Defensiveness in relationships is what happens when you hear a complaint as an attack and your nervous system goes straight into self protection mode. Instead of absorbing what your partner is saying, you start protecting your image, your intentions, or your “side of the story.” That is why the conversation quickly turns into blame, excuses,

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