Kuthamangira pachibwenzi: kusuntha koopsa komwe nthawi zambiri kumatha kuwononga chinthu chapadera kwambiri ndi mnzanu yemwe mungakhale naye. Mukalowa muubwenzi watsopano, zonse zimawoneka zosangalatsa. Mumafunitsitsa kudziwa zambiri za zomwe wokondedwa wanu amakonda ndi zomwe sakonda, pali kulumikizana, pali kuwala, ndipo zonse zikuwoneka ngati utawaleza ndi kunyezimira. Mukungoganizira kukhala nawo moyo wonse.
Mwina mukuganiza zosamukira kukakhala ndi mnzanu kapena ngakhale kukwatirana naye. Koma dikirani, imani kwa kanthawi. Mwangopitako masiku angapo. Mutha kuganiza kuti zonse ndi zabwino ndipo ndizomveka kukonzekera tsogolo limodzi nawo, makamaka m'mutu mwanu, koma kodi ndikusuntha koyenera? Kodi ndizotheka kuti mukuthamangira kudzipereka?
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Kutuluka muubwenzi watsopano kungawoneke ngati chikondi kwambiri. Kupatula apo, poyambira, chilichonse chimakhala chosangalatsa, ndipo gawo laukwati laubwenzi uliwonse limatha kukhala kamvuluvulu wachikondi cham'mutu. Mumawona chilichonse chokhala ndi magalasi owoneka bwino, komanso mumathera nthawi yambiri muli limodzi koyambirira kotero kuti zimakupatsirani kumverera kuti mwapeza.
Chowonadi ndi kugwa m'chikondi kuli ngati kudya mchere wokoma. Muyenera kuti muzimva kukoma ndi kusangalala ndi kuluma kulikonse. Mukapanda kusangalala ndi magawo osiyanasiyana a chiyanjano muubwenzi, mumakhala pachiwopsezo chothetsana ndi kumanga maziko olimba omwe ubale wokhalitsa umakhalapo. Pofulumira kupeza tsogolo ndi wokondedwa wanu, mutha kusokoneza ubalewo usanamangidwe bwino.
Ngakhale mukumva ngati mukuwona wokondedwa mwa mnzanu, muyenera kupewa kuthamangira pachibwenzi. Ngati mukuganiza ngati mukuthamangira pachibwenzi kapena ayi, nazi zizindikiro zina zofunika kuzitsatira:
1. Chitonthozo chanu ndi iwo sichili pachimake
Kodi nthawi zambiri mumadzipeza mukuyang'anira zochita zanu mozungulira mnzanu? Kodi nthawi zambiri mumakhala pazala zanu kuti mukhale ndi khalidwe lanu labwino? Ngati mukuvomera inde, ndiye kuti mukuthamangira pachibwenzi.
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe simuyenera kuthamangira pachibwenzi ndi chifukwa simudzadziwa momwe mungakhalire nokha pamaso pa mnzanuyo. Izi zitha kuwonekera muzinthu zazikulu ndi zazing'ono, kuyambira pakulephera kuyankhula malingaliro anu mpaka nthawi zonse kuti muwoneke bwino kwambiri chifukwa choopa kuti mnzanu angaganize kuti simukukopa mokwanira.
Pokhapokha ngati mwawonana pazovuta zanu, njerewere ndi zonse, ndikusankha kumamatirabe, mutha kukhala otsimikiza kuti mukuthamangira pachibwenzi musanakonzekere.
Zimenezi n’zimene zinachitikira Martha ndi George. Martha ankaona kuti George anali munthu wangwiro, ndipo kuti asamutaye, anayamba kunamizira. Ankasiya zinthu, osakwiya, ngakhale kuvula milomo yake. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, George anayamba kumuona ngati wopanda pake, zimene zinapangitsa Marsha kukhala waukali kwambiri. Kenako anaganiza zongosiyana.
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2. Ubale wanu umachirikizidwa ndi zolinga zadyera
Kuyambira kulakalaka kudalira kwambiri maganizo mpaka kufuna kukhala ndi chuma chambiri, anyamata akamathamangira zibwenzi kapena atsikana akakhala ndi munthu amene sakuwayenerera, nthawi zambiri zimachirikizidwa ndi zolinga zadyera.
Pali ogonana amuna kapena akazi okhaokha kunjako, kulowa muubwenzi kuti akhale ndi malo okhala. Ndiye pali okumba golide amene amangofuna ndalama. Palinso zochitika za ozunza amalingaliro. Chowonadi ndi chakuti, onse ndi okongola kwambiri ndipo amakupangitsani kuti muthamangire nawo paubwenzi.
Komabe, ngati muyang'ana mwatcheru, nthawi zonse padzakhala mbendera zofiira zobisika zomwe zikukuuzani kuti akuyesera kuthamangira chibwenzi chifukwa cha maganizo kapena zachuma. Muyenera kusamala ndi izi kapena zotsatira zake zingakhale zoopsa. Kuyambira kutaya ndalama mpaka kutaya umunthu wanu, ubale wokhala ndi zolinga zoipa ukhoza kukufooketsani zambiri osati maganizo anu okha.
3. Mmodzi wa inu anatchulapo za chikondi musanadziwe dzina la mnzake
Samantha ndi Josh adapitako masiku atatu ndipo adadina bwino kwambiri. Onse awiri anasangalala ndipo anazindikira kuti amakonda kucheza limodzi. Komabe, Samantha adatha kunena kuti "I love you" kwa Josh kumapeto kwa tsiku lachitatu, ndipo Josh, mwatsoka, nthawi yomweyo anathawa.
Izi zitha kukupangitsani kudabwa chifukwa chake akazi amathamangira maubwenzi, koma zitha kuchitika kwa aliyense. Nthawi zambiri anthu amakonda kusokoneza kutengeka ndi chikondi ndikugwetsa bomba la L asanakhale ndi mwayi wodziwa chilichonse chokhudza munthu winayo.
Kunena kuti 'ndimakukondani' posachedwa zingakhale zoopsa. Ngakhale mutakhala kuti mumakopeka ndi wokondedwa wanu, onetsetsani kuti mwakondana musanathamangire pachibwenzi.
4. Kugawana zambiri pang'ono ndi chizolowezi
N’chifukwa chiyani kuthamangira pachibwenzi n’koipa? Chabwino, chifukwa ndiye, mumayamba kukhulupirira munthu musanapeze mwayi womudziwa, ndipo pamapeto pake akhoza kukugwiritsani ntchito.
Mukakumana ndi munthu watsopano ndipo simukukopeka naye, simungamukhulupirire ndi zinsinsi zanu, sichoncho? Mudzakhala ndi nkhawa zanu. Ndiye n’chifukwa chiyani mungadalire munthu kwambiri chifukwa chakuti mumakopeka naye? Iwo akali atsopano, ndipo sali oyenerabe kuwakhulupirira kotheratu.
Kugawana chilichonse chaching'ono ndichizindikiro chowopsa chothamangira pachibwenzi, chifukwa mutha kuganiza kuti mutha kuwakhulupirira, ndipo mnzanuyo amatha kukunyengani kapena kukuwunikirani momwe zimawakomera kuti akusungeni.
5. Mukunena za kukhala yekha posachedwapa
Tiyeni tivomereze, tikukhala m'zaka za zana la 21, ndipo aliyense amaloledwa kutenga nthawi, kukhala ndi chibwenzi, kuwona ngati zikuyenda bwino, kenako kukhala yekha. Sitifunika kufuna kudzipereka pambuyo pa masiku angapo oyambirira.
Ndichiyembekezo choyenera kusiya kudzipatula mpaka mutakhazikitsira chitonthozo china ndikumverera mwamphamvu za wina ndi mzake. Mukasangalala kukhala ndi munthu wina, mungafune kuti kampaniyo ikhale nanu mpaka kalekale. Komabe, kodi mwaima kaye ndi kuganiza ngati iwo akumva chimodzimodzi? Bwanji ngati akufunikira malo ndi nthawi?
Ngati mukufuna kupewa kuthamangira mu chibwenzi, kusiya onse nkhani za kupanga izo yekha pa tsiku lachisanu ndi kutenga izo pang'onopang'ono. Lolani kuti mnzanu amene mudzakhale naye pa banja akudziweni ndipo patulani nthawi yowadziwa bwino. Yang'anani zizindikiro kuti mwakonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi chokha, asanayambe kudumpha.
6. Mukukambirana zam'tsogolo osakumana ndi anzawo
Keith ndi Carla posachedwapa adayamba chibwenzi. Adachimenya bwino ndipo spark inalipo ndithu. Komabe, Carla anali wovuta kwambiri posachedwa. M'mutu mwake, Keith anali 'amene'. Nsombayo inali itangotha mwezi umodzi kukhala pachibwenzi ndipo Keith sankatsimikiza kuti anali asanamudziwitse Carla kwa anzake.
Khulupirirani kapena ayi, ichi ndi chizindikiro chapamwamba chothamangira pachibwenzi. Nenani kuti mwakopeka ndi mnzanuyo ndipo mumakhulupirira kuti ndiabwino kwa inu, ndikuwona kuti mukukwatirana naye tsiku lina. Koma kodi iwo amakutsimikizirani chimodzimodzi?
Wokondedwa wanu sangayankhe maganizo anu. Angafune kutenga nthawi kuti apange ubale wolimba, ndipo iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri kuposa kuthamangira pachibwenzi.
Ngati mukukambirana kale za komwe mukufuna kukwatira ndi ana angati omwe mudzakhale nawo ndi mnzanu, imani kaye pang'ono, landirani malangizo kwa munthu amene mumamudziwa, ikani pang'onopang'ono, ndipo musathamangire pachibwenzi.
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7. Mumaphunzira zinthu zatsopano za iwo ndipo mumadabwa nazo
Joey adagwa mutu pazidendene pokonda Lorelai. Moti adatsimikiza kuti amamudziwa mkati chifukwa adakhala ndikucheza mausiku angapo. Nthawi ina, Joey ananena zinthu mwamasewera, Lorelai anakhumudwa ndipo anaponya kapu yake pakhoma. Mosafunikira kunena, Joey anali wodabwa kwambiri.
Chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zomwe simuyenera kuthamangira pachibwenzi ndi chifukwa mungamve ngati mumamudziwa bwino mnzanuyo, koma simukudziwa. Mutha kudziwa mbali zabwino koma simudzadziwa momwe zimakhalira akakwiya, okhumudwa, osatetezeka kapena ovulala.
Inde, pali chisangalalo china pozindikira zatsopano za wina ndi mnzake, ndipo mungasangalale kudziwa kuti mnzanuyo ndi wachi Italiya kapena amalankhula Chifalansa bwino. Koma ngati mukukambirana kale za kusamukira pamodzi pamene mukuphunzirabe zinthu zimenezi za wina ndi mnzake, ndiye kuti mukuthamangira muubwenzi wanu.
8. Maubale anu ena abwera kumbuyo m'moyo wanu
Cassandra anakhudzidwa ndi chikondi pamene anakumana ndi Blake, ndipo mwadzidzidzi, moyo wake wonse unazungulira iye. Moti chikondi chake pa chibwenzi chake chatsopanocho chinamutengera nthawi yonse ndipo abwenzi ake adasiya kucheza naye. Kodi kuwerenga izi mwadzidzidzi kunakupangitsani kuzindikira kuti anzanu sanakuyitaneni kwa nthawi yayitali? Izi, pomwepo, ndi umboni wakuti anthu ambiri, makamaka akazi, amakonda kuthamangira maubwenzi ndi kuwapanga moyo wawo wonse.
Malo aumwini mu maubwenzi Ndikofunikira koma kuthamangira kumodzi kumakuchotserani mwayi woti mufike pachitonthozo pomwe mutha kukhala ndi malo okwanira kuti onse awiri aziyenda bwino payekhapayekha. Nchifukwa chiyani akazi amathamangira maubwenzi, mukufunsa? Ndi chifukwa amalephera kuwona chilichonse kupatula chikondi chawo ndipo china chilichonse chimatengera kumbuyo.
Ngati kuwerenga zizindikirozi kukufikitsani kuzindikira, "Ndikuganiza kuti ndikuthamangira mu ubale wanga, koma sindingathe kuthandizira, ndikukondana nawo", ndiye kuti muyenera kuwerenga zifukwa zisanu izi zomwe simuyenera kuthamangira chibwenzi.
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Pali zifukwa zingapo zomwe simuyenera kuthamangira chibwenzi. Kupatula kupsyinjika, kumakupangitsani kupyola muyeso, kumasokonezanso mnzanu ndikukusiyani osakwatiwa musanaganize zowatchula kuti 'boo'. Kupatulapo kuti mutha kuchita mopambanitsa muubwenzi, mutha kutaya nthawi kapena kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi ubale wamphamvu ndi okondedwa wanu.
Nthawi zambiri, choyipa kwambiri ndichakuti simuzindikira kuti mukuthamangira pachibwenzi. Kupatula apo, chilichonse chimawoneka bwino kwambiri mukamayamba chibwenzi ndi munthu yemwe mumafuna kuti mupindule kwambiri ndikugwiritsa ntchito sekondi iliyonse kuganizira za mnzanu kapena kukhala naye.
Zikamveka bwino, kulumpha ma hoops angapo kungawoneke ngati kopanda vuto, kupatula ayi. Nazi zifukwa 5 zomwe simuyenera kuthamangira pachibwenzi:
1. Mmodzi wa inu adzatopa msanga
Ngati muthamangira pachibwenzi, mwayi ndi wakuti mmodzi wa inu adzatopa pambuyo poti chibwenzicho chinazimiririka. Ngati mulibe mfundo zokwanira zolumikizirana, mutha kutha posakhalitsa chifukwa chomwe chimakupangitsani kubwererana wina ndi mnzake mukangoyambana. honeymoon phase yatha.
Zokambiranazo sizingawonekenso zosangalatsa ndipo motowo ukhoza kutha. Pambuyo pake zidzabweretsa kusweka mtima ndipo palibe amene angafune zimenezo. Kuti mudzipulumutse ku zowawa zonsezi, pewani kuthamangira muubwenzi.
2. Okondedwa wanu akhoza kukhala munthu yemwe simunamuganizirepo kuti angakhale
Mukuganiza kuti mnzanuyo ndi munthu wokoma, wosamala, wachikondi. Koma zikafika povuta, mbali zosasangalatsa za umunthu wawo zimatha kubweretsa mutu wawo wonyansa. Mungaone kuti amachita zachiwawa akakwiya, kapena angakhale ansanje kwambiri ndi olamulira.
Kumbukirani zomwe Joey ndi Lorelai adachita kumayambiriro kwa nkhaniyi? Ndendende zimenezo. Mutha kuganiza kuti mumamudziwa bwino munthu chifukwa mwakhala masiku angapo osatetezeka, koma pali zambiri za munthu yemwe simungamudziwe posachedwa.
Kudziwa munthu wamkati kumafuna nthawi yambiri ndi khama, ndipo palibe njira yachidule. Anyamata akamathamangira zibwenzi kapena atsikana amanyalanyaza zodziwikiratu mbendera zofiira, potsirizira pake amazindikira kuti okondedwa awo akhoza kuyika chithunzithunzi cha kukoma ndipo sichimatha bwino.
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3. Wokondedwa wanu akhoza kumva kuti ali wokakamizidwa ndikuthawa
Mutha kumverera ngati mukuwona tsogolo ndi mnzanu, monga momwe Jessica adamvera ndi chibwenzi chake Mark. Komabe, iye anapitirizabe kukakamiza Mark kuti afotokoze mmene akumvera ndipo mpaka anam’kakamiza kuti akwatiwe naye. Izi zidamukwiyitsa Mark ndipo adasiyana naye.
Ndikosavuta, makamaka kwa abambo, kumva kuti ali paubwenzi. Zimawasiya akudabwa chifukwa chiyani akazi amathamangira maubwenzi? Komabe, kaya ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi, kuthamangira pachibwenzi kudzakakamiza wokondedwa wanu, zomwe zingawapangitse kuti azidzimva kuti ali ndi nkhawa komanso amafuna kuthawa.
4. Mudzadzipanikiza kwambiri
Muli ndi zinthu zambiri zoti muchite m'moyo. Ntchito, abwenzi, banja, kunyumba, ndi zina zotero. Kulowa muubwenzi watsopano kuyenera kukupangitsani kukhala otsitsimula komanso osangalala. Ngati mukuthamangira pachibwenzi, mutha kudzipanikiza chifukwa mwina mmodzi kapena nonse mungathe osakhala okonzekera chibwenzi ndi kudzipereka, ndipo sizili bwino. Ndipo kulowa mu ubale watsopano kumafuna nthawi, mphamvu ndi kudzipereka.
Ngati muthamangira pachibwenzi, muyenera kuyika nthawi ndi mphamvu kuti musawalole kupita ndikuzisunga m'moyo wanu. Izi sizidzangosokoneza maganizo anu, komanso zidzakhudzanso mnzanuyo. N’chifukwa chiyani kuthamangira pachibwenzi n’koipa? Chifukwa zimasintha malingaliro anu onse paubwenzi wanu, zomwe zimadzetsa kupsinjika kwambiri, kupsinjika ndi kupsinjika. Simungafune kudzichitira nokha.
5. Mutha kukhala osakwatiwa mobwerezabwereza
Mukathamangira pachibwenzi, m'pamenenso inu kapena mnzanuyo mumamva kuti mukufunika kuthetsa mwamsanga. Mukudziwa momwe zimakhalira zotopetsa kupeza zomwe mukuganiza kuti ndi zabwino kwa inu, kuyika ndalama zambiri za inu nokha, kuti muzindikire kuti si munthu yemwe mumamuganizira. Ndipo musanadziwe, mudzasiyana.
Pamapeto pake, mudzakhala ndi mwayi wopeza munthu, kuthamanga naye, kuwasokoneza kapena kudzitopetsa nokha ndikusweka kapena kutayidwa. Kuti mupewe kukhala pachibwenzi, musathamangire kuchita chibwenzi.
Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zingapo zimene inu kukhulupirira mnzanuyo ndi kutenga mmene mungathere, mwamsanga momwe mungathere. Ngakhale muyenera kudziwa kuti nthawi zambiri, sizingagwire ntchito kwa inu ndipo zimakupangitsani kukhala wokhumudwa komanso wosweka mtima. Kuti mupewe zimenezi, pewani kuthamangira chibwenzi. Tengani nthawi yodziwana ndi mnzanu. Kumbukirani, pang'onopang'ono ndi achigololo!
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