Indlela Yokudlala Ngothando Nabafana Ngombhalo? Amathiphu angu-17 kanye nezibonelo ezingu-51 zokuyilungisa

Uyazi ukuthi umlingisi we-Office uJohn Krasinski wabuza kanjani umlingisi u-Emily Blunt ukuthi aphume? Wamxhawula wabe eseqonda ngqo ku-"Ngiyakuthanda". Uma sibheka okwamanje, bashadile futhi banezingane ezimbili. Mina ngokwami, ukuthatha isinyathelo sokuqala akukaze kube lula kimi. Ngicasha ngemuva kwesikrini ngilinde ukuthi athumele imiyalezo ehlekisayo yokuthandana. Ingabe uyayiqonda? Sekuyisikhathi sokuba uguqule amatafula ngokufunda ukuthi ungathandana kanjani nabesilisa ngombhalo. Silapha ndawonye - mina nawe. Ake siqale lesi sifundo futhi sibe isaziso sakhe asithandayo.

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Uyasaba yini ukucela umuntu omthandayo ukuthi aphume naye mathupha? Ungakhathazeki, ngisho nocwaningo luthi imiyalezo yokuthandana naye ingaba usizo kuwe ngezindlela ezilandelayo:

• Unesikhathi sokucabangisisa kahle lokho ofisa ukukusho
• Ukulimala okuncane kokuzethemba kwakho uma kwenzeka wenqatshwa 

Ngakho, ingxoxo yombhalo iphephe kakhudlwana. Kodwa ukubhala umbhalo nomuntu oyiphupho lakho akulula kangako, akunjalo? Umuntu uzwakala kanjani emnandi ngaphandle kokuzwakalisa umsindo? Buka futhi ufunde. Nazi ezinye izindlela ezinhle zokudlala ngothando embhalweni:  

1. Funda indawo yezingxoxo

Ungadlala kanjani ku-Tinder noma ngisho naku-DM? Qaphela izinkomba zakhe ngaphambi kokuba ukhulume. Ingabe ukuthumelela ama-emoji amaningi? Noma ingabe uhleka izinto ozishoyo? Uma enesifiso sokukhuluma nawe futhi ephendula kahle, phatha lokho njengophawu lwakho. Zama imiyalezo ethambile yothando bese uhlaziya izimpendulo zakhe. Gcina kufushane. Ungazama ukuthumela:

• “Itiye, ikhofi, noma i-whisky ekuseni?”
• “Ungangithumelela umyalezo noma ungicele sidle isidlo sakusihlwa.
• “Ngimubi ngenkulumo encane, kodwa ngenza uhlu lwadlalwayo olubulalayo”

2. Qala kancane 

Qala ngenkulumo elula nemfushane ethi, “Awu, uhlekisa kakhulu!” noma “Ngiyabonga, sthandwa” ekuqaleni. Lawa amathiphu abalulekile okuthandana kwabaqalayo . Uyabona, akukho sayensi eqondile, akunjalo? Uma ephendula kahle kulawa, uyazi ukuthi ungangena emanzini ajulile bese uqala umdlalo wakho wokuthandana! Ukuze uqale kancane, nansi imibhalo engenacala yokuthandana kuye:

• "Ngakho-ke, usuku lwakho olufanele lubukeka lunjani?"
• “Heyi, umuhle. Uphakamisa ukuthi ngenzeni ukuze ngizijabulise kule mpelasonto?”
• "Ulale kahle sithandwa. Sizokhuluma kusasa"

3. Isho kakhulu igama lakhe 

Ufuna amathiphu okuthi ungamgcona kanjani? Memeza igama lakhe! Uyazi ukuthi kuyasebenza lokhu ngoba njengentombazane, nawe uwela kulena. Kuyinto encane/elula kodwa uma yenziwe ngendlela efanele, kungaba wukuvula ngokushesha. Impela, ungakusho kuwo wonke umlayezo owuthumelayo. Nazi ezinye izinto ongazisho ukuze wenze insizwa ihlazeke:

• “Hawu Nick, kuzomele uyeke!”
• “Jeff, uyinambitha kahle imfashini”
• “Marcus, uhlezi ungihlukumeza!”

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4. Pepper ingxoxo ngokuncoma 

Ukuncoma indoda ngombhalo akuyona into enkulu. Vele ukhulume iqiniso. Kodwa njengoba umsebenzisi we-Reddit eluleka, “Ungabancomi ngaso sonke isikhathi, akekho othanda umuntu othanda ukuqabulana kanjalo. Kwenze ngezikhathi ezithile uma isikhathi sidinga lokho, futhi ube mnene ngakho uma ukwenza.” Nazi ezinye zezinto abafana abazithandayo ukuzizwa emilayezweni yombhalo:

• “Lelo hembe libukeka lishisa kakhulu kuwe”
• “Omg! Ngiyakuthanda ukugunda kwakho kwezinwele okusha”
• "Thanda labo Air Jordans"

5. Mtshele ukuthi ubucabanga ngaye

Ungamenza kanjani umuntu othandana naye akhathazeke? Uma ungakakhulumi isikhathi eside, mthumelele umyalezo ngokungahleliwe phakathi nosuku, “Angikwazi ukuyeka ukucabanga ngawe”. Lesi esinye sezibonakaliso ezisobala zokuthandana . Nazi ezinye izinto zokuthumela umyalezo kumuntu omthandayo:

• “Yini ozisola ngayo kakhulu?
• "Amalungiselelo okudla kwasemini amnandi! Ngithanda ukuhlala ngaphesheya kwakho. Sikwenza nini futhi?"
• Uyabona-ke ukuthi ngikubheka kanjani. Pho, lunini usuku olulandelayo?"

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6. Thumela ama-GIF amahle 

Ungadlala kanjani nomuntu othumela imiyalezo ekude? Mthumelele i-GIF ethi, 'Ngikhohlise'. Umsebenzisi we-Reddit wabhala, "Ngifunde ama-emoji futhi manje ama-gif ayasiza ngempela. Amnandi futhi ayahlekisa futhi athola amaphuzu ngaphandle kokubonakala sengathi ayinto ehlekisayo." Ngakho-ke, thumela ama-GIF anemiyalezo emihle efana nale:

• “Lokhu kungikhumbuze ngokuphelele wena!”
• “Yabona inhle kanjani lenja.
• “Akuyona into ehlekisayo yini lena?

7. Ungashela kanjani abafana ngombhalo: Mgcone kancane 

Ukwazi ukuthi ungadlala kanjani nomuntu wesilisa ngobuhlakani kubalulekile kodwa kubaluleke ngokulinganayo ukuhlehla ngesikhathi esifanele. Mbonise ukuthi yini ayiphuthelwa nokuthi ngeke akwazi ukukuthola kalula ngendlela angathanda ngayo. Nansi indlela ongadlala ngayo ngombhalo ngaphandle kokukhuluma kakhulu:

• “Hhayi-ke, kuzomele usebenze kakhudlwana kunalokho ukuze ungikhiphe”
• “Ngalolo suku ngangicabanga ukuthi ngingamane ngikuqabule kancane, mhlawumbe ngelinye ilanga lapho kufanele khona”
• “Uma uqhubeka ungiphatha kahle kanje, ngingavele ngifune ukukukhipha”

8. Ungaphindaphindi 

Imiyalezo ehlekisayo nehlekisayo iyasebenza kodwa hhayi uma isetshenziswa ngokweqile. Imisho efanayo/indlela yokukhuluma ephindaphindayo ingasusa konke ukukhanga kokuqala okukusizile ukuthi ubambe isifiso sakhe. Ufuna ukuba namandla futhi ube nesithakazelo ukuze wenze indoda ikuthande ngempela. Futhi, awudingi ukufaka i-punchline njalo ngehora. Lokho kungase kubonakale sengathi uphelelwe yithemba. Gcina kulula futhi ugxile ezingxenyeni zengxoxo ezingadlali ngokumazi kangcono . Uma ufuna imiyalezo ehlakaniphile ongayithumela kumfana, zama:

• “Ukumamatheka kwakho kubukeka kukuhle kuwe, akumangalisi ukuthi ngimamatheka uma ngikubona”
• "Ingabe kukhona okukhethekile okwenzile namuhla noma uhlale umuhle kanje?"
• “Uyajima futhi? Akumangalisi ukuthi usunawo wonke lowo msipha”

9. Kugcine kusezingeni eliphezulu 

Imiyalezo eminingi engcolile ayilungile. Ukuthumela amazwi akhangayo ukuze umdumise kulungile. Kodwa ukweqisa ngamazwi angcolile akuwona wonke umuntu ophupha ngokushelwa. Kukwenza ubonakale njengomuntu onengqondo eyodwa. Uzibuza ukuthi ungadlala kanjani nomfana ngendlela engabonakali? Zama lokhu:

• “Ubemuhle kuleyo phrezentheshini ngolunye usuku, akumangazi ukuthi uhlakaniphile”
• "Ngiyayithanda indlela ozigcina ngayo ucocekile, kufanele ngikuthokozele ukuzinakekela"
• “Bengifisa ukuya kule ndawo yokudlela emaphakathi nedolobha. Ngikhiphe ngolunye usuku?”

10. Xoxa naye ngezimo

Uyazibuza ukuthi ungadlala kanjani ngothando nomfana phezu kombhalo webanga elide? “Ngicabanga ukuthi singaba nokushibilika eqhweni okujabulisayo” noma “Kufanele uzame lelo bhega nami!” ezinye izindlela zokumenza amamatheke ngosuku olucindezelayo. Ngale ndlela, uzokwazi ukuthi empeleni unesithakazelo sokuchitha isikhathi. Uma udidekile kakhulu ngezinto ezibushelelezi ongazisho kumfana, zama:

• “Uma sike saya ku-bowling, ungangifundisa ukuthi ngingabambi kanjani kuyona?”
• “Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi ngingayibamba nawe igalofu elincane. Ucabangani?”
• “Uma sike sahamba ngezinyawo ndawonye, ​​ubani ozoba ngowokuqala ukuhamba?”

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11. Uyazibuza ukuthi ungadlala kanjani ngothando nezinsizwa ngombhalo? Sebenzisa lawo ma-emojis!

Uma ucabanga kahle, ngezinye izikhathi i-emoji efanele endaweni efanele ingamenza amomotheke usuku lonke. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ama -emoji asetshenziswa abafana angakutshela okuningi ngalokho akucabangayo ngawe. Siphinde sincome ukuthi ushintshe indlela osebenza ngayo kancane, futhi esikhundleni semiyalezo evamile yokusa noma yobusuku obuhle, thola imiyalezo emihle yantambama kuye, egcwele ama-emoji. Qhubeka usebenzise into efana nale:

• “Kumakhaza namuhla! Kazi yini esingayenza ukuze sifudumale ;)”
• "Ngiyethemba ube nosuku oluhle namuhla <3"
• “Kwenzenjani, muhle? ;)”

12. Crack amahlaya 

Uma uthatha isinyathelo sokuqala, qiniseka ukuthi uyamenza ahleke. Kukhona nemibuzo eminingi ehlekisayo yokuthandana ku-inthanethi ongayizama. Lokhu akusho ukuthumela ama-meme usuku lonke. Letha umdlalo wakho we-A bese umtshela izindaba ezihlekisayo. Uma uphelelwe amahlaya, sikuphathele. Nazi ezinye zemiyalezo yokuthandana ukuze umhlekise:

• "Kuzodingekani ukuze udakwe ungifonele?"
• “Kudingeka imikhaza emingaki ukwenza ingwane ihleke? Imikhaza eyishumi!”
• “Ufuna ukwazi ukuthi mina nebhere sifana ngani? Silala ebusika ubusika bonke”

13. Sebenzisa isikhathi sasebusuku ngokuhlakanipha

Ungamjabulisa kanjani umfana? Njengoba isimiso sakhe sokulala cishe sibi njengesakho, sisebenzisele inzuzo yakho. Ukuthumelelana imiyalezo ebusuku nomuntu ophuphayo kuhluke kakhulu. Ngesikhathi sokugcina ngithumelelana imiyalezo nomuntu engimthandayo, ngisebenzise imibhalo ekhuthazayo efana nokuthi “Ngifisa sengathi singazifihla namuhla ebusuku” noma “Ingubo yami izwakala ingenalutho ngaphandle kwakho”, futhi kwasebenza ngokuphelele ekufudumaleni izinto. Nasi esinye isikhuthazo sendlela yokuhlekisa abafana ngemibhalo ekhuthazayo:

• “Lezi zingxoxo zasebusuku zishintshashintsha kumuntu ofanele. Awucabangi?”
• “Ngizizwa nginesizungu esikhulu ngingedwa embhedeni wami njengamanje. Ngifisa sengathi ungakushintsha lokho”
• “Ngiyajabula ukuthi ngikhuluma nawe ngaphambi kokuba ngilale, kuzokwenza ukuthi kusasa ekuseni kube okukhethekile”

14 Hlanganisa imikhonzo yenu 

Ungadlala kanjani nabantu besilisa ngombhalo? Iphimbo eliyisicefe noma elithi “Sawubona, kwenzenjani?” ngeke likunike ukuqabulana kokuqala. Uzolahlekelwa isithakazelo ngaleyo ndlela. Ukusebenzisa elithi “Sawubona mnumzane” noma elithi “Sawubona izinto ezinhle” kungasebenza isikhathi eside kangako. Futhi akudingeki uqhubeke usebenzisa imigqa yokuqala efanayo lapho kunemiyalezo eminingi emihle ongayithumela kumuntu wakho . Esikhundleni salokho, sebenzisa imisho ehlekisayo kuye njenge:

• “Angikwazi ukuyeka ukugqolozela isithombe sakho sephrofayela namuhla”
• “Ucabanga ukuthi yini okufanele ngi-ode ngayo isidlo sakusihlwa namuhla?”
• "Hawu muhle, uke uzibuze ukuthi wenzeni ukuze uthole lowomamatheka wombulali?"

15. Slayida kuma-Insta DMs akhe

Ukushelela kuma-DM - ​​abantu bakwenza ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ngesizathu esihle. Iyasebenza ngempela! Phendula ezindabeni zakhe futhi uthathe isinyathelo sokuqala. Kufanele usho okuthile okuhlobene nokukhangayo ukuze wenze isaziso sakho se-DM sigqame ngempela. Nazi ezinye izinto zothando ongazisho kumfana:

• “Ngilambe kakhulu. Futhi lokho kubukeka kuwubuwula, ngizothatha izincomo zokudla kuwe manje”
• “Sekuyisikhathi eside ngifuna ukuya kuleyo ndawo yokudlela! Bekunjani?”
• “Ubukeka umuhle impela njengoba uhlezi wenza”

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16. Thumela izithombe ezinhle 

Ingabe ungumthandi we-Snapchat? Kungenye yezindlela ezinhle kakhulu zokutshela umuntu ukuthi uyamthanda kunombhalo. Ukukugcina ubonakala kumenza afise ukuthintwa ngokomzimba. Imiyalezo ehlekisayo kuye ijabulisa kabili uma unezithombe, izihlungi, nezitika ezihlekisayo ongazisebenzisa. Uma uzibuza ukuthi ungamncoma kanjani umuntu ngombhalo, zama:

• “Qaphela ukuthi angimamatheka lokho kungalungiseka ukube ubunami”
• “Bengifuna ukubona ubuso bakho obuhle okokugcina namuhla, ngithumele ngokushesha!”
• “Uyabona ukuthi ikamelo lami alinalutho, ingoba awukho lapha!”

17. Qonda indlela yokuziphatha yokuthumela imiyalezo 

Ukuthumela imiyalezo emibili kungaphansi kwalesi sambulela. Udinga ukuthola amacebiso futhi wazi ukuthi kufanele utshale malini engxoxweni. Ungavumeli ingxoxo ichitheke kodwa yazi ukuthi kufanele unikeze isikhathi esingakanani izimpendulo zakho. Yiba nesibindi futhi ube nesibindi, kodwa ungamnamatheli. Uma udinga imiyalezo yothando engcolile, nakhu ongakuzama:

• “Iseva yekhompiyutha yami akehli, kodwa ngiyayehlisa”
• "Ngabe lawo mabhulukwe asemkhathini? Ngoba leyombongolo isiphumile kulomhlaba"
• “Ake seqe inkulumo encane sivele sidlale ngothando”

Ukudlala ngothando nabafana ngombhalo kungaba mnandi kakhulu kunokusabisa, ikakhulukazi uma utshala amandla akho nomzamo wakho kumuntu olungile. Khumbula, eminye yemibhalo ehamba phambili ye-sassy flirty akuyona leyo oyihlelayo, kodwa yileyo oyizwayo.

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