Kodi Mungakhale Wosiyana? Zizindikiro 5 Zomwe Zimatero

Kodi demisexual ndi chiyani? Kuti tiyankhe funso ili, tiyeni tibwerere ku filimu yotchuka, Her . Theodore Twombly, yemwe ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, amakonda kwambiri makina ake ogwiritsira ntchito anzeru, Samantha. Amakonda kwambiri kompyuta, ndipo chifukwa chiyani? Osati chifukwa cha mawonekedwe ake enieni. Kungoti amatha kulankhula naye za chilichonse chomwe chili pansi pano! Ndicho chimene tanthauzo la demisexual limatanthauza - kukopeka ndi umunthu kuposa mawonekedwe kapena mawonekedwe.

Mudakali osokonezeka, ndipo mukudabwa, kodi kusakhala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumatanthauza chiyani? Musadandaule, tili nanu. Tili pano kuti tikuthandizeni pakuyesetsa kwanu kumvetsetsa makhalidwe a kusakhala ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, mothandizidwa ndi akatswiri a zachiwerewere Dr. Rajan Bhonsle (MD, MBBS Medicine and Surgery), yemwe ndi katswiri pa uphungu waukwati asanakwatirane ndipo ali ndi zaka zoposa makumi atatu akugwira ntchito ngati katswiri wothandiza pa nkhani zogonana. Tiyeni tikambirane zonse zomwe muyenera kudziwa zokhudza chilakolako chogonanachi komanso njira zodziwira ngati mumadzizindikiritsa ngati ndinu mmodzi wa iwo.

Kodi Demisexual Amatanthauza Chiyani?

Tisanaone tanthauzo la demisexual, tiyeni tiwone matanthauzo a zizindikiritso zina zogonana:

• Zogonana: Munthu yemwe samakopeka pang'ono ndi kugonana koma amatha kuchita zogonana (mawonekedwe ogonana amakhala ndi zidziwitso zambiri)
• Sapiosexual: Munthu amene amakopeka ndi anthu anzeru (subjective over objective intelligence)
• Pansexual: Atha kukopeka ndi wina aliyense, posatengera kuti ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi

Mudzaona chifukwa chake izi zikugwirizana ndi momwe timafotokozera demisexuality Resource Center. Demisexuality Resource Center imafotokoza izi ngati momwe munthu "amamvera chilakolako cha kugonana pokhapokha atapanga mgwirizano wamaganizo". Mtundu uwu wa kugonana uli pakati pa kugonana ndi kugonana. Munthu demisexual samakhala ndi chilakolako chilichonse mpaka atagwirizana ndi wina.

Khalidweli lingagwirizane ndi mitundu ina ya kugonana . Ndiye, kodi mungakhale olunjika komanso opanda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Inde. Monga momwe mungakhalire amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kapena opanda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kusankha jenda la mnzanu wogonana sikukhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Kutsatira kumeneku kumangogwirizanitsa chilakolako chogonana ndi kulumikizana kwamaganizo. Munthu wopanda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amatha kukopeka ndi kugonana koma kokha kwa wokondedwa wake kapena okondedwa ake enieni.

Dr Bhonsle akuti, "Kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha si chinthu chachilendo, ndikusiyana kwachibadwa. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakhala ndi chilakolako chogonana nthawi yomweyo. Kukumana ndi munthu ku bar ndikugona naye nthawi yomweyo si njira yawo. Anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amafunika kudziwana bwino ndi munthu kuti ayambe kugonana naye. chilengedwe.”

Mumadziwa Bwanji Ngati Ndinu Demisexual?

Kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kungakhale kovuta kufotokoza komanso kumvetsetsa. Ndi mbali yobisika kwambiri ya kugwirizana kwa kugonana kotero kuti zingatenge zaka kuti munthu azindikire kuti chilakolako chogonanachi chakhala chikumutsogolera ku khalidwe lake logonana. Ngati mungamvetse bwino khalidwe la kugonanali koma simukudziwa ngati mukuyenerera, machitidwe asanu awa angakuthandizeni kudziwa ngati muli ndi vuto la kugonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha:

1. Maubwenzi anu amakhazikika paubwenzi

Simungangoganiza zopita ndi munthu wokongola amene aliyense amene ali pafupi nanu akugwa. Muyenera kupanga ubale wolimba ndi munthuyo kuti muthe kuganiza zopititsa patsogolo zinthu. Chikondi chochuluka, chokhala ndi agulugufe m'mimba, sichikusangalatsani. Ndicho chifukwa chake maubwenzi anu ambiri amasintha kuchoka paubwenzi kupita paubwenzi . Ngakhale mutayesa kupanga mbiri ya chibwenzi, kuyesako mwina sikunatheke.

Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti, "Okwatirana ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amayamba kukhala mabwenzi apamtima / omasuka / anzako. Mwachitsanzo, mumapita ku msonkhano wamaphunziro anu, womwe umadzaza ndi anthu odziwa zambiri. Ndipo mumayamba kukopeka ndi wina chifukwa cha momwe amalankhulira. Mumapita kukakambirana nawo pa nkhomaliro. Ndipo pamapeto pake, nonse mumayamba kufotokoza nkhani zachikondi kwa wina ndi mzake."

2. Mwatchedwa 'ozizira' kapena 'wozizira'

Popeza kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kumadziwika ndi kulephera kukondana mpaka mutayamba kugwirizana kwambiri ndi munthu wina, mwina munadzipeza kuti simungathe kubwezera chilakolako cha chibwenzi kapena chibwenzi chanu. Izi mwina zinakupangitsani kuonedwa ngati munthu wosasangalala, wozizira, kapena wosakonda kugonana.

Panthawi yonseyi, mwakhala mukudzimenya nokha za kugonana kwanu kochepa komwe kumabwera m'njira ya maubwenzi opambana. Tsopano, popeza mukudziwa chomwe ndi demisexuality, mutha kupumula mosavuta podziwa kuti chizolowezichi ndi chiwonetsero cha momwe mumalumikizidwa. Nthawi ina, mwina mudzatha kufotokoza bwino za chikondi chanu.

Dr. Bhonsle akugogomezera kuti, "Nthano yaikulu kwambiri yokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa amuna ndi akazi ndi yakuti anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ali ndi chilakolako chochepa kapena kuti ndi anthu osagonana. Mosiyana ndi zimenezi, anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha amakhala abwino kwambiri pabedi ndipo amakonda kwambiri kugonana. Kusiyana kokha ndiko kuti sachita zinthu mopupuluma pa zosankha zawo zakugonana / zomwe amakonda. Amawonetsa kukhwima ndi kukhazikika kwamfuti ndipo samalumphira pakuchita zogonana. "

3. Maonekedwe alibe ntchito kwa inu

Mumadziwa bwanji ngati ndinu demisexual? Samalani zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala ofunda komanso osasangalatsa za munthu. Khalidwe linanso lalikulu la kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndilakuti maonekedwe a thupi sayambitsa chilakolako chogonana. Mumawonjezera phindu ku luntha, nzeru, ndi chidwi cha munthu kuposa kukopa thupi. M’mawu ena, mumakopeka ndi umunthu.

Ngati wina akusekani pa tsiku loyamba ndipo sakunena mawu okhumudwitsa za inu kapena munthu wina, mudzayembekezera kudzamuonanso. Mukayamba kumudziwa bwino, mudzakhala ndi chilakolako cha chikondi. Mpaka zimenezo zitachitika, simudzatha ngakhale kudzipangitsa kuti muyambe kukondana, makamaka kukondana. Umu ndi momwe mtundu wanu wa kugonana umagwirira ntchito.

Dr. Bhonsle ananena kuti: “Musamaganize kuti anthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sakonda kukongola kapena kuti sayamikira kukongola. Limenelo ndi maganizo olakwika. Munthu amene amagonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha akhoza kukhala woweruza pa mpikisano wa kukongola.

4. Simunakopekepo ndi mlendo

Chabwino, mwina munthu wokongola kwambiri anakupangitsani kugunda kwambiri. Koma kumverera kumeneko n'kosowa ndipo n'kwakanthawi kochepa. Simukukumbukira kukwiya kwambiri ndi munthu wosamudziwa, ngakhale atakhala okongola kapena okongola bwanji. Anzanu akamalankhula za kugonana mwachisawawa kapena chibwenzi cha Tinder chomwe akuyembekezera, simungathe kuganizira za kugonana ndi munthu amene simukumudziwa. Dinani pa 'mayeso a demisexual' kuti mudziwe zambiri za chilakolako chanu chogonana…

Dr. Bhonsle akufotokoza kuti: “Ndi nthano yaikulu kuti anthu ogonana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha sangagonane mwachisawawa. Iwo angathe koma chifukwa cha zimenezonso, angakonde kuona makhalidwe enaake mwa munthu.

5. Mumasangalala ndi kugonana koma osaika patsogolo

Mukakhala ndi munthu wapadera amene mumamva naye chikondi champhamvu, simumangomva kuti muli ndi chilakolako cha kugonana komanso mumasangalala ndi kugonana. Koma zochita zogonana sizimakhala zofunika kwambiri paubwenzi wanu. M'malo mwake, zimakhala chifukwa cha kugwirizana kwambiri kwa maganizo ndi wokondedwa wanu. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti ndinu osiyana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ngati kugonana kukutanthauza kuti mukukondana.

Dr. Bhonsle anati: “Pakati mwa makasitomala anga, panali anthu okwatirana amene poyamba anali mabwenzi. Iwo sankafuna n’komwe pogonana poyamba.

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Dr. Bhonsle akugogomezera kuti, “Ngati chikondi chanu chili cha amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, palibe chifukwa choti mudzimve kuti simuli bwino pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Anthu amamva kuti ali otetezeka pafupi nanu ndipo njira yanu yocheperako/pang'onopang'ono yopezera chikondi ingakhale yothandiza kwa ambiri. Chikondi poyamba kuwona ndi chinthu chomwe chimachitika kwa ana agalu/achinyamata. Ubale wabwino kwambiri ndi umene umakula pa ife, pakapita nthawi.”

Monga momwe mbendera ya amuna kapena akazi okhaokha imasonyezera, simukuwona dziko lapansi ngati kansalu kakang'ono kakuda (gulu lopanda amuna kapena akazi okhaokha) kapena loyera (logonana). Mumaona dziko lapansi ngati imvi. Ndinu osakaniza bwino kwambiri ubale wamaganizo ndi wakuthupi, chilakolako ndi chikondi. Ngati mnzanu akukuvutani kukumvetsetsani, yesani kulankhulana nawo makamaka za zosowa/zokhumba zanu ndi ziyembekezo zanu zonse kuchokera ku ubale wachikondi. Muthanso kulowa nawo magulu a Facebook odzipereka kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha ndikulumikizana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro ofanana. Komanso, onani ma podcasts monga Sounds Fake but Okay ndi Gender Fluids …

Pamgwirizano wamalingaliro vs mkangano wokhudzana ndi thupi, mwachibadwa mumatsamira zakale. M'dziko lomwe zibwenzi zakhala ngati chakudya chofulumira - chopezeka mosavuta, chodzaza ndi zosankha, komanso kuthamangitsidwa popanda kusangalatsidwa - mutha kumverera (kapena kupangidwa kumverera) ngati wosamvetseka chifukwa chokopeka ndi umunthu.

Koma kumbukirani, ndi inu nokha amene mumatha kuwongolera zomwe mumakonda komanso zomwe mumakonda. Khalani owona momwe mukumvera kukhala pamtendere ndi inu nokha. Landirani demisexuality yanu ndikuvala m'manja mwanu monyadira. Simufunikanso kutsatira kapena kugonja ku chitsenderezo cha chikhalidwe cha anthu. Ngati sichoncho lero, ndiye kuti panthawi ina, mudzapeza munthu wapadera amene mumamva kuti muli ndi mgwirizano wamphamvu, wosagwedezeka. Chibwenzi chanu chidzayamba kuposa kale.

Pomaliza, umunthu wa kugonana ndi wovuta ndipo pali magawo ambiri okhudzidwa. Nthawi zonse ndi bwino kufunsa upangiri kwa katswiri wodziwa bwino za kugonana. Ngati mukuvutika kuti mugwirizane ndi zomwe mumakonda pankhani ya kugonana, akatswiri a Bonobology nthawi zonse amakhala nanu. Musamachite manyazi kupempha thandizo lawo.

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