Kuthekani ukuba ndikuxelele ukuba iyeza lakho konke ukungonwabi kunye neentloni ozivayo ngelixa uncokola lifihlwe kuluhlu lwabaqalisi bencoko abahlekisayo? Intoni? Undihleka ibango lam? Ungandigxothi okwangoku, qhubeka ufunda ukuze ubone ukuba ndithetha ngantoni.
Sivile sonke ukuba intsini lelona yeza. Kwaye qikelela ntoni? Yinyani! Uburharha abugcini nje ukugcina abaphulaphuli bakho bonwabile kwaye bonwabile, kodwa bukwasebenza njengeqhekeza elimangalisayo lomkhenkce. Ezinye ii-convo-starters ezihlekisayo zinokunceda abantu bazive bekhululekile kwaye bayeke ukuxhalaba okanye uxinzelelo loluntu.
Ukuqalisa incoko kunokuba ngumsebenzi onzima ngokwenene; i-nerve-wracking even. Nangona kunjalo, ngendlela echanekileyo, unokuqalisa incoko entle ngaphandle kokubonakala ngathi uyakhwankqisa okanye uzenze isidenge.
Abanye abaqalisi bencoko abahlekisayo nabanomdla banokukunceda ukuba ubambe ingqalelo, wakhe ubuhlobo kwaye wenze umyalezo wakho ukhumbuleke ngakumbi. Uburharha obuncinci bunokukhuthaza abantu ukuba babeke umlindo wabo kwaye baphumle kufutshane nawe. Inokubenza bazive bekhululekile ngakumbi, ngaloo ndlela iphucula umgangatho wobudlelwane bakho.
Nangona kunjalo, icandelo elibalulekileyo ekutsaleni ngempumelelo 'i-convo-starter ehlekisayo' kukuba nengxowa ezele zizihloko ezihlekisayo onokuthetha ngazo. Ukuphelelwa yimixholo yencoko ehlekisayo ngumba onzulu. Kodwa ungakhathazeki! Silapha ukukusindisa.
I-100 laBaqalisi beNcoko ehlekisayo Ukuzama
Kuluhlu lweemeko ezoyikeka kakhulu, 'ukuthula okungathandekiyo' ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kukwenza kube phezulu. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ezi 'zokuthula zingathandekiyo' zisenokuphazamisa umtsalane wakho. Xa ufuna ngokwenene ukuthetha nomntu, kodwa ungaqinisekanga ngento omawuyithethe, usenokuziva uneentloni. Ukunqanda oku, kubalulekile ukuba uyigcine incoko iqhubeka. Kwaye kunye funny ogqibeleleyo kunye flirty convo- starters, akuyi kufuneka ukhathazeke ngokuyiqhuba wedwa incoko.
Nazi ii-100 ezihlekisayo zokuqalisa incoko ekuhlanguleni kwakho; uqinisekisiwe ukufumana intsini. Nokuba udibana nabantu abatsha okanye udibana nabahlobo bakho bakudala, zama ukusebenzisa aba baqalisi be-convo bahlekisayo ukuqalisa incoko abantu abangayi kuyilibala ngokukhawuleza.
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1. Leliphi ivumba elingaqhelekanga owakhe wadibana nalo?
2. Loluphi uhlobo lwehlelo onokuthi uluqalise?
3. Ukuba ubusisilwanyana sasekhaya, ubunokufuna bani njengomnini wakho?
4. Ucinga ntoni ngepayina elikwipizza?
6. Ungamthiya ntoni umntwana wotshaba lwakho?
5. Ungakhawuleza kangakanani ukuza neqhula lakho elithi 'knock-knock'?
7. Zingaphi izandi zefart ozaziyo?
8. Yiyiphi ifilimu enokuba ngcono ukuba i-villain ibe yiqhawe?
9. Leliphi igama lesiNgesi elingavakaliyo kwintsingiselo yalo?
10. Loluphi uhlobo lwesosi, ukuba luthe lwaba ngumntu, luya kwenza indlovukazi enkulu yokutsala?
11. Yeyiphi eyona nto ingaqhelekanga owayiginyayo usengumntwana?
12. Bathetha ukuthini abantu xa bendibuza ukuba “Uqhuba njani?” Ngaba balindele iresiphi okanye inkqubo okanye into ethile?
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13 Ngowuphi umkhohlakali kwiikhathuni onokufuna ukuba nguye? Ngoba?
14. Ungawubamba ixesha elingakanani uchama? Uyazi njani loo nto?
15. Ngaba ukhe wahlawula i-cashier kuphela ngeengqekembe ukuze umcaphukise?
16. Sesiphi isilwanyana esinoburhalarhume xa sinyuselwa phezulu?
17. Iingcongconi zizama ukuthini ezindlebeni zakho?
18. Elona lungu lomzimba lihlekisayo ngokutsho kwakho lelo …?
19. Yeyiphi eyona nto ihlekisayo eyenziwe lundwendwe ekhayeni lakho?
20 Yeyiphi eyona nto ingenamsebenzi onayo?
21. Yeyiphi eyona tattoo ihlekisayo owake wayibona?
22. Yeyiphi eyona ndawo ibangela iintloni oye wayenza?
23. Yintoni oyibiza ngokuba liladybug?
24. Leliphi inenekazi elaphulukana neminwe yalo ngenxa yomfi?
25. Wakhe waba nomhlobo wentelekelelo?
Ufumene aba baqalisi bencoko bahlekisayo? Yima phezulu! Sinazo ezinye ezihlekisayo ukuqala incoko kufolelwe wena. Ewe, silungile ngolo hlobo.
26. Loluphi olona xhatshazo luhlekisayo oweza nalo?
27. Ngaba wakha wathuka umhlobo wakho ngenxa nje yokuzonwabisa?
28. Ngubani ocinga ukuba uhleka eyona ntsini?
29. Sesiphi isilwanyana onqwenela ukuthetha ngaso?
30. Ukuba ubomi ngumdlalo wevidiyo, yeyiphi ikhowudi yokuqhatha ongathanda ukuyisebenzisa kakhulu?
31. Leliphi elona phupha lingaqhelekanga wakha waliphupha?
32. Yeyiphi eyona ntlekele yokutya okhe wadibana nayo?
33. Ucinga ukuba oonombombiya banamadolo?
34. Ucinga ukuba uTom noJerry babengabahlobo ngasese?
35. Kwi-apocalypse ye-zombie, ucinga ukuba uya kuhlala ixesha elingakanani?
36. Wachama kangaphi equleni?
37. Ubuya kwenza ntoni ukuba ubunewele?
38. Yeyiphi eyona iresiphi ilula ongasoze uyifumane?
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39. Ukuba ubuyinzululwazi ephambeneyo, ubuya kudala ntoni?
40. Ngaba ukhe watya kakhulu ukuthethelela iindleko ze-buffet?
41. Wakha wamtshicela umntu xa uhleka?
42. Esona sizathu sihlekisayo wakha wasisebenzisa?
43. Ngaba wakha watyhola umntakwenu ngento oyenzileyo?
44. Leliphi igama ocinga ukuba lelona lihlekisayo xa lithethwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo?
45. Ngawaphi awona mandla makhulu ahlekisayo anokuba nawo umntu?
46. Sesiphi isilwanyana ocinga ukuba sesona silwanyana sikhulu sepati?
47. Yintoni enuka ngcono imvula okanye ipetroli?
48. Loluphi ubhejo oluphambeneyo owakhe walwenza?
49. Yeyiphi imikhwa onayo ekwenza uzive ngathi umdala?
50. Ukuba unokuba nomdlalo wakho wenyani kamabonakude, inokuba malunga nantoni kwaye ungayibiza ngantoni?
Ukonwabela olu luhlu lwabaqalisi bencoko ehlekisayo? Ewe, asikhange siphelelwe yinto ehlekisayo kwaye izihloko flirty ukuthetha ngayo okwangoku. Qhubeka ufunda - unokusibulela kamva.
51. Ukuba ndihlawulela iziselo, ndingakhalaza malunga nomntu endihlala naye okhohlakeleyo ovale isinki kwakhona?
52. Ukuba umntu ubone kuphela i-akhawunti yakho ye-Spotify okanye ye-Netflix, banokucinga ukuba ungubani?
53. Ziziphi izinto ezingalunganga abaqala ukuzibona abantu ngawe?
54. Yeyiphi imeme emele ubomi bakho?
55. Ingaba unaso isakhono okanye into ozonwabisa ngayo ekhoyo kuphela kwi-CV yakho?
56. Yeyiphi eyona ndlela ibangela iintloni ozenzakalisa ngayo?
57. Wakha wakhotha into engatyiwayo kuba nje ufuna incasa?
58. Elona nyango lingaqhelekanga wakha walizama…?
59. Wakhe waphupha uhamba ze?
60. Wakhe waba nomlinganiswa wekhathuni njengesithixo sakho?
61. Ucinga ukuba bangathini abasemzini xa bedibana nawe?
62. Yeyiphi eyona prank wakha wayitsalela emntwini?
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63. Sesiphi isipho esibi osifumeneyo ekufuneka usigcinile?
64. Ngaba wakha, ngempazamo ngokucacileyo, waphinda waphiwa isipho kumntu okunike sona?
65. Sesiphi isilo-qabane onaso onokusenza sibe mthethweni?
66. Yiyiphi ifilimu ocinga ukuba imele ubomi bakho?
67. Yeyiphi inkolelo owawukholelwa kuyo usengumntwana?
68. Bekunokuthini ukuba izilwanyana bezinxiba impahla?
69. Ukuba bekufuneka wenze umvambo wobuso bomntu odumileyo emzimbeni wakho, iyakuba ngokabani? (Kwaye ungawufumana phi lo mvambo?)
70. Ngubani obuya kungcungcuthekisa ukuba ubusisiporho?
71. Zeziphi iifilimu zakho ezintathu eziphambili ezizithandayo ezimbi kakhulu, ukuba zilungile ngandlela-thile?
72. Ucinga ukuba abasemzini bangakuthanda xa bedibana nawe?
73. Leliphi ilizwi elidumileyo okanye i-line-line abantu abadla ngokuyicaphula, kodwa ufumana inkunkuma epheleleyo?
74. Yintoni owayifumanisa ipholile usengumntwana, kodwa ayisekho ngoku?
75. Yeyiphi italente engaqhelekanga onayo oqhayisa ngayo ngokufihlakeleyo?
Ngaba uyeka ukuhleka? Ewe, bamba umoya ukuba unako, kuba sineminye imibuzo ehlekisayo esinokukubuza yona.
76. Ngowuphi owona mgca wokuchola amatshizi wakha wawasebenzisa/wawuva?
77. Yeyiphi eyona nyaniso ihlekisayo oyaziyo?
78. Yeyiphi indlela oyithandayo yokuchitha ixesha?
79. Yeyiphi eyona diss inkulu onokuthi uze nayo ngoku?
80. Ukuba unokuyila incasa entsha ye-ayisikrimu, inokuba yintoni?
81. Yintoni oyithandayo “Usapho lwam luyaphambana!” ibali?
82. Ngawaphi amarhe angaqhelekanga owaweva ngawe?
83. Ukuba bendinokukhangela imbali yophando lwakho, yeyiphi eyona nto ibangela iintloni endinokuyifumana apho?
84. Ngowuphi owona mzuzu umbi kakhulu “Uxolo, ibiyixesha lokuzilungisa ngokuzenzekelayo” owakhe wanawo?
85. Yeyiphi indawo yefilimu ongathanda ukuhlala kuyo?
86. Yeyiphi eyona nto iphambeneyo owakhe wayenza nabahlobo bakho?
87. Ingaba abantwana abadlala kwimiboniso bhanyabhanya elinganiswe ngokuka-R bavumelekile ukuba bayibukele ifilimu xa yenziwe?
88. Ingaba unalo ibali elihlekisayo elivela kulungiselelo lomhla ongaboniyo?
89. Ukuba iitumato zisisiqhamo, ngaba i-ketchup ithathwa njenge-smoothie?
90. Ukuba umntu uthe kuwe “Yiba yinkokeli ungabi ngumlandeli,” awungekhe ube ngumlandeli ngokulandela iingcebiso zabo?
91. Kwakutheni ukuze babeke igama elithi 'isichazi-magama' kwisichazi-magama?
92. Xa inguwe olinde ukutya kwakho, kutheni le nto i-waiter ibizwa ngokuba 'yiweyitara'?
93. Kwigama elithi 'ivumba' ucinga ukuba yeyiphi ithuleyo - 's' okanye 'c'?
94. Kutheni kungekho kutya kwekati enencasa yempuku?
95. Ukuba isicathulo sikaCinderella samfanela ngokugqibeleleyo, ngoko kutheni siwe?
96. Ucinga ukuba umntu kufuneka ahambe kude kangakanani empuma phambi kokuba aqale ukuya ngasentshona?
97. Kufuneka ubaluleke kangakanani ukuze uthathwe njengobuleweyo kwaye ungabulawa?
98. Yintoni abayibiza ngokuba yiFrench kissing eFransi?
99. Wagqibela nini ukuhleka kabuhlungu, wakrazuka?
100. Ngubani ongoyena mntu unokuxinga kwilifti?
Ndiyathemba ukuba olu luhlu lwabaqalisi bencoko ehlekisayo lubonelele ngezihloko ezinomdla nezihlekisayo onokuthetha ngazo. Aba baqalisi be-convo banokukunceda uphile zonke iincoko zakho. Iya kukwahlula kwabanye kwaye yenze incoko ibe yinto ekhumbulekayo. Kodwa khumbula, incoko luthethathethwano oluqukayo. Sukuyenza i-monologue, kwaye ungaqhubeki ugqogqa abantu ngombuzo omnye emva komnye.
Ukufumana ezona zinto ziyonwabisayo nezinomdla, ungalibali ukujonga iBonobology.com.
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Ingcebiso eyimfihlo yokuqalisa incoko eyodwa kukuyeka ukuzama kakhulu. Xa uzama ukuba 'nomdla ngakumbi,' kukho ithuba elihle lokuba ungagqitha ngaphezulu ngokusebenzisa zonke izinto zakho 'ezinomdla'.
Nanga amanye amacebo asisiseko onokuwasebenzisa ukuqalisa incoko eyodwa ngaphandle kokuba 'ugqithise kakhulu' kuyo nantoni na…ubungqongqo kakhulu, ukuthetha kakhulu, ukuba noluvo kakhulu – uyawufumana umfanekiso.
(i) Thetha ngamava ekwabelwana ngawo
(ii) Yenza izincomo
(iii) Buza uluvo
(iv) Nika uncedo
(v) Cela uncedo
(vi) Qala ngesincoko esihlekisayo
(vii) Buza umbuzo ovulelekileyo
Ukubhalelana ngefowuni ngoku kuye kwaba yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bethu. Kwaye ukuqala incoko
ngaphezulu kokubhaliweyo, ngaphandle kokuba 'ivalwe' bubugcisa.
Nantsi imizekelo yabaqalisi bencoko abalungileyo ngesicatshulwa.
(i) Ungazichaza njani ngamagama amathathu?
(ii) Uluchaza njani ulonwabo kuwe?
(iii) Leliphi elona silwanyana sakho esizithandayo?
(iv) Yintoni oyithanda kakhulu?
(v) Ngaba ungumntu waselwandle okanye ungowasezintabeni?
(vi) Yeyiphi ingoma yokugqibela oyimameleyo?
(vii) Lithini iphupha lakho lomsebenzi?
Maxa wambi kunokuba nzima ukuqalisa incoko nentombazana oyithandayo. Yiyo loo nto kubaluleke ngakumbi ukunamathela kwezinye ii-convo-starters ezisisiseko ngelixa uthetha nentombazana.
Nantsi imixholo esisiseko kunye nemibuzo enokukunceda uqalise incoko enika umdla kunye naye.
(i) Mncome!
(ii) Thetha ngomsebenzi wakhe.
(iii) Mbuze ukuba ukhe wabukela nayiphi na imiboniso emihle yeNetflix mva nje.
(iv) Khetha umcimbi wangoku okanye umxholo wentlalo kwaye ucele uluvo lwakhe.
(v) Mbuze ukuba kukho ithiyori yeyelenqe engaqhelekanga akholelwa kuyo.
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