Malamulo makumi anayi a chikondi

Kawirikawiri timanena, mwanthabwala kapena mwanjira ina, kuti Moyo ndi zinthu zake zonse zosiyanasiyana - monga Chikondi, Ukwati, Ubale - sizibwera ndi buku lothandizira. Ndiye mukawona buku lotchedwa Malamulo Anayi a Chikondi , mungatani kuti musachite chidwi? Mungatani kuti musamalitenge?

Inde mukudziwa kuti sizikhala ngati buku lasukulu la ophunzira kapena buku lachidole chanu chaukadaulo chaposachedwa cholemba Zoyenera Kuchita ndi Zosachita. Mukudziwa kuti mwatenga nkhani yachikondi. Ndipo mukuyembekeza kuti iyi ikhala yosiyana, chifukwa, pambuyo pa zonse, mwawerenga zofananira zonse, sichoncho?

Ndiye iyi ndi chiyani? Chabwino…kwenikweni, nkhani ina ya mayi wapakhomo yemwe ali yekhayekha yemwe amapeza kukwaniritsidwa.

Zotopetsa? Nanga bwanji ngati kukwaniritsidwa kwake kunabwera mwamaonekedwe a mwamuna wina - amene sanali mwamuna wake?

Kodi ndi nkhani yachikale? Kodi ndi nkhani ya Anna Karenina kapena Madame Bovary?

Sizili choncho. Mu bukuli, munthu wathu wamkulu amakonda munthu wauzimu. Inde, inde, pali Thornbirds , koma izi ndi zosiyana, chifukwa munthu amene akukambidwayo ndi wa ku Scotland Sufi. Ndipo palinso zina. Pali Rumi. Ndi Shams of Tabriz. Ndi malamulo 40 achikondi.

Pali nkhani ziwiri zofanana m'bukuli. Yoyamba ndi yokhudza Ella Rubenstein, mayi wapakhomo wachiyuda, wokwatiwa ndi dokotala wa mano; ali ndi ana atatu achinyamata ndipo amakhala m'nyumba yokongola. Zikumveka ngati moyo wabwino kwambiri wa m'tawuni. Koma chifukwa cha Desperate Housewives tonse tikudziwa kuti suburbia si malo okhawo okonzedwa bwino, mipanda ya picket ndi njira za wisteria. Ella sakukhutira ndi moyo wake; mwamuna wake amakonda kugonana, ndipo mwana wake aliyense ali ndi chisokonezo chake. Kuti achepetse kutopa, Ella amagwira ntchito yanthawi yochepa ngati wowerenga mabuku.

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Buku lakuti Sweet Blasphemy ndi buku lolembedwa ndi Aziz Zahara, lotumizidwa kwa iye ndi bungweli ndipo kudzera m'masamba a bukuli ndi momwe nkhani yofananayo imaonekera; nkhani ya katswiri wa zaumulungu komanso katswiri waluso, koma wosakwaniritsidwa, dzina lake Rumi, ndi kukumana kwake ndi dervish wa Sufi, Shams wa Tabriz, zomwe zimamuyika Rumi panjira ya zinsinsi ndi ndakatulo za Sufi.

Kusowa kwa Ella ndi Rumi kukuyenera kufanana ndi kwa wina ndi mnzake, ndipo m'miyoyo yawo mumabwera Aziz ndi Shams a Tabriz, motsatana. Mphepo yofewa ikuwomba poyamba yomwe imasonkhanitsa mphamvu ndi liwiro, Aziz ndi Shams a Tabriz amasintha miyoyo ya Ella ndi Rumi mosalekeza. Komabe, kusinthaku sikubwera popanda kudzipereka, kutayika ndi chisoni. Ndipo sizosadabwitsa, chifukwa monga momwe Shams amanenera, "...mwambi wakale umagwirabe ntchito: Pamene pali chikondi, padzakhala kupweteka mtima."

“Chikondi chenicheni chilichonse ndi mabwenzi zimasintha mosayembekezereka.

~ Shams of Tabriz, "Malamulo Makumi Achikondi"

Chinachake chosamveka, koma cholimba; opepuka, koma okhala pansi; wolimba mtima, koma wochenjera; monga chikondi, kodi chingakhale ndi malamulo?

Malamulo ndi a sukulu ndi maboma, masewera ndi makalabu osankhika. Palinso malamulo a ndakatulo ndi zaluso, koma tikawadziwa, timalimbikitsidwa kuwaphwanya ndikupanga zolengedwa zathu. Kodi 'Chikondi' chingakhale bwanji ndi malamulo, pambali pa “usasirire mwamuna kapena mkazi wa wina”, ndipo kunena zoona, ndi kangati ameneyo anamenyedwa, kuthyoledwa ndi kumenyedwera pa matilesi?

Nthawi zonse tikamva mawu oti 'chikondi', zomwe zimatifika m'maganizo mwathu ndi nkhani zachikondi za nthano za Disney, Mills & Boons, Hollywood rom-coms ndi Bollywood blockbusters.

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Koma zimenezi n'zochepa kwambiri!

Monga momwe Rumi amanenera m’bukuli, “Chikondi sichingafotokozedwe, chimangochitika mwachidziwitso.

Ndipo izi ndizomwe zili m'bukuli - mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chikondi yomwe imachitika, ndi malamulo 40 awa omwe amagwira ntchito ngati malangizo. Pali chikondi chapabanja, chikondi cha filial, chikondi chachinsinsi, chikondi chaching'ono.

Kodi kulakalaka kwa wokondedwa kwa wokondedwa wake m’njira iliyonse n’kofanana ndi kulakalaka kwa munthu wofunafuna Mulungu wake? Malinga ndi amatsenga ambiri, inde; Ndipotu, cholinga ndi kudzipereka kwathunthu ku chikondi chimene chimakupangitsani inu, popanda kudzikonda, osanong'oneza bondo, popanda kufunsa mafunso komanso kuti chikondicho chingakhale cha amene mumam'konda, kaya ndi wokonda kapena Mulungu.

• Kuchiritsa Kudzera mu Ziphunzitso za Rumi: Pambuyo powerenga Malamulo Makumi Achikondi, ndinazindikira kuti chikondi chenicheni chimayambira mkati. Wolemba kusiya za kufunika kwanga kulamulira mu maubwenzi, ndinapeza mtendere ndi mgwirizano.
• Kupeza Tanthauzo pa Mavuto: Kusweka kwanga kunandipangitsa kupeza nzeru pakukumbatira zowawa ngati njira yakukulira. Malamulo a Rumi anandikumbutsa kuti vuto lililonse lili ndi dalitso.
• Kuchita Kukhululuka: Mosonkhezeredwa ndi malamulowo, ndinakhululukira munthu amene anandilakwira kwambiri. Chifundo chimenechi sichinangolimbitsa ubwenzi wathu komanso chinandimasula m’maganizo.

Maganizo Final

Malamulo Makumi Anayi a Chikondi amapereka maphunziro ozama pa chikondi ndi ulendo wa anthu. Kaya mukufuna kukulitsa ubale wanu, kuchira ku ululu wakale, kapena kukula mwauzimu, ziphunzitso zosatha izi zingakutsogolereni. Kutsatira mfundo izi kumalimbikitsa kuganizira bwino, chifundo, ndi mtendere wamumtima, kulimbikitsa ubale wofunika ndi inu nokha ndi ena. Alangizi athu aluso ali pano kuti akuthandizeni. Kaya ndi kudzichiritsa nokha, mavuto a ubale, kapena kukula mwauzimu, tidzakuthandizani kugwirizana ndi nzeru za chikondi ndi kusintha.

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