I whakarērea ahau e ia mō tētahi atu kotiro, ā, inaianei e hiahia ana ia kia hoki mai ahau

Nō Ahmedabad ahau, ā, he tauira MBA ahau. Me whai tohutohu mai koe. I roto ahau i tētahi hononga ki tētahi tāne, ā, i pai ngā mea katoa. Tā māua kua roa te whanaungatanga i muri i tana neke ki Lucknow. I muri i ētahi marama, ka tīmata ia ki te kore aro mai ki ahau, ā, i taku pātai atu he aha te hē, ka āraia ahau e ia i runga i te pāpāho pāpori me tana waea. Kātahi ka kitea e au kua whakarērea ahau e ia mō tētahi atu kotiro. 

I tino pōuri ahau i te mōhio kua whakarērea ahau e taku hoa tāne mō tētahi atu kotiro. Kāore au i te mōhio me pēhea te whakahaere i ōku kare ā-roto i taua wā.

He aha tāu e taea ai ina whakarērea koe e ia mō tētahi atu wahine?

E kīia ana, ina wehe atu tetahi, tukua atu. Kāore i taea e au. I waea atu tonu ahau ki a ia, i tuku karere atu hoki, me te pātai atu mēnā he ātaahua ake te kōtiro? I aroha ia ki a ia? I aukatia rawatia ahau e ia, ā, kāore he mea i taea e au te mahi engari ko te tangi.

Kāore au i moe mō ngā marama. Nui rawa atu tōku mamae, ā, kāore au i te mōhio he aha te mea e tupu ana.

I whakarērea ahau e ia mō tētahi atu kotiro

I muri i tētahi wā, ka mōhio ahau kei roto ia i tētahi hononga ki tētahi kōtiro Muhirama e noho ana i Lucknow. I tino pōuri ahau i muri i taku mōhio ki tēnei, ā, ka waea atu ahau ki a ia kia mōhio ai he aha ia i pēnei ai ki ahau?

I whakaaro tonu ahau he nui te aroha o māua tetahi ki tetahi, ā, kāore au i te mārama he aha ia i whakarērea ai ahau. Kāore au i te tino mārama kua whakarērea ahau e ia mō tētahi atu kotiro. 

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I kōrero kino ia ki ahau

Ka tīmata ia ki te tukino i ahau, ka karanga mai he kotiro kore āhua, ā, i mea mai ia he tika tonu kia whiua ahau e ia ki tēnei momo whanonga.

I tino ohorere ahau, ā, momotu ana i te waea. Nō reira, he uaua ki te whakaae kua whakarērea ahau e ia mō tētahi atu wahine, ā, i tua atu i tēnā, ka tīmata ia ki te tukino i ahau i runga i te waea. He maha ngā rā i pau i ahau ki te ora ake i tēnei ohorere. 

E ono marama ia i hoki mai ai

I muri i ngā marama e ono, ka hoki mai ia ki ahau, ka mea mai he nui tōna hara mō tāna i mahi ai, ā, ka tono mai kia murua e au. Ā, ka mea mai ia kua oati ia kāore tēnei e tupu anō. He rite ia ki te tangata i mōhiotia e au he aroha, he manaaki, ā, i mea mai ia me wareware rawa ahau ki aua marama e ono. I te āhua nei he pono tana kōrero. 

Me hoki anō ahau ki a ia?

Tēnā koa, ārahi mai ki ahau, me aha ahau ināianei? E mōhio ana ahau kua whakarērea ahau e ia mō tētahi atu kōtiro, engari me hoatu e ahau he whai wāhitanga tuarua ki a ia? Me whakamutu rānei taku hononga ki a ia?

He aha te tikanga o te whakarērea o koe e tetahi mō tētahi atu? Me tango anō rānei e koe tētahi i muri i tana whakarērea i a koe mō tētahi atu? Ka taea e koe te muru i te hara o tētahi i whakarērea koe mō tētahi atu?

Āwhina mai kia mārama ai ahau. Kua pōhēhē rawa ahau, kāore au i te mōhio me aha ahau.

E te Kōtiro Pōhēhē,

He mea pouri rawa te pā mai o tēnei momo mamae i roto i tō whanaungatanga aroha i te wā i whakarērea ai koe e ia mō tētahi atu kōtiro. Anei ētahi tohutohu hei whakamārama i te take e pā ana ki a koe, kia mārama ai koe, kia tika ai hoki te whakatau.

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I rerekē tō whanaungatanga ki tō hoa tāne i muri i tana nekenga. Me whakapau kaha anō ngā whanaungatanga tawhiti kia mau tonu ai te hiahia.

He iti noa ngā mea i tika kia whakaarohia e koe i mua i te tīmatanga o tētahi hononga tawhitiNā te mea kei tawhiti koe, ka puta pea ngā take kāore e kitea, kāore hoki e maharahia.

He hononga tāne tōna i muri i tō tuara

Ahakoa te nui o te aroha i waenganui i te tokorua, he uaua te whakahaere i te ngaro. Ko te hunga e taka ana ki te whakamatautauranga nā te mokemoke ka uru ki ngā mahi huna.

Ka puta ngā mahi ā-wharewha i roto i ngā whanaungatanga tawhiti ā, ka rongo koe i te haunga kei te hē tetahi mea i te wā e haere ake nei, i te wā rānei e haere ake nei. Nō reira, ko te mea i tupu ki tō hoa tāne ehara i te mea kāore e pā ki ētahi atu. Nā te tata o te tinana ki te kōtiro kē i kahakina atu ia. I tana whakarērea i a koe mō tētahi atu, he mārama kāore koe i roto i tōna hinengaro i taua wā. Ki te kore, kua kore ia e kōrero.

Te pakanga kino ki tō hoa rangatira

He huarahi anō kei reira hei whakaatu i ngā mea me te wehe i te whanaungatanga. He mārama, ehara i te mea he whanoke noa iho tā tō hoa tāne, engari he kino anō hoki mō tō aroaro i roto i tōna ao. Kaua tēnei e whakahaweatia. Ko te whakaute te mea tuatahi, te mea nui hoki i roto i te whanaungatanga.

 He kēhi karepe kawa mō te hoa tāne

I te wā i kino ai te whanaungatanga ki te kōtiro kē, ka hohoro ia te hoki atu ki a koe me te murunga hara i runga i te āhua o te hara. Kia maumahara ki tana whanonga ki a koe i mua.

Kua pātai koe mēnā ka taea e koe te muru i te hara o tētahi i muri i tana noho tahi me tētahi atu. I ētahi wā, tera pea ka taea, engari i roto i tōu take, he tino nanakia ia, ā, he aha te taurangi ka pai ia ki a koe ā muri ake nei.

Ki te whakarērea koe e ia mō tētahi atu wahine, ā, ka hoki mai anō, tērā pea ka mahi anō ia i taua mea anō.

He aha tāu e hiahia ana i roto i tōu ao i tēnei wā tonu?

E hiahia ana koe ki te whakaae ki tētahi tāne kāore e aro nui ana, e whakaute ana rānei i a koe? Ka taea e koe te harikoa ki tētahi tāne pēnei? Ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ki a ia ā muri ake nei i te mea me wehe atu koe i a ia nā runga i ngā herenga mahi, i ētahi atu kawenga rānei?

Ko koe te kaiwhakawā pai rawa atu mō te āhuatanga kei mua i a koe, ā, ko te mea tonu kei roto koe i te ruarua e tohu ana kāore koe i te tino mōhio ki te tuku i a ia ki roto anō i tō ao. E mōhio ana koe ki tāu e mea ai. Kia maia, kia whiwhi i tētahi oranga hou. I ētahi wā, ina whakarērea koe e tētahi, he pai ake te tuku i a ia kia haere.

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