Nkhawa Zokhudza Kugonana: Pamene Kudzikayikira Kumasokoneza Nthawi Yanu Yapamtima

Kugonana kumatanthauza kukhala mchitidwe wapamtima kwambiri womwe umakuthandizani kuti mulumikizane ndi munthu wina, ndikubweretsa chisangalalo ngati Zen. Zimadziwika kuti ndizovuta kwambiri kupsinjika komanso njira yabwino yopezera kupsinjika, m'thupi komanso m'maganizo. Komabe, nkhawa ya kugonana ikayamba, imatha kukhala gwero losatha la kupsinjika, kudzikayikira, manyazi komanso manyazi.

Ngakhale kukhala ndi mantha musanayambe kugonana ndi chinthu chachilendo, makamaka ngati mwangoyamba kumene kapena mukukhala ndi bwenzi latsopano, kukhala ndi nkhawa kotero kuti simungathe kusangalala ndi zochitikazo ndi nkhani ina. Kenako, ikunena za vuto lachiwonetsero lachiwonetsero, lomwe ngati silinayankhidwe, likhoza kukhudza kwambiri moyo wanu wakugonana.

Kuyamba chibwenzi ndi mwamuna amene ali ndi nkhawa yokhudza momwe zinthu zilili si chinthu chabwino kwa inu kapena mnzanu. Chimodzimodzinso ndi kukhala pachibwenzi ndi mkazi amene akuvutika ndi nkhawa yokhudza kugonana. Chimodzimodzinso, nkhawa yokhudza momwe zinthu zilili ndi mnzanu watsopano ingayambitse vuto lalikulu paulendo wanu wapamtima ndi iye. M'nkhaniyi, katswiri wa zachiwerewere Dr. Rajan Bhonsle (MD, MBBS Medicine and Surgery), Mtsogoleri wa Dipatimenti Yoona za Mankhwala Ogonana ku KEM Hospital ndi Seth GS Medical College, Mumbai, akulemba za mbali zosiyanasiyana za nkhawa yokhudza momwe zinthu zilili pogonana kuti akuthandizeni kumasuka ku mavuto ake.

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Nkhawa zokhuza kugonana zimasokoneza kwambiri kuthekera kwa munthu kuchita zogonana. Wokhudzidwayo amagonjetsedwa ndi mantha kuti sangathe kukondweretsa wokondedwa wake kapena kumukhutiritsa, zomwe zimalepheretsa kuti azichita bwino. Mantha amenewa amatha kugwira m’maganizo mwa munthu asanayambe kapena pamene akuchitapo kanthu.

Izi ndizomwe zimadzetsa nkhawa mukamachita ndi mnzanu watsopano kapena mukangoyamba kumene kugonana. Kwa anthu ambiri, nkhawazi zimayamba kukhazikika pamene akukhala omasuka ndi okondedwa awo kapena kugonana kwawo. Komabe, ngati izi sizichitika, nkhawa imatha kuwonekera m'mavuto okhudzana ndi kugonana.

Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe ali ndi nkhawa kapena muli nokha, mutha kukumana ndi nkhawa kuti imakulepheretsani kuchitapo kanthu mpaka mumayamba kukhala ndi zizindikiro zofanana ndi vuto la erectile. Momwemonso, mwa amayi, nkhawa ya kugonana ingayambitse kusowa kwa chilakolako ndi mafuta, zomwe zimapangitsa kugonana kowawa, zomwe zimangowonjezera nkhawa zawo.

Momwe nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kugonana imakhudzira moyo wanu wogonana imathanso kulamuliridwa ikafika. Zikachitika musanagone, mutha kupeza zovuta kuchita mchitidwewo. Koma ngati ifika panthawi yochita masewera, simungathe kukhala ndi orgasm.

Poganizira momwe zimakhudzira moyo wogonana wa munthu wokhudzidwayo, ndikofunikira kuti tiyankhe funso la momwe tingathetsere nkhawa za momwe akuchitira. Kuti tichite zimenezi, tiyenera kumvetsa zifukwa zake. Nthawi zambiri, chinsinsi chothetsera nkhawa pakugonana ndi maphunziro apamwamba okhudzana ndi kugonana komanso upangiri chifukwa zimachokera ku nthano komanso zabodza zomwe zafala kwambiri mderali.

Zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa zokhudzana ndi kugonana zimatha kukhala zosiyana kwambiri mwa amuna ndi akazi. Tiyeni tikambirane nawo kuti akuthandizeni kutengapo gawo loyamba lothana ndi nkhawa zokhudzana ndi kugonana.

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Chifukwa cha Kugonana Nkhawa mwa amuna

Nkhawa za kugonana kwa amuna nthawi zambiri zimachokera ku kufunikira kopambanitsa komwe kumakhudzana ndi kukula kwa chiwalo choberekera cha mwamuna ndi nthawi ya kugonana, chifukwa cha olankhula ndi olankhula ngati zolaula. Chinanso chachikulu chomwe chikuthandizira ndi kusazindikira komanso chidziwitso chodalirika chokhudza zilakolako zakugonana, zosowa, zilakolako ndi kukwaniritsidwa kwake.
Mwa amunanso, nkhawa zakugonana zitha kukhala zosiyana kwambiri ndi omwe amagonana ndi omwe sali.

Nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kugonana imayambitsa amuna osagonana

Mwachinyamata ndi achinyamata omwe sanachite zogonana, nkhawa yogwira ntchito imatha kuchokera ku:

• Kufananiza: Kudzimva osakwanira kukula kwa mbolo yawo chifukwa adawona amuna kuti ali opatsidwa bwino kwambiri zolaula kapena adamva anzawo akudzitamandira kukula kwa mbolo zawo. Mantha ndi kuti kukula kwa mbolo yawo sikokwanira kukhutiritsa okondedwa, zomwe zingawapangitse mantha kukhala apamtima. Chomwe akuyenera kudziwa ndikuti kukula kwa mbolo yamunthu sikungachite chilichonse ndi kuthekera kwake kukhutiritsa mnzake ndikumupanga kukhala osangalala. Nyini ya mkazi ilibe minyewa yopitilira mainchesi awiri oyamba. Chifukwa chake, sikuti ndinu wamkulu bwanji zomwe zimafunikira koma zomwe mumachita ndi zomwe muli nazo. Mkazi amafunikira kulumikizana m'malingaliro, kuwoneratu komanso chikondi kuti akwaniritse kugonana. Kugonana kwa iye ndi gawo laling'ono la zochitikazo

• Nthano zokhuza kuseweretsa maliseche: Ngakhale masiku ano, anyamata ndi anyamata ambiri amaona kuti kuseweretsa maliseche n’konyansa kapena ndi uchimo. Chofala nthano zokhuza kuseweretsa maliseche zimawapangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa kuti zitha kusokoneza momwe amagonana akakhala ndi moyo wogonana. Mantha obadwa nawowa amatha kukhala ndi chiyambukiro chachikulu pakutha kwawo kuchita zogonana nthawi ikakwana. Komabe, zotsatirapo zoipa za kuseweretsa maliseche sizingakhale kutali ndi choonadi. Sikuti kudziseweretsa maliseche sikuli kwachibadwa, konyansa kapena kochimwa, komanso ndi njira yabwino yokwaniritsira zilakolako za kugonana.

• Kutaya umuna: Apanso, izi zikugwirizana kwambiri ndi nthano ndi malingaliro olakwika okhudza kuseweretsa maliseche. Chifukwa chosadziwa zambiri pankhaniyi, abambo ambiri amada nkhawa kuti kutaya umuna chifukwa cha kuseweretsa maliseche kungawachititse kuti alephere panthawi yomwe akufunikira kuti akhale ndi ana kapena kusokoneza chibadwa chawo. Palinso nkhawa za kapangidwe kake, kapangidwe kake komanso momwe umuna umayendera pakukomedwa komwe kungayambitse nkhawa pakugonana chifukwa kumalimbitsa mantha kuti mwanjira ina simuli bwino.

• Kupanda mphamvu: Amuna ambiri omwe sagona tulo amada nkhawa ndi mphamvu zawo komanso ngati angakwanitse kuwapangitsa okondedwa awo kufika pachimake panthawi yogonana. Izi zitha kukhala chifukwa chachikulu chokhalira ndi nkhawa ndi mnzanu watsopano kapena ngati watsopano. Popeza kwa amuna ambiri gwero lawo lalikulu la maphunziro okhudza kugonana ndi zolaula, amatha kukhala ndi ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka kuchokera ku zochitikazo komanso za luso lawo lakuchita.

Kenako, ngati sangathe kukhala nthawi yayitali ngati momwe ochita sewero amaonera zithunzi zolaula, amayamba kuopa kuti akuvutika ndi matenda monga kutulutsa umuna msanga pomwe mphamvu zawo komanso nthawi yomwe angapitirire kuchita seweroli zingakhale zachilendo. Ndikofunikira kunena kuti kugonana kokhutiritsa kumatha kukhala pakati pa mphindi zitatu ndi khumi ndi zitatu.

Nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kugonana imayambitsa amuna ogonana

Mwa amuna ogonana, zifukwa za nkhawa zingakhale zosiyana kwambiri. Izi zikuphatikizapo:

• Kulephera kukhutiritsa mnzanu: Ngati wokondedwa wawo sakhala ndi orgasm panthawi yogonana nthawi zonse, zimatha kuwasiya amuna akulimbana ndi vuto lalikulu la kugonana. Mafunso monga "Ndikulakwitsa chiyani?" "Kodi angabere ngati sindingathe kumusokoneza?" “Bwanji sabuula ndi kubuula, sindikuchita bwino?” akhoza kuyamba kuzungulira mutu wawo. Zimenezi zingasewere m’maganizo mwawo panthaŵi ya kugonana kulikonse, kuzipangitsa kukhala zosasangalatsa ndi zokhutiritsa. Komabe, sikuti nthawi zonse akazi amafika pachimake pogonana okha. Ngati mukuwona kuti simungathe kupanga okondedwa anu kukhala orgasm, yesani kuyesa njira zosiyanasiyana zowonera kapena zosiyana. kugonana maudindo kukulitsa chisangalalo. Ngati muli pachibwenzi ndi mnyamata yemwe ali ndi nkhawa yogwira ntchito komanso akuda nkhawa ndi moyo wanu wogonana, yesani kumuuza izi. Ngati ndinu mnyamata amene akulimbana ndi nkhawa zochita, kumbukirani izi ndi kukhala odzipereka kwambiri pabedi.

• Osapangana limodzi: Amuna ambiri amada nkhawa kuti iwo ndi okondedwa awo amafikira ku orgasm limodzi. Izi, zimadzetsa nkhawa za momwe amagwirira ntchito komanso zimatha kusokoneza chidziwitso chawo chakugonana. Izi kachiwiri zimachokera ku ziyembekezo zosayembekezereka zokhudzana ndi zochitika zogonana zomwe zimayikidwa pogula muzithunzi zolaula zomwe zimayimiridwa ndizochitika zenizeni. Chowonadi ndi chakuti onse awiri amafikira ku orgasm palimodzi ndizosiyana, osati zomwe zimachitika. Ndipo ngati mudachitako orgasm mnzako asanakhalepo, pali njira zambiri zomwe mungathandizire kuti afike pachimake. Siziyenera kukhala nthawi zonse kudzera mu kugonana kogonana.

• Kufananiza ndi anzanu akale: Kuyerekeza kulikonse ndi zomwe mnzawo adakumana nazo m'mbuyomu, kaya ndi zenizeni kapena zomuganizira, zitha kubweretsa nkhawa yayikulu pakugonana komanso kukhudza kuthekera kwa mwamuna kuchita. Ngati mnzanuyo akunena kuti anali ndi chidziwitso chabwino chogonana ndi wokondedwa wina m'mbuyomo, ndizotsimikizirika kuti mwamunayo asakhale ndi chidaliro ndi kumusiya ali ndi kukayikira za luso lake. Ngakhale kuganiza kuti sali wokhoza kuyika zilakolako za mnzako monga momwe adachitira bwenzi lake lakale kungayambitse chiwonongeko chokwanira, ngakhale ngati mnzanuyo sananene chilichonse chokhudza zimenezo.

• Zokhudza chiwerewere: Nkhawa zokhuza kugonana zimabweranso chifukwa chokayikira ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi amagonana mosadziteteza koma mkaziyo satenga mimba. Mafunso ngati "Kodi ndine wosabereka?" zingasokoneze mphamvu yake yogonana

• Kuda nkhawa ndi kuchepa kwa mphamvu zogonana: M'zaka zapakati, amuna ambiri amada nkhawa ndi momwe ukalamba wawo ungakhudzire luso lawo logonana. Kuyamba kwa moyo monga matenda a shuga kapena kuthamanga kwa magazi kumatha kukulitsa mantha awa, zomwe zimadzetsa kuopa kusakhulupirika kwa mnzanu.

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Chifukwa Chakugonana Nkhawa mwa Amayi

Kwa amayi, kupatula kusowa chidziwitso ndi chidziwitso chokwanira, nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kugonana imatha chifukwa cha kusamvetsetsa kwa thupi lawo komanso kukhala omasuka ndi matupi awo. Panonso nkhawa za amayi omwe ali ndi vuto logonana akhoza kukhala osiyana kwambiri ndi omwe sanagonepo.

Nkhawa zokhuza kugonana zimayambitsa akazi osagonana

Nkhawa za kugonana mwa amayi omwe sanagonepo mpaka pano zimalimbikitsidwa ndi nthano ndi malingaliro olakwika omwe amafalitsidwa ndi chikhalidwe cha pop kapena amaperekedwa ku mibadwomibadwo. Nazi zina mwazifukwa zazikulu zomwe zimachititsa kuti azikhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa chakuchita bwino kwa amayi omwe sagonana:

• Mavuto a chithunzi cha thupi: Atsikana ndi amayi ambiri akuda nkhawa chifukwa chosafunidwa kapena kulephera kukhutitsa bwenzi lawo lamtsogolo chifukwa alibe mphamvu. Momwemonso, atsikana ndi atsikana omwe ali onenepa kapena amawopa kuti sangakhumbidwe ndi okondedwa awo chifukwa ali ndi chilichonse. Chifukwa cha kusowa kwabwino kwa thupi, kaimidwe ka thupi kawo kamasintha, kavalidwe kawo ndi momwe amachitira zinthu zimasintha. Ngakhale kuti zodetsazi zimafala kwambiri mwa atsikana, amakhala ozama kwambiri moti amayi ambiri amavutika nawo moyo wawo wonse.

• Kusamvetsetsa kwa thupi lawo: Kusamvetsetsa za thupi lawo kungapangitsenso atsikana kukhala omasuka pakhungu lawo, motero amalepheretsa mwayi wawo wosangalala kukhala pachibwenzi ndi okondedwa. Amadandaula za momwe mabere awo amawonekera - osafanana kukula kwake, kukhala aakulu kwambiri kapena ochepa kwambiri, osakhala ndi perky mokwanira, mawere awo amakhala aakulu kwambiri kapena omira, ndi zina zotero - ndipo nyini zawo zimakhala zonyansa. Atsikana ang'onoang'ono ambiri amada nkhawa kuti maliseche awo samawoneka okongola chifukwa mwina adawasokoneza powaseweretsa maliseche.

• Kuopa ululu: Pafupifupi atsikana onse amakula kumva kuti choyamba kugonana kumapweteka kwambiri. Izi zimapangitsa kuti aziopa kulowa mkati, zomwe zingakhale chifukwa chachikulu cha nkhawa za kugonana kwa amayi. Ngati nthawi zonse mukuda nkhawa kuti zomwe zidzakuchitikiranizo zidzakhala zowawa bwanji, mwachibadwa simungathe kumasuka ndi kusangalala ndi zochitikazo. Pokhapokha mutakhala omasuka, zochitikazo zidzatha kukhala zowawa. Izi zimabweretsa chizungulire choyipa.

Atsikana ndi atsikana omwe sanagonanepo nawonso nthawi zambiri amada nkhawa kuti nyini yawo ndi yaying'ono kwambiri moti sangagwirizane ndi mbolo ya wokondedwa wawo ngati ili ndi mphamvu, pamene mnyamatayo akudandaula kuti kukula kwake sikukukwanira. Ndizodabwitsa kuti zambiri zabodza zingalepheretse anthu awiri kulumikizana ndikugonana ndikusangalala nazo

• Nthawi zosakhazikika: Ngakhale kusinthasintha pang'ono kwa msambo kungapangitse akazi kukhala ndi nkhawa kuti ayamba kusasamba mosakhazikika. Izi, zimabweretsa nkhawa za kusalinganika kwa mahomoni komanso kubereka kwawo

Nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kugonana imayambitsa akazi ogonana

Pakati pa amayi omwe amagonana nawonso, zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa zokhudzana ndi kugonana ndizofanana - zokhudzana ndi maonekedwe a thupi, kukhala osamasuka ndi thupi lawo, kusowa chidziwitso. Komabe, amawonekera mosiyana.

• Mabere akugwetsa: Ngati mabere awo akugwa kapena kugwa, amayamba kuda nkhawa ngati zomwe adakumana nazo m'mbuyomu zakugonana kapena kuseweretsa mabere panthawi yoseweretsa maliseche zikadathandizira. Ndiye, pamakhala mantha achiweruzo kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wawo wapano, zomwe zimawapangitsa kukhala ndi nkhawa

• Osafunikira: Ngati wokondedwa wake sangathe kukokoloka kapena sakubwezera zomwe akufuna, mkazi akhoza kutanthauzira ngati sakumupezanso wofunika kapena wokongola, pamene pangakhale zifukwa zina zambiri zomwe mwamunayo sakudzutsidwa, kuphatikizapo nkhawa yake yokhudzana ndi kugonana.

• Kusawoneka bwino kwa thupi: Mavuto a maonekedwe a thupi amakhudza amayi ambiri, mosasamala kanthu za maonekedwe ndi kukula kwa thupi lawo. Ngati, pamwamba pa izo, mwamuna amachitira ndemanga pa thupi lake, iye adzakhala wodzidalira kwambiri ndipo sadzakhala womasuka kukhala wamaliseche pamaso pake. Izi zidzakhudzanso khalidwe lawo la kugonana

• Osatenga mimba: Mofanana ndi amuna, amayi nawonso amada nkhawa ndi kubereka kwawo ngati akhala akugonana mosadziteteza ndi amuna awo kapena okondedwa awo kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo satenga mimba. Izi zitha kusokoneza chikhumbo chakugonana komanso kuthekera kokhala ndi mnzanu popanda kupsinjika

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Kugonjetsa Nkhawa Zakugonana

Mosiyana ndi malingaliro ambiri, kuthetsa nkhawa za kugonana sikovuta. Nthawi zambiri, chithandizo chamankhwala kapena mankhwala okhudzana ndi kugonana sichifunikira. Chofunikira ndi chidziwitso choyenera ndi upangiri wochokera kwa katswiri wodalirika, wachifundo. Ngati mukuganiza momwe mungathetsere nkhawa zantchito ndikupewa chiopsezo chokhala m'banja kapena pachibwenzi, nazi malingaliro anga:

• Maphunziro abwino okhudza kugonana komanso kulankhula mosapita m'mbali zokhudza kugonana
• Kuwerenga za zovuta zakugonana komanso kugwiritsa ntchito magwero odalirika kuti mudziwe nokha
• Kufunafuna chitsimikiziro kuchokera kwa munthu wophunzira, wodziwa bwino
• Kufunafuna uphungu wokhudzana ndi kugonana kwa katswiri wodziwa kugonana yemwe angathe kuthana ndi zovuta zomwe mukukumana nazo ndi kukuthandizani kumvetsetsa komanso zomwe mukuyembekezera pa kugonana.
• Kupewa anthu omwe ali ndi vuto la quack omwe angatengerepo nkhawa zanu ndikuwayamwitsa kuti apeze ndalama

Nkhawa yokhudzana ndi kugonana ndi yofala ndipo imatha kuthetsedwa ndi chitsogozo choyenera ndi chithandizo. Ngati nkhawa izi zikukulepheretsani kusangalala ndi moyo wogonana wokhutiritsa, kufunafuna thandizo kwa katswiri wodziwa bwino ntchito komanso wodziwa bwino ntchito kungakhale sitepe yoyamba yofunika kwambiri kuti muchiritsidwe. Musalole mantha kapena manyazi kukulepheretsani. Ndi uphungu wa pa intaneti wa Bonobology , tsopano mutha kupeza thandizo loyenera kuchokera kunyumba kwanu.

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