Ngā Tohu o te Hiahia i roto i te Wahine: Me pēhea te mōhio mēnā kei te kukume tinana ia ki a koe

Ko te hiahia taikaha he hiahia nui mō te moepuku kāore he hononga hohonu o te kare ā-roto, he maha ngā wā ka akiakihia e ngā tohu koiora me te hinengaro. Ko te hiahia taikaha ka puta he huringa i roto i te matū o tō roro; ka piki ake ngā homoni pēnei i te testosterone, ā, ka tiaho te pūnaha utu o te roro, ka hanga he hiahia kaha e aro ana ki te makona tinana. Ka taea e tēnei kare ā-roto te whakahihiri me te whakapau kaha, ā, ahakoa he rite te āhua, he tino rerekē i te whanaungatanga hohonu o te kare ā-roto o te aroha. Ko te whāinga o tēnei aratohu he whakamārama i taua pōhēhētanga mā te whakaatu i ngā tohu matua o te hiahia taikaha i roto i te wahine. 

Ka tūhuratia e tātou me pēhea te mōhio mēnā ko te hiahia tinana anake te take o te kukume o te wahine, kaua ko te aroha aroha. Mā te mārama ki ēnei tohu kukume, ka pai ake tō mōhio mēnā kei te aro atu ia ki a koe, kei te anga atu rānei ki tētahi mea nui atu.

He aha te hiahia?

Ko te hiahia taikaha he hiahia moepuku noa iho. I te taha koiora, he hihiri taketake e whakakahangia ana e ngā homoni me ngā ara utu o te roro. Ina hiahia koe ki tētahi, ka rongo koe i te kukume tinana kaha: 

• Tērā pea ka tere tō ngākau
• Ka whiwhi koe i ngā pūrerehua
• Ā, ko ō whakaaro e aro ana ki te pā me te whanaungatanga 

E hono ana tēnei hiahia ki tō tātou āhua whanaketanga ki te rapu hoa. He kukume e whakahaerehia ana e te dopamine, ā, ka rite ki te waranga i te āhua e kahakina ana tō arotahi me ō kare ā-roto.

Hiahia me te aroha

Tino nui, hiahia vs aroha i roto i ngā wāhine, me ngā tāne hoki, ka heke iho ki te wāhi e tū ana te arotahi. Ko te hiahia he hiahia tinana, kāore he hononga kare ā-roto. He wā poto noa iho, ā, e aro ana ki te matū me te makona o te moepuku, ehara i te mōhio ki te tangata katoa. Ko te aroha, i tētahi atu taha, ka tipu mai i:

• Te whanaungatanga kare-a-roto
• Nga uara kua tohatoha
• Me te manaaki i te oranga o tētahi atu i tua atu i te rūma moe 

hiahia	aroha
Te hiahia tinana me te kore he hononga kare ā-roto	I hangaia i runga i te herenga kare ā-roto
Te whakaharikoa mō te wā poto	Te whanaungatanga mō te wā roa
Hononga taumata-mata	Hononga hohonu ake
E arotahi ana ki te matū moepuku	E aro ana ki te hototahitanga, ngā uara ōrite, me te whakawhirinaki

He mea tika kia mōhiotia ka taea e te hiahia me te aroha te noho tahi; inā koa i roto i hononga hou He maha ngā wā ka whakaranua ngā mea e rua. Engari ko te rongo i te hononga tahi me te kore herenga he tohu matarohia o te hiahia nui ki te aroha.

Ngā Tohu o te Hiahia i roto i te Wahine

Ina rongo te wahine i te kaha o te kukume i te moepuku, ka kitea te rerekētanga o ana mahi me tana reo tinana. He maha o ēnei he tohu kukume huna e ārahihia ana e te whakaohooho me te hiahia o tōna tinana. Kei raro nei, ka whakamāramahia e mātou ngā huarahi matua e whakaatu ai te wahine i te hiahia taikaha.

Ngā Tohu Reo Tinana

Ko tētahi o ngā wāhi tuatahi e puta ai te hiahia ko te reo tinana o te wahine. Ahakoa kāore he kupu, tera pea kei te tohu mārama mai tōna tinana "Kei te pirangi au ki a koe". Rapua ēnei ngā tohu kukume i te wahine:

1. Te titiro roa, te titiro kaha ki ngā kanohi 

Ki te roa ake tana titiro mai ki a koe i te tikanga, he tohu kaha tēnā e whakaatu ana i te hohonu o tōna hiahia. Akoranga Kia nui ake te hihiri o te tangata ina titiro kanohi roa ki tētahi e pai ana ki a rātou. Mā taua titiro roa ka hangaia he mirumiru tūmataiti i waenganui i a kōrua, ā, ka taea te whakapuaki i te hiahia me te kore kupu. Ina mau tonu tana titiro roa, inā koa me ngā kamo e whānui ana, me te titiro mahana, e manaaki ana rānei, he tohu mārama tana o te kukume hiahia.

"E tino whakapono ana ahau ko te titiro roa me te roa o te kanohi he tohu kaha e arohia ana koe e te wahine."

- Reddit kaiwhakamahi

2. Te titiro pinepine ki ō ngutu, ki tō tinana rānei 

Tērā pea ka kite koe i a ia e titiro puku ana ki ō ngutu ina kōrero koe, e titiro puku ana rānei ki tō tinana. 

• He maha ngā wā ka kore e taea e te wahine e peia ana e te hiahia te ātete ki te tirotiro i a koe mai i te mahunga ki te waewae 
• Ka huri tere aua titiro ki ngā wāhi erogenous; pērā i te pana i ōna kanohi ki tō waha, te tirotiro rānei i tō tinana. Hei tauira, ki te kite koe i ōna kanohi e taka ana ki ō ngutu i waenganui o te kōrero, ā, ka ngau mārire ia, ka whakamakuku rānei i ōna ake ngutu, he tohu huna tēnā kei te whakaaro ia ki tētahi kihi.

2. Te whakaata i ō nekehanga me tō tū 

Ko te whanonga whakaata he huarahi huna e hono ai tātou, e hanga whanaungatanga ai, ā, he maha ngā wā ka puta te pānga ina arohia tetahi. 

• Ki te neke koe i tō tūru, ā, i muri tata iho ka mahi ia i te mea kotahi, ka kite rānei koe kei te tāruatia e ia ō nekehanga, he tohu tēnā kei te aro atu ia ki a koe. 
• Ka whakaata pea ngā wāhine i te tū o te tinana, i ngā āhua kanohi rānei hei kī "kei te ōrite tātou" 
• Kāore tēnei i te āta mahia; he tohu aunoa tēnei mō te hononga me te whakamarie 
• I roto i te horopaki hiahia, ka whakaata pea ia i tō menemene takaro me tana ake menemene, ka inu rānei i tana inu i muri tonu i tō inu i tāu

3. Te piko atu me te whakaiti i te tawhiti whaiaro 

Tirohia te tata o tōna tūnga. Tirohia mēnā: 

• Ka piko atu i te wā e kōrero ana 
• E noho pakihiwi ana ki a koe i ngā wā katoa
• Ka anga whakararo rānei ki roto i tō waahi whaiaro 

He tohu katoa ēnei o te tū o te tinana tuwhera hei tohu i te kukume. Ko tēnei tū whakamua he rite tonu ki tōna tinana e karanga ana "Kei te hiahia ahau ki te tata ki a koe!" i roto i te reo tinana. 

4. Te pā atu ki a ia anō i roto i te huarahi whakaipoipo 

Ina hiahia te wahine ki tētahi atu tangata, ka tīmata pea ia ki te whakapaipai i a ia anō: 

• Te hurihuri i tētahi whenu makawe
• E mirimiri ana i tōna ake kaki
• Te whakatikatika i ōna kākahu
• Ka pā mārire rānei ki ōna ngutu 

He maha ngā wā he mahi huna ēnei hei kukume i tō aro ki ōna āhua, hei whakamarie rānei i tōna harikoa. Hei tauira 

• Tērā pea ka takaro ia ki ōna makawe, ka kuhu rānei ki muri i tōna taringa i a ia e titiro ana ki a koe, he putanga pūngao io tēnei, he huarahi hoki hei whakaatu i tōna mata/kaki.
• Waihoki, ko te ngau puhoi o te ngutu, te oma rānei o ōna maihao i te taha o tana karāhe, he tohu ngawari hei whakawai. 

He maha ngā wā ka puta mai ēnei tohu kukume huna ina whakaaro ia ki moepuku.

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5. Te menemene me te hanga i ngā āhua kanohi takaro 

He maha ngā wā ka kitea he tohu o te kanohi o te wahine e hiahia ana ki te hiahia; he ranunga o te mahana me te whanoke. 

• Tērā pea ka nui ake tana menemene i a koe
• Whakaarahia ngā tukemata iti hei whakapatipati
• Ka menemene mārire rānei ki ō katakata 
• Kia mataara ki ngā āhua ngawari, takaro hoki o te kanohi pērā i te ataata puhoi me te titiro tonu ki ngā kanohi 
• He titiro whakama ki raro, ā, muri iho ka menemene 

He tino pono taua āhua "haere mai ki konei", ahakoa te ahua tawhito. Ki te tiaho tōna mata i a koe e tomo ana ki te rūma, ki te ataata rānei ia me te menemene whakawai, ka taea e koe te tatau i tēnā hei tohu o te kukume hiahia i roto i tana reo tinana.

I te nuinga o te wā, ko te tū tuwhera o te tinana, te pōkaikaha hihiri, te kore whakawhiti o ngā waewae, tae noa ki te piko paku o te tuara hei whakaatu mārire i tōna uma, i tōna hope rānei, he tohu huna katoa ēnei o te hiahia moepuku. He maha ngā wā ka kōrerotia e ō tātou tinana ngā mea kāore e taea e ā tātou kupu te kōrero.

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Ngā Tohu ā-tinana

Ka puta ngā tauhohenga tinana i te hiahia tinana. Ahakoa he āhuatanga te reo tinana, me titiro tātou ki ngā tauhohenga a te pūnaha io ā-roto me ngā mahi motuhake e pā ana ki te whakaohooho. He ngawari pea ēnei tohu, engari ka whakaahuahia ngātahitia he pikitia oraora o ngā tohu whakaohooho wahine.

1. Kiri whero, kiri whero rānei 

Tērā pea ka kite koe i te whero o ōna paparinga, i te whero rānei o tōna uma me tōna kaki ina oho ake ia. Nā te rere o te toto i raro i te kiri tēnei e hua ai. 

Pouaka Māwhero: I ngā wā e kukume ana te tinana, ka tukuna e te tinana te adrenaline, ka taea te whakawhānui i ngā oko toto ka arahi ki te kanapa o tōna mata. Koinei te take e whero ai te kanohi o te tangata; ka puta te whero nui mai i te kare ā-roto. 

Nō reira, ki te puta whakarere mai he whero o tōna mata ina tata koe ki a ia, he mate tinana pea tēnei tohu kukume.

2. Te pikinga o te tere o te manawa me te manawa 

Ko tētahi o ngā tohu e hiahia ana ia ki a koe, tera pea ka hemo tōna manawa i te taha o koe. 

• Ka tere ake te tere o tōna manawa, ka pupuhi i te toto me te hāora i te mea ka nui haere te harikoa 
• Ka taea e tēnei te whakaputa i te kaha o te manawa; tera pea ka hohonu ake tana manawa, ka paku poto rānei tana manawa ina pā tō ringa ki tōna 
• Ki te tata rawa kōrua, ki te awhi rānei, tera pea ka rongo koe i te tere o tōna ngakau 

"Ka tere ake taku manawa, nō reira ki te titiro koe ki tōku uma ka kite koe he uaua ake taku manawa"

- Reddit kaiwhakamahi

3. Ngā pūrerehua me te nekeneke haere

Ahakoa te hunga māia, ka taea e te hiahia te whakaohooho i a rātou anō, te whakararuraru rānei. Tērā pea ka whakaatu ia i te kaha o te manukanuka pēnei i: 

• Nga ringaringa wiri
• Te takaro ki ngā whakapaipai
• Te neke haere i roto i tōna nohoanga i ngā wā maha 

• Te patuki i tōna waewae
• Te tākaro me tana kakau witi
• He nui rawa te kata 

Tērā pea ko te tikanga o ēnei kei te rongo ia i tērā te kukume ngaro me te adrenaline. Mena he tū mārire ia i te nuinga o te wā, engari i tō taha he ātaahua, he pōrearea, he koretake rānei, tera pea he hiahia nui kei te whakanui ake i tōna mōhiotanga ki ngā kare ā-roto, ā, kei te uaua ake hoki tōna arotahi.

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4. Te pā o te aro me te whakaohooho e kitea ana 

I ētahi wā, ka kite pea koe i ngā tauhohenga tinana e kitea nuitia ana. Hei tauira, ki te piki haere te kino o te āhua, me kī atu kei te takaro koe i te taha tinana, 

• Tērā pea ka kite koe i ngā uma kua mārō i roto i tōna tihi. 
• Ka pupuhi rānei tōna kiri ina kōrero pōturi koe ki tōna taringa 
• Hei tāpiritanga, tera pea ka tino tairongo te kiri o te wahine e hiahia ana ki te moepuku; ka wiri pea ia, ka manawa rānei i te kaha mena ka mirimiri mārire koe i tōna ringa. 
• Ka piki ake te rere o te toto ki ngā wāhi piripono, kāore e kitea, engari ka tino puta i roto i te tinana ina nui te hiahia. 

Ko te mea nui, kei te rite tōna tinana mō te moepuku, ā, ko ētahi o aua huringa ka kitea i waho mēnā ka āta tirotiro koe, ā, he tika hoki te horopaki.

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5. Te anga o te tinana ki a koe 

Ahakoa e tū ana, e noho ana rānei, ka anga tonu te anga tinana o te tangata hiahia ki te mea e hiahiatia ana e ia. 

• I roto i tētahi rōpū, ka anga ia ki te anga atu ki a koe 
• E tohu ana ōna matimati, ōna turi, ōna pakihiwi rānei i tō ara
• He whanonga rapu tata anō hoki tēnei, engari he mea tika kia mōhiotia hei tohu ā-tinana: kua kukumea ia ki a koe pērā i te aukume.

He maha ngā wā he ngawari ngā tohu hiahia ā-tinana, ā, ka taea te hē te whakamārama he manukanuka whānui, he whakama rānei, koia te mea nui kia whakaarohia te pikitia katoa. Ina honoa ki ngā tohu hiahia wahine kē atu, ka tāpirihia e ēnei urupare ā-tinana he tohu anō e āe, e tino hiahia ana ia ki a koe.

Te Pā me te Tata

Kua whakaritea te tangata kia pā atu ki tā rātou e hiahia ana. Ko tētahi o ngā tohu mārama kei te hiahia te wahine ko te āhua o tana whakamahi i te pā me te wāhi whaiaro. Ki te hiahia ia ki a koe, ka tīmata iaor mai pa tinana nui atu te ngāwari me te auau i tāna e taea ai i mua.

1. Ka kitea e ia ngā take hei pā atu ki a koe

Tērā pea ka tīmata mārire tēnei: 

• He paraihe māmā ki tō ringa ina kata ia ki tō katakata 
• He ringa mārie ki tō pakihiwi hei kukume i tō aro 
• "Āta tūpono" rānei ki a koe i tētahi pae kī tonu i te tangata 

Ki enei ngā pā kore-ira, e whakamātautau ana ia i ngā wai, e whāngai ana hoki i tana ake hiahia ki te hono ā-tinana. 

• Tērā pea ka kite koe he nui ake āna awhi, āna mihimihi, āna tūtaki takaro, āna rūrū ringa roa rānei, nui atu i te mea e tika ana. 
• Tērā pea ka noho tata ia kia piri tahi ō kōrua waewae 
• Ki te kore, ka tangohia e ia he miro iti mai i tō hāte i roto i te huarahi ngawari 

Ko te wahine kāore e aro ana ki a ia, ka noho tawhiti noa ia i te nuinga o te wā. Engari ko te wahine e whakaatu ana i ngā tohu whakaohooho wahine ka whakanui ake i te auau o te pā; ka pā pinepine atu ki a koe i roto i ngā huarahi ngawari, rapu aroha. 

He aha tāna tauhohenga ina pā atu koe ki a ia?

Mātakitaki ki tana tauhohenga ina pā atu koe ki a ia. Kei te piko atu ia ki roto? Hei tauira, ki te whakatakoto koe i tō ringa ki runga i tōna tuara o raro i a koe e hikoi ana i te tatau, ka menemene mai rānei ia, ka neke atu rānei ki te taha, kaua e hoki atu? Ko te wahine hiahia nui ka pai ki te pā atu, ka whakatenatena mārire atu rānei.

2. Ka neke tata atu ia…ā, ka noho tata tonu

Haunga te pā atu, he tohu anō hoki te tata. Ka ngana te wahine e hiahia ana ki te tata atu ki a koe i ngā wā katoa e taea ana. 

• I tētahi pāti, ka heke ia ki te tūru i tō taha 
• I a koe e hikoi tahi ana, ka taurite ia i ō hikoi me ō ringaringa paraihe 
• I roto i tētahi tūru, ka noho pea ia ki te taha kotahi, ka neke rānei i tōna tūru kia tata atu 

Ko tēnei whanonga rapu tata ko tana huarahi ki te kati i te āputa hei whakanui ake i ngā whai wāhitanga mō te whakapā atu me te taunekeneke tūmataiti. Ki te kite koe, ahakoa te wāhi e haere ana koe i roto i te rūma, ka tae atu ia ki tō taha, ehara pea i te mea tūpono noa iho. 

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3. Kāore ia e pupuri i te "tawhiti ātaahua" 

I roto i te ahurea, he māramatanga tō tātou katoa mō te wāhi whaiaro. Mēnā he wahine e whakaatu ana i ngā tohu o te hiahia taikaha, ka whakaitihia e ia taua tawhiti. 

• Tērā pea e tū tata ana ia, ā, ka pā tōna pakihiwi ki tōu pokohiwi
• Ka noho rānei ia kia pā atu ō kōrua huha 

Ki te pai ia ki te noho tata ki a ia, he tohu pai tēnā kei te rongo ia i tētahi hononga ā-tinana. 

Ngā Tohu Kōrero me ngā Tohu Whanoke

Tae noa mai ki tēnei wā, kua kōrerohia e tātou ngā tohu kore-waha, engari me pēhea tāna e kōrero ana, e mahi ana hoki? Ko ngā wāhine e whakaatu ana i te hiahia ka tautoko i ō rātou reo tinana me ētahi tohu ā-waha me ngā tohu whanonga. Arā, ko āna kupu, tōna reo, me tana whanonga whānui i tō taha ka whakaata i tēnā. kukume kaha.

1. Ngā kōrero whakakatakata, whakahihiko rānei

Ki te hiahia nui tetahi wahine, ka huri pea te kōrero whakakatakata hei mea whakawai. 

• Ka taea e ia te tuku kōrero whakakatakata, ngā kōrero whakakatakata rānei ki roto i te kōrero
• Kāore ia e mataku i ngā kaupapa moepuku; tērā pea ka ārahi ia i te kōrero ki aua kaupapa 
• Tērā pea ka kite koe i ngā mihi mō tō tinana, mō tō āhua rānei

Ko ēnei momo kōrero e whakanui ana i ngā tohu kukume tinana. He huarahi ēnei ki te kī "Kei te kite ahau i a koe pēnā." He rerekē, i roto i te āhua whakatā, ka noho mārire ngā mihi, ka aro rānei ki te tuakiri.

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2. Ngā mihi e whakanui ana i te kukume

I runga anō i ngā mea kua whakahuatia ake nei, ko te hiahia taikaha ka puta mai me te nui o ngā whakamoemiti mō ngā mea e pā ana ki te āhua o te ira tangata. 

• Tērā pea ka whakamoemiti ia ki tō hinu kakara
• Whakahuatia te āhua o tō reo e whakamātao ana i a ia 
• Me kī tika rānei ko ia i kukume ki a koe 
• Waihoki, ka maumahara pea ia ki ngā kōrero mō tō āhua, pērā i te maumahara ki ō kākahu i tētahi rā o mua i kitea e ia he ātaahua. 

E whakaatu ana tēnā kei te whakaaro ia ki a koe i roto i te horopaki o ngā hiahia tinana.

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3. Te whakatoi takaro me te whakawai i te reo

E whakaatu pinepine ana te hiahia taikaha i te taha takaro. 

• Tērā pea ka whakatoi ia i a koe i tētahi ara whakakatakata
• Whakauru atu ki te kōrero whakakatakata ngāwari
• Me whakamahi rānei i te reo whakahihi ina ko kōrua anake
• Ka taea e ia te hoatu i tētahi īngoa karanga ātaahua he āhua whakawai, ka tawai rānei i a koe me te menemene 

Mā tēnei mahi whakatoi ka hangaia he kēmu iti tūmataiti i waenganui i a kōrua, e hanga ana i te whanaungatanga raruraru fakasekisualéWhakaarohia he momo pakeke o te kukume i ngā hiku o tētahi nā te mea e pai ana koe ki a rātou. Tērā pea ka ngawari, ka heke iho rānei tōna reo ina kōrero piripono ia ki a koe, he tohu kei roto ia i te wāhi hinengaro whakaipoipo ake. He whanonga whakaipoipo katoa ēnei e tohu ana ehara i te mea he hoa noa iho ia; engari he mea kukume ia.

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4. Ngā kōrero roa me te wātea

Mātakitaki i te nui o tana whakapau kaha ki te taunekeneke ki a koe. Ko tētahi o ngā tohu nui e hiahia ana ia ki a koe, ka rapu pinepine ia i ngā whai wāhitanga ki te kōrero, ā, ka roa ake āna kōrero, kaua e whakamutu. 

• Ngā kōrerorero o te pō e mau tonu ana mō ngā hāora
• Tuhinga o mua ngā karere kuputuhi whakakatakata kī tonu i ngā emoji e kimo ana me te kōrero whakakatakata
• Tērā pea ka tere tana whakautu mai ki ō karere, ā, ka tīmata anō hoki i ngā kōrerorero i ngā wā katoa.
• Waihoki, ka waihanga pea ia i ngā whai wāhitanga mō te wā takitahi, pērā i te kī atu kia inu koe i muri i te mahi, kia noho rānei ki muri i a koe i muri i te whakangahau rōpū. 

Ki te mea kei te roa ia, kāore e hiahia kia mutu te pō, he tohu whanonga tēnā. Whakaarohia: mehemea kāore ia i te rongo i taua kukume, kua mutu mārire ia i te rā, i te kōrero rānei, ā, kua haere atu. Engari ki te hiahia nui ia, ka kitea e ia he take hei noho, hei kōrero anō, hei noho tahi me koe. Ko te tikanga, ko te wā ki a koe te mea nui, nā te mea ka nui ake te dopamine i roto i a ia.

Ina he tikanga kē atu pea ngā tohu

I mua i tō whakatau tere mō te whanonga a te wahine, he mea nui kia whakaarohia te horopaki. He uaua te whanonga tangata; ka taea te hē te whakamārama i ngā tohu kukume i ētahi wā, ā, ehara i te mea ko te pā, ko te titiro roa rānei he rite tonu ki te hiahia. Anei mātou e matapaki ana i ētahi āhuatanga hei āwhina i a koe kia kore ai e hē te whakamārama:

1. Ngā rerekētanga whaiaro me ngā rerekētanga ahurea

He momo tūāpapa anō tō ia tangata mō te titiro kanohi, te pā atu, me te whakahoahoa. Ko ētahi wāhine he tino māhorahora te āhua, he ngāwari ki te pā atu, he ātaahua rānei te whanonga ahakoa kāore he hiahia aroha ki a rātou. 

• Hei tauira, i roto i ētahi ahurea, he mea noa te titiro kanohi tika me te tū tata i roto i te kōrero, ehara i te mea he mea whakamā noa iho. 
• I ētahi atu ahurea, i ētahi atu āhua rānei, ahakoa he iti noa te titiro kanohi, he pā noa rānei ki te ringa, he mea nui pea, ā, he nui te tikanga. 
• He mea nui kia arotakehia tana whanonga noa ki ētahi atu. He rite tonu tōna mahana me tōna pā ki ngā hoa? 
• He kaha te titiro kanohi o ia ki te tangata nā te mea he māia ia, he pai rānei ana tikanga? Ki te pērā, kāore pea aua whanonga ki a koe e rite ki te hiahia taikaha. 

He rite tonu te āhua o te maia ki te tangata me te kukume ki a ia anō. Tērā pea ka titiro kanohi te wahine maia ki a ia anō, ka menemene nā te mea he maia ia ki a ia anō, ehara i te mea he kukume ki a ia te tangata. Me whakaaro tonu ki ngā mea e mōhio ana koe mō tōna āhua me tōna ahurea.

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2. Te horopaki o te āhuatanga me ngā taumata whakamarie

He mea nui te horopaki. Hei tauira: 

• I roto i tētahi karapu haruru, ka piko tata mai pea ia ki a koe, ā, ka pā atu ki a koe i ngā wā katoa hei kōrero noa iho; mā taua horopaki ka akiaki i te noho tata tinana i te mea noa 
• Ki te mea he tangata atawhai ia, ka awhi pea ia i ana hoa katoa; kāore tō awhi e motuhake ki te kore e roa, e haere tahi mai rānei me ētahi atu tohu hiahia wahine. 
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• Ahakoa he wahine maia ka tukuna pea he tohu hei turaki i a koe ki runga i te mahunga 

Hei tikanga, rapua he huinga tohu e ōrite ana, kaua e whakawhirinaki ki te kotahi tohu. 

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3. Ngā whakamārama pea he whakamārama whakamāori, he whakamārama harakore rānei

Hei karo i ngā hapa, whakaarohia tonutia ētahi atu whakamārama. Hei tauira, 

• Kāore te titiro pūmau ki ngā kanohi e tohu ana i te kukume i ngā wā katoa; he tohu anō hoki i te hiahia ki te kōrero 
• I roto rānei i ngā mahi ngaio, he tohu tēnei o te māia, o te aro nui rānei 
• Waihoki, ka pā atu pea te wahine ki tō ringa i a ia e kata ana hei tohu whakahoahoa noa iho, ehara i te mea hei whakawai. 
• Ahakoa kei te taha o te hunga kāore e aro nui ana ki a rātou, he tū māhorahora, he tū marino hoki tō ētahi wāhine. 
• Ā, i ētahi wā, ko te āhua o te titiro hiahia he whakaaro noa iho, he titiro pōuri rānei 
• Ki te mea he tino atawhai ia, ka piko ki te whakarongo nā te mea he aroha ia, ā, ka titiro tonu ki a rāua nā te mea i whakatipuria ia pērā, tera pea ka whakaaro he kei te patu ia i a rāua i te mea kāore ia. 
• He mea nui anō hoki te horopaki o te wā: i a koe e kōrero ana i waenganui i a koe me ō kare ā-roto, tera pea ka pupuri ia i tō ringa, ka titiro kaha mai rānei ki a koe; ehara i te mea nā te hiahia nui, engari he tautoko kare ā-roto, he hononga rānei.

4. Ngā tohu whakaranu me te tūpato

I ētahi wā, tera pea ka kite koe i ētahi tohu o te hiahia, engari ko ētahi he ngaro, he whakahē rānei. Tērā pea he tino hiahia ia ki te tuku karere, engari i te kanohi ki te kanohi, he āhua tawhiti ia, he rerekē rānei. Nga tohu whakauru ka taea te tupu mō ngā take maha: 

• Kāore pea ia i te tino mōhio ki ōna ake kare ā-roto 
• Te whakamātautau i tō hiahia
• He takaro ā-taupānga rānei, kāore he whakaaro; e pai ana ētahi ki te whakanui i te whakapehapeha o te takaro engari kāore e hiahia ana ki te haere tonu. 

He mea nui i ēnei wā kia kaua e nui rawa te whakaaro. He uaua te hinengaro o te kukume; tera pea ka takaro te tangata i runga i te tikanga, i te hiahia rānei, ahakoa kāore ia e whakaaro ana ki te whai i tetahi mea.

Ko te tino take, ki te mea kei te kitea he kare kaha e kukumehia ana te wahine e te hiahia nui, he tika pea tāu. Engari ki te mea kotahi te tohu e kitea ana e koe, ā, kāore he mea kē atu, he mea rerekē rānei te āhua, kaua e hohoro te whakahē. 

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Thoughts Final

I te whakamārama i ēnei tohu, whakaarohia te tirohanga whānui me te whakaute i ngā rohe. Ahakoa ka kitea e koe ngā tohu katoa o te hiahia, he mea nui te whakaae me te hiahia tahi i mua i te mahi i tētahi nekehanga. Engari ki te mea he rite te whakaaro, mā te mārama ki āna tohu ka āwhina i a koe ki te whakautu maia me te waihanga i tētahi huihuinga e kore e warewaretia, e whakaaetia ana mō kōrua.

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