Masewera a zibwenzi masiku ano akuwoneka kuti ndi othamanga kwambiri komanso amphamvu. Popeza achinyamata ambiri akudzitsegulira okha ku zochitika zatsopano ndikufufuza anthu atsopano, zibwenzi zakula ndikusintha kukhala malo apadera komanso osiyana a zochitika zamakono.
Bwalo lachisokonezoli limabwera ndi malamulo ake (werengani: malamulo amakono a zibwenzi, malamulo osayankhulidwa a chibwenzi, malamulo olemberana mameseji) ndi zoyembekeza zosatha. Kuyenda pazibwenzi masiku ano kumasokoneza kwambiri, ndipo kumakhumudwitsa kwambiri pakuyipitsitsa kwake. Ndicho chifukwa chake malamulo osalembedwa a zibwenzi amakhala kufunikira koyenera kutsatiridwa mwakhama.
Pofuna kukuthandizani kukhala ndi malingaliro atsopano, tili ndi katswiri wothandiza anthu - katswiri wa zamaganizo Kavita Panyam (katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wogwirizana ndi bungwe la American Psychological Association), yemwe wakhala akuthandiza maanja kuthetsa mavuto awo a ubale kwa zaka zoposa makumi awiri.
Kodi Malamulo 17 Osalembedwa Okhudza Chibwenzi Ndi Chiyani?
M'ndandanda wazopezekamo
Melissa Moeller analemba kuti, “Ndikhoza kupeza digiri ya master wanga ndi kuchuluka kwa nthawi ndi mphamvu zomwe zimatengera kuti ndidziwe ngati kugwirizana kwanga wamba kumandikonda kapena ayi. Wafika pachimake, sichoncho iye?
Dziko lopanda mavuto ndi lovuta kwa ambiri a ife. Ndani ayenera kulipira ndalamazo? Ndiyenera kudikira nthawi yayitali bwanji ndisanayimbe foni? Kodi izi ndi zachisawawa kapena zozama? Mafunso onsewa (ndi ena) nthawi zina amakhala ovuta. Chifukwa chake, ngakhale malamulo osanenedwa awa okhudza chibwenzi si njira yothandiza kwambiri kuti mulowe muubwenzi wachikondi, ndi njira yosavuta yodziwira momwe mungachitire izi.
Chibwenzi chikuyenera kukhala chosangalatsa kuposa chodetsa nkhawa. Kuti mupewe chibwenzi chanu kuti chisakhale chovuta kwambiri kapena chosokoneza, apa pali malangizo osavuta omwe muyenera kukumbukira pamasewera anu. Awa ndi malamulo oyambira pachibwenzi omwe muyenera kutsatira.
1. Fikani pa nthawi yake
Zomwe simuyenera kuchita muzaka zoyambirira za chibwenzi, mukufunsa? Kuwoneka wosasamala kwambiri ndi kunyengezera kukhala wopanda chidwi kuposa momwe mumachitira kuti mukope chidwi cha munthu wina sizikuwoneka kuti n'kothandiza. Kuyesera kufika mochedwa kuti muchepetse kuyesayesa kwanu kungakupangitseni kuwoneka ngati wopanda pake osati wokongola. Ichi ndi chikhalidwe chachikale cha zibwenzi, koma kufika pa nthawi yake ndikofunikira.
Ndi ntchito ya onse awiri kuyamikira ndi kulemekeza nthawi. Ngati mukuchedwa pazifukwa zenizeni, onetsetsani kuti mwatumiza uthenga kapena kudziwitsa mnzanuyo pasadakhale m'malo mofika patatha mphindi 30 popanda kufotokoza chilichonse. Zimenezo sizikutanthauza chilichonse koma kukumana ndi zinthu zoipa.
2. Sungani zomwe mukuyembekeza kukhala zochepa - Malamulo amakono a chibwenzi
Malamulo ochita chibwenzi ndi munthu watsopano akuphatikizapo kusunga zofuna zanu zamaganizo. Sikuti aliyense amene ali pafupi akuyang'ana zinthu zofanana ndi ife. M'pofunika kudziwa ndi kuzindikira zolinga za tsiku lanu pamaso kudumpha ndi zosowa zanu.
Musanyalanyaze zomwe mukuyembekezera koma tenga nthawi musanawonetse makadi anu onse. Inu simukufuna kuopseza tsiku lanu posachedwapa, sichoncho inu? Njira yabwino yochepetsera zomwe mukuyembekezera ndikudziwunikira nokha - mukuyang'ana chiyani?
Kavita akufotokoza kuti, “Tchulani cholinga chofuna kukhala ndi chibwenzi. Kodi n’chachidule?
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3. Perekani tsiku lanu danga iwo akufuna
Limodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri komanso ofunikira pa chibwenzi ndikupereka mpata wabwino ndikusunga malire abwino a ubale. Ngakhale kuti makhalidwe akale a chibwenzi angakuphunzitseni kuyamba kugwiritsa ntchito zilembo zaubwenzi ndi zizindikiro zapadera msanga, masiku ano chibwenzi sichikutsatira malangizo amenewo. Malamulo a chibwenzi cha akazi asintha, ndipo muyenera kukhala omasuka ndi kusakhalapo kwa zilembo.
Kavita akufotokoza bwino kwambiri kuti: “Kulakwitsa kofala kumene anthu amachita atangoyamba kumene kukhala pachibwenzi ndiko kuyesa ‘kusindikiza pangano’ ndi zizindikiro zosonyeza kudzipereka.” Kunena kuti ‘Ndimakukondani’, kuwapempha kuti azikakhala nanu, kapena kufunsira ukwati ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri zimene ziyenera kukwaniritsidwa mwadongosolo.
Tazolowera kukumana ndi anthu ambiri nthawi imodzi, kotero kuti si onse omwe ali ofunitsitsa kulengeza kukhulupirika kwawo posachedwa. Nthawi ndiyofunikira. Chifukwa chake perekani tsiku lanu danga kuti musankhe nthawi yoti adzipatula kwa inu. Musakhumudwenso ndipo gwiritsani ntchito nthawi yomweyo kusunga zosankha zanu.
4. Yang'anani zomwe mukuchita
Kukumana nthawi zambiri kumakhala bwino chifukwa kumatsimikizira kuti nonse ndinu okonzeka kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu pa chibwenzi chanu. Koma muyenera kuyesetsa kuti musamawoneke ngati wopondereza kwambiri kapena wosowa chochita. Khalani ndi masiku opuma pakati pa chibwenzi kuti mupewe kubisa chibwenzi chanu. Limodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri kwa amuna ndi kusakhala chibwenzi chosowa.
Monga momwe mumafunikira masiku opumula pakati pa masewera olimbitsa thupi kuti minofu yanu ikhale bwino, khalani ndi masiku opumula m'moyo wanu wa chibwenzi kuti muzitha kuchita bwino. Musadzitope nokha kapena munthu winayo pochita khama nthawi zonse. Kukhazikika kwanthawi zonse kudzatsimikiziranso kusasinthika kwa kukhalapo kwanu m'moyo wa munthu winayo.
Kuyesera kukumana nawo pafupipafupi momwe mungathere ndi cholinga chofulumizitsa zinthu ndi vuto lalikulu. Kavita akutero, “Musafulumire. Musawononge nthaŵi yanu, ndalama, maubwenzi, ndi zina zotero kuti ‘mupite patsogolo’ muubwenziwo; kudzipanga kukhala nokha ndi kukhala nokha n’kupanda nzeru ndithu.
5. Pewani kuyimba foni mwamsanga pambuyo pa tsiku
Nayi imodzi mwa malangizo abwino kwambiri opezera chibwenzi msanga. Ngakhale chibwenzi chanu chitakhala bwino kwambiri, kuwaimbira foni usiku womwewo kungasonyeze momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe mukuyembekezera msanga. Mwina mungalembe meseji yosonyeza kuti mwasangalala kwambiri. Siyani zimenezo. Koma yesetsani kupewa kuwoneka wofunitsitsa kwambiri chifukwa izi zingawopseze munthu winayo. Mwina, sungani kuyimba foni tsiku lotsatira. Mwachidule, yesetsani kuchita zinthu mosamala.
6. Sungani nthawi ya deti yayifupi
Maola awiri ayenera kukhala kapu yanu. Ili ndi limodzi mwamalamulo ofunikira kwambiri mukakhala pachibwenzi ndi munthu watsopano. Ngakhale mumasangalala pa tsiku lanu loyamba ndipo simungakhoze kupeza zokwanira munthu wina, dziwani kuti mosayenera kutambasula tsiku likhoza kutembenukira tsiku lanu mu kuukoka.
Tsiku lotayirira komanso lotopetsa lingawononge umunthu wanu. Chitani zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mupewe mwayi umenewo ndikuwudula pamene kupita kukadali kwakukulu. Ikani kutsindika pa khalidwe pa kuchuluka; simukufuna tsiku lanu chozemba kunja odyera kumbuyo chitseko chifukwa inu anakana kulitcha izo usiku.
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7. Zomwe simuyenera kuchita mutangoyamba kumene kukhala pachibwenzi? Osatchula za exes kwambiri
Patsiku, ngakhale zingakhale zosangalatsa kutchula maubwenzi am'mbuyomu ndi kukumana kuti mupatse munthu winayo kumverera kuti ndinu ndani mwachikondi, ndikofunikira kudziwa nthawi yoti musiye. Palibe amene akufuna kuthera madzulo kumvetsera wina wakale ubale nthano.
Simukufuna kuonetsa ngati mudakali pachibwenzi chakale kapena kuti mukukhazikitsa miyezo yeniyeni ya chibwenzi chanu. (Musalankhule za kusowa chibwenzi chakale. ) Sungani nkhanizo kukhala zosangalatsa, zazifupi komanso yang'anirani ngati mukupangitsa mnzanuyo kukhala wosasangalala.
8. Kwezani masewera anu otumizirana mameseji
Inde, palinso malamulo ena osalembedwa a zibwenzi pa intaneti. Kuchita zibwenzi pa intaneti kumadalira kwambiri kutumizirana mameseji mmbuyo ndi mtsogolo. Zolemba zanu zimakhala zoyambira umunthu wanu. Onetsetsani kuti mumayang'anitsitsa momwe mukulemberana mameseji komanso kangati munthu winayo amakonda kulemba. Mauthenga anu azikhala osasinthasintha, oganiza bwino, achidule komanso osangalatsa.
Yesetsani kusayankha mochedwa chifukwa zimenezo zingachotse chisangalalo pa zokambiranazo ndikusintha maganizo onse. Anthu ambiri azaka za m'ma 20 amayesa nthawi yomwe zimatenga kuti mnzawo ayankhe ndipo amayesa kufananiza nthawi imeneyo kuti asamawoneke ngati akufunitsitsa. Cholakwika ichi cha chibwenzi cha pa intaneti chingakhale choipa kwambiri ndikuchipanga kukhala masewera a kudzikuza, masewera omwe simukufuna kusewera.
Kavita akuti muyenera kupewa kugwera mumisampha iyi, "Masewera amalingaliro ndi owopsa kwambiri. Nthawi zambiri amayendetsedwa ndi kusatetezeka kwanu komanso kudzikonda kwanu. Osayang'ana mauthenga pa nthawi, kuwawunikira, kuwasunga, kuwasunga, kapena kusagwirizana ndi mayankho anu onse ndi mbendera zofiira. Zisungeni mophweka komanso molunjika. "
9. Komanso musawawuze ndi malemba
Inde, malamulo otumizirana mauthenga pa chibwenzi ali ndi malire ake. Kutumizirana mauthenga awiri mopitirira muyeso kapena kufuna kusamalidwa kwambiri kungakhale kovuta kwa munthu winayo. Musayese kukoka nkhani pamene ikupita kutali. Ngati zinthu zikuvuta, yesani kusintha zinthu mwa kusewera masewera otumizirana mauthenga pa intaneti kapena kufunsa ngati foni ingakhale yabwino.
Samalani ndi zizindikiro za khalidwe losakondweretsedwa. Njira yabwino yolumikizirana wina ndi mnzake ndikumvetsera momwe mukulankhula (kapena kulemba?). osalankhula za iwe mwini nthawi zonse; kukhala womvetsera wabwino kumapita kutali mu mgwirizano. Awa ndi ena mwa malangizo oyambira pachibwenzi omwe angakuthandizeni kwambiri.
10. Funsani mafunso omveka
Limodzi mwa malamulo osalembedwa okhudza ubale ndi kufunsa mafunso osangalatsa kuti muwadziwe bwino . Chinsinsi chomudziwa munthu wina chili mukufunsa mafunso olondola. Mukufuna kudziwa zambiri za iye kuti mudziwe ngati mukumukonda kapena ayi, komanso muyenera kupewa kulankhula za inu nokha pa madeti oyamba.
Pokhapokha ali okonzeka kulolera mozama mu mbiri yawo, musapite poking mphuno yanu m'malo tsiku lanu sangakhale omasuka. Mnzanga wina adasiya kuonana ndi mnyamata wina chifukwa amamuvutitsa nthawi zonse za mbiri ya banja lake zomwe amafuna kuti asalankhule za tsiku loyamba. Choncho, musaphwanye malire.
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11. Le i bika byotufwaninwe kulonga? Imwani moyenera
Pokhapokha ngati nonse awiri mwayambitsa chithumwa pakati panu monga mwakhala ndi mabwenzi kwa zaka zambiri, kumwa kwambiri pamasiku oyambirira sikuli bwino. Kuti mudziwe ndi kumvetsetsa wina, mukufuna kukhalapo panthawiyo ndikumvera nkhani zawo. Muyeneranso kukhala okonzeka kusonyeza kuti mungathe kukhala ndi udindo pazochita zanu.
Kuphatikiza apo, kumwa sikumawonjezera chidwi cha munthu, chifukwa chake musalole kuti martini abwere. Kavita amatipatsa chikumbutso chabwino chakuti, “Kuchita zinthu zodzitetezera n’kofunikanso kwambiri.
12. Osayang'ana malo awo ochezera a pa Intaneti ngati nkhanu
Zokonda pang'ono komanso ndemanga zaposachedwa pazolemba kapena zithunzi zikuyenera kukhala zopanda vuto mukamalumikizana pa intaneti. Koma musagwiritse ntchito nthawi zonse zomwe zimachitika pa nkhani ya Instagram kuyambitsa zokambirana. Ndi njira yoyesera ndi yolephera. Onetsani kuti mumakondwera ndi kuyamikira zinthu zomwe amagawana nawo. Komabe, samalani ndipo musayende (kapena musawonetsere kuti mukuchita).
Komanso, mukakambirana, yesetsani kuti musabweretse zolemba zakale kapena zithunzi zomwe mwina adayika. Adzadziwa za mwambo wanu wotsatirana pa intaneti musanagone. Pali kusiyana kochepa pakati pa anthu odzikuza ndi okonda chibwenzi. Malamulo a chibwenzi cha akazi amalamula kuti musayang'ane kwambiri; atsikana amanena zinthu zoopsa nthawi ndi nthawi pa chibwenzi. Tiyeni tiyesetse kupewa zimenezo.
13. Sungani foni yanu pa DND pa tsikulo
Ili ndi limodzi mwa malamulo ofunikira kwambiri okhudza chibwenzi. Simuyenera kugwiritsa ntchito DND koma yesetsani kuti musayang'ane mauthenga kapena kugonja ku zidziwitso zanu. Zingaonedwe ngati zamwano nthawi zambiri pagulu. Muyenera kudziwa kuti zida zamagetsi zimawononga maubwenzi.
Ngati mukuyenera kuyang'ana uthenga wanu, onetsetsani kuti mwanena momveka bwino kuti "Pepani" musanatero. Onetsani momveka bwino kuti mukudziwa kuti mukutuluka m'dera lanu laulemu. Ziribe kanthu kuti ndani akulemberani mameseji kapena kukuimbirani foni, osayimilira kukambirana kapena kupitilira pomwe mukuyang'ana pazenera lanu. Ine ndithudi udindo ichi choyamba mu mndandanda wa zibwenzi malamulo.
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14. Malamulo oyendetsera chibwenzi: Perekani kugawa bilu
Malamulo a chibwenzi atha. Malamulo amakono a chibwenzi alipo. Munthu wina (makamaka mwamuna) amene akulipira bilu sayenera kukhala lingaliro kapena kuyembekezera. Khalani odekha ndipo mulimonsemo, perekani kuti mulipire gawo lanu osachepera. Ngati akulimbikira kukulipirani, ndi udindo wanu wonse kuti muvomereze kapena ayi.
Koma dziwani kuti ngakhale tsiku likuyenda bwino bwanji, palibe amene ali ndi udindo wolipira gawo lanu la tsikulo. Chikhalidwe chachikale cha zibwenzi chimati mnyamatayo ayenera kulipira, koma khalidwe lachibwenzi la zaka zatsopano limati biluyo iyenera kugawanika kapena mayiyo akhoza kulipira. Malamulo achibwenzi achikazi asintha kwambiri, sichoncho?
15. Musapitirire kuphwanyidwa
Kudula buledi ndi mawu amakono oti munthu amene amasunga mnzanu amene angakhale naye pachibwenzi mwa kumusunga pa mbedza koma amakana kuti palibe chifukwa chomuyankha kapena kumufotokozera bwino. Pambuyo pa mfundo inayake, muyenera kunena zoona pa zomwe mukuyembekezera. Sikosangalatsa kutsogolera munthu wina.
Osanyengerera zolinga zabodza zilizonse ndikupangitsa chiyembekezo mwa munthu wina. Ngati mumasamala za kucheza nawo mopitilira, moona mtima afotokozereni zakukhosi kwanu m'malo mongosiya zinyenyeswazi kuti zikutsatireni kusweka mtima. Kukhala wokoma mtima ndi wachifundo n’kofunika kwambiri kuti munthu akhale pachibwenzi.
16. Tsiku lanu si Therapist wanu
Osayamba kukhala ndi chidwi ndi zovuta zanu. Anthu amakonda kukhala ndi chibwenzi chifukwa amangofuna kusangalala. Kugawana nawo koyamba ndikulakwitsa komwe muyenera kupewa. Pewani nkhani zodetsa nkhawa ndikupangitsa zokambirana kukhala zopepuka. Ichi ndi chimodzi mwamalamulo ofunikira kwambiri pazibwenzi.
Kavita akufotokoza kuti: “Pamadeti oyambirira, musamauze mavuto a m’banja lanu, nkhani zachuma, ndi zina zotero.
17. Khalani owona kwa inu nokha
Sizikunena kuti kukhala munthu weniweni ndikofunikira. Kusunga mawonekedwe sikoyenera, komanso sikukhazikika. Musachite manyazi ndi mbali iliyonse ya umunthu wanu. Kodi malamulo a chibwenzi ndi munthu watsopano ndi chiyani, mukufunsa? Izi zimabwera poyamba.
Monga momwe Kavita amanenera, "Musadziletse. Ngati ndinu munthu yemwe ali ndi chikondi chopanda chiyembekezo, wina amene amakonda PDA ndi ubwenzi wapamtima, musadzisungire nokha. Khalani woona mtima kwambiri; musayese kukhala munthu amene mnzanuyo akufuna. Ndi kokha pamene muli wowona mtima ponena za inu nokha kuti mungathe kuona ngati awirinu muli oyenerera bwino. "
Ngakhale malamulo oyambira pachibwenzi akuyenera kukupangitsani kuti mukhale okonda zibwenzi, aliyense amakhalabe ndi zokonda zake momwe angakonde kuchita izi. Kutsegulira munthu wina kungakhale vuto lalikulu kwa anthu ambiri ndipo ena amakonda kudumphira kumapeto kwakuya.
Mvetserani bwino ndikugwirizanitsa mayendedwe anu. Khalani omasuka kuti musinthe, yang'anani mosamala zochita za mnzanu ndipo koposa zonse, khalani ndi nthawi yosangalatsa. Onetsetsani kusunga malamulo awa a chibwenzi munthu watsopano pafupi mtima wanu.
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Ibibazo
Malamulo ena osanenedwa okhudza chibwenzi ndi kufika pa nthawi yake, osafunsa zambiri za wakale wanu, kusunga foni yanu pa DND, osayimba foni nthawi yomweyo mutapita kukacheza komanso kutumizirana mameseji pafupipafupi. Inde, kufunsa mafunso osangalatsa.
Akuti tsiku lachitatu ndilofunika kwambiri. Apa ndipamene mwaganiza kuti mutha kukhala otsimikiza za chibwenzi ndipo anthu ena amatha kukhala pachibwenzi pa tsiku lachitatu kapena lachinayi. Ngakhale kuti akazi amatha kupanga chisankho mwachangu, amuna nthawi zambiri amakhala osatsimikiza ngakhale patatha tsiku lakhumi.
Kufika pa nthawi yake, kulipira mayiyo, kugwira chitseko kapena kubwezera mpando, ndi malamulo ena oyendetsera chibwenzi. Ngati mwachedwa kapena muyenera kuletsa tsiku muyenera kuwadziwitsa pasadakhale. Kugwetsa dona kunyumba ndi chikhalidwe chachikale cha zibwenzi.
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