He Kapu Kawhe CCD! Koinei te wāhi i hangaia ai tā māua marena

I te marama o Noema o te tau 1998. Nō te tau 1998 ahau i neke mai ai ki Bengaluru. I tangohia e au he wā okiokinga mai i taku mahi, ā, i whakarērea e au tōku ao i Delhi ki muri, kia tīmata ai he ao hou i Uru e karapotia ana e ngā rākau. Kāore au i te mōhio ki te tini o ngā tāngata i roto i te tāone nui, ā, ko te nuinga o aku hoa hou i ahu mai i taku tāne.

I taua wā ka kitea e au taku hoa rangatira i roto i ngā kōrerorero mō te kawhe me te marena. He ohorere katoa engari he makutu, ā, kei te maumahara tonu ahau ki aua rā, me te rongo i te aroha. He mea noa te rongo i ngā pūrerehua i roto i tō puku i muri i ēnei tau katoa?

Te Whakaipoipo, te Aroha, te Kawhe me te Marena

I aroha ahau ki taku tāne, ā, i te mutunga o ngā tau 90, ka moe māua. I mōhio ahau he mea tika tonu mai i te tīmatanga. He ranunga ataahua tā māua kōrero o te kare ā-roto me te whaihua. Aroha i te kitenga tuatahi i āta ngawari haere hei mea reka, i ētahi wā kawa, ā, he roa te mau. He rite tonu ki tērā o te inu kawhe tuatahi.

Kāre au i te mōhio āhea, me pēhea rānei, engari i neke māua ki te kāinga me te kore he uaua – ka tunu kai māna, ka mahi kawhe ia māku me te aroha, ā, i muri i tō māua neke tahi ki te noho tahi, ka tautohetohe wairangi māua, kātahi ka houhia te rongo (ka mahi tahi!) mō ngā hāora.

He rerekē a Bengaluru i a Delhi

He rerekē rawa te āhua o Bengaluru i Delhi. I puta tonu mai a Infosys, Wipro, Microland i roto i ngā kōrerorero i ahau. Ehara i te whakanui rawa te kī he tauhou ahau ki te hangarau, ā, ko taku tāne te ritenga kē.

Nāna i whakahaere tana umanga tohutohu (Āe, ko au te tuatahi i roto i taku umanga katoa) khandaan ki te marena ki tētahi kaipakihi. E tino mohio ana ahau ko taku ngā tīhi a pūaha me i tino pouri ia mō tēnei bewakoof (te irāmutu o tā rātou i whiriwhiri i tētahi ehara i te mahi kāwanatanga).

I muri i tō māua noho ki tō māua kāinga tata rite ki te Zen (āe, he kāinga kāore he taonga), ka aru tonu ahau i taku tāne ki ngā wāhi katoa e haere ana ia. He pona tana engari kāore he waea i te kāinga.

Kāore au i te mahara he hononga ipurangi tā tētahi o tō mātou porowhita tata ki te kāinga i taua wā. Ahakoa āna mahi mana katoa pērā i te tuku īmēra me ngā pānui, i haere taku tāne ki tētahi whare kawhe ipurangi. He painga nui tēnei mā māua nā te mea i pai māua ki ngā whare kawhe iti ātaahua, ā, i kōrero hoki māua mō te kawhe, te marena me te aroha.

Taku kupu whakataki ki te CCD

Koia te āhua i tūtaki tuatahi ai ahau ki te Café Coffee Day i te huarahi pukumahi o Brigade Road, he whare kawhe, he whare inu ipurangi hoki. I taku hikoi atu ki te CCD, i whakaaro ahau he tino ātaahua, he huatau ake i ngā mea katoa i haere tonu ahau ki New Delhi.

He mea whakamiharo te hihiko o taua wāhi, ā, i tino pārekareka ahau ki tēnā. I tukuna mai e rātou ngā keke tino pai, ā, i ringihia hoki taku kawhe me te aroha, ā, i hurihia e tēnā te wairua kino hei wairua pai.

Ahakoa kua mārena kē māua, he ataahua te wāhi i rite ai māua ki te hunga e aroha ana i te wā taitamariki. He hononga tata te kawhe me te whakaipoipo, engari ki a māua, he kawhe me te marena. Nā te wheako katoa i taua CCD i whakanui ake i te mura o tō māua whanaungatanga.

He tino piripono, he reka hoki ngā kapu kaputino pahuka, pērā i te oranga hou i pā ki ahau. Tata ki ia rā, ka haere māua ki te CCD, ka kōrero, ka inu kawhe, ka mōhio pai ake ki a ia. Kāore he mea e rite ana ki te kawhe reka me te kōrero ki a ia. whakanuia te whanaungatanga piripono!

I CCD i whiwhi ahau i taku īmēra tuatahi

I a māua e noho tahi ana i reira, i tētahi rā ka whakatuwhera taku tāne i tētahi pūkete Hotmail i raro i tōku ingoa (me te tāpiri atu anō hoki i tōna ingoa whānau ki tōku ingoa). "He tuakiri whakahihiri," ko tana whakaaro tēnā) ahakoa kāore rawa ahau i hiahia ki te whakamahi i tōna ingoa whānau.

Pērā i tētahi wahine atawhai, i tukuna e au ngā īmēra a ētahi o aku hoa kia taea ai e ia te tuhi i tētahi reta māmā hei whakamōhio atu ki a rātou mō taku noho mariko. Nō reira, i CCD, Brigade Road, i āwhina i taku haerenga mariko, ahakoa he nui te āwhina a taku tāne.

He kawhe me te mahi whakakatakata

He aha te tikanga o te marena me te kore he ngahau, tika? Āe, ko te mea whakamere ko te mea i taea e taku tāne te whakamahi i taku kupuhipa, i tētahi ahiahi pai i a ia e haere ana ki te CCD ko ia anake, ka tuhituhi īmēra ki aku hoa (tae atu ki taku hoa aroha o mua) e kōrero ana ki a rātou mō te ataahua me te harikoa o tōku oranga marena me te tino ataahua me te aroha o taku tāne.

Ki ōku hoa me te hoa aroha, i puta mai tēnei īmēra hei ohorere (ko te hunga e mōhio pai ana ki ahau e mōhio ana ehara ahau i te tangata e whakapehapeha ana ki tētahi hoa/ipo, e wareware ana ki tētahi tāne, ki te marena rānei).

I a rātou e kai ana i te Wills Flake me te rama punch i roto i te karāhe maitai, i whakaaro tonu ēnei wairua harakore mō tēnei īmēra 'puku nui' kē nāku. Engari, i roto i tō rātou 'āhua rama-Wills-nōku', i whakapae rātou i aua 'hormone harikoa o ngā rā o te marena wawe.'

Ae, i tere tonu taku kite i tēnei mahi tinihanga a taku tāne, ā, kāore i roa ka hurihia e au taku kupuhipa. I roto i ētahi marama, ka tīmata ahau ki te mahi, ā, i te mutunga ka iti haere aku haerenga ki te CCD. Engari i hari tonu mai te CCD i te menemene ki tōku mata.

Ka noho tonu te CCD hei wāhanga o tā māua kōrero mō te marena

He kōrero ā-ringa, ā-kore hoki mō ia marena. Ko ngā mea ā-ringa, he kōrero, he maharatanga mō te harikoa, te pakanga, me te noho tahi, ka puta mai i roto i aua kōrero.

Ko ngā kōrero a ōku mātua i aro nui ki te reo irirangi Philips i hokona e rāua i te marama o Hūrae, 1969 hei whakarongo ki ngā purongo o Neil Armstrong e takahi ana i te marama, ki te pouaka whakaata Konark rānei i hokona e rāua i te tīmatanga o te tau 1985 i ētahi marama noa i muri i te noho ko Rajiv Gandhi te pirimia taitamariki o te motu, ki ngā masala dosas reka i kai tahi rāua i tētahi wharekai ahurei i Madras i taua wā.

Ki a rātou, ehara a Philips, a Alwyn, a Konark rānei i te waitohu noa iho, engari he nui atu i tērā. Ko ēnei waitohu te tohu o ō rāua oranga tahi hei tokorua rangatahi e whakatakoto ana i tā rāua haerenga me ā rāua ake rauemi.

I te taenga mai o ngā rongo mō te matenga o VG Siddhartha, ka titiro whakamuri ahau ki te Rā Kawhe me te kare hou o te kawhe me te aroha, me te makutu i tāpirihia ki tōku whanaungatanga. Kua ngaro te toa motuhake i Brigade Road i haere pinepine ai māua i a māua e tamariki ana (I kati te toa i te marama o Āperira o tēnei tau). Whai muri i te 20 tau o tōku marena, ko aua rā tuatahi o te noho hāora i CCD, kei te mau tonu te wairua hou me te harikoa o Brigade Road.

Kāore anō kia tūtaki ahau ki a Mr VG Siddhartha, heoi, i roto i ngā huarahi rerekē, ka puta mai te ahua o te ngaronga me te mamae i tōna matenga. Pērā i te ora, ka huri ngā maharatanga ā-ringa hei mea pouri. Engari he makutu anō hoki kei roto i aua maharatanga.

Kāore anō kia reka ake te kawhe. Hei tāpiri atu ki tēnā, i whakamātau mai a Siddhartha i te tikanga o te kawhe mai i aua pīni parauri i whakatipuria i te kāinga. Koinei tōna taonga tuku iho utu nui. Mōku ake nei, nā ngā kaimahi i mahi kawhe me te aroha i CCD, i tino motuhake ake ai taku marena me taku tāne.

Ngā mihi nui ki a koe, e Siddhartha… mō ngā maharatanga harikoa katoa i hangaia e tāua i ngā rā tuatahi o te kawhe me te marena, i a tāua e noho humarie ana i tō Rā Kawhe o te Wharekai. He nui te aroha i puta i te wā kawhe. Ā, kei te tipu haere tonu te aroha.

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.