Ahakoa te āhua nei kei te noho tātou i tētahi ao rīperare, mātau, me te tika o te ao tōrangapū, kei te ohorere tonu ētahi āhuatanga o te ao i ngā wāhanga matatika me ngā wāhanga whakapono o te hapori – ko te takatāpui, ko te mea pea te mea tino ohorere mō te tini. Ehara i te mea ngāwari te puta atu i te rūma huna ahakoa i ngā whenua whakawhanake pērā i te USA, kua angitu ngā kaupapa takatāpui mō ngā tekau tau ki te tango i te whakama i karapoti i te takatāpui ki te nuinga.
He mea noa pea i ēnei rā ngā whakanuinga takatāpui, ngā whakanuinga o te Rā Whakaputa Whenua ā-Motu, me ngā kōrerorero auau mō ngā take o te ira tangata rerekē. Ahakoa i taua wā, he mea nui ki te mema o te hapori te tīmata ki te puta mai i te rūma huna. I te mea he mema ia nō te hunga tokoiti ira tangata, me whakaaro ia ki tōna ake āhua i te tuatahi, engari me whakaaro hoki ki ngā pānga ki te whānau, ki te hapori, ki te umanga, me ērā atu mea katoa.
Ko te take, ahakoa i tēnei wā tonu, ko te noho takatāpui, te noho takatāpui, te noho takirua rānei, ka waiho hei take whakamā (engari ehara i te mea he whakatoi noa iho) mō ētahi tāngata. Ahakoa te aha te ture, he nui ake ngā wero o ngā tikanga ahurea me ngā tikanga pāpori.
He aha te tikanga o te putanga mai i te kāpata?
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He tokomaha te hunga e whakaaro ana ki te tikanga o te kupu "putanga mai i te kāpata", e pātai ana "He aha i kiia ai ko te putanga mai i te kāpata?" Ko te tikanga me te hītori o te putanga mai i te kāpata e ahu mai ana i ngā kupu whakarite o te huna. I te reo Pākehā, ko te kupu 'huna i roto i te kāpata' 'anga i roto i te kāpata' e pā ana ki tētahi āhuatanga kei reira ētahi mea huna whakama, morearea rānei hei huna e te tangata. Engari i roto i ngā tau, kua rerekē te tikanga o te putanga mai .
Kua whakarerekētia kia whakaurua ki roto i te kōrero mō tētahi tangata LGBTQ e hiahia ana ki te whakaatu i tōna ira tangata, i tōna tuakiri ira tangata rānei ki te ao. E ai ki tētahi tuhinga i roto i te TIME Magazine, i whakamahia tuatahitia te kupu hei tohu i ngā tāngata takatāpui e whakaatu ana i tā rātou mea ngaro, ehara i te mea ki te ao whānui engari ki ētahi atu tāngata takatāpui.
I ahu mai i te ahurea iti o ngā kōtiro rangatira e whakaurua ana ki te hapori, ki ngā tāne takakau rānei e tika ana kia marenatia i te wā e eke ana rātou ki te tau e tika ana kia marenatia. I te Pakanga Tuarua o te Ao, i pērā anō ngā tāne takatāpui rangatira i ngā hui kanikani. I roto i ngā tekau tau, ka nui ake te whaiaro o te kupu katoa hei tohu kua rite te tangata LGBTQ ki te kōrero mō tōna hiahia ki te tangata e pai ana ki a ia. Nō reira, ka nui ake te whakamahinga o te kupu 'putanga mai i te rūma huna'.
Nō reira, ko te tikanga o te "putanga mai i te rūma huna" e pā ana ki te tukanga o te tangata takatāpui e whakaatu ana i tōna tuakiri ira tangata me ōna manakohanga moepuku ki ōna hoa, ki te whānau, me te ao whānui. Kia mahara ko te tukanga tonu ka tino pōrearea ngā kare ā-roto mō te tangata e pā ana ki tēnei.
Ahakoa te tino mōhio o te tangata ka manakohia ia e te hunga e whai tikanga ana ki a ia ahakoa tōna ira tangata, tōna tuakiri ira tangata rānei , tera pea ka roa tonu ngā tau ki te whakapuaki ko wai ia, ko wai hoki e arohaina ana e ia i mua i te hapori. I ētahi wā, ka māmā ake pea te whakapuaki i te tangata ki ōna hoa i mua i ōna mātua me te hapori whānui, nā te mea he nui tonu te tūponotanga ka manakohia ia i waenga i ngā tāngata whakaaro rite o te tau kotahi.
Ahakoa te whakamataku o te whakaaro kia whakapuakina ōu tuakiri, ka uaua ake te whakaatu ko wai koe ki te hunga e arohaina ana e koe, e tino hira ana hoki ki a koe. Nā te mataku hohonu kei whakahāweatia koe, kei rerekē te mahi, kei tukinotia rānei koe i te tinana me te hinengaro i ngā wā kino rawa atu.
Nō reira, ko te tikanga o te "putanga mai i te kāpata" e whai kiko ana hoki i te whakaaro ko te tangata e whakaatu ana i tōna tuakiri ki ōna hoa, ki tōna whānau, me te ao, kei te mahi pea ia i tēnā me te whakararu i tōna oranga hinengaro me tōna oranga tinana.
E whakaatu ana te hītori i ngā hua kino kua pā ki te hunga takatāpui i te ringa o te hunga whakahāwea – ko ētahi o rātou ko ō rātou ake whānau. Nō reira, ki te mea kei roto tonu koe i te rūma huna, i ngā wā katoa e whakaaro ana koe ki te oranga i muri i te putanga mai i te rūma huna, tera pea ka haere tahi mai me ngā kare ā-roto o te mataku me te wairua o te mate, inā koa mēnā nō tētahi whānau tino matatika koe.
Ahakoa rā, ko tētahi o ngā painga nui o te puta mai i te rūma kakahu ko te wairua herekore e haere tahi ana me taua mea. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te huna i a koe anō. Kia puta koe i te rūma kakahu, ka taea e koe te tīmata ki te whakapuaki i a koe anō me te huarahi e tino hiahia ai koe.
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Mō te hunga whakawhiti ira tangata, ko te tikanga pea tēnei ko te whiwhi i te herekoretanga ki te mau kākahu me te whakarerekē i ō rātou āhua kia rite ki te āhua o roto. Mena ko koe tētahi o te hunga waimarie, ā, e tautoko ana tō whānau i tō tuakiri me ō whiringa, ka taea e koe te uru atu ki ngā pokanga me ngā werohanga e hiahiatia ana e koe hei whakaata ake i tō tuakiri ira tangata.
Ko ngā painga o te puta mai i te rūma huna ko te noho tahi me ngā tāngata o tō ake hapori, me te haere ki ngā huihuinga Pride me te kore e wehi kei kitea koe e tetahi. Ka taea e koe te whakaatu i te tangata e arohaina ana e koe ki tō whānau me te kore e hiahia ki te huna. Ka ngaro whakarere te wehi me te huna i haere tahi me ō mahi katoa, me ō nekehanga katoa i a koe e huna ana i roto i te rūma huna.
Engari, ehara te oranga i muri i te putanga mai i te rūma kakahu i te whitinga o te rā, i te āniwaniwa rānei mō te katoa. Ki ētahi tāngata, he nui ake ngā pānga kino o te putanga mai i te rā i ngā painga, nā te mea ka tūpono noa te whakararuraru i ō rātou oranga mā te whakaatu ko wai rātou. Nō reira, ki te mea kei roto tonu koe i te rūma kakahu, he mea nui kia mōhio koe he pai te kore e whakahīhī, kaua e whakakake.
Ahakoa he mea whakahīhī te noho hei tangata takatāpui, he rite tonu te tika o tō oranga me ō whiringa. He maha ngā kōrero e puta mai ana i muri mai o te ao e kōrero ana mō ngā haerenga o te hunga kāore i puta mai i te rūma huna tae noa ki ō rātou tau 50, 60, tae noa ki ō rātou tau 70. Ko ētahi tāngata kāore e puta mai i ō rātou oranga katoa. He maha ngā tāngata e whakaipoipo ana i te ira tangata kē i mua i te whakapuakitanga he takatāpui rātou. Ā, he pai tēnā.
Whakapaua te wā ki te kimi i ngā wāhi e haumaru ai koe. Kātahi, ina rite koe, kōrerotia te pono, kia rongo ai koe i te taumaha o ngā tau e ara ake ana i ō pakihiwi.
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"He wheako mo te ao katoa te puta mai i te rūma huna. Ehara i te mea ka mahia kotahi noa," te kī a te YouTuber rongonui me te Vlogger a David Levitz, e whakamahi pinepine ana i ōna wheako ki te tuku tohutohu ki te hunga takatāpui e pāngia ana e ēnei raruraru.
Ahakoa kua mārama koe ki te tikanga o te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ki ō mātua, me te kore e hiahia ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ki a rātou anō, tera pea ka pāngia koe e taua raruraru i te kura tuarua, i te kāreti, i waenganui i ō hoa takatāpui, i te wāhi mahi rānei. Kaua e manukanuka ki tēnā.
Kāore e tika kia nui te raruraru (ā, ehara hoki i te mea nui). Heoi anō, he wheako takitahi ēnei, ā, he rerekē rawa te putanga mai o te kōrero mō tētahi takatāpui i tētahi atu. Kia oti i a koe tēnei, ka taea e te oranga i muri i te putanga mai i te rūma huna te noho hei wheako whakaora.
Heoi anō, he maha ngā painga o te puta mai i te rūma kakahu, mai i te noho me te aroha tuwhera ki te whiwhi i te reka tūturu o te herekoretanga - te mea i ngaro i a koe i ngā tau katoa i noho ai koe i roto i te rūma kakahu. Ki te kore, ka taea e ngā pānga kino o te puta mai te herekoretanga te whai tonu i a koe kia kitea rā anō e koe he wāhi haumaru.
Heoi anō, kia mōhio koe he ahurei tō kōrero, ā, ka whai mana tonu ahakoa pēhea, ahakoa te wā rānei e whiriwhiri ai koe ki te whakapuaki. Heoi, ki te mea kei te whakaaro koe ki te whakamātau i tēnei, ā, e hiahia ana koe ki te mōhio he aha te mea e uru atu ana koe, anei ngā mea katoa e hiahia ana koe ki te mōhio mō te whakaae ki tō ira tangata me te whakapuaki i tō tuakiri:
1. Puta mai ina rite koe
I ngā wāhanga rerekē o te puta atu i te rūma huna, koinei te ture tuatahi, te ture taketake, me te ture nui rawa atu. Me whakaaro koe ki te tango i tēnei taahiraa ina rite koe. Tuatahi, me whakaae koe ki a koe anō, kātahi ka whakarite kia whakaaetia koe e ētahi atu. Mō te tini o ngā mema LGBTQ , he wheako tino mamae pea ina mōhio rātou ki tō rātou ira tangata. Tērā pea ka puta ngā feaa, ngā wehi me ngā wero. Koinei te wā e hiahia ana koe ki te tohutohu tika, te tautoko a ngā hoa mahi me ngā kōrero pono, pono hoki.
Kia tau tō ngākau ki a koe anō, whakaritea he mahere mō te tangata e hiahia ana koe ki te whakaatu tuatahi i ngā kōrero ki a ia. Kei tō āhua ake tēnei. Mō te nuinga o te tangata, kāore e hiahiatia he 'mahere' nui. Ka taea hoki te kōrero noa i te wā e 'puta mai ana koe i te rūma kati', inā koa mēnā e mōhio ana koe he tangata atawhai, he tangata aroha hoki te kaiwhiwhi o ngā kōrero.
2. Kāore he rohe wā mō te puta mai i te rūma kakahu
Kī tonu ngā pāpāho tirohanga i ēnei rā i ngā kōrero mō te pakeketanga me te putanga mai o ngā takatāpui e whai ana i ngā uauatanga me te haerenga o ngā taiohi LGBTQIA+ me ngā takatāpui kei roto i ō rātou tau 20 e uaua ana ki te whakaae ki tō rātou ake tuakiri i mua i te whakaaro ki te whakaatu ki ō rātou hoa me te whānau.
Hei tauira , tirohia te kiriata Kirihimete rongonui, ko Happiest Season , e whakaatu ana i te tangata takatāpui, a Kristen Stewart. E kōrero ana i te pūrākau rongonui mō tētahi tangata kua roa e takaro ana i te ao e whakaari ana i a ia anō he tangata takatāpui kia manakohia ai ia e tōna whānau. He rawe te kiriata o te tau 2020 ki te whakaatu i te uaua o te pupuri i tētahi ao huna, me te whakaari i a koe anō he tangata tino rerekē, tae noa ki te huna i tō hoa rangatira kia mau tonu ai tō mea ngaro.
Ahakoa te ngana a taua kiriata me ngā pāpāho whānui ki te whakaatu i te whakaari, te whakahihiri, me te whakamataku e whakaatu ana i te pakeketanga o te hunga takatāpui, he maha ngā wā ka warewarehia te hunga kāore i puta mai i ō rātou taiohitanga, i ō rātou tau 20 me 30 rānei. Engari nā te mea kāore ngā pāpāho e whakaatu mai i a tātou e puta mai ana i muri mai i ngā kōrero o te ao, ko te tikanga kāore rātou i te noho? Ae, kei te noho tonu rātou. He tokomaha ngā tāngata kāore i te noho haumaru, i te rite rānei ki te puta mai tae noa ki muri rawa o ō rātou ao.
Kia maumahara, kāore he poma wā e tere haere ana. Kāore koe e pau i ngā hāora, i ngā meneti, i ngā tau hoki ki te kōrero ki ō hoa me tō whānau ko wai koe. Ahakoa kua whakaae koe ki a koe anō he tangata takatāpui, kaua e pēhia kia whakakitea ngā mea katoa i roto i te huarahi whakaari nui. "I ētahi wā, tera pea ka pai koe ki tō ira tangata engari kāore i ētahi atu," te kī a Levitz.
"Ki te kore koe e hiahia ki te aro atu ki ngā momo tauhohenga rerekē, kaua e ngana ki te puta mai i te rūma huna i te wā kotahi. Engari ki te pai tō whakaaro mō ngā tauhohenga a te hunga e karapoti ana i a koe, kaua e whakaaro roa. Me mahi noa," tana kī. E ai ki tā mātou, kāore e taea e te katoa te noho hei kaiwhakahē mō tētahi kaupapa. Ko te whakaae ki tō tuakiri ira tangata tētahi o ngā wāhanga matua o te puta mai i te rūma huna. Arotahi ki tēnā i te tuatahi, ā, ka tau te toenga ki tōna ake wāhi.
3. Kia tino whai kupenga haumaru koe
Ahakoa kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakanui i tō putanga mai i te kāpata, ehara i te mea kāore koe e tiaki i a koe anō me ō hiahia, inā koa ngā whakaritenga pūtea. Hei tauira, ki te mea kei te whare wānanga koe, ā, kei te whakawhirinaki tonu koe ki tō whānau mō ngā utu, whakaarohia ngā hua ka puta.
Ki te kore koe e tino mōhio ki ō rātou whakaaro mō te takatāpui, ā, e mataku ana koe kei riri rātou, he pai ake pea te whakaroa i te 'kōrero' mō ētahi tau. Ae, he mea whakarihariha tēnei nā te mea kāore koe e hiahia ki te noho i tētahi oranga takirua. Engari he pai ake te mahi pēnā. Heoi, ki te tīmata te pā ki tō hauora hinengaro, ā, ki te whakaaro koe kāore e taea e koe te tatari mō tētahi wā roa ki te kōrero ki te katoa ko wai koe, kua tae ki te wā ki te tīmata whakamahere.
Tīmata mā te whakarite mō te mea kino rawa atu. Tīmata ki te kohikohi i ō rauemi. Waiho ngā moni ki tua atu i ngā mahi wā-pōto, i te moni pēke rānei e riro mai ana i ō mātua. Puritia he putea kākahu, he mea nui, me ngā kai kore e pirau. Whakaritea he wāhi noho mōu mēnā ka peia koe. Whakapā atu ki ngā rōpū tautoko, ka kōrero atu ki a rātou mō tō āhua. Tērā pea ka taea e rātou te āwhina i a koe ki ngā moni, ki ngā rauemi rānei mēnā ka kino te āhua. Me whakamōhio atu hoki ki a rātou te wā e whakaaro ana koe ki te mahi i tēnei.
Ina tae ki te wā, ngana kia noho mai tētahi – he hoa, he tangata rānei nō tētahi rōpū tautoko – i a koe e kōrero ana ki ō mātua. He mea nui rawa tēnei ina mōhio koe kei reira ngā tūponotanga ka puta te mamae, ka arahi atu ki te tukino tinana.
He mea nui anō hoki te whakamahere pai me te waihanga i tētahi kupenga haumaru mō te hunga e haere ana ki ngā kura matatika, kei reira te tūponotanga ka tukinotia rātou. Tērā pea ka pēhia koe e tō rōpū hoa LGBTQ kia whakapuaki i tō whakaaro. Kaua e tukua ki te pēhanga a tetahi. Whakaarohia tō āhua, kia noho haumaru i te taha pūtea me te taha hinengaro, kātahi ka mahi i tāu e tika ana kia mahia.
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4. Te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ki ngā mātua
Kei a Susan Cottrell, te kaikorero o TedX, tēnei whakaaro mō tētahi o ngā wehi nui e pā ana ki te hunga LGBTQ – me pēhea te puta atu i te rūma huna ki ō mātua: "Tumanako mō te mea pai, me te whakarite mō te mea kino rawa atu". E ai ki a Susan, kua āwhina i ētahi mātua me ngā tamariki ki te whakatau i tēnei āhuatanga, he mea pai kia whai mahere.
He pai te noho rite mēnā ka hē te āhua i a koe e kōrero ana ki ō mātua. "Me whai hoa koe, me whai hoa mahi rānei. Tākaihia he putea ki ngā mea e hiahiatia ana e koe mēnā ka nekehia ohoreretia koe – ō taputapu, pepa, me ētahi atu. Hoatu he wā ki tō whānau kia whakaae," tana kī.
Ka tukatukahia e rātou ēnei mōhiotanga kia rite ki te ariā o te tika me te hē kua whakatōkia ki roto i a rātou e tō rātou ahurea me te hāhi. "Kia marino ahakoa kāore rātou, kia rite hoki ki te whakautu i ngā pātai taketake. Engari me kī atu e aroha ana koe ki a rātou, e hiahia ana hoki koe ki a rātou," tāna tāpiri. Tērā pea ka āwhina tēnei ki te whakamarie i a rātou mēnā ka piki haere tō rātou riri.
5. Kimihia tō pūnaha tautoko
Kāore he take mō tēnei ki te whakamārama. Ki te kite koe kei te pōhēhē koe mō tō tuakiri ira tangata me pēhea te whakahaere i tēnā, ko te mea tuatahi, kimihia he rōpū tautoko pai. He rau ngā whakahaere e mahi ana mō te oranga me te tautoko i te hapori LGBTQ huri noa i te ao.
Mā te rapu noa i te ipurangi ka kitea ngā ingoa o tō kawanatanga. Rapua te āwhina a tō kaiārahi kura tuarua, kāreti rānei mēnā e tika ana. Mā rātou koe e āwhina ki te mārama ki ngā āhuatanga uaua o te take, ngā āhuatanga hinengaro me te āhua tinana, me ngā mea hei whakaaroaro ina puta mai i te rūma huna.
Ko te nuinga o te hunga o te hapori LGBTQ te hunga e tino wehi ana i te noho mokemoke. Mā te whai wāhi atu ki tētahi rōpū tautoko ka taea e koe te wawahi i te huringa o te mokemoke me te pōhēhē. Ka taea hoki e rātou te ārahi i a koe ina whakaaro koe ki te whakapuaki i ō whakaaro ki ō mātua me ētahi atu mema o te whānau. Ka tūtaki hoki koe ki ngā tāngata whakaaro rite, hei āwhina i a koe ki te hono atu ki a koe anō.
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6. Te whakamahi i ngā pāpāho pāpori hei whakaputa i ō whakaaro
He raruraru tēnei i ētahi wā – me whakamahi koe i te pāpāho pāpori hei whakaputa i ō whakaaro? Kāore pea. I ētahi wā, mā te whakamahi i te pāpāho pāpori koe e whakakaha ina whakatau koe ki te whakapuaki i tō kōrero ki te ao. He tino kukume mai i ngā kanohi te pou FB kare ā-roto, te kōrero whakaari rānei i runga i te Twitter, engari ka taea hoki te whakaputa i ngā tauhohenga tino kino.
I runga i ngā kōrero pai ake mō ngā take LGBTQ, tera pea ka nui te tautoko a te tangata i a koe, ā, ka whai māia pea koe ki te kōrero ki tō whānau mēnā ko tō āwangawanga nui ko te pēhea te whakapuaki i tō whakaaro ki ō mātua.
Heoi anō, tera pea ka pā kino ki tētahi atu tangata – hoa, whānau rānei. Kua maioha ia mēnā i kōrerotia e koe ki a ia. Ahakoa te mea nui o ō kare ā-roto, kia mahara me whai whakaaro koe ki ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata e whakaatu ana koe i tētahi wāhanga hohonu o koe anō hoki.
7. Te haere atu ki tō kaituku mahi
Ki te mea kei te puta mai koe i te rūma huna i te wā kua tīmata koe ki te mahi ngaio, ka pā pea ki tō oranga mahi. I te tīmatanga, tera pea ka noho pōuri koe, ina koa ka mutu te kōrero a ō hoa mahi mō ngā wāhine, ngā hoa wahine, me te kōrero noa 'tāne ki te tāne' 'wahine ki te wahine' rānei.
Engari kia whakatau koe ki te whakaatu i tōu aronga, kāore e roa ka mōhio tō tari. Tuatahi, kimihia mēnā he tiaki kei a koe hei kaimahi ina puta mai koe i te rūma huna. Kia hoa ki te hunga e aroha ana, e kore hoki e whakahāwea.
Tērā pea ka āwhina tēnei i a koe ki te kohi tautoko ina puta te pono. Tērā pea ka mutu, kāore rānei, ngā kōrero pakiwaitara, ka whakawhirinaki katoa ki te ahurea o tō wāhi mahi me te āhua o te umanga. Ahakoa he auaha, he tino mōhio ki te hangarau, he pai ake te noho tahi o ngā wāhi mahi hou ki te hunga LGBTQ i ngā whare wānanga tuku iho.
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8. Te whaki i ō hara ki tō hoa rangatira
He tokomaha te hunga ka mutu ka mahi i tētahi mea kāore i tika – ka moe tāne, ka huna i te meka he takatāpui rātou. Tērā pea ka tupu tēnei i roto i ngā whānau Karaitiana tino matatika e whakahē ana i te takatāpui, ā, kāore he māia o te tangata ki te takahi i ngā tikanga.
Engari i muri i ngā tau maha o te noho i te ao takirua, ina puta atu koe i te rūma huna ki tō hoa , me ata whakahaere koe i te āhuatanga. Kaua e wareware ki te ngākau aroha o te whanaungatanga marena. E kore e tino ngāwari, ā, kāore e taea te kī me pēhea te tauhohe a tō tāne, a tō wahine rānei.
Tērā pea ka whakaae ētahi o ngā hoa rangatira ki te noho tonu i roto i te marena mō ngā tamariki, ki te pupuri rānei i te āhua huna i roto i te hapori. Engari kāore ngā mea e rite tonu. He pai ake te rapu awhina i tētahi kaitohutohu, i tētahi tākuta rānei i mua i tō whakapuakitanga i tēnei momo hara, nā te mea me āwhina tō hoa rangatira ki te whakahaere i tēnei.
9. Kia mōhio koe ki ō tika
Kāore anō kia mutu te kaupapa mō ngā tika o te hunga takatāpui. Tērā pea ko koe tētahi o ngā mema waimarie o te hapori LGBTQ kāore e hiahia ki te huna i tōna tuakiri, kāore rānei i pāngia e ngā raruraru maha nā tō rātou ira tangata. Tērā pea, he rerekē te āhua.
Ahakoa pēhea, me whakamōhio koe ki ō tika katoa hei hunga tokoiti ira tangata. Ahakoa he pai te ture, kāore pea te hapori, te hāhi rānei e pai. Kāore koe e tika kia whakahāweatia. Nō reira, kia mōhio ki ngā mea katoa e tū ana i te ao i tēnei horopaki.
Ina mōhio koe ki ō tika, ka māmā ake te puta atu i te rūma huna, nā te mea ka iti ake te tūponotanga o te whakatoi mai i tētahi taha. Ka tiakina koe e te ture me te pūtea mai i ngā raruraru ka pā mai ki a koe mai i te hunga whakahāwea i te hunga takatāpui. Mā te mōhiohio koe e māia ai.
Me aha koe ina he te putanga mai?
Ahakoa ngā tohutohu katoa kua hoatu i runga ake nei, ko te pono he wheako takitahi te puta mai i te rūma kakahu. Kāore he huarahi tika, he wā tika rānei hei mahi i tēnā. Ā, tera pea ka hē ngā mea katoa. Kāore pea tō whānau, ō mātua, ō hoa, tō wāhi mahi rānei i te tauhohenga i tumanakohia e koe.
Nā konei me whai iwi koe. I ētahi wā ka huri te rōpū tautoko hei whānau kāore i a koe. Kia arotahi ki a koe anō, kia tū motuhake, kia mōhio ki a koe anō. Kāore pea e tangohia katoatia ngā raruraru, ngā raruraru rānei, engari i te iti rawa ka pai ake tō pūkenga ki te whakahaere i aua raruraru.
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