"Ko tāua ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e totohe tonu ana." "Ka whawhai tāua engari ka noho tahi tāua ahakoa te aha." He pūrākau tawhito tēnei mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e aroha nui ana tetahi ki tetahi, engari kāore e kitea me pēhea te whakamutu i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka paheke tonu rāua ki tēnei porowhita o ngā tautohetohe werawera, haere whakamua, haere whakamua, kāore i te mōhio āhea te whawhai mō te whanaungatanga, āhea hoki te tuku. Āe, ki te pārekareka koe ki tēnei, kei te wāhi tika koe.
I roto i tēnei tuhinga, ka kōrerohia e te tohunga hinengaro tohutohu mō te whara Anushtha Mishra (MSc., Counseling Psychology), he tohunga ki te whakarato rongoā mō ngā āwangawanga pēnei i te whara, ngā take whanaungatanga, te pouri, te manukanuka, te pouri, me te mokemoke, me ētahi atu, e tuhituhi ana hei āwhina i a koe kia mārama ake ai he aha i mau tonu ai te tautohetohe a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, me pēhea hoki te whakamutu i te whawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga.
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He rite te huringa whawhai ki tētahi porowhita mutunga kore o te kino ka taea e ngā tāne me ngā wāhine te mau ki roto ina pā mai he pakanga, he whakahē rānei. Ka taea e tēnei tauira te mau i ngā wāhanga katoa o te whanaungatanga. He mea tino noa hoki te whawhai i ngā wāhanga tōmua o te whanaungatanga, he rerekē ki te whakaaro he raruraru whanaungatanga roa noa iho.
Ko te whakaaro anake e puta ake ana i roto i te hinengaro o te tokorua, "He tautohetohe tonu tā māua," ka waiho rāua kia tino hiahia ki tētahi whakautu hei whakakore i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka tīmata tēnei ina riri, ka pōuri rānei tētahi tangata mō tētahi mea, ā, ka whakapuaki pea rāua i ō rāua kare ā-roto mā te kupu, mā te mahi rānei, kātahi ka pāngia e te hara nā te mea e whakaaro ana rāua ko tētahi o ā rāua whanonga kino i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka taea e tēnei te arahi i tētahi atu tangata ki te riri, ā, ka piki haere te pakanga. Ka tautohetohe pea rāua, ka hamama, ka whakamahi rānei i te kaha tinana, ā, ka haere tonu tēnei. He rite ki tētahi huringa nā te mea ka taea te whakahoki anō i a ia anō.
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Hei whakamutu i te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga, he mea nui kia wāwāhia te huringa mā te whakamahi i ngā pūkenga whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te whakaoti rapanga hei whakatau i ngā take i runga i te rangimārie, me te kimi huarahi hei mārama ake tetahi ki tetahi. I taua wā anō, he mea nui kia mārama hoki ki te pūtake o tēnei hiahia ki te whawhai. Anei ngā take matua e rima ka noho pūmau ai te tokorua i roto i te huringa o te pakanga:
- Korero koreroKo ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kāore e pai ki te kōrero tetahi ki tetahi i tēnei wā tonu, he maha ngā wā ka raru rātou i ngā take e pā ana ki te tipu me te whanaungatanga piripono, ā, ka mau tonu ki te huringa pakanga. rangahau e whakaatu mai ana i te kore o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whai hua te take o te pakaru o te marena
- Ngā whakahē, ngā tohu rānei: E kī ana a Tākuta John Gottman, "He mana tō ngā whakahē ki te tango i te rangimārie i te oranga o te tokorua i roto i te whanaungatanga." Ko te whakahē te mea tino whakarihariha ki te karapoti i a koe, inā koa mēnā nō tō hoa aroha.
- Te whakahaere i ngā pūtea: Hei ki nga 2014 APA ahotea i Amerika rangahau, ko te moni te pūtake nui o te taupatupatu i roto i tā rāua whanaungatanga. Tētahi atu ako e whakaatu ana ko te tautohetohe tonu a ngā tāne me ngā wāhine mō te moni i roto i te whanaungatanga he kaha ake, he raruraru ake, ā, he nui ake te tūponotanga kāore e whakatauhia
- Ngā whanonga a ngā hoa: He ako i whakaatu ko ngā whanonga a ngā hoa, pērā i te waiho i ngā rihi ki runga i te kaute, te kore e kohi kai i muri i a rātou anō, te ngaungau me te waha tuwhera, te kore rānei e uru ki ngā mahi o te whare, i puta ake i roto i ngā pakanga 17% o te wā, ā, koinei tētahi o ngā tino take o te pakanga.
- Ngā rerekētanga o ngā tumanakohanga mō te whanaungatanga piriponoI whakaatuhia hoki e te rangahau i runga ake nei, e ai ki ngā kōrero, e 8% o ngā pakanga i waenganui i te tokorua e pā ana ki te piripono, te taatai, me te whakaatu i te aroha, tae atu ki te auau, te huarahi rānei e whakaatuhia ai te piripono.
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Me pēhea te whakamutu i te huringa o te whawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga - 11 Tohutohu i tūtohutia e ngā tohunga
Nā te mea kua mōhio koe inaianei he aha koe i mahi ai whawhai ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe I roto i te marena, i te whanaungatanga rānei, ā, ka mau tonu koe i roto i taua huringa o te "ka whawhai mātou engari ka whakatika, ka noho tonu", he mea nui hoki kia mōhio koe me pēhea te whakamutu i taua huringa o te whawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga, kia kaua e waiho hei tētahi o ngā tokorua e tautohe tonu ana.
Ko te huarahi ki te kimi i te whakautu ki te pātai me pēhea te whakamutu i te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whai hua. Ko te whakatika i te raruraru i muri i te pakanga tonu me whai whakaaro hohonu me te whakapai ake i a koe anō, me te whakapau kaha ki te tautuhi i ngā pūtake o ngā pakanga me te mahi tahi ki ngā otinga whai hua. Kei raro nei ētahi huarahi hei whakamahi hei whakamutu i te tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga:
1. Pēhia te pātene okioki engari hoki atu ki ngā kōrero ā muri ake nei
Koinei taku e whakamōhio atu nei ki a koe mō tētahi tohutohu whanaungatanga mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e tukuna ana e au ki aku kiritaki e rongoā ana i te mate hinengaro — me whai wā okioki. Ko te tikanga, me mutu tonu ngā kōrero katoa mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e ia tangata mai i tētahi atu kia hoki rā anō ngā hoa tokorua ki te āhua marino me te whakaaro tika. He mea nui kia pātai koe ki a koe anō mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi āhua e taea ai e koe te aro atu ki tēnei raruraru.
Ki te kore te marino o te āhuatanga, me whai wā whakatā kia taea ai te kōrero whai hua ina marino ngā hoa e rua, ā, ka taea e kōrua te toro atu ki te kāinga. te whakatikatika aronganuiKa taea e kōrua te whakarite i tētahi wā kua whakaaetia, mai i te haora ki te rā, ā, muri iho ka tīmata anō ngā kōrero.
Kāore i rite ki te haere atu i te riri, ka taea e tēnei te arahi i tō hoa ki te whakaaro kua whakakahoretia, ā, ka pāngia hoki tōna whakaaro ki a ia anō. He huarahi mahi tahi tēnei ki te whakatau i ngā mea i runga i te hauora me te whai hua, ā, ko tētahi o ngā tohutohu tino whai hua hei wawahi i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga.
2. He mea nui te whakarongo pai
Kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakapuaki i tō whakaaro, ki te whakapau kaha rānei kia kite te tangata i tō tirohanga. He mea tika tēnei mēnā he maha tonu ō kōrua pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Kia mōhio ai koe ki te whakamutu i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga, whakarongo noa, me te kore whakahē, me te kore whakaaro pākiki. Pātai atu, kātahi ka whakarongo ki ngā whakautu me te kore e hiahia ki te mōhio he aha te mea hei kōrero i muri mai, ahakoa he uaua ki te mahi pēnā.
He mea tika kia noho hei kaiwhakarongo pai kia mōhio ai me pēhea te whakatika i tētahi whanaungatanga i muri i te pakanga tonu, kia tae atu ai ki tētahi tūranga kotahi. Ko tētahi atu mea, he maha tonu ngā wā ka arotakehia e tātou mēnā he pono, he hē rānei te nuinga o ngā mea e whakarongohia ana e tātou. Engari, ngana ki te whakarongo ki ngā wheako o tō hoa rangatira me te mea he wheako tonu – me te kore e aro nui, e manukanuka rānei mēnā he pono. "He whawhai tonu tā māua engari e aroha ana māua tetahi ki tetahi." Mēnā koinei koe, mā te ako me pēhea te whakarongo pai ka āwhina.
3. Arotahi ki ngā mea ka taea te whakaoti
rangahau e whakaatu ana ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine harikoa he huarahi e aro ana ki te otinga mō ngā pakanga, ā, e mārama ana tēnei ahakoa i roto i ngā kaupapa e whiriwhiria ana e rātou hei matapaki. I kitea e rātou ko aua tāne me ēnei tāne i whiriwhiri ki te arotahi ki ngā take he mārama ake ngā otinga, pērā i te tohatoha o ngā mahi o te whare me te pehea e whakapau ai i te wā wātea.
Ko tā rātou e kī nei, ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e noho tahi ana me te harikoa, te āhua nei ka whakatau pai i ā rātou pakanga, ka arotahi ki ngā mea ka taea te whakatau anake, kaua e mau ki roto i tētahi huringa pakanga mutunga kore e haere tonu ana, e whakahoki ana rānei i te tautohetohe kotahi tonu, tonu.
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4. Whiriwhiria te waa tika
Ko te whiriwhiri i te wā tika hei kōrero i ngā mea nui o te whanaungatanga he rite ki te kimi i te wā tino pai e taea ai e kōrua ko tō hoa te hono atu me te mārama tetahi ki tetahi. Whakaarohia kei te whakamahere kōrua ki te kōrero mō tētahi mea nui, pērā i tō kōrua heke mai, i tētahi kaupapa tairongo rānei. He mea nui kia whiriwhiria he wā e marino ana, e wātea ana hoki kōrua, pērā i te kimi i te rangi tika hei haere ki te pikiniki.
A ako i roto i te Journal of Whanau Hinengaro i whakaatu ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i kōrero nui i ngā wā taumaha, pōrearea rānei, he nui ake te tūponotanga kia pāngia e ngā hua kino. He rite ki te ngana ki te kōrero hōhonu i te wā e pupuhi ana te tupuhi i waho — he uaua ki te whakarongo tetahi ki tetahi. I tetahi atu taha, ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i whiriwhiri i te wā tika, pērā i te ahiahi marino i te kāinga, i kōrero i ngā hua pai ake i ā rātou kōrero. He mea nui te whai whakaaro ki tēnei meka mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te ako me pēhea te whakamutu i te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga.
5. Akohia ngā mahi whakatikatika
Takuta John Gottman e whakaahua ana i te ngana whakatikatika hei "tetahi kōrero, te mahi rānei, ahakoa he kuware, he aha rānei, e ārai ana i te piki haere o te kino i waenga i a rātou anō." He tino wawe te whakatikatika a ngā hoa i roto i ngā whanaungatanga hauora, ā, he maha ngā rautaki a rātou mō te mahi pera. Koinei tētahi o ngā mahi tino whai hua hei āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia mutu te tautohetohe.
He maha ngā huarahi hei whakatika i te pakaru (arā, hanga anō i tētahi hononga i muri i te whara o te ngākau) he pakanga rānei, ā, akohia me pēhea te karo i ngā pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka taea e koe te tīmata mā te whakamahi i ngā kīanga whakatikatika e tīmata ana ki te "Kei te aroha ahau", "Aroha mai", "Kei te mihi atu ahau". Ko te mea pai rawa atu mō tēnei ko te taea e koe te auaha i tō hiahia, te whakatakoto i ō ake huarahi whaiaro, ā, i te mutunga ka ea te hiahia ki te whakamarie i a kōrua. Koinei tētahi o ngā whakautu tino whai hua ki te whakamutu i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga.
6. Tonoa nga mea e hiahiatia ana e koe
Kāore e taea e tō hoa te mōhio ā-roto ki ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe kia makona ai, kia harikoa ai rānei. Ko te whanaungatanga hauora ko te tono atu i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe, kaua e whakaaro ka mōhio tonu tō hoa. Ina kōrero koe i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto i te whanaungatanga, kei te hoatu e koe he whai wāhi ki tō hoa kia noho hei tautoko i a koe, ā, mā tēnei ka āwhina i a koe kia puta i tēnei huringa pakanga. Kia noho ngoikore, kia arotahi ki ō kare ā-roto me ō whakaaro i a koe e kōrero ana i ēnei hiahia ki tō hoa.
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7. Hurihia mai i te amuamu ki te tono
"He whawhai tonu tā māua engari e aroha ana māua tetahi ki tetahi" he whakaaro noa i roto i te maha o ngā whanaungatanga. Heoi, he mea nui kia mōhio ko ēnei pakanga ka puta mai i ngā hiahia kāore anō kia tutuki. Ko te amuamu, ko te tikanga, he whakaaturanga o te hiahia kāore anō kia tutuki. Ki te kore tātou e tono mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e tātou, ka tahuri tātou ki ngā amuamu mō te korenga o ā tātou hiahia e tutukihia.
He maha ngā tāngata e whakamahi ana i ngā rerenga pēnei i te "He aha koe i..." me te "E mōhio ana koe kāore au i pai ki te wā i..." hei kī atu ki tā rātou hoa kāore rātou i te makona ki ā rātou kupu, ki ā rātou mahi rānei. Heoi, ko te raruraru tuatahi o ēnei whakahē me ngā amuamu he kino ki tō whanaungatanga, ā, kāore koe e ārahi ki hea ki te whakamutu i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, tera pea ka arahi ki... he whanaungatanga hauora kore.
Me pēhea te whakamutu i te whawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga? Tīmata mā te whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto i te tuatahi, kia tika, kātahi ka kōrero i ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e tō hoa kia kore ai e amuamu whānuitia pērā i te "ka tautohetohe tonu māua". He mea nui anō hoki kia tuku koe i a koe ki te mahi i ngā huringa mā te pātai mēnā he mea e hiahia ana rātou kia hurihia e koe.
8. Whakamahia ngā kōrero 'I'
Ka taea hoki e ngā reo whakapae, ngā kupu rānei te ārai i tētahi kōrero whai hua mō ō koutou take. Ina pāngia kōrua e te whakaekenga, ka ara ake ngā taiepa parepare, ā, ka kore e taea te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whai hua, kāore he wāhi mō tētahi tirohanga rerekē. Ahakoa e mōhio ana tātou ki tēnei, he maha tonu o tātou e whakamahi ana i ngā kōrero e kī ana kua whara kino te tangata kē i a tātou, ā, ko ia anake te tangata e whakapae ana mō te mea i pērā ai tātou. riri i roto i te whanaungatangaKa arotahi tātou ki ngā whanonga a te tangata, ā, kāore e pau te wā ki te whakaaro he aha tātou i mamae ai.
Mā te tīmatanga o tō rerenga kōrero ki te 'Ahau' ka āwhina i a koe ki te kōrero mō ngā kare ā-roto uaua, ki te kī me pēhea te pānga o te raruraru ki a koe, me te ārai i tō hoa rangatira kei whakapaetia koe. Ka ārahi i a tātou ki te tango i te kawenga mō ō tātou kare ā-roto, me te whakapuaki anō hoki i ngā mea e whakararuraru ana i a tātou. Ka whakatuwherahia te ara kōrero i waenga i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, koinei tētahi o ngā mahi tino whai hua hei āwhina i ngā tāne me ngā wāhine kia mutu te whawhai.
9. Kia mau tonu te wā whaiaro
Kua 14 tau te roa o te marena o aku hoa, a Ashley rāua ko Dennis. He pai ki a Ashley te peita, ā, he pai ki a Dennis te tākaro poitūkohu. Mā te whai i ō rāua hiahia takitahi, ehara i te mea ka tipu takitahi rāua engari ka kawea mai hoki e rāua he kōrero hou me he wheako hei whakapuaki ki a rāua anō. Tērā pea ka peita a Ashley i tētahi tōnga ataahua o te rā, ā, ka taea e Dennis te kōrero ki a ia mō te whakaahua whakamiharo i tangohia e ia i runga i te papa poitūkohu.
Mena kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te whakamutu i te tautohetohe i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, kia mōhio koe te whai wāhi whaiaro Ka taea e te mahi whakamiharo te tinei i te ahi o te pakanga, te ārai rānei i te au o te mauahara. Ka ārai i a koe kei pōuri, kei ngenge rānei tetahi ki tetahi. Pērā i te wā e kai nui ana koe i ō kai tino pai, ka kore rawa koe e tino harikoa mōna. He rite tonu i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ko te tango wā mai i a koe anō me te whai i ō ake mahi whakangahau ka nui ake te motuhake o tō wā noho tahi, ka mau tonu te aroha. Nō reira, kia mahara, ko te wā whaiaro he rite ki te makutu e pupuri ana i te hou me te whakahihiri o tō whanaungatanga.
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10. Kia ora tonu te aroha
E whakaatu tonu ana ngā rangahau ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e whakaatu ana i te aroha me te maioha i ngā wā katoa ka roa ake, ka whai hononga whakamīharo ake, ā, kua kitea e rātou te huarahi hei karo i ngā pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga. Inaa, i roto i tētahi rangahau i tapaina ko, He nui atu i te mea onge te aroha mō te wā roa?, i kitea e ngā kairangahau ko ngā tāne me ngā wāhine e korerotia Ko te hunga e "tino aroha ana" i muri i ngā tau e rima, he nui ake te tūponotanga kei te aroha tonu rātou i muri i ngā tau e 20.
Mā te whakapuaki i ēnei kare ā-roto i ngā wā katoa ka mutu te whawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ehara i te mea ka whakapakari noa i te hononga kare ā-roto engari ka arahi hoki ki tētahi whanaungatanga roa ake, ā, he pai ake te whakamānawa. Mā te whakamahara i a koe anō ki te hononga i hono tahi ai kōrua i te tīmatanga, ka taea e kōrua te pārekareka ki tētahi whanaungatanga whai hua ake, pumau ake hoki.
11. Whakaarohia te rongoā mō ngā tāne me ngā wāhine
Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te whakaoti i ngā pakanga kua pā ki a kōrua ko tō hoa, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi i ngā mahi ā-roto kia mārama ai ki ngā take hohonu kei raro i ngā pakanga, ka taea e te tohutohu te arahi ki ngā putanga whakamiharo. Mā te āwhina a Bonobology he rōpū kaiwhakaora hinengaro mātau, ka taea e koe te neke tata atu ki tētahi whanaungatanga rangimārie.
He pūkenga nui te mōhio ki te wā e whawhai ai mō tētahi whanaungatanga, me te wā e tuku ai. Heoi, kia maumahara, he mea nui kia mōhio ki te wā ka taea te wikitoria i tētahi wero mā te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero me te whakapau kaha, ā, ko te wā pea he pai ake te wehe atu i te whanaungatanga hei oranga mō ngā hoa tokorua.
Tohutohu Matua
- He maha ngā tautohe me ngā taupatupatu a te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine, ā, i tētahi wā o tō rātou whanaungatanga, kua puta te whakaaro, "I ia wā ka whawhai māua ka hiahia ahau ki te wehe."
- Ko te kore o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, te whakahē, te whakahaere hē i ngā pūtea, ngā whanonga a tō hoa, me ngā rerekētanga o ngā tumanakohanga mō te whanaungatanga piripono, koinei ētahi o ngā take e totohe ai ngā tokorua.
- Ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero te mea nui ki te whakatau i ngā tautohe i roto i te whanaungatanga
- Ko te whai wā, te whakarongo pai, te arotahi ki ngā mea ka taea te whakatau, te ako i ngā mahi whakatikatika, te tono kaua e amuamu, te whakamahi i ngā kupu 'ahau', me te tono mō ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe, koinei ētahi o ngā huarahi hei whakamutu i te huringa o te pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga.
- Ka taea e te rongoā ā-tāne me ngā wāhine te āwhina i te whakahaere i ngā pakanga i roto i te whanaungatanga
He aha koe ka whawhai ai ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe? He aha rānei koe ka whawhai ai engari i te mutunga o te rā, e aroha tonu ana koe ki a ia me tō ngākau katoa? He pātai ēnei kua pātaihia e tātou katoa i a tātou e mahi tahi ana me pakanga i roto i te marena tētahi momo whanaungatanga rānei. He mea nui te mārama ki te take kia mōhio ai koe he mea tēnei e hiahia ana koe ki te whakarerekē.
Ahakoa te hiranga o te 'take' o tēnei pakanga, he mea nui ake te mōhio ki te 'me pēhea' te whakatau i te pakanga ina puta mai, kia kore ai e huri hei huringa kino. Me kōrero koe ki tō hoa rangatira, me tūhura tahi rānei me te āwhina a tētahi tohunga hauora hinengaro. Ko tāku tumanako i homai e tēnei tuhinga he māramatanga ki a koe mō te take me te pēhea hoki te whakamutu i te huringa pakanga i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga.
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Ahakoa he mea noa te whawhai i roto i te whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea he tohu aroha te tautohetohe tonu i roto i te whanaungatanga. He pono ka whawhai tātou ki te hunga e arohaina ana e tātou, engari ka whawhai anō hoki tātou ki te hunga kāore e arohaina ana e tātou. Ka taea e ngā whawhai tonu te tino kino i muri i tētahi wā, ā, ka taea e ia te whakarerekē i te wairua katoa o te whanaungatanga. Ko te whawhai me te kaupapa te mea e wehewehe ana i te whanaungatanga hauora mai i te whanaungatanga hauora, he mea hanga mai i te aroha noa.
Ae, tera pea ka nui ō kōrua tautohetohe ki tētahi e arohaina ana e koe, inā koa ko te whawhai i ngā tīmatanga o te whanaungatanga. Heoi, he mea nui kia mau tonu te whakaaro kia whai hua tonu ēnei tautohetohe. Ki te kore, ka tere rawa te kino, ka tere rawa te kino.
Ki te kite koe kāore e taea e koe te whakamutu i te totohe i roto i te whanaungatanga, kōrero pono ki tō hoa, whakapā atu rānei ki tētahi kaitohutohu whanaungatanga hei āwhina i a kōrua i roto i ngā pakanga me ngā tautohe tonu.
He pono, he tangata noa iho tātou, ā, i tētahi wā, kua tautohetohe tātou katoa ki te hunga e tino arohaina ana e tātou, ā, tērā pea ka whakaaro tātou, "I ia wā ka whawhai tātou, ka hiahia ahau ki te wehe." Ka whawhai tātou ki a rātou, engari i te mutunga, ka hiahia tātou ki te awhi i a rātou. Heoi, ko te mea nui ko te whai tautohetohe whai hua, kaua ki ngā tautohetohe whakangaro, e tohu ana ngā maihao tetahi ki tetahi me te whakahawea, te whakahē rānei. Koinā te wā ka raru ai, ā, ka taea anake te whakatau mā te whai pūkenga whakawhitiwhiti kōrero whai hua. Engari, ae, he mea noa te tautohetohe me te pakanga ki te tangata e arohaina ana e koe.
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