Kugonana mu nthano kumatanthauzira kosiyana m'zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana. Chikondi ndi zilakolako zilipo m'zikhalidwe zonse. Ngakhale nthano zachi India ndi zachi Greek zimayang'ana kugonana m'njira zosiyanasiyana mbiri yachikhristu ndi Chisilamu imakhala ndi zosiyana. Tinafunsa wolemba komanso womasulira wodziwa za nthano, Devdutt Pattanaik mafunso athu ndipo adawayankha.
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Kodi ndizosiyana bwanji kapena zofanana ndi chithandizo cha kugonana mu nthano zamitundu yosiyanasiyana ndi makontinenti?
Kugonana ndi tchimo mu nthano zachikhristu. Mu nthano zachisilamu, paradiso (Jannat) ali ndi lonjezo la noor ndi hoor, zolengedwa zokongola ngati nymph. Onse sagwirizana ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Sodomu ndi Gomora anawonongedwa ndi Yehova, Mulungu wa Abrahamu, chifukwa cha chisembwere.
Anthu amaganiza kuti chiwerewere ichi ndi kugonana kwa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, koma mukamawerenga kumasulira koyambirira palibe chinthu choterocho: zimangotanthauza kumasuka ndi alendo omwe afunafuna malo ogona, motero akuphwanya malamulo ochereza alendo. Ngati tifufuza mbiri yachidule ya kugonana ndi kugonana mu nthano tidzawona nthawi zina kutanthauzira kuli kolakwika.
Onse awiri sakuwoneka kuti akukhumudwa ndi nkhani zakugonana za Loti (Lut mu nthano zachisilamu).
Mu nthano zachi Greek, timapeza Zeus akukakamiza nymphs zosiyanasiyana kuti agone naye. Komabe, milungu yaikazi yambiri monga Athena ndi Artemi, yodziŵika ndi luso ndi nzeru, imasankha kukhala anamwali.
Ndi kufanana kotani komwe mungapange pakati pa akazi a nthano za ku India ndi Agiriki?
Izi ndi nthano zosiyana kwambiri. Zonse ziwiri zimatchula milungu yambiri koma nthano zachi Greek zimakhulupirira moyo umodzi ndipo milungu imaopa anthu pomwe nthano zachi Hindu zimakhulupirira miyoyo yambiri ndipo milungu siopa anthu. Alcemene ananyengedwa ndi Zeus kuti agone naye pamene anatenga mawonekedwe a mwamuna wake, monga momwe Indra amachitira kuti agone ndi Ahalya, koma pankhani ya Alcemene, iye sadziwa za chinyengocho ndipo anakhala mayi wa Hercules, pomwe Ahalya analangidwa chifukwa cha 'cholakwa' ichi ndipo anasanduka mwala. Helen anathawa ndi Paris. Sita anabedwa ndi Ravana. M'zochitika zonsezi, amuna amapita kunkhondo ndi olanda. Chifukwa chake pali kufanana kwakukulu koma pali kusiyana kwakukulu.
Ndemanga pa ubale/equation pakati pa Krishna, Arjuna ndi Panchali.
Tikudabwa chifukwa chake Krishna sanachite nawo swayamvara ya Draupadi . Tikufuna kuti akhale abale ndi alongo, pofotokoza izi. Mwina chifukwa chakuti anakana Karna (woyendetsa magaleta) ndipo potero anachotsa mbusa wa ng'ombe (Krishna) ndipo pamapeto pake analandira ma Brahmin asanu omwe anakhala ankhondo asanu. Mwina anazindikira kulakwitsa kwake mtsogolo. Tingoganizira chabe. Anakana Karna, ndipo Karna anamuvulaza. Krishna anakana Draupadi, koma anamuteteza.
Draupadi adasankha Arjuna, koma adalephera kumuteteza.
Maganizo anu ndi otani pa amuna ndi akazi mu nthano zathu komanso mbiri yoyendetsa mitala? Kodi analekanitsa bwanji chikondi chawo kwa okwatirana awo osiyanasiyana?
M'chilengedwe, nyama zimakhala ndi mitundu yonse ya maubwenzi ogonana: swans ndi mitala, anyani ali ndi mitala, tizilombo tochuluka timadya okondedwa awo, akavalo am'nyanja ndi ma penguin amuna amasamalira mwanayo, mbalame zimamanga zisa pamodzi, ndipo mikango imakhala ndi akazi ndipo imasiya kulera ana kwa akazi. Mitundu yopitilira 1000 ya nyama imawonetsa machitidwe a amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Anthu amasankha zimene akufuna. Zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana zimalemekeza makhalidwe osiyanasiyana ogonana, kulumikiza ku katundu ndi cholowa kudzera mu lingaliro la ukwati. Chikondi chimafota ndi kuchepa, chilakolako chogonana chimatha ndipo chimachepa, mgwirizano umayamba kuchepa: timavutika kuti tigwirizane zonse zitatu.
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Sankhani zomwe mumakonda mu nthano
a. Banja lomwe mwalingaliro lanu limakhala ndi ubale wabwino m'mbali zambiri / amapangidwira wina ndi mnzake m'njira yowona. (Zoyera za 36 gunas/makhalidwe ofanana.)
i) Sita ndi Ram - Sita amamvetsetsa kuti Ram wagwidwa m'dziko la malamulo (maryada) ndipo sayesa kumusintha.
ii) Penelope ndi Odysseus - Penelope akudikirira moleza mtima zaka 20 kuti mwamuna wake Odysseus abwerere kuchokera ku Trojan War ndipo Odysseus amalimbana ndi zopinga zonse ndi mayesero kuti akhale naye.
b. Mkazi yemwe ali wamphamvu, wodziimira payekha komanso wowona wapamwamba kwambiri
Damayanti wa Nala-Damayanti - Nala akugwera mwatsoka, ataya chikhulupiriro mwa iye yekha, koma Damayanti amaima pambali pake, amamuthandiza ngakhale atamusiya mwamanyazi.
Ndemanga pa maudindo a amuna ndi akazi ndi zochitika m'malemba athu akale
M’nthano zachihindu, ndimapeza akazi odziimira okha. Apsaras amangoponya ana awo pansi pa nkhalango ndikupita kumwamba. Akazi amathamangira amuna omwe amawazunza, kotero Lakshmi akutuluka ku Vaikuntha, Shakti amachoka ku Kailasa ndikupita kwa Deodar vana, onse amadikirira kuti amuna awo awaletse kuti abwerere. Ndiyeno pali akazi oyera amene amangofuna amuna awo n’kumakana kukopeka ndi amuna ena. Mitundu yonse ilipo.
Maubwenzi amasintha/amalepheretsa/amalola munthu kuphuka. Iwo akhoza kukupangani kapena kukuphwanyani inu…
a. Lakshmana ndi Urmila asanapite kunkhalango.
Urmila: 'Mu kusungulumwa kwanu, musaiwale kuti inenso ndili ndekha.'
Lakshman: 'Ndimayendayenda m'nkhalango ndikuganiza za inu. Inu khalani m’nyumba yachifumu ndi kuyendayenda m’maganizo mwanu ndi ine.
b. Ubale wa Menaka ndi Vishwamitra ndi wotentha komanso wozizira
Menaka: 'Kulamulira kwachuluka. osakaniza.'
Vishwamitra: 'Ndinagonjetsa maufumu. Inenso ndidzakugonjetsani.'
Menaka: 'Ndikangodzipereka, umaluza.'
c. Zaka za Rama ndi Sita m'nkhalango komanso pambuyo pake
Ram: 'Zolengedwa za m'nkhalango zinakwerana pamaso panu. Ravana anayesa kukunyengererani. Munakana bwanji?'
Sita: 'Ndinaganiza za kukongola kwako. Chotero ndinayembekezera moleza mtima zabwino zimene zinali zanga kale.'
M'buku lanu Shiva kupita ku Shankara mudakambirana za Ambuye Shiva za mulungu wakunja, wonyinyirika muukwati koma woimiridwa ndi chizindikiro cha phallic, modabwitsa ndi dziko lomwe silimamasuka ndi kugonana ...
Mu chikhristu, Mulungu amayandikira kudzera mu chida cha mazunzo, mtanda. Chipulumutso chimafunidwa mwa kulambira mtembo wakufa wa mwana wa Mulungu. Zizindikiro sizimatsatira malingaliro osavuta ndipo siziyenera kutengedwa momwe zilili. Komabe timatero chifukwa malingaliro athu amatsutsana ndi fanizo ndipo timapeza chitonthozo mu zenizeni.
Shiva-linga amagwiritsa ntchito mafanizo okhudzana ndi kugonana pofuna kufotokoza kunyenga kwa Mulungu yemwe safuna kuchita nawo dziko lapansi, akufotokozedwa mofotokozera kuti sakufuna kukwatira kapena kugonana.
Izi zimatsutsa lingaliro la amonke achi Buddha omwe amapembedza ma stupas a 'phallic' okhala ndi zotsalira za mphunzitsi wakufa.
M'mawu anuanu, Kama amayenda padziko lonse lapansi akuponya mivi yachikhumbo mopanda kusamala. Kodi nchiyani kwenikweni chimene chimachititsa munthu kukondana? Kodi kwenikweni anthu amakhala ndi mkazi mmodzi?
Tiyenera kusiyanitsa chikhumbo cha thupi chomwe chimatsogolera ku kugonana kwakukulu, kugwirizana kwaluntha komwe kumabweretsa kukambirana kwakukulu ndi chitonthozo chamaganizo chomwe chimatsogolera ku chitetezo. Titha kupeza zofanana mwa anthu atatu osiyana, kapena mwa m'modzi. Chikalowa chimodzi, timachitcha chikondi. Kama amayang'ana pa choyamba (chilakolako), chomwe sitingathe kuchilamulira. Zimangochitika. Simungathe kudzikakamiza kukhumbira.
Chikondi ndi pamene timasangalala kukwaniritsa zosowa ndi zofuna za mnzathuyo, kupangitsa winayo kudzimva kuti ndi wotetezeka, komanso osadzimva kukhala masuku pamutu pamene tikuchita zimenezo.
Chotero chikondi sichimangokhala chinthu chosazindikira monga chikhumbo; ilinso ndi nzeru yozindikira njira yosamalira.
Ndimakonda kukhala ndekha kusiyana ndi kucheza ndi munthu amene angandipweteke
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