Kodi Tanthauzo Lauzimu Lokhala ndi Pakati M'maloto Ndi Chiyani? 7 Mafotokozedwe Otheka

Mukukwera pamwamba pamakwerero amakampani, ndipo pamapeto pake mumapezanso maziko pa ubale wanu. Zikumveka ngati mabomba osawoneka m'moyo wanu afalikira. Pakati pa zonsezi, mwadzidzidzi usiku wina muli ndi maloto kuti muli ndi pakati. Ali ndi pakati? Tsopano? Koma sizomwe mwakhala mukuzilakalaka. Mumadzuka ndi mafunso ndi nkhawa. Mukudabwa ngati zizindikirozo ndi zenizeni kapena ngati pali tanthauzo lina lauzimu lokhala ndi pakati m'maloto.

Werengani kuti mumvetsetse zomwe maloto oterowo ali ndi pakati amatanthauza ndikuyang'ana mafotokozedwe auzimu a maloto oterowo. M'nkhaniyi, Swaty Prakash, mphunzitsi wolankhulana yemwe ali ndi satifiketi ya Kuwongolera Maganizo mu Nthawi Zosatsimikizika ndi Kupsinjika Maganizo kuchokera ku Yunivesite ya Yale ndi Diploma ya PG mu Uphungu ndi Chithandizo cha Banja, amathetsa tanthauzo la maloto apakati ndikukambirana tanthauzo lodziwika bwino la maloto oterowo komanso tanthauzo lakuya lauzimu la kukhala ndi pakati m'maloto.

Kodi Maloto Oyembekezera Amakhala Ofala Motani?

Amayi oyembekezera nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi maloto omwe amakhudza ana obadwa kumene, zowawa za pobereka, ngakhale matenda am'mawa. Ndizomveka chifukwa cha nkhawa komanso kuphana kwa kusatsimikizika komwe kumabwera chifukwa chokhala ndi pakati. M'miyezi isanu ndi inayi iyi, nthawi zogona nazonso sizimatheka. Maloto openga omwe ali ndi pakati nthawi zambiri amakhala nthawi yayitali yogona pa nthawi yapakati.

Komabe, maloto a mimba samangoperekedwa kwa amayi apakati okha. Azimayi ambiri omwe saganizira n’komwe za kukhala ndi pakati akamadzuka, kapenanso kukhala ndi chibadwa chobisika chaumayi angakhale ndi maloto otere. Iwo angadabwe ngati kukakamiza anthu kutenga mimba ikusewera m'malingaliro anu, kapena ndi zina?

\Sikuti maloto onse oyembekezera ali ndi pakati. M’malo mwake, maloto a mimba sali olekezera kwa akazi, ali ofala pakati pa anthu amitundu yonse, ndipo ali ndi matanthauzo angapo a m’Baibulo, amene palibe amene amagwirizana kwenikweni ndi mimba.

Izi ndichifukwa choti maloto amatha kukhala njira yomwe ubongo wanu umagwirira ntchito ndikuwongolera malingaliro, kapena chizindikiro cha kupsinjika. Kotero, pamene maloto a mimba angatanthauze kuti muli ndi pakati, sizomwe zimatanthawuza. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zikwi zambiri zomwe anthu amalota. Ikhoza kukhala chizindikiro chabwino, koma ikhoza kukhala chizindikiro cha nkhawa ndi kupsinjika maganizo. Koma tisanafufuze mozama za mbali yauzimu kapena tanthauzo la m’Baibulo la maloto oterowo, tiyeni timve mafotokozedwe ena otchuka okhudza chifukwa chimene timalota.

• Kuyambira kugalamuka mpaka kulota: Research imagwirizana ndi Continuity hypothesis, yomwe imakhulupirira kuti zomwe timachita m'maola athu odzuka zimapitilira m'maloto athu.
•  Kuwongolera maganizo: Akatswiri ena amakhulupirira kuti maloto athu ndi njira ya ubongo yowongolera malingaliro ndi kutithandiza kupeza mayankho ndi malingaliro atsopano.
•  Ikubwerezanso zochitika zenizeni: Amakhulupiliranso kuti nthawi zina anthu amalota kubwereza nthawi yakudzuka kuti apange kukumbukira bwino komanso kulimbitsa kupezeka kwawo m'miyoyo yathu.
•  Mgwirizano waulere: Sigmond Freud ankakhulupirira kuti mosasamala kanthu za momwe maloto anu alili odabwitsa, nthawi zonse amatanthauza chinachake. Kutha kukhala kukhumudwa kapena chowonadi ngakhale malingaliro anu osadziwa sadziwa

Choncho, akatswiri a maloto amakhulupirira kuti pali zambiri zomwe zimachitika mukakhala ndi maloto openga a mimba chifukwa chodabwitsa monga momwe malotowo amamvekera, pali kugwirizana kwakukulu pakati pa maloto ndi mimba. Nthawi zambiri malingaliro osazindikira amayesa kutiuza za kuyang'ana komanso nkhawa kudzera m'maloto okhudza momwe moyo wachilengedwe umakhalira. Ikhoza kukhala chizindikiro chabwino kapena chenjezo, koma maloto nthawi zonse amayesa kutifotokozera zinazake.

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5 Maloto Ambiri Omwe Amakhala ndi Mimba

M'dziko lenileni, mimba ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri pa moyo wa munthu. Monga Lauri Loewenberg, katswiri wa maloto wovomerezeka ndi wolemba, akuti, "M'moyo weniweni, pamene thupi liri ndi pakati, likugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti likule, kumanga ndi kupanga moyo watsopano umene uli wamtengo wapatali komanso wodzaza ndi zotheka.

Choncho, ngakhale kafukufuku amanena kuti amayi apakati amakhala ndi maloto okhudza mimba, ngakhale amayi omwe alibe mimba anali ndi maloto ofanana, ngakhale ali ndi matanthauzo osiyanasiyana.

Kotero mukhoza kufunsa, "Kodi maloto a mimba amatanthauza chiyani?" Chabwino, maloto onse otere apakati omwe amayimira nthawi iliyonse kapena chochitika kuyambira pa kubadwa mpaka kukhala ndi mwana ndi maloto apakati. Nawa maloto asanu omwe ali ndi pakati omwe anthu amakhala nawo.

1. Kulota zoyezetsa mimba

Maloto omwe ali ndi mimba wamba, mukakhala ndi maloto omveka bwino oyezetsa mimba, akhoza kukhala chiwonetsero cha chikhumbo chanu chamkati chokhala ndi pakati kapena kuyambitsa banja m'moyo weniweni. Kodi mumalakalaka kukhala kholo kapena mukufunitsitsa kukhala ndi mwana? Chabwino, ngati yankho liri inde, ndiye kuti mwachiwonekere, maloto okhudza kuyezetsa mimba ndikungowonetsera momwe mukumvera.

Komabe, ngati ngakhale m'zigawo zozama kwambiri za chidziwitso chanu, mimba siiliza belu, maloto a mimba kapena zizindikiro za mimba zikhoza kutanthauza chinthu china. Zitha kutanthauza kuti mufunika chida chatsopano kuti muwongolere luso lanu.

• Kuyezetsa mimba kwabwino kungatanthauze kuti mukuyamba ntchito yatsopano kapena lingaliro latsopano lomwe limafuna chisamaliro chanu. Zingatanthauzenso kuti ndinu kuyamba ubale watsopano. Ngati mukumva chimwemwe mukulota, zikutanthauza kuti gawo latsopanoli ndi chinthu chomwe chingabweretse moyo watsopano
•  Kuyezetsa mimba kolakwika kungatanthauzenso udindo watsopano koma zotsatira zake zingakhale zowonjezera zolepheretsa kuti mutenge udindo watsopano.
•   Mimba yosakonzekera, kusintha kosasinthika kwa thupi, kapena zizindikiro za mimba monga nseru ndi matenda am'mawa zingatanthauzenso kuti MUSAFUNE kutenga pakati pakali pano. Tanthauzo lauzimu la kukhala ndi pakati m'maloto ndi tsatanetsatane wotero lingatanthauze kuti kuopa udindo kukuchititsani nkhawa, kapena kungakhale chikumbutso kuti nthawi zambiri mumatha. odziwononga okha.

2. Maloto obereka nyama

Kwa ambiri aife, choyandikira kwambiri kukhala ndi mwana ndicho kukhala ndi chiweto. Koma yerekezerani kulota mukubala nyama. Oyembekezera kapena ayi, amakhala ngati maloto odabwitsa mumtanthauzira mawu wamunthu.

Kimberly, wazaka 43, atauza Lauri za maloto ake, anali wopenga. Iye anati, "Ndinalota usiku watha ndili mu zowawa ndipo ndinapeza kuti ndinali pafupi kubereka mwana wamphongo! Mnzanga wapamtima anali atakhala mu chipinda chagalasi kuti andithandize ndipo mayi anali kunena kuti nthawi yakwana yobereka ndiye ndinadzuka."

Katswiri wa maloto adathyola ndikumuuza kuti zikutanthauza kuti ntchito iliyonse yolenga yomwe akugwira ntchito iyenera kukhala pagulu tsopano. "Nthawi yobereka, msungwana!" adatero. Kavalo wa m'nyanja, adalongosola, amatanthauza kutulutsa malingaliro kapena kulenga monga momwe nyanja yam'madzi ilili cholengedwa chamadzi, ndipo madzi amatanthauza kulenga ndi malingaliro.

Nthawi zina, anthu amalota akubereka amphaka, anyani, tiana, ngakhalenso alendo! Nyama iliyonse imayimira chosiyana, koma maloto odabwitsa otere omwe ali ndi pakati nthawi zambiri amakuuzani za kulenga komwe muli nawo, komanso nkhawa yomwe mungakhale nayo chifukwa chake, atero akatswiri ofufuza maloto.

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3. Maloto obereka mwana wowoneka modabwitsa… kapena chilombo

Pali mbali imodzi yosangalatsa kwambiri ya maloto. Ngakhale takambirana kale momwe iwo sangatengedwe zenizeni nthawi zonse ndipo angakhale ndi tanthauzo lamaganizo, lina ndiloti iwo sali momwe amawonekera.

Mwachidule, ngati munabala mwana wooneka modabwitsa kapena chilombo m’maloto anu, sizikutanthauza kuti chinachake choyipa chikudikira kwa inu. Mosiyana ndi zimenezo, akatswiri a maloto amanena kuti zingatanthauze kuti mukuchita chinachake chomwe sichikusangalatsani. Mwachitsanzo, ngati muli mu introvert yemwe wangolowa kumene patsamba la zibwenzi, nkhawa ingakhale ikusewera, komanso chifukwa cha malotowa. Kukhala pachibwenzi komanso nkhawa zokhudzana ndi anthu si mabwanawe abwino kwambiri, mwawona!

4. Muli ndi mapasa kapena atatu

Tsopano izo zikhoza kukhala zovuta kwa munthu amene sakukonzekera n'komwe kutenga mimba! Maloto omwe mumabereka ana amapasa kapena atatu angatanthauze kuti m'moyo weniweni mukuchita zambiri kuposa momwe mungathere. Pali tanthauzo lauzimu la kukhala ndi pakati pa mapasa m’maloto koma tidzakambirana m’gawo lina.

Pakadali pano, ngati malotowo ndi okhudza mapasa odwala kapena ovulala, nthawi zambiri amakhala chiwonetsero cha nkhawa kapena nkhawa zomwe mukumva mukamadzuka. Mwinamwake, muli paubwenzi watsopano, kapena ntchito ndipo mukuwopa kuti simungathe kupirira, kapena kuti mukhoza kulephera.

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5. Kulota uli ndi pakati pa mwana wa ex

Mnzanga Natasha anada nkhawa kwambiri atalota ali ndi pakati pa mwana wa ex wake. Funso lake loyamba linali, “Kodi Ndimamukondabe? Kodi ndi chizindikiro choipa cha ubale wanga watsopano?"

Chabwino, osati kwenikweni!

Kulota kuti uli ndi pakati ndi munthu amene kulibe m’moyo mwako kungamveke ngati kudzuka kovutirapo. Ndipo zowona, zikumveka ngati maloto odabwitsa omwe ali ndi pakati. Koma ndi maloto ena omwe amayi ambiri amakhala nawo omwe ali ndi pakati. Maloto openga awa sakutanthauza kuti mwabisa, kubisa malingaliro anu akale. Akatswiri a maloto amanena kuti maloto oterowo ali ndi pakati amatanthauza zosiyana kwenikweni.

Zikutanthauza kuti mukutembenuza tsamba latsopano ndipo ubale wakale wakupatsani chidziwitso chatsopano cha moyo watsopano womwe uli patsogolo panu. Chifukwa chake, musade nkhawa ndikulota!

Kodi Tanthauzo Lauzimu Lokhala ndi Pakati M'maloto Ndi Chiyani? 7 Mafotokozedwe Otheka

Takambirana mpaka pano tanthauzo lenileni la maloto okhudza mimba, koma pali mbali ina ya dziko la maloto yomwe ili yabwino kwambiri. Maloto amatitengera komwe sitikadapondapo m'moyo wathu wodzuka. Nthawi zambiri, maloto athu amagwera m'mipangidwe yomwe sitingathe kufikako yamkati mwathu, yomwe nthawi zambiri timaphonya tikamapita ku moyo.

Ndiuzeni moona mtima. Ndi angati aife omwe ali ndi nthawi, kuleza mtima, kapena kuya kwa kupuma ndi kukhala ogwirizana ndi umunthu wathu wauzimu? Ndi angati aife omwe angalole mzimu kuti ulankhule, pomwe kudzikonda kowoneka bwino kumatengera kumbuyo? Ndi angati aife amene angathe kusinkhasinkha koma osagona kwenikweni? Osati ambiri, ndikuwopa.

Chotero maloto ndi njira yabwino koposa, kwa ife, anthu wamba, kukumana maso ndi maso ndi uzimu wathu. Maloto ndi mimba zimakhala ndi chiyanjano chachilendo chauzimu. Chifukwa maloto ndi mazenera amkati mwathu omwe nthawi zambiri sitidziwika, amakhalanso m'njira yathu yauzimu komanso mapu a moyo watsopano. Tiyeni tione tanthauzo lauzimu la munthu amene ali ndi pakati m’maloto.

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1. Mwakonzeka kukhala gawo la chinthu chachikulu, chokulirapo

Mimba imapangitsa mkazi kukhala ndi chilengedwe, ndipo ukazi wake umatenga mawonekedwe omveka bwino. Mayi woyembekezera amawala ndi chikondi cha amayi mkati mwake ndipo amasangalala ndi nkhawa zina komanso kulimba mtima kuti asinthe mwa iye.
Limodzi mwa matanthauzo auzimu otchuka akukhala ndi pakati mmaloto ndikuti umunthu wanu wamkati tsopano wakonzeka kuyamba ulendo wozama kwambiri wauzimu. Maloto otere si maloto openga, koma tanthauzo la m'Baibulo la maloto oterowo ndikuti umunthu wanu wauzimu ukukutsogolerani ndipo mwina kukupatsani mphamvu kuti mutenge sitepe yoyamba paulendowu. Inde, zitha kutanthauza kuti mwakonzekera a ubale wauzimu ndi munthu, ndipo m’chifaniziro chonse, kuti winawake ndi inu.

2. Mukufuna kusintha dzina lanu

Mimba ndi njira yachangu kwambiri yomwe kudziwika kwa mkazi kumasinthidwa mozama kwambiri. Kuyambira pomwe mkazi adazindikira kuti ali ndi pakati, amakhala mayi. Tanthauzo lina la uzimu la kukhala ndi pakati m'maloto ndikuti mukufuna kuchoka mu nkhungu kapena umunthu wanu ndikutenga chidziwitso chatsopano, chabwinoko. Mwauzimu, zitha kutanthauza kuti mukukakamira m'moyo wanu, udindo wanu, kapena mbiri yanu, kumverera kuti watsekeredwa muubwenzi, ndipo akukonzekera machiritso atsopano m'moyo.

3. Mwana wanu wamkati akufuna chidwi

Kufotokozera kumeneku komwe kuli tanthauzo lauzimu la kukhala ndi pakati m'maloto kungamveke ngati kovuta poyambira. Ndiye ndikugawireni inu. Mimba si kubadwa kwa mwana, komanso kubadwa kwa mayi. Mayi woyembekezera, kuyambira pomwe adazindikira kusintha kwatsopano kumeneku mwa iye, amakhala wolera komanso woteteza mwana wake.

M'moyo wathu watsiku ndi tsiku, wosokonezedwa ndi maudindo ndi ziyembekezo, nthawi zambiri timayiwala kutengera mwana wamkati yemwe amakhala mkati mwathu. Timakula ndipo nthawi zambiri timakula kuchoka mu ubale umene tili nawo ndi mwana wathu wamkati. Koma pamene munthu weniweni, wovutitsidwayu akumva kuti waphimbidwa ndikunyalanyazidwa, zimafikira kwa ife kudzera m'maloto athu.

Ndicho chifukwa chake kukhala ndi pakati m'maloto kungatanthauze kuti mwana wanu wamkati akufuna kuti mukhale wolera ndi woteteza. Ndi kuitana kwauzimu kusuntha mkati ndikuyamba kulabadira zamkati zomwe zimalakalaka chidwi chanu. Nthawi zambiri anthu akamachita zinthu kapena kukhala ndi moyo womwe umawasokoneza, amatha kukhala ndi maloto oterowo.

Nthawi zina, timakopeka ndi munthu wina ngakhale tili paubwenzi wosangalala. Maloto oterowo angakhale njira ya chidziwitso chanu kuzindikira soulmate mphamvu mwa munthu wina uyu.

4. Njira yakutsogolo si yopapatiza

Mukhululukireni kasewero ka mawu apa koma tanthauzo lina n’lakuti kulota mwana kugunda kumatanthauza kuti tsogolo limene mukulida nkhawa nalo mwina silikhala lovuta monga momwe mukuyembekezera. Ngati mumalota mukugwira ntchito yosapweteka, tanthauzo lake lauzimu ndilakuti chipwirikiti ndi masautso onse omwe mukukumana nawo pakali pano ndi akanthawi.

Yang'anani chithunzi chachikulu ndikupumiramo. Zonse zimatenga nthawi kuti muzindikire zenizeni zanu ndikutha kuzindikira umunthu wanu wamkati. Tanthauzo la m’Baibulo la loto limeneli lingakhale lakuti “Khalanibe, ndipo lota pamene moyo udzakhala posachedwapa.”

Panthawiyi, tanthauzo la uzimu la kukhala ndi pakati pa mapasa m'maloto likhoza kukhala kuti malingaliro anu akugwedezeka pakati pa zinthu zambiri kapena mumang'ambika pakati pa njira zambiri. Loto lokhala ndi mapasa ndi malingaliro anu osazindikira akukuchenjezani za chisokonezo chanu komanso momwe mukumvera.

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5. Inu ndinu Mlengi wa zomwe zili m’tsogolo

Uku ndi kulongosola koonekeratu, sichoncho? Kulota kukhala ndi pakati ndi chikumbutso chakuti inu ndi inu nokha muli ndi udindo pa zomwe zimabala moyo wanu. Ngati mumalota kubereka mwana wonyansa, tanthauzo lauzimu la izi likhoza kukhala kuti zomwe mukugonja pakudzuka moyo ndizo chilengedwe chanu.

Inde, ngati mukukumana ndi zovuta m'maubwenzi anu, malotowo akhoza kukhala momwe umunthu wanu wamkati umakuwuzani kuti. ndinu vuto mu ubale wanu ndipo muyenera kuzindikira zimenezo. Ndi malingaliro anu osazindikira omwe amakukumbutsani kuti inu ndi amene munayambitsa masautso anu ndipo ndinu amene mungatsegule njira yotulutsira masautsowa.

6. Kusaka kwanu kwatsala pang'ono kutha

Ngati muli ndi maloto omwe muli ndi pakati kwambiri kapena mu trimester yachitatu ya mimba, zikhoza kukhala kuti chirichonse chomwe mwakhala mukuchifuna chidzafunidwa posachedwa. Ngati mukukumana ndi vuto la maganizo kapena mwakhala mukusinthasintha ndi mafunso ambiri komanso opanda mayankho okwanira, loto la mimba yotero limasonyeza kuti ululu uwu watsala pang'ono kutha ndipo mutha kupeza mayankho. Maloto oyembekezera mwa anthu omwe ali pachisoni amatha kuyimira kutsekedwa kapena gawo latsopano lomwe lingawachotsere pachisoni chawo.

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7. Mwatopa ndi kulera ena

Ndiroleni ndigawane maloto a kasitomala wanga wazaka 32 Samantha. Samantha ali ndi mwamuna wovulala mu ubongo komanso apongozi ake omwe akudwala. Kuti zinthu zikhale zovuta kwambiri, ali ndi mwana wamkazi wazaka 15 wokwiya kwambiri. Samantha analota ali ndi pakati ndipo funso lake lokha linali loti, “Bwanji?

Zomwe Samantha anali nazo zinali zomvetsa chisoni kuti adzakhala ndi pakati. Maloto omveka bwino ndi pamene wolotayo amadziwa ngakhale pamene akulota ndipo nthawi zambiri amayesa kulamulira maloto omveka bwino kapena kukumbukira kugona kwawo kuti ndi loto chabe.

Tiyeni timasulira maloto a Samantha. Mpaka pano, takambirana za matanthauzo abwino auzimu a kukhala ndi pakati m'maloto, koma pali kutanthauzira kwamaloto ndi tanthauzo kumbali ina ya sipekitiramu. Samantha ndi amene amasamalira kwambiri achibale ake ndipo amakhala ndi maudindo ambiri kwa nthawi yaitali. Maloto apakati awa mwina ndi umunthu wake wamkati womwe umamukumbutsa kuti watopa, komanso ubwenzi wotopetsa maganizo.

Maloto oterowo angasonyeze kuti ngakhale kuti inuyo munali wolera ndi wopereka, umunthu wanu wamkati tsopano ukufooka. Malingaliro anu osazindikira akukuuzani kudzera m'maloto kuti kulera uku kukuchotsani mphamvu zanu zonse ndi mzimu wanu.

Tsopano tikudziwa kuti loto limodzi likhoza kubwera ndi matanthauzo ambiri, ndipo nthawi zina lingakhale lopanda kanthu kwenikweni. Ndikofunikira kusunga buku lamaloto ngati muli ndi maloto oterowo oyembekezera nthawi zonse. Yang'anani momwe moyo wanu uliri ndikuyamba kufufuza zomwe mukufuna, yesani kumvera zomwe malingaliro anu osazindikira akuyesera kukuuzani, werengani za maloto oterowo ndipo posachedwa mudzadziwa chifukwa chomwe mudalota za mlendo pomwe zenizeni, zonse zomwe mukuda nkhawa nazo ndikupeza. nkhani yachikondi muukwati wokonzedwa zomwe mwavomera pomaliza!

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