Ngubani ongawathandiyo amabali omtshato. Nantsi ingqokelela yethu yawona mabali omtshato alishumi abalaseleyo eIndiya. Amanye amabali achaza indlela izibini ezazama ngayo ukwenza umtshato wazo ubonakale kwaye ezinye zimalunga nokuzabalaza kwabo ukufumana umsitho womtshato ngendlela ebebecinga ngayo.
Siyakuqinisekisa, uya kuwonwabela la mabali omsitho womtshato.
Indlela Endandithanda Ngayo
Isiqulatho
Ndiwa emathandweni ayikho ezandleni zakho, ingenzeka nanini na, naphi na. NdinguDeepshikha, yaye eli libali lam lokuthandana kwam nomyeni wam.
Wathi umama xa endibuza ukuba ndinomfana na, ndathi hayi kuthe kungaphelanga nemizuzwana wavula iprofile ye Shaadi.com awayendenzele yona. Yaba ngumsebenzi kum yonke imihla ukujonga amathuba omtshato.
Kwaye ngenye imini entle, ndadibana nale profayile. Wayebonakala esenza kakuhle. Umama waba nemincili kakhulu kwaye wabiza inombolo ekwiphepha leprofayili. Loo mnxeba umnye undinike ukungxamela kweadrenaline. Yathi qatha engqondweni yam izihlandlo ezilikhulu ukuba ndingagqibela ngokutshata nalo mfo. Ngandlel’ ithile, ndandinemvakalelo enamandla ngayo. Ngelo xesha, umama wayegqibile ukuthetha ngefowuni nomfana esithi unike inombolo yam kuye kwaye uzondifowunela malunga nemizuzu emihlanu.
Oombayimbayi, kungekhona amasiko, aye atywina lo mtshato
Ngosuku umama wathetha ngalo ngomtshato wam, ndabhalisela uqeqesho lokudubula umpu. Ezi zibini yayiziziganeko ezinganxulumananga.
Ndandisele ndineminyaka engama-25 ubudala, nto leyo eyayiluphawu lokuba abalingani basekuhlaleni bathabathe umsebenzi wam ngempindezelo. Omnye umalume wenza ilori eneekopi zencwadi yam yeenkwenkwezi ukuze inikwe wonke ummi waseTamil edolophini.
Ndandifuna ukunandipha inkululeko yam kangangoko ndandinako. Njengombhali weendaba, ndandiwuthanda umsebenzi wam kwaye ndandithanda indlela yokuphila engaqhelekanga endiyinikelayo. Ndandingakholelwa ‘kulonwabo lwasekhaya’ ababezama ukuthengisa abazali bam. Kodwa andizange ndifune ukubacaphukisa kwaye endaweni yoko, ndiyeke isekisi yokwenza umdlalo iqhube ikhosi.
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Isiphakamiso, isicatshulwa esinxilisayo kunye nolonwabo-emva koko
Andizange ndiyiqonde kakuhle into endandingena kuyo xa ndathi ewe ku-Arjun phantsi kwesibhakabhaka seedayimani ezimenyezelayo. Bendihleli ecakwakhe ethangeni ndinxibe ushoti wakhe amthandayo. Iinwele zam zazidlakadlaka kwaphela. Imigca eluhlaza yayinika ithuba lokuba tyheli omdaka kodwa kwakumnyama kakhulu ukuba ungabonwa. Sasinxilile xa wabuza umbuzo esasingawulindelanga kwaphela. Ewe, ewe, ewe! Kwaye ndinxilile ndathumela umyalezo ozenzekelayo phantse kuwo wonke umntu okuluhlu lwam lonxibelelwano, ndisithi ndinguye. ukutshata ukuya eArjun.
Ngelishwa into endingazange ndiyiqonde ngelo xesha yayikukuba 'phantse wonke umntu' wayeya kubandakanya bonke abazala bam, oodadobawo noomalume bam kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kumama kunye notata wam - impazamo endayibona ngentsasa elandelayo.
Iqatha elijijekileyo kunye ne-twist kwi-pheras
Emva kokuthandana iminyaka emine, ekugqibeleni uRhea noVicky batshata. Kwabakho inkcaso kuzo zombini ezi ntsapho kodwa zaye zazama ngandlela zonke ukukholisa abazali bazo, kodwa akuzange kuncede nto. Bamtyityimbisel’ umnwe ngelithi baza kubaleka. Abazali baye bavuma. Ngokuqinisekileyo banokwenza ngaphandle kwehlazo.
Ngokuthathela ingqalelo inqanaba longquzulwano ababejongene nalo, esi sibini sasilindele unyango lweqabaka kumacala omabini, okwethutyana. Kodwa bamangaliswa. Abazali bakaRhea bamamkela ngezandla ezishushu uVicky entsatsheni. Wayesoloko etotoswa kutyelelo ngalunye. Abazali bakaVicky bamtshisela uRhea ngayo yonke ingqalelo eyayimfanele ukuba abe ngumolokazana. Wonke umntu wayebonakala ethathe i-U-turn epheleleyo!
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I-cocktail yeenkcubeko
Ibali lethu lifilimu ye-Bollywood (i-Chennai Express kunye ne-2 States in reverse). NdingumPunjabi nditshate nomntu waseTamil. Noko ke, ngokungafaniyo nale mifanekiso bhanyabhanya, omabini la macala avumelana ngokukhawuleza ngomtshato wethu.
Amalungiselelo omtshato azisa iiyantlukwano ezingathethekiyo. Umyeni wam, waseTamil Brahmin, wathi ngokungqongqo akukho kutya, ukudanisa okanye iziselo ezingezizo imifuno ngosuku lomtshato ngenxa yabadala abalondolozayo kusapho lwakhe. Babevumile ukwenza umsitho ngesiPunjabi, ongaqalisi kwangentseni njengomtshato wamaTamil kodwa uthembisa ukuqhubeka kude kube sekuseni. Sagqiba ekubeni senze i-3-D's (Umdaniso, isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye neziselo) ipati yecocktail phambi kosuku lomtshato.
Imitshato yaseIndiya kunye nobugcisa bokulandelela imigca
Umakazi omkhulu wasuswa kabini wakha wasibiza ngaphandle kweblue esimemela kumtshato womzukulwana wakhe. “Yintoni, awundikhumbuli?” Uye wakhwaza esoyikeka kakhulu emnxebeni, waqhubekeka nokuchaza eyona webhu inzima kunye nentsokothileyo yobudlelwane obusidibanisayo. Kaloku, ndandilapho emtshatweni wabazali bakho! Ndazixolisa ngelithi ndandiphosiwe kweso siganeko, mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba ndandingekazalwa. Uye warhona naby pamby excuse. Ngokubhekiselele kuye, ngokwezingxengxezo ze-namby-pamby, yayilapho kanye ecaleni "Bendiphuma ukulwa imfazwe!" okanye “Ndandisesibhedlele ndifumana umntwana!”
Umtshakazi wayenxibe ijean
Ndatshata xa ndandineminyaka eli-19 ubudala. Ndothuke kwangaxeshanye kwabe kunjalo nabahlobo bam basekholejini. Kodwa ndachukunyiswa nguRavi kamsinya nje sakudibana, yaye abazali bam bakuvuyela ukuvuma ukutshata naye.
“Ngamanye amaxesha, ezona nkumbulo zibalaseleyo zomtshato zezo ubungazilungiselelanga.”
Ndandisemncinci njengokuba umntu unokuba ngaloo minyaka kwaye ndathatha isibhambathiso sobudenge sokutshata kwi-jean yeWrangler endiyithandayo. Kucacile ukuba umama wala ukumamela nantoni na ngale nto. Utata wayendonelisa aze aziphose phezulu izandla zakhe esithi akukho nto anokuyenza ngaloo nto. Loo nto yandenza ndadelela ngakumbi. Ulonwabo lwalukukophula imithetho kwaye ngokuchasene nesithethe. Ndenze amabango amade kubahlobo bam ngayo kwaye yayiza kuba njalo! Undihlekise uRavi esithi uzonditshata nokuba ndinxibe ntoni.
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Wawumisa umtshato wakhe wesithandwa sakhe
Sisenokuba sifumene inkululeko yethu kwiminyaka engama-70 eyadlulayo kodwa iIndiya ayikuvumeli ukuba ukhululeke. Sisengabathinjwa beentsomi, iingcinga zakudala kunye noxinzelelo loluntu.
Mna noAloka sisazana oko sisebancinci. Ndandicinga ukuba ndiyamazi ngaphakathi. Imbono yam yatshatyalaliswa ngemini yomtshato wakhe kodwa. Noko ke, inxalenye yam iyavuyiswa kukuba yenjenjalo. Ngakumbi kuye, kunam.
Iyamangalisa njengoko le migca ilandelayo inokuvakala, yenzeka ngokwenene. Njengoko umyeni elinde kwi-mandap, u-Aloka wazixakekisa kwigumbi elivaliweyo eliphezulu, kunye nabazali bakhe, (kwaye wandinyanzela ukuba ndihlale) ngexesha lenyaniso.
Iimuvi ezigqwesileyo kwimisitho yoMtshato
Umtshato woMhlobo wam osenyongweni
Xa umhlobo wexesha elide webhinqa etyhila ukuba uthembisene ngomtshato, uyaqonda ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uzimisele ukumfumana, kwiintsuku ezimbalwa ngaphambi komtshato. (105 imiz.)
Umtshakazi obalekileyo
Intatheli inikwe umsebenzi wokuba ibhale ibali ngowasetyhini oshiye amasoka esibingelelweni.
UmKhosikazikazi
Ngelixa egula ekhaya elele, utatomkhulu womfana omncinane umfundela ibali elibizwa ngokuba nguMtshakazi oyiNkosazana. (98 imiz.)
Umtshato wam omkhulu wamaGrike
Ibhinqa eliselula elingumGrike lithandana nomntu ongengomGrike yaye liyasokola ukuba intsapho yalo limamkele ngoxa lisamkela imvelaphi yalo nenkcubeko yalo. (95 imiz.)
UYise woMtshakazi
Njengoko umtshato wentombi yakhe endala usondela, utata ufumanisa ukuba akafuni ukuwukhulula. (105 imiz.)
Umtshato weMonsoon
Utata oxinezelekileyo, umtshakazi oza kuba nemfihlo, umcwangcisi wesiganeko obethwayo, nezalamane ezisuka ehlabathini lonke babangela umdla omkhulu ngamalungiselelo omtshato olungiselelweyo eIndiya. (114 imiz.)
Iingcaphuno kwimisitho yomtshato
Isikhumbuzo somtshato ngumbhiyozo wothando, ukuthembana, ubambiswano, ukunyamezelana kunye nokuzingisa. Umyalelo uyahluka kuwo nawuphi na unyaka.
- UPaul SweeneyIlokhwe yomtshato iyinto esondeleyo kunye neyomntu yowesifazane - kufuneka ibonise ubuntu kunye nesitayela somtshakazi.
- UCarolina HerreraUmtshato ngumngcwabo apho unuka iintyatyambo zakho.
- UEddie CantorUmtshato, umtshato omkhulu, yinto nje eqhumayo. Umbhiyozo wothando noluntu kunye nothando… Yintoni engathandekiyo ngaloo nto? Akukho nto.
- uAriel LevyGcina
FAQs
1. Yintoni eyenza ibali lomtshato likhumbuleke?
Ibali lomtshato elikhumbulekayo libamba imvakalelo, amaxesha angalindelekanga, kunye nokuchukumisa umntu ngamnye okwenza uhambo lwesibini ukuya esibingelelweni lube lodwa. Nokuba sisibhambathiso esinenyembezi okanye impazamo ehlekisayo, bubunyani obuhlala kuwe.
"Umtshato wangaphandle ka-Emma noJack wawucetywe ngeenyanga, kwaye uqikelelo lwemozulu lwabonisa ukukhanya kwelanga de kwaba ngumzuzu wokugqibela. Ngomhla womtshato, amafu amnyama aqengqeleka kwaye imvula yaqala ukugalela ngaphambi nje kokuba batshintshe izibhambathiso. Esikhundleni sokungena ngaphakathi, u-Emma noJack bagqiba ekubeni bawamkele loo mzuzu. Iindwendwe zabo zakhupha iiambrela, kwaye isibini sasimi, sigxininise njengemvula, kodwa sathembisana ubomi. ukuqina, neefoto zezibhambathiso zabo phantsi kwemvula zaba yintandokazi yomntu wonke uJack usaqhula ukuba “nesibhakabhaka sakhala ngolonwabo ngaloo mini.
2. La mabali othando azikhuthaza njani izibini?
La mabali akhumbuza izibini ukuba uthando luhambo, kwaye umtshato ngamnye umele ukuqala kwesahluko esitsha. Bakhuthaza abanye ukuba bawamkele amabali abo othando, nokuba abonakala eqhelekile kangakanani na okanye engaqhelekanga.
3. Uthini umxholo oqhelekileyo kuwo onke la mabali omtshato?
Umsonto oqhelekileyo luthando. Nokuba kukoyisa imiceli mngeni, ukongeza izinto zobuqu kumsitho, okanye ukungqongwa nje ngabantu obathandayo, uthando nokuzibophelela kuqaqambile kwibali ngalinye.
Iingcinga Final
Imitshato ayikho nje imisitho; ziyincopho yamabali othando kunye nesiqalo sezahluko ezitsha. Awona mabali omtshato abalaseleyo ahlala ebalaselisa indlela uthando oluqaqamba ngayo nakwelona xeshana lincinci-nokuba sisithembiso esihlebelweyo, ukujonga ekwabelwana ngako, okanye ukuhleka okuzenzekelayo. La mabali asikhumbuza ukuba umtshato awuyonto nje egqibeleleyo; imalunga nabantu ababini abazibophelela kubomi bokungafezeki, amaxesha amahle kunye.
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Wowu! Le yingqokelela ye-mushy emnandi yamabali omtshato! Kumnandi ukufunda!