I roto i te kiriata Black Panther, kei roto a Chadwick Boseman (T'Challa) rāua ko Letitia Wright (Shuri) i tana taiwhanga i te wā i karanga ai ia, 'He aha koe i totoro ai ō matimati i roto i taku taiwhanga?!" Ka titiro a Boseman ki raro ki ōna waewae e mau ana i ngā hū, ka mea, "I whakaaro ahau me whakamahi i te kura tawhito mō taku rā tuatahi" "Ki taku whakaaro i pai ngā kaumātua ki tēnā!" ka whakahoki ia.
He māmā noa te whakaaturanga me te kōrero i waenganui i ngā tuākana me ngā teina, he mea whakamānawa, he mea takaro hoki, ā, he tauira pai tēnei mēnā kei te whakaaro koe 'he aha te kōrero whakakatakata'. Nā, ko te kōrero whakakatakata he whakawhitiwhiti kōrero māmā i waenganui i te hunga kua mōhio kē tetahi ki tetahi, he mea rānei hei wāhi whakawhanaungatanga i waenganui i te hunga tauhou.
Ehara i te mea he āhua aroha, he āhua moepuku rānei te kōrero whakakatakata, engari he taputapu pai rawa atu pea tēnei hei whakaipoipo mēnā koinei te āhua o tāu tākaro. E pātai ana mātou, "He whakaipoipo te kōrero whakakatakata?" Ko te kī pai ko te kōrero whakakatakata tētahi huarahi whai hua hei whakaipoipo. Ko te kōrero whakakatakata, me te reo tinana me te titiro kanohi, koinei pea te mea e hiahiatia ana e koe hei kukume i te wahine ātaahua kua roa e titirohia ana e koe.
Nō reira, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe he aha te tikanga o te kōrero whakakatakata, me pēhea te kōrero whakakatakata ki tētahi kōtiro, me pēhea rānei te kōrero whakakatakata ki tētahi tāne, kua oti i a mātou ētahi o ngā mahi māu, ā, kua whakaemihia hoki ngā āhuatanga katoa o te kōrero whakakatakata me ētahi tauira kōrero whakakatakata hei whakahaere i tēnei mahi māu.
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Ko te kōrero whakakatakata he kōrero mā te whakamahi i ngā kōrero whakakatakata, whakahi. Tērā pea i waenganui i tētahi rōpū hoa, i ētahi tāngata tokorua e whakatau ana (tae atu ki tētahi rā mariko), he kiritaki me he kaimahi hāwini, me tētahi atu rānei kua tūtaki koe.
Kāore e hiahiatia he kōrero hōhonu te kōrero whakakatakata; ko te mea nui, he kōrero māmā, he kōrero ngāwari, ahakoa he whakakatakata, kei te āhua o te āhuatanga. Kāore e hiahiatia he whāinga whakamutunga mō te kōrero whakakatakata – he kōrero poto noa iho ka mutu ka koa, ka harikoa hoki ngā rōpū katoa.
Hei tauira, whakaarohia kei te pāti koe, ā, e kōrero ana koe ki tētahi i a koe e inu ana. Kei te hiahia koe ki te mōhio pai ake ki a rātou. Tērā pea ko te kōrero penei:
Tika: He kai-tuhituhi rongonui ahau o te ao. Arā, kua whakarārangihia hei pūkenga i runga i taku CV. Me i a au tō nama waea, ka kite koe māu anō.
Raua: Nō reira, arā, ko ō koromatua te āhuatanga pai rawa atu mōu?
He huarahi pai, tuwhera hoki tēnei mō te tono i ō rātou taipitopito whakapā, me te whakamōhio atu kei te hiahia koe ki te ngā karere kuputuhi whakakatakataKa waiho te ara kia tuwhera ai mō rātou ki te kī āe, kāo rānei, me te kore e pōhēhē kei raro i te mana o te tangata. Ko te mea pai mō te kōrero whakakatakata, nā te mea he māmā noa iho, he ngāwari hoki, kāore he kare ā-roto o tetahi e mamae.
He pai te kōrero whakakatakata mō ngā whanaungatanga?
E ai ki tētahi rangahau he pai te kōrero whakakatakata mō ngā whanaungatanga piripono nā te mea ka wātea he wāhi mō te kata, te kōrero me te whakatoi hauora. Hei tauira, kua hoki mai pea kōrua ko tō hoa i tētahi tina pakihi tino hoha me āna hoa mahi.
Tika: He tino pukumahi aua tāne.
Ko ia: Ko ngā tāne pūngāwerewere te hunga tino pai rawa atu!
Tika: He pono? Me rapu e au tētahi!
He kōrero māmā noa iho, engari ka kata tahi kōrua me te mea he taiohi ki a kōrua anō, ki ngā kōrero whakakatakata hoki a tētahi ki tētahi. E ngāwari ana ki a ia te riri nā te mea i kī koe he pōuri ōna hoa mahi. Engari, i te riri me te tīmata i te whawhai, kua meinga e kōrua hei wā māmā, ngāwari, me te takaro.
He pai te kata mō ngā momo whanaungatanga katoa. Ka whakamama i te taumahatanga, ka puta te wairua o te whanaungatanga me te kotahitanga. Ā, ina kōrero tahi kōrua hei ōrite, ka kitea tō ngā hihiri mana whanaungatanga kāore i te whanoke – he tokorua kōrua e aroha ana tetahi ki tetahi, e kata tahi ana tetahi ki tetahi, kaua ki te tawai tetahi ki tetahi.
Ki te takaro noa, ka tata te takaro. Ā, ki tā mātou whakaaro, he pai te takaro mō ngā aroha hou me ngā aroha tawhito. Ka whakaoho i tō hikoi, ka meinga koe kia arohaina. Ki te mea ka ārahi te takaro i a koe ki te takaro me te whakahihiri, he aha atu te mea pai ake!
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Me pēhea te kōrero whakakatakata: 5 Ngā Huarahi hei Whakamahi i te Kōrero Whakakatakata i roto i ō Hononga
Pērā i ngā kaupapa nui katoa, kei reira te ariā, kei reira hoki te tono. Mena kei te pānui koe i te 'Banter for Dummies' (kāo, ehara i te mea tūturu, he mea tito noa iho mā mātou) me te whakaharatau i tō kōrero whakakatakata i mua i te whakaata, āe, he pai mōu. Engari me pēhea rā ina kitea koe i roto i tētahi āhuatanga kōrero whakakatakata? Ka tūpato koe pērā i te tia e mau ana i roto i ngā rama o mua, ka neke rānei koe me te kaha ake?
Kaua e manukanuka, kei a mātou tō tautoko. Kua kohikohia e mātou ētahi huarahi hei whakamahi māu i te kōrero whakakatakata ki tō ao tūturu, me te tumanako kāore koe e whakama, e kōrero rānei i tētahi mea ka whaiwhai i a koe mō ngā tau maha ina kōrero ki tō hoa aroha hoa kōrero whakakatakata rānei.
1. Kia mau ki ō kupu tīmatanga
E mōhio ana koe ki te kīwaha tawhito 'kua tīmata pai, kua haurua te otinga?' Āe, ahakoa he kōrero whakakatakata, he kōrero takaro rānei, e pā ana tēnā ki a koe. Ki te tīmata kaha koe, kua oti te nuinga o tō mahi. Anei ētahi mea ka taea e koe te tīmata mēnā kei te whakaaro koe me pēhea te kōrero whakakatakata ki tētahi tāne, me pēhea rānei te kōrero whakakatakata ki tētahi kōtiro.
'Kei te hiahia au ki te whakararuraru, ā, me pēhea koe?'
Ki te taea e koe te whakatutuki i tēnei i roto i te āhua ataahua, kāore e whakamataku, ka puta te whakaaro he tangata ngahau koe, e hiahia ana ki te mahi i tetahi mea. Ka whai hua tēnei i tētahi huihuinga pāpori i reira kua tūtaki koe ki tō hoa takaro, ā, kua whakawhitiwhiti kōrero pea. Ka taea e koe te whai ake mā te whakapuaki i tētahi kēmu, te tono rānei i tētahi rauna pupuhi mō te katoa.
'Kāore ianei koe i te tino pai ki ngā kararehe i te tangata!'
Ngā tāngata whakahihi, whakakatakata me te hunga e aroha ana ki ngā mōkai, māu tēnei. E mōhio ana mātou i te nuinga o ngā pāti, ka pai ki a koe te noho ki te kokonga, te titiro pōuri ki te tangata, te tākaro pea ki te kurī a te kaihautū. Engari he maha ngā tāngata whakama he pūkenga whakamiharo ki te kōrero whakakatakata. Ā, ki te mea kua kitea e koe tētahi hoa titiro pōuri, he kaitiaki kokonga, āe, ko wai ka mōhio he aha te mea ka tupu.
'He aha tā te tāne/kōtiro/tangata pai pēnei i a koe e mahi ana i roto i tētahi wāhi ururua pēnei'
Ka whakamahia tēnei e taku hoa ki ahau i ngā wā katoa e noho ana māua i tētahi wharekai tino rangatira, i tētahi whare tino rangatira rānei. Engari ka taea e koe te whakamahi hei tīmata kōrero ki tētahi tangata kāore koe i te tino mōhio. He kōrero whakakatakata tēnei mō tō taiao, ā, e whakaatu ana i tō wairua whakakatakata me te kore e whakaatu nui.
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2. Kia tūpato ki te reo o tō tinana
Nā, e mōhio ana tātou i kī tātou ko te nuinga o te kōrero pakiwaitara he mea e pā ana ki te kōrero, engari kia pono tātou, ki te mea kei te whakaaro tonu koe ki te aha te kōrero pakiwaitara me ngā tauira kōrero pakiwaitara, ka puta te reo tinana i reira.
Ko te nuinga o tēnei mō ngā āhuatanga ina he hou kōrua ko tō hoa kōrerorero, ina kei te whakaaro tonu kōrua 'he mahi takaro noa iho te kōrerorerorero?' Reo tinana i ētahi wā ka taea te whakatau i waenga i te kōrero takaro me te takaro.
"He pai ki ahau ngā kōrero whakakatakata pai, ahakoa ehara i te mea he whakakatakata," te kī a Kathleen. "Engari he rārangi angiangi kei waenganui i te kōrero whakakatakata me te whiti i ngā rohe, ā, e mōhio ana ahau ki tēnā ahakoa kei te taha hoatu, kei te taha whiwhi rānei ahau i roto i te kōrero whakakatakata.
"I tētahi wā i tētahi pae inu ahau me tētahi rōpū tāngata, ā, ko tētahi he tangata kāore au i tino mōhio. I kōrero tonu ia i ngā mea pēnei i te "He tangata tino whakamīharo koe" ā, i tito tonu mātou i ngā kōrero rorirori mō ngā tāngata i te tēpu i te taha. He mea ngahau, engari kātahi ka tīmata ia ki te piko rawa atu, me te pā ki tōku pakihiwi, ā, i taua wā ka huri te kōrero whakakatakata ki te kore whakamarie."
I te ako i te tikanga o te kōrero whakakatakata, he mea nui hoki kia ako i te tikanga ehara i te kōrero whakakatakata. Ā, ko te kōrero whakakatakata, te takaro me ērā atu mea, me nui te whakaute me te whakaae. Kia tūpato ki tō ake reo tinana me te reo o te tangata kē, kaua hoki e takahi i te ture.
3. Kaua e whara
Anō nei, he akoranga anō tēnei mō ngā rohe whanaungatanga. Nā te mea he nui ngā whakautu ki te pātai 'he aha te kōrero whakakatakata' e pā ana ki te ngahau me te whakatoi, he ngāwari ki te whakaaro he wā tuwhera tēnei mō tō hoa kōrero whakakatakata, ā, kāore koe e manukanuka ki tāu e kōrero nei. Āe?
He hē. He rerekētanga i waenga i te kōrero pai, ngahau, whakakatakata, me te whakaiti i te tangata. Hei tauira, mēnā he rōia tō hoa kōrero, ā, ka mea koe, "Nā, ka whakamahia tetahi mea ka kōrerotia e au hei whakahē i ahau i roto i te kōti?" he kōrero kōrero tēnā. Ki te mea koe, "Āe, pērā i ngā rōia katoa, ki taku whakaaro he tangata teka pai koe," kei te te kōrero i ngā mea mamae ā, ka rite ki te mea kei te whakatau wawe koe ahakoa kāore koe i te whai whakaaro.
He akoranga tino nui tēnei mēnā kāore kōrua i te tino mōhio tetahi ki tetahi. Engari kaua e whakaaro mēnā kei te kōrero tahi kōrua me tētahi hoa tawhito, hoa aroha rānei, he pai ki te kōrero i ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe.
"He roa tā māua ko taku wahine e kōrero ana mō tētahi pahikara whakakori tinana i hokona e au, ā, kāore i te whakamahia i tētahi wā. I tapaina e māua te pahikara ko 'Neverland' nā te mea kāore au i haere ki reira, ā, he maha āna pātai, 'E Pete, me pēhea te haerenga ki Neverland?' ā, ka whakahoki ahau, 'Kāore rawa i tupu,'" te kī a Peter.
Kātahi ka tīmata tana wahine, a Katy, ki te kōrero pēnei, "Kei te mōhio koe, ko Neverland te wāhi kāore te tangata e tipu ake. Engari ki taku whakaaro ka taea e ngā tāne te koretake i roto i te aroha me te ao." I huri mai i te katakata mahana, ā-roto ki te katakata whakaiti, ā, i arahi atu ki te nui o te kawa i waenganui i te tokorua.
4. Kia mohio ki te wa ka mutu
Ehara i te mea ko te whakamutu noa iho ina kite koe kei te whara koe, kua hipa rānei koe i te huarahi tika. Engari ko te mōhio anō hoki he nui rawa ngā mea pai, ā, me whai wāhi, me whai wā hoki tō hoa kōrero ki te whakautu i ētahi wā.
Ki te mea kei te whakaaro nui koe ki te kōrero whakakatakata, kia mahara ehara i te mea he raupapa mutunga kore o ngā kōrero whakakatakata me ngā katakata. Kia mahara, ngā mea whakarihariha i roto i ngā whanaungatanga Tērā pea ka mahi i ētahi wā, engari mā ngā tauira kōrero whakakatakata pai rawa atu ka whakaatu ko te mea nui ko te hoki whakamuri i a koe e mahi tonu ana.
Hei tauira, ki te mea ka mihi atu koe ki tētahi me te kī 'tēnei te raruraru' i tōna taenga mai ki te rūma, he mea whakakatakata i te wā tuatahi. Engari ki te roa rawa tō kī, me te kī 'Āe, ki te kore ko Little Miss Troublemaker anō', ka hoha tonu ahakoa he hoa te tangata e pā ana.
Kia tūpato hoki ki te urupare ka puta mai i tō kōrero whakakatakata. Ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te kōrero ki tētahi barista i tō toa kawhe tino pai ki te kī atu, 'Kei te kī tonu koe i te pīni!', engari kei te titiro pōuri mai rātou, kei te menemene mārie rānei, ā, ka tahuri ke atu, kia mōhio koe kua tae ki te wā hei whakamutu. Waihoki, ki te mea kei te ngana koe ki te kōrero whakakatakata ki tētahi i tētahi huihuinga pāpori, i tētahi mahi rānei, ā, ka utua koe e te titiro makariri, kaua e hohoro te hoki whakamuri. Kia mahara, whakaaetanga te mea nui, ahakoa te ngāwari o ngā mea.
5. Whakarei ake i tō kēmu tuhinga
Kāore e taea te wareware i te āhuatanga nui o te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero i runga i ngā tuhinga! He wāhanga nui te tuku karere kuputuhi i roto i ā tātou taunekeneke pāpori (pāhekoheko rānei!), ā, ka taea e koe te uru atu ki ētahi whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ngahau, ngahau hoki mā roto i ngā karere kuputuhi.
Nā, tera pea he tangata kua tūtaki kē koe ki te kanohi ki te kanohi i ētahi wā, he tangata rānei kua tūtaki koe ki tētahi taupānga Dating, tae atu ki tō hoa roa, ki tō hoa rangatira rānei. Ko te mea pai rawa atu mō te kōrero whakakatakata ko te taea e koe te mahi tahi me te tangata katoa.
Mena he tangata tēnei kua uru kē koe ki tētahi kōrero whakakatakata whai hua, arā, he kōrero whakakatakata me te whai i tētahi kaupapa aroha, ka taea e koe te whakamātau i tētahi mea māia, mā te whakaipoipo i runga i te karere kuputuhi. Heoi anō, kāore mātou katoa i te tino mataku ki te karere kuputuhi.
He tauira pai pea te whakamahi i tētahi mea pēnei i te, 'He aha tāu e tuku karere mai ana i te pō nei' me te whakamahi i te emoji tika hei kōrero whakakatakata, hei tāpiri atu ki te karere kuputuhi. Tērā pea ka whakautu mai rātou me te 'Āe, he aha tāu e mahi ai?' hei tīmatanga i te kōrero whakakatakata.
Kaua e whakaititia te mana o ngā tohutō me ngā emoji i roto i te kōrero whakakatakata. Ko te tohu karanga iti nei he tohu whakahihiri, ā, e whakaatu ana hoki kei te harikoa koe ki te kōrero ki a rātou. Ā, he pono, he tūranga motuhake tō ngā emoji me ngā gif i roto i te ao o te tuku karere kuputuhi.
He huarahi haumaru ake anō hoki te tuku karere kuputuhi mēnā kāore koe e tino hiahia ki te kōrero whakakatakata, ā, he huarahi hoki tēnei hei mawhiti atu i te āhuatanga mēnā kāore koe i te tino pai ki te tangata e kōrero whakakatakata ana koe. Ahakoa pēhea, ko ō koromatua pea hei hoa pai mōu i te ao o te kōrero whakakatakata.
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Ina huri te kōrero whakakatakata hei mea kino
He nui ngā kōrero mō te whakakatakata, he mea nui hoki kia tirohia tōna ngoikoretanga. Ka pā kino pea te whakakatakata mēnā kāore ngā taha e rua e whakaae. Arā, ki te pai tetahi ki te whakakatakata, engari kāore tetahi, kāore he ōritetanga, ā, kāore tetahi e pai ki te whakakatakata.
Tērā pea ka pōuri te kōrero whakakatakata i te wāhi mahi nā te mea he rerekē ngā rohe me ngā pātai mō ngā mea e tika ana. Ko te mea e ahua māmā ana, e whakatoi ana ki tētahi tangata, tera pea kāore e tika ana ki tētahi atu.
Waihoki, ka taea te whakamahi hē i te 'whakakatakata' hei whakaiti i te tangata, hei whakama rānei i a rātou mō tō rātou āhua, mō te tangata rānei. Kia maumahara, ko te kōrero kino mō te āhua o te tangata, mō ōna tikanga kakahu, mō ōna whakaaro, ehara i te mea he whakakatakata.
I te mutunga, he nui te ngoikore me te tuwhera o te kōrero whakakatakata. Ahakoa kāore koe e tumanako ana ki tētahi hua aroha, moepuku rānei, kei te tango koe i te kaupapa matua, kei te whakaatu i a koe anō ki waho. Ko te mōrearea o e anga ana ki te whakakore, te kore urupare rānei, kei reira tonu, ā, e kore e taea te karo i tēnā.
Ahakoa tōna āhua pai rawa atu, ko te kōrero whakakatakata te huarahi harikoa ki ngā kōrero me ngā whanaungatanga whai tikanga, ki tonu i te ngāwari me te kata. Nō reira, ki te mea kei te rapu koe i tētahi huarahi hei whakamāmā i tētahi rūma, i tētahi kōrero, i roto rānei i tō ake ao, kaua e titiro atu ki tua atu i tētahi kōrero whakakatakata pai.
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He huarahi pai te kōrero whakakatakata ki te whakaipoipo, nā te mea he kōrero ngāwari, he kōrero ngahau. Whakaarohia he kupu tīmatanga pai, kaua e whakaputa i te kaha whakamataku, ā, kia mōhio koe ki te wā e mutu ai. He mea nui anō hoki kia ine i te reo tinana me ngā urupare a te tangata kia kore ai koe e takahi i tetahi mea. rohe.
Ko te kōrero whakakatakata nui ko te wā e kōrero ana koe mō te haumitanga aroha, ngā whāinga rānei kua tino mārama. Nō reira, ki te mea kua tīmata koe i tētahi kōrero ki tētahi i runga i tētahi taupānga whakaipoipo, ki tētahi rānei kua whai hononga aroha kē koe, e mōhio ana koe kei te hiahia koe ki tētahi atu, kei te hiahia rānei koe ki te noho tahi, ā, ehara tēnei kōrero whakakatakata i te mea mō te whakaaro noa iho.
Whakaohokia tō hoa aroha mā te tuku karere kuputuhi mā te tuku emojis orotika, gifs rānei. Whakakatakata mā te kī atu i kite koe i tētahi punua ngeru e riri ana, ā, i mahara koe ki a ia. Whakakatakata rātou mā te whakamahi i ngā katakata whakakatakata, i ngā katakata rānei. takaro ki ngā meme.
He huarahi pai te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mō ngā tuhinga hei tīmatanga kōrero, hei whakahaere rānei i tētahi kōrero kua kōrero kētia e kōrua. Whakamahia tika ō tohutō (kāore e kino te whakamahi i ētahi tohu miharo!), ā, kia atawhai hoki i ō emoji. Ko te mea nui, kia mahara kia pai, kia ngahau hoki mā kōrua tokorua.
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