Ko ētahi wāhine e hiahia ana ki te taatai, kaua ki te rēmana i te wā e hapu ana

Kua rongo koe i te mate Nirupa Roy? Koinei te mate e kiia ai te wahine i te wā e hapu ana, e whaea ana rānei, he mea hanga ia kāore he hiahia, inā koa te hiahia moepuku.

Nā ā mātou kiriata Bollywood, kua noho tonu ō mātou whaea i runga i te tūranga teitei, ā, ka kiia he mahi whakarihariha te hono i te kupu-M me te kupu-S. He aha rā i noho pouaru ai ō mātou māmā i runga i te mata? Kāore he tāne e rite ana ki te kore he oranga moepuku. Nō reira, ko te wā anake i moe ai ia ko te whānautanga, ā, mā te rangi ia e āwhina, nā te mea koinei te wā whakamutunga ka hara ia i taua ahuareka.

E mōhiotia ana he hiahia nui tō te wahine hapū. Ko ētahi e pai ana ki te reka o ngā hua kawa, pērā i te rēmana… ko ētahi e hiahia ana ki te aihikirīmi i waenganui pō. I taku hapūtanga, i hiahia ahau ki te moepuku.

E whakaponohia ana i te nuinga o te wā, i Inia pea, ko te hiahia o te wahine hapu me kia makona. Ki te tono ia i te piza i te 3 i te ata, me whakaae ia. Engari he kaha tōku whakaaro kāore ō tātou tūpuna i te whakaaro ki ngā hiahia kikokiko o te whaea i te wā i whakatinanahia ai tēnei ture pāpori.

Ko te mea i kino rawa atu ai te raruraru, kāore taku tākuta wahine i whakaaro he mea pai te moe tāne me te wahine me te pēpi kei roto i tōku puku.

"Kaua e noho ki ngā whanaunga tata." Ko ngā kupu tonu ēnei i kōrerotia e te tākuta wahine o taku hoa, i a ia e titiro puku ana ki a ia me tana tāne e nekeneke haere ana i roto i tōna tūru.

Nō reira, i taku kōrerotanga atu ki taku hoa e hiahia ana ahau ki te mātaki i ngā kiriata pakiwaitara i te rā katoa, ka titiro mai ia ki ahau me te āhua o te kore whakapono, ā, i mahara ahau ka puta ōna kanohi i roto i ōna kōhao i tētahi wā tonu ka wero i tōku wairua pōuri, mangu.

"Mātakihia ētahi ataata whakapono i runga i te Ipurangi. Koinā te mea e tika ana kia mahia e koe." I ohorere ahau i tēnei tohutohu a tētahi Kaitātari Pūtea i tētahi kamupene ao whānui.

"He aha koe i kōrero ai i tērā?"

"Nā te mea he tapu te whaea... E ai ki te kōrero kei te mātakitaki, kei te whakarongo te pēpi ki ngā mea katoa e mahia ana e koe. E hiahia ana koe kia rongo tāu tamaiti?"

"Āe...me mātaki mā te kore oro?" tāku kī atu.

I hurihia noa e ia ōna kanohi, ā, ka huri tere i te kōrero ki te nāpi paru tuatahi ka tūtaki ahau me ōna mea matomato kanapa. I kite ahau kei te ngana ia ki te tinei i te ahi e mura ana i roto i tōku hope, engari he mea pōuri mōna, he mea harikoa hoki mōku, kāore ia i angitu.

He maha ngā wāhine i kōrero ahau mō tēnei mea – ngā wāhine takakau, ngā whaea, ngā wāhine hapū – ā, i titiro mai rātou katoa ki ahau me te mea he tangata whakarihariha ahau. Ko ētahi i kata pōuri. Ko ētahi i whakaaro mēnā kei te ngana noa ahau ki te ohorere i a rātou. Ko taku i ngana ai ko te kimi whakautu. Ko ahau anake rānei te tangata i pērā te whakaaro?

Me mahi e au tētahi mea mō tēnei mea. Ātaahua tonu. Nō reira, ka tahuri ahau ki taku hoa mahi hara – ki taku tāne aroha. I whakapatipati ahau i a ia ki te taha maui, ki te taha matau, ki te taha waenganui, me te inoi kia mahi ia i a ia e whai wāhi ana. Me te whakatūkino i a ia me te kī atu i tētahi atu rā ka hopukina e ia te whai wāhi, ka hopukina te whai wāhitanga.

Engari kāore i ranea te nui o te whakahihiri. Kotahi te wahine nui me te puku nui i roto i tana tamaiti o muri mai, he taumaha rawa atu mōna. "Me te mea kei te mahi koe i tēnei i mua i tāu tamaiti, e mōhio ana koe," tana kī.

I te mea kua waihotia ahau ki aku ake whakaaro, ka tahuri ahau ki taku huarahi haumaru – arā, ko te ipurangi pakiwaitara. Heoi anō, he rapunga tere noa iho taku. He ngāwari te uru atu, he mahi e rima meneti te roa, ā, i muri mai ka puta he 'hītori mārama', he wairua harikoa ahau me te pēpi e whana ana i roto i te harikoa. Āue! He rā pai ēnā.

Kia mahara koe ki te wā i hiahia ai te kāwanatanga ki te aukati i ngā paetukutuku pono? I aroha ahau ki ngā wāhine hapu katoa e hiahia ana ki te moepuku, ā, kāore ā rātou tāne e whai wāhi ana, ā, e karanga ana ō rātou homoni kia eke ki te taumata teitei. Whakawhetai ki te Atua kāore rātou i mahi i tēnā. Kua waiho he reka rēmana kawa ki te waha o te wahine hapu.

Ki te whakaarohia, tera pea ko tēnei 'Kei te hiahia ahau ki te kai rēmana' he kupu whakarite mō te moepuku. A tērā wā, ina rongo koe i tētahi wahine hapu e kī ana kei te hiahia ia ki ngā rēmana, ka mōhio koe ki tāna e hiahia ana.

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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