Lena into oyizwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kufanele usebenzele umshado ukuze uphumelele. Kodwa kusho ukuthini ukusebenzela umshado? Kusho ukuthi kufanele wenze umzamo owengeziwe ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuze uqinisekise ukuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa ethandwa futhi kuhlala kukhona ukuxhumana okungokomzwelo nangokomzimba ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Izindaba ezikulesi sigaba esithi Ukusebenza Ngomshado ziyathakazelisa ngempela. Imibhangqwana ebilokhu isebenza ngomshado isitshela ukuthi ibilokhu ikwenza kanjani. Abanye bathi izipho ezibaluleke kakhulu umbhangqwana onganikezana isikhathi nokuxhumana. Bese kufika umzamo wokuqonda imibono yomunye nomunye kanye nokungafani.
Iziphonso ezomile ziyenzeka emishadweni. Kodwa uma ukusondelana ngokomzimba nangokomzwelo kuhlala izinyanga eziningi, le ndlela ivame ukukhomba udaba olujulile oludinga ingxoxo eqotho, ukubuyekezwa kwezokwelapha, kanye nokwelashwa kaningi. Ngakho-ke, uma ungatholi ukusondelana emshadweni kumyeni wakho, ake sikusize uqonde ukuthi kungani, nokuthi yini ongayenza mayelana […]
Uma umkakho engavamile ukuqala ukusondelana, kufanele uqale ngokubheka umongo ngaphandle kokumsola noma ukumxilonga ngokushesha. Ingabe kungaba ukucindezeleka, ukukhathala, umthwalo wengqondo, ama-hormone, ubuhlungu, noma izinkinga zobudlelwano? Akukhona ukuntuleka kothando noma ukukhanga ngokuzenzakalelayo. Indlela ethembeke kakhulu ukwehlisa ingcindezi, ukwakha kabusha ukusondelana ngokomzwelo, ukubhekana nezici zempilo,
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Umshado uyisinyathelo esibalulekile, esigcwele injabulo, ukulindela—nokukhathazeka. Njengoba mina nomngane wami sasimi emngceleni womshado, sakubona ukubaluleka kokubeka isisekelo esiqinile sokuphila kwethu ndawonye. Sihlome ngohlu lwemibuzo yokwelulekwa ngaphambi komshado, sinqume ukufuna isiqondiso sochwepheshe sezingxoxo zethu ezibucayi.
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“Isimo esiyinhloko sokuzuza uthando siwukunqoba ukulahlwa komuntu,” kusho isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo u-Erich Fromm encwadini yakhe ethandwayo ethi The Art of Loving. Futhi wayeqinisile. Ngokuzigqaja kwabo okukhulu kanye nesidingo sokuthi umuntu azibambele mathupha, siyazibuza ukuthi ama-narcissists angakwazi yini ukuthanda noma ubani ngempela, ingasaphathwa-ke eyokuthi
Ukwethembana nokuhlonipha kuyizinsika eziyisisekelo kunoma yibuphi ubudlelwano obunempilo. Ngaphandle kwalokhu, awunathemba lokwakha ukuxhumana okunempilo, okuhlala njalo nomunye umuntu. Kungakhathaleki ukuthi ninesikhathi esingakanani nindawonye, ukwenza umzamo oqotho wokunakekela lezi zici ezimbili kubalulekile ekusekeleni ubudlelwano. Ngaphandle kwabo, i okungenampilo noma ngisho toxic
Umngane womshado ongalungile kungase kube nzima futhi kucindezele ngokomzwelo ukubhekana naye. Uma umlingani oyedwa eqhubeka enokungathembeki, kungase kuthinte inhlalakahle evamile yabantu futhi kuphazamise ubuhlobo. Kodwa-ke, le nkinga ingase isingathwe futhi izinyathelo zithathwe ukuze kube nokuxhumana okwakhayo nokujabulisayo ngokuphikelela, ukuqonda, namakhono okuxhumana aphumelelayo. Ku
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