwe amagwira ntchito yolangizira anthu asanalowe m'banja ndipo ali ndi zaka zopitilira 30 ngati katswiri wodziwa kugonana. Tiyeni tilowe mu zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza kugonana kumeneku komanso njira zomwe mungadziwire ngati mukudziwika kuti ndinu amodzi.

Kodi Demisexual Amatanthauza Chiyani?

Tisanaone tanthauzo la demisexual, tiyeni tiwone matanthauzo a zizindikiritso zina zogonana:

• Zogonana: Munthu yemwe samakopeka pang'ono ndi kugonana koma amatha kuchita zogonana (mawonekedwe ogonana amakhala ndi zidziwitso zambiri)
• Sapiosexual: Munthu amene amakopeka ndi anthu anzeru (subjective over objective intelligence)
• Pansexual: Atha kukopeka ndi wina aliyense, posatengera kuti ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi

Muwona chifukwa chake izi ndizogwirizana ndi momwe timafotokozera za demisexual. The Demisexuality Resource Center akufotokoza malingaliro ogonana awa monga momwe munthu "amamverera kukopeka pogonana pokhapokha atapanga mgwirizano wamalingaliro". Kugonana kotereku kumagwera kwinakwake pakati pa kugonana ndi kugonana. Munthu wachiwerewere sakhala ndi chilakolako chilichonse mpaka atagwirizana ndi wina.

Chikhalidwechi chikhoza kugwirizana ndi zina mitundu ya kugonana. Kotero, kodi mungakhale wowongoka ndi demisexual? Inde. Monga momwe mungakhalire gay kapena bi ndi demisexual. Kukonda jenda kwa munthu wogonana naye sikukhudzana ndi kugonana. Izi zimangogwirizanitsa chilakolako chogonana ndi chiyanjano chamaganizo. Wogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukhala ndi chidwi chogonana koma kwa bwenzi lake lenileni kapena bwenzi lake.

Dr Bhonsle akuti, "Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si chinthu chachilendo, ndikusiyana kwachibadwa. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana nthawi yomweyo. Kukumana ndi munthu ku bar ndikugona naye nthawi yomweyo si njira yawo. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amafunika kudziwana bwino ndi munthu kuti ayambe kugonana naye. chilengedwe.”

Mumadziwa Bwanji Ngati Ndinu Demisexual?

Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kungakhale kovuta kufotokoza komanso kumvetsetsa. Ndilo wochenjera gawo la kuyanjana kwa kugonana kuti zingatenge zaka kuti munthu azindikire kuti kutsamira kobadwa nako kumeneku kwakhala kusonkhezera khalidwe lawo la kugonana. Ngati mungafanane ndi zomwe mukugonanazi koma simukutsimikiza ngati mukuyenerana ndi biluyo, machitidwe 5 awa atha kuthetsa momwe mungadziwire ngati muli ndi vuto lokhudzana ndi kugonana:

1. Maubwenzi anu amakhazikika paubwenzi

Simungangolumphira ndi chiyembekezo chopita kokacheza ndi munthu wotentha uja aliyense amene ali pafupi nanu akukomoka. Muyenera kupanga ubale wamphamvu ndi munthu kuti mutha kuganiza zopititsa patsogolo zinthu. Kukangana kwachikondi kumeneko, kodzaza ndi agulugufe m'mimba, sikumabwera kwa inu mosavuta. Ndichifukwa chake maubwenzi anu ambiri kuchoka kwa abwenzi kupita kwa okonda. Ngakhale mutayesa kupanga mbiri ya chibwenzi, kuyesera kungakhale kugwa pansi pa nkhope yake.

Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti, "Okwatirana ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amayamba kukhala mabwenzi apamtima / omasuka / anzako. Mwachitsanzo, mumapita ku msonkhano wamaphunziro anu, womwe umadzaza ndi anthu odziwa zambiri. Ndipo mumayamba kukopeka ndi wina chifukwa cha momwe amalankhulira. Mumapita kukakambirana nawo pa nkhomaliro. Ndipo pamapeto pake, nonse mumayamba kufotokoza nkhani zachikondi kwa wina ndi mzake."

2. Mwatchedwa 'ozizira' kapena 'wozizira'

Popeza demisexuality amadziwika ndi kulephera kumverera kugonana kukopeka mpaka inu anayamba kwambiri maganizo kugwirizana ndi munthu, mwina munapeza kuti simungathe kubwezera tsiku kapena kuphwanya zilakolako za kugonana. Izi zitha kukupangitsani kuti mutchulidwe kuti ndinu munthu wozizira, wozizira, kapena ngakhale munthu wosagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. kugonana sipekitiramu.

Panthawi yonseyi, mwakhala mukudzimenya nokha za kugonana kwanu kochepa komwe kumabwera m'njira ya maubwenzi opambana. Tsopano, popeza mukudziwa chomwe ndi demisexuality, mutha kupumula mosavuta podziwa kuti chizolowezichi ndi chiwonetsero cha momwe mumalumikizidwa. Nthawi ina, mwina mudzatha kufotokoza bwino za chikondi chanu.

Dr. Bhonsle akugogomezera kuti, "Nthano yaikulu kwambiri yokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi ndi yakuti anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali ndi chilakolako chochepa kapena kuti ndi anthu osagonana. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala abwino kwambiri pabedi ndipo amakonda kwambiri kugonana. Kusiyana kokha ndiko kuti sachita zinthu mopupuluma pa zosankha zawo zakugonana / zomwe amakonda. Amawonetsa kukhwima ndi kukhazikika kwamfuti ndipo samalumphira pakuchita zogonana. "

3. Maonekedwe alibe ntchito kwa inu

Mumadziwa bwanji ngati ndinu demisexual? Samalani zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala ofunda komanso osasangalatsa za munthu. Khalidwe linanso lalikulu la kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndilakuti maonekedwe a thupi sayambitsa chilakolako chogonana. Mumawonjezera phindu ku luntha, nzeru, ndi chidwi cha munthu kuposa kukopa thupi. M’mawu ena, mumakopeka ndi umunthu.

Ngati wina amakupangitsani inu kuseka pa tsiku loyamba ndipo sapanga mawu okhumudwitsa za inu kapena munthu wina, mudzayembekezera kudzawawonanso. Mukawadziwa bwino, mudzayamba kukondana. Mpaka izi zichitike, simungathe kudzipangitsa nokha, osasiya njira yonse. Umo ndimomwemo mtundu wa kugonana ntchito.

Dr. Bhonsle ananena kuti: “Musamaganize kuti anthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakonda kukongola kapena kuti sayamikira kukongola. Limenelo ndi maganizo olakwika. Munthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akhoza kukhala woweruza pa mpikisano wa kukongola.

4. Simunakopekepo ndi mlendo

Chabwino, mwina munthu wokongola kwambiri yemwe adakupangitsani mtima wanu kulumpha. Koma maganizo amenewa ndi osowa komanso okhalitsa. Simukumbukira kuti munthu amene simukumudziwa ankakudzudzulani mochita zachiwerewere, mosasamala kanthu kuti akuwoneka wokongola kapena wokongola bwanji. Anzanu akamalankhula za kugwirizana wamba kapena a Tsiku la Tinder iwo akuyembekezera, inu simungakhoze kukulunga mutu wanu mozungulira lingaliro lolowa pansi pa mapepala ndi munthu amene simukumudziwa. Dinani pa 'mayeso a demisexual' kuti mudziwe zambiri za zomwe mumakonda ...

Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti: “Ndi nthano yaikulu kuti anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sangagonane mwachisawawa. Iwo angathe koma chifukwa cha zimenezonso, angakonde kuona makhalidwe enaake mwa munthu.

5. Mumasangalala ndi kugonana koma osaika patsogolo

Mukakhala ndi munthu wapadera amene mumamukonda, simumangomva kudzutsidwa komanso kusangalala ndi kugonana. Koma kugonana sikukhala kofunikira kwa inu pachibwenzi. M'malo mwake, iwo ali chotuluka chakuya kulumikizana kwamaganizidwe ndi wokondedwa wanu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mungakhale otsimikiza za demisexuality wanu ngati kugonana kwenikweni kupanga chikondi kwa inu.

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Pakati mwa makasitomala anga, panali anthu okwatirana amene poyamba anali mabwenzi. Iwo sankafuna n’komwe pogonana poyamba.

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Dr. Bhonsle akutsindika kuti, “Ngati wanu kukondana ndi demisexual, palibe chifukwa choti inu mumve ngati mulibe malo pakati pa jenda. Anthu amadzimva otetezeka pozungulira inu ndipo njira yanu yapang'onopang'ono/pang'onopang'ono yotengera kukopeka ndi chikondi, imatha kukhala chotsegulira ambiri. Chikondi poyang'ana koyamba ndi kagalu / chochitika chachinyamata. Maubwenzi abwino kwambiri ndi omwe amakula pa ife, pakapita nthawi. ”

Monga chizindikiro cha demisexual chikuyimira, simukuwona dziko ngati makona atatu akuda (asexual community) kapena oyera (kugonana). Mumawona dziko mumithunzi ya imvi. Ndinu msakanizo wabwino wa ubale wamalingaliro ndi thupi, zilakolako ndi chikondi. Ngati mnzanuyo akukuvutani kukumvetsani, yesani kulankhulana nawo makamaka pazosowa zanu zonse / zokhumba zanu ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera pachibwenzi. Mutha kujowinanso magulu a Facebook odzipereka kwa anthu ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikulumikizana ndi anthu amalingaliro ofanana. Komanso, onani ma podcasts ngati Zikumveka zabodza koma zili bwino ndi Gender Fluids...

Pamgwirizano wamalingaliro vs mkangano wokhudzana ndi thupi, mwachibadwa mumatsamira zakale. M'dziko lomwe zibwenzi zakhala ngati chakudya chofulumira - chopezeka mosavuta, chodzaza ndi zosankha, komanso kuthamangitsidwa popanda kusangalatsidwa - mutha kumverera (kapena kupangidwa kumverera) ngati wosamvetseka chifukwa chokopeka ndi umunthu.

Koma kumbukirani, ndi inu nokha amene mumatha kuwongolera zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda. Khalani owona momwe mukumvera kukhala pamtendere ndi inu nokha. Landirani demisexuality yanu ndikuvala m'manja mwanu monyadira. Simufunikanso kutsatira kapena kugonja ku chitsenderezo cha chikhalidwe cha anthu. Ngati sichoncho lero, ndiye kuti panthawi ina, mudzapeza munthu wapadera amene mumamva kuti muli ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu, wosagwedezeka. Chibwenzi chanu chidzayamba kuposa kale.

Pomaliza, zizindikiritso zogonana ndizovuta ndipo pali zigawo zambiri zomwe zimakhudzidwa. Nthawi zonse ndikwanzeru kufunafuna malangizo kwa akatswiri ovomerezeka. Ngati mukuvutika kuti mugwirizane ndi zomwe mumakonda, akatswiri Gulu la Bonobology ali nthawi zonse chifukwa cha inu. Musachite manyazi kupempha thandizo lawo.

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