Ufezekile. Ukubudlelwane bephupha. Usenokuba ude wadibana nabazali. Lixesha lokuthatha ubudlelwane ukuya 'kwinqanaba elilandelayo'. Ubungenakucela enye into. Kodwa (ewe, eyona nto ibalulekileyo 'BUT'!) amathandabuzo obudlelwane aqala ukubuyisela intloko embi ebangela ukubola okukhulu kwintsomi yakho.
Ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa. Ukuba namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane obutsha, ngakumbi xa ukuhamba kugqibelele, yinto efunyanwa ngumntu wonke othandweni. Isenokuba ngendlela yokungathembani okuncinci okanye inokuba yinkxalabo ebangelwa ziiflegi ezibomvu oye waziqaphela mva nje ezikwenza ubuze ibhondi yakho yonke kunye nesithandwa sakho. Ke, nokuba uyathandabuza malunga nobudlelwane obutsha okanye ubudlelwane obudlulileyo, sinomqolo wakho.
Ngaba Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba namathandabuzo kubudlelwane?
Isiqulatho
Mhlawumbi uvile nge-imposter syndrome, edla ngokubizwa ngokuba yi-imposter phenomenon kwizifundo zengqondo. Eli linqanaba apho abantu abaphumeleleyo bakholelwa kwingcinga yokuba impumelelo yabo ayiyonyani okanye ayiyonyani, kwaye izakhono zabo zokwenyani, ezingaphantsi kweenkwenkwezi ziya kutyhilwa ngenye imini. Ngaba ubukufanele ngokwenene olo lwando, olo zuko, okanye olonyuso? Ngaba wena kunye nezakhono zakho ekugqibeleni ziya kubhencwa njengezobubuxoki? Abantu abasi-7 kwabali-10 baba namathandabuzo angapheliyo ngaxa lithile ebomini babo.
Ke ewe, ngequbuliso ukuba namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane kuqhelekile kwaye kwenzeka kuzo zonke izibini. Nangona i-imposter syndrome isoloko iboniswa njengomba wobuqu, iingcinga ezithelekisekayo zinokwenzeka kumxholo wobudlelwane bezesondo. Xa ubuchule bakho bugqithisa ukuzithemba kwakho, unikezela kubudlelwane bomkhohlisi-kaninzi kuba usebenzisa imigangatho engeyonyani, uziva unobuqhophololo, kwaye unexhala lokutyhila inyaniso efihliweyo yonxibelelwano lwakho.
Isenzeko somkhohlisi wobudlelwane senzeka xa usoyika, unokuthandabuza, kwaye kukho ukungaqiniseki kubudlelwane ngaphandle kweempawu ezibonisa ukuba wonwabile kwaye usempilweni. Uyazibuza ukuba yonke into ibonakala ilungile kakhulu ukuba ibe yinyani, into oyiphosayo, kwaye uqala ukubuza yonke into.
Uqala ukubuza okanye ukuzibuza oku kulandelayo:
- Ndinexhala lokuba ubudlelwane bam buza kusilela kwixesha elizayo
- Xa abanye bencoma ulwalamano lwam, loo nto indenza ndizive ndingakhululekanga
- Maxa wambi ndiye ndoyike xa abantu bebona indlela olubi ngayo ulwalamano lwam
- Ndiyoyika isithandwa sam sinamathandabuzo ngekamva lethu
- Ndinexhala lokuba abantu endibakhathaleleyo banokuqonda ukuba ubudlelwane bam abukho buhle ngendlela abakholelwa ngayo
- Andikwazi ukuzibamba ndivakalelwa kukuba ubudlelwane bam kufanele ukuba ngcono
- Naxa ulwalamano lwam luhamba kakuhle, kuba nzima ukukholelwa ukuba luya kuhlala luhleli
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Ezinye iimvakalelo zomkhohlisi zisuka kulindelo oluphezulu ngokungekho ngqiqweni olubangela ukuba ungahoyi imiqondiso efanelekileyo. Izinto zilungile, kodwa zingahlala zingcono. Izinto ezilungileyo sizithatha njengento engenamsebenzi ngoxa sibambelele kokubi. Sinexhala lokuba iqabane lethu okanye abanye (umzekelo, abahlobo kunye nosapho) baya kuqaphela ukuba ubudlelwane bethu abuyiyo le nto bubonakala buyiyo.
Kangangokuba kubi njengoko konke oko kuvakala, nantsi eyona nto ibalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule: ezo mvakalelo zobuqhophololo zihlala zibaxiwe. Mhlawumbi uxhalabile ngezinto ezingekhoyo, uhlwayela amathandabuzo angenasihlahla, kwaye ude uzinyanzele ukuba wenze izigqibo (umzekelo, kufuneka sahlukane?) ekungafunekiyo ukuba uzenze. Ngaphambi kokuba kube kade, jongana neemvakalelo zakho zokuthandabuza ubudlelwane. Ngoko masiqale sizazi ukuba ziyintoni na.
Kuthethwa Ntoni Ngamathandabuzo oBudlelwane?
Amathandabuzo ngobudlelwane okanye ukuxhalaba zezo mvakalelo ozifumanayo xa uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye neqabane lakho ukanti uyathandabuza ukubathemba ngokupheleleyo. Xa uthando lokwenyani lubetha, yonke into kuthiwa ingena endaweni yomlingo kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa uqala ukuthandabuza iimvakalelo zakho ngomntu ngequbuliso?
Inokukhokelela kwi-jitters yomzuzu wokugqibela kunye neengcinga ezingalunganga, ngakumbi ngaphambi komtshato (cinga Umtshakazi obalekileyo edlala noJulia Roberts kunye noRichard Gere). Okanye okubi nakakhulu, kunokukhokelela kwi-paranoia, uloyiko, kunye nokukrokra okunzulu okunokuthi kube nefuthe kwindlela oqhuba ngayo ubudlelwane bakho bexesha elizayo.
Into yokuqala ukuyiqonda kukuba ukubuza ubudlelwane ikakhulu yimpendulo kwiinguqu zequbuliso okanye amava angalindelekanga. Umzekelo, ukuba ubusoloko ukwimeko embi okanye ubudlelwane obuxhaphazayo xa ufumana umntu okukhathalele ngokwenene, usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukurhoxa!
Ngamanye amaxesha izinto ozilindeleyo malunga neqabane lakho azihambelani nenyani. Ngokomzekelo, usenokuba uchukumisekile yigrafu yomsebenzi ka-bae kuphela ukwazi ukuba imeko yabo ayifani naleyo bebeyichazile. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, amathandabuzo angokwemvelo kwaye ukuxhalaba kubudlelwane kuvela.
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Amathandabuzo ngobudlelwane - Imibuzo engama-21 omele uzibuze yona ukuze ucoce intloko yakho
Nangona utyekelo lokuba neengcinga zesibini nezesithathu malunga nokuzibophelela kunye nomtshato luxhaphake kakhulu, kufuneka ube nezizathu zokuxhalaba kuphela xa ufikelela kwinqanaba lokuba isibini esiyityhefu. Ke ukuba ubusoloko uziva ungekho kubudlelwane okanye uhlale uzibuza ngeemvakalelo zakho, zibandakanye kancinane ekuzibonakaliseni kwaye uzibuze imibuzo enzima.
Oku kunokungakucaciseli nje; isenokude ikusindise ekubeni sisithandwa esisabayo. Siqokelele imibuzo embalwa eqhelekileyo / iingxaki ezibangela ukuba ngequbuliso ube namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane. Zihlalutye kwaye ubhekisele kwimitha yamathandabuzo ukuqonda ukuba unesizathu sokukhathazeka okanye ungomnye nje othandabuzayo uTomas okanye uTina!
Khumbula, ukuba namathandabuzo ngobudlelwane kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Imitha ephezulu ithetha ukuba amathandabuzo akho ngawe okanye umhlekazi wakho asemthethweni kwaye kufuneka inyathelo, kwaye amanqaku aphantsi athetha ukuba kufuneka uthathe ipilisi yokugodola kwaye uthathe inyathelo.
1. Ngaba ndiyatsaleleka kwabanye abantu?
Amazulu amahle, kunjalo! Sonke singabantu, kwaye phantse akunakwenzeka ukuba sihambe ebomini sitsalwa ngumntu omnye kuphela. Isenokuba ngumtsalane kumntu osebenza naye, umntu odibana naye kwisiganeko okanye kwimarike, okanye nokuba yingxilimbela ehlazekileyo yodumo olutyumzayo oluthathayo nangona ungumntu omdala.
Kodwa umtsalane ulungile. Ngenxa yokuba uzinikele, kubudlelwane bomntu omnye akuthethi ukuba ungazicima iimpembelelo zakho. Oku akuthethi ukuba ungumntu ombi, okanye awukwazi ukuzinikela. Gcina nje umtsalane wakho entlokweni yakho kwaye UNGAZE wenze okuthile kubo.
Kwimeko efana nale, kuvela amathandabuzo entliziyweni yakho malunga nokuba ukunye nomntu ofanelekileyo. Gcina ukhumbula imbali yobudlelwane bakho phambi kokuba wenze nasiphi na isigqibo.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 4/10
2. Ngaba ndinexhala xa encokola ne-ex yakhe rhoqo?
Umlo… ukuba nobuhlobo ne ex yakho kuxhaphakile ngakumbi ukuba ukwahlukana bekungekubi kakhulu. Kodwa kuya kuxhomekeka ekubeni zinde kangakanani iincoko, ukuba akazihoyi iimfuno zakho zokuzihoya ezakhe, okanye ukuba uyakufihla ulwazi kuwe. Kule meko, awuyi kuba yintloko yexhala.
Musa ukujika ube yi-stalker obsessive, ukujonga ifowuni yeqabane lakho, njl. Kulungile ukuba ubuza yonke into kubudlelwane, kodwa funda ukuyisebenzela ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa yingqondo yakho. Oyena mntu kufuneka uthethe naye liqabane lakho ukucima nawaphi na amathandabuzo onawo. Sukungena kwimodi ye-stalker kuba awuzihloniphi wena kuphela kodwa neqabane lakho kunye nobudlelwane.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
3. Bulunge kangakanani ubomi bethu bokwabelana ngesondo? Ukuba sinobomi obubi bokwabelana ngesondo, ngaba kuya kuchaphazela umtshato wethu?
Ukwabelana ngesondo kuxhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi ezibandakanya ixesha, isimo sengqondo, izakhono zothando, njalo njalo. Musa ukugweba iqabane lakho ngokukwazi kwabo ebhedini. Ulwalamano lwenziwa zizinto ezininzi. Ukuziphatha kakubi ngokwesini kuyingxaki enkulu kodwa ayisiyongxaki engenakoyiswa.
Ke ukuba unokuthandabuza kunye nokungaqiniseki ngokugxila kwisondo, ungakhathazeki, kukho iindlela zokuyijikeleza. Incoko engafihlisiyo, ukunonga izinto ngezinto zokudlala okanye impahla yangaphantsi, okanye ukuya kwiingcebiso ngamacebiso nje ambalwa.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 5/10
4. Ndicinga ukuba umama weqabane lam akandithandi. Ngaba kufuneka ndiqhubele phambili nobudlelwane?
Wonwabile ngubhuti wakho? Ukuba ewe, yiyo yonke into ebalulekileyo. Kakade ke, ukuba anikwazi ukusebenzisana nentsapho, kungokwemvelo ukuba namathandabuzo anzulu ngomtshato nempumelelo yawo. Musa ukuvumela loo mathandabuzo aphazamise ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho ukuba bayakuxhasa. Umama okhuselayo okanye ophazamisayo akufanelekanga ukuba ube namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane.
Ukuba uziva ungoyena mntu ungalunganga kuye ngenxa yokuba usapho lwabo aluvani nawe, khumbula ukuba asiyontsapho othandana nayo. Liqabane lakho kwaye uluvo lwakhe lulo lodwa olubalulekileyo.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 4/10
5. Ngaba ndingalinganisa ubomi bam bomsebenzi kunye nobomi bam bothando?
Ngaba imiceli mngeni yomsebenzi ikushiya usokola ukugxila kubomi bakho bothando? Impendulo yalo mbuzo iya kutyhila ukuba ubudlelwane bakho namathandabuzo bus-à-vis-career yakho isemthethweni okanye hayi. Iqabane elixhasayo, eliqondayo linokukunceda ukuba ukhule, ke xoxa ngamabhongo akho nesithandwa sakho ngaphambi kokuba uzibophelele kubudlelwane.
Umsebenzi wakho ubalulekile, ngokunjalo nobudlelwane bakho. Ukuba uyathandabuza malunga nobudlelwane bakho kunye nobomi bomsebenzi, thetha neqabane lakho kwaye ujonge ixesha elide kwizinto eziphambili zakho.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 6/10
6. Ngaba ndingasebenzela ukwenza ubudlelwane obungafezekanga busebenze?
Akukho budlelwane bugqibeleleyo! Ubomi abugqibelelanga. Ukugqibelela kunye nolonwabo-emva koko kufumaneka kuphela kwiimuvi. Ubomi bumalunga nohlengahlengiso oluncinci, ukuthomalalisa, ukunika-nokuthatha izivumelwano, kunye nokwenza iinjongo ezinokwenzeka. Ukanti xa sifumana iqabane elisincedisayo ngezona ndlela zilungileyo, kungcono ukuba ulwele ubudlelwane bakho kunokubuthandabuza.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 3/10
7. Ngaba ndingahoya iqabane lam elidlala ngothando kwabanye?
Kuyavunywa, oku kunokungakhululeki kwaye kunokukhokelela kumathandabuzo amakhulu obudlelwane. Ukuba ukuncwasa kwamaqabane akho kukwenza ukhathazeke, amathandabuzo akho malunga nokuziphatha kwawo ayaqondakala. Kodwa unxibelelwano ngundoqo kwaye kungcono ukuthetha nabo kunokuba uthandabuze ukunyaniseka kwabo rhoqo. Kuya kukunceda ukuba ufumane kwiphepha elifanayo.
Noko ke, khumbula ukuba kukho ukuncwasa okusempilweni, emva koko kukho ukudlala ngothando okukonakalisa intloko yakho. Ukudlala ngothando okudala amathandabuzo nonxunguphalo oluqhubekayo akulunganga.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
8. Ndinomkhwa wokucinga kakhulu. Ngaba iya kuchaphazela ubudlelwane bam?
Ewe. Uninzi lwamathandabuzo ngobudlelwane ludla ngokuba sisiphumo sokucinga kakhulu kwaye ungathethi ngokwaneleyo. Seka amajelo onxibelelwano oluvulekileyo noluphandle kwasekuqaleni kulwalamano lwenu. Amathandabuzo okanye izikrokro zinokungena nangaliphi na ixesha kodwa ubuncinci ungafumana ingcaciso ukuba unenkululeko yokunxibelelana.
Ukucinga kakhulu kubudlelwane kunokukhokelela ekubeni ube namathandabuzo malunga nemiba enokuthi ingabikho. Ke, beka phantsi umthwalo wakho wokucinga, zama kwaye uphumle, kwaye ukuba izinto ziba nzima kakhulu, cinga ngokucebisa. Zikhumbuze ukuba unobudlelwane obonwabisayo nobunempilo kwaye uneqabane elimangalisayo.
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Imitha yamathandabuzo: 2/10
9 Ndakha ndangcatshwa ngaphambili. Oku kundenza ndithandabuze isithandwa sam ngaphandle kwesizathu
Kunokuba nzima ukuba ukudlula ukungakhuseleki emva kwesiqendu sokukopela kwaye amathandabuzo angade aphalale kubudlelwane obutsha. Kodwa ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obunempilo, kuya kufuneka usebenze uloyiko lwakho. Iqabane lakho elitsha ngumntu omtsha, mnike loo mbeko. Kuqhelekile ukuba namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane obutsha, kodwa ukuba uqhubeka utyhala umthwalo weemvakalelo ezidlulileyo kubudlelwane bakho obutsha, awusoze uqhubele phambili.
Musa ukuvumela iingcinga ezimbi malunga nobudlelwane obudlulileyo bonakalise ubudlelwane bakho bangoku, ngakumbi xa ukunye nomntu onothando nonenkathalo.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 5/10
10. Ngaba mna neqabane lam sineenjongo ezifanayo?
Isibini sifanele sabelane ngeenjongo ezinkulu kulwalamano. Kungenjalo, kuba nzima ukuhamba kunye kumahla-ndinyuka obomi. Unokuba nokwahluka kwezimvo kodwa ukuba amaxabiso akho aphambili ahluke kakhulu, impumelelo yolo budlelwane inzima.
Iinjongo zakho zobomi bomntu zibalulekile, ungaze uyilibale loo nto. Ukuba namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane kunye nokuba ngaba wabelana ngeenjongo ezifanayo kunokuba ngumba, kodwa kwakhona, akukho nto unxibelelwano olucacileyo alunakusombulula.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
11. Ungalixhasa iqabane lakho ebunzimeni nasebunzimeni?
Uthando aluthethi nje ukwabelana ngovuyo kunye nokuhleka. Kukwathetha ukwabelana ngemithwalo kunye noxanduva. Zibuze ukuba uzimisele na ukubona iqabane lakho ngamaxesha anzima kwaye ngokuphambeneyo. Kubudlelwane obuluqilima, kubalulekile ukuma omnye komnye ngexesha lokulungileyo nokubi.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 5/10
12. Ngaba iqabane lam kunye nam sinemikhwa efanayo yokuchitha?
Uthando lunokuba luyimfama kodwa umtshato unokuvula amehlo akho ukuba ube yinyani. Enye yezona ntandabuzo ezinkulu zobudlelwane ezinokubangela ukuba ubudlelwane obuninzi bungaphumeleli sisimo sengqondo esahlukileyo kwiimali. Ukuba unamathandabuzo malunga nemikhwa yenkcitho yeqabane lakho okanye ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho nabelana ngezimo zengqondo ezahlukeneyo malunga nokonga, imali-mboleko, njl njl, inokupela ingxaki.
Ukuba ngequbuliso ukuba namathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane phezu uxinzelelo lwemali, yithathe njengophawu kufuneka ube nencoko kwaye mhlawumbi ucwangcise imali yakho ngokudibeneyo.
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Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
13. Ngaba iqabane lam liyandamkela ngale ndlela ndiyiyo?
Akukho bantu babini abafanayo kodwa umbuzo ngulo, wohluke kangakanani kwiqabane lakho? Kwaye ngaba iiyantlukwano zamkelekile kumntu ngamnye kuni? Ukwamkelana, nangona kukho iiyantlukwano, sisitshixo sokujonga amahla-ndinyuka apho ulwalamano ngalunye lujongene nalo. Kunzima ukuhlala nomntu olindele ukuba utshintshe. Ukuhlala uzibuza ukuba bayakuthanda na luhlobo lwesimbo sokuncamathela kwaye kunokukhokelela ekubeni utshabalalise ubudlelwane bakho.
Abachasi banako kwaye benze umtsalane, kodwa ukuba isibini asilungelelanisi kwizinto ezingathandekiyo kunye ne-eccentricities, oko kunokukhokelela kumathandabuzo amakhulu kunye nokuxhalaba kobudlelwane.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
14. Ngaba usatsaleleka omnye komnye?
Kubudlelwane bexesha elide, izibini ziyaqhelana. Uthando kunye nothando lunokuhlala luhleli kodwa umtsalane unokunyamalala nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni kubekho imicimbi. Ulwalamano lwakho luya kuhlala ixesha elingakanani kuya kuxhomekeka kakhulu ekubeni nobabini nityala malini ekugcineni intlantsi iphila.
Kunokuba ucinge ngokugqithisileyo ngale nto kwaye ube nexhala lokunqongophala komtsalane, sebenzisa amandla akho ekuvuseleleni intlantsi.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 6/10
15. Ngaba abahlobo bakho abangamantombazana bakwenza ungakhululeki?
Qaphela indlela oziva ngayo xa isoka lakho lingqongwe ngabanye abafazi. Abafana banayo abahlobo abasondeleyo ababhinqileyo. Ukhululeke kangakanani kuloo nto? Ukuba uhlala uzifumana uneemvakalelo ezithandabuzayo kwisoka lakho xa ekunye nabasetyhini, ke kufuneka ujonge kakhulu ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ulinganise ukuba kufanelekile ukuya phambili kunye nalo lonke uloyiko lokuqubha entlokweni yakho.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 6/10
16. Nixoxa njani?
Iingxabano ziyinxalenye yobudlelwane bonke. Kule meko, wena kunye neqabane lakho kufuneka nijonge ukuba neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuxambulisana. Ukuba nobabini nikholelwa kwimidlalo yokukhala, ubudlelwane buyatshabalala. Kungcono ukuba umntu omnye unokuhlala epholile ngelixa omnye ekhulula umphunga. Zazini iindlela zokuxambulisana ukuze nazi ukuba nilindele ntoni xa ningavumelani.
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Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
17. Yintoni i-deal breaker kuwe?
Lo ngomnye wemibuzo ebalulekileyo omele uzibuze yona ukuze ufumane ingcaciso. Lonke ubudlelwane bunemida oyibekele yona kunye neqabane lakho ethi, ukuba omnye wenu uyanqumla, kuvakala ngathi lithuba lokufa kwibhondi yakho. Yiyiphi loo mzuzu - ukungathembeki, ukuxoka, iingxaki zemali? La manqaku ahlala edala amathandabuzo amakhulu kubudlelwane.
Abaqhankqalazi basempilweni kubudlelwane, kwaye ke banokuthandabuza ubudlelwane. Amathandabuzo athetha ukuba uyabuthandabuza ubudlelwane bakho nokuba buyakhula na ngaphakathi kwemida oyibekileyo. Musa ukuyilibala loo nto.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 8/10
18. Zeziphi iimvakalelo ezivezwa liqabane lakho ngaphakathi kuwe?
Xa uthandana nomntu, kufanele kube ngumthombo wamandla. Ukucinga ngomntu kufuneka kuvuse iimvakalelo ezintle njengovuyo, ulonwabo, intuthuzelo, njalo njalo. Ukuba uziva ungaqinisekanga kwaye ukuba ingcinga yeqabane lakho izisa nantoni na engalunganga njengoloyiko, ixhala, okanye umsindo, ngoku lixesha lokuthatha inyathelo umva. Iimvakalelo zezinto eziphilayo azinakuhoywa kwaye akufanelekanga.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 8/10
19. Uzisa izinto ezilinganayo etafileni?
Obona budlelwane busemthethweni buthandabuza ukuba ngubani ozisa ntoni kubudlelwane. Akukho mtshato okanye iqabane lifanele ukuba licala-nye. Oku akuthethi ukuba uya kubudlelwane bentengiselwano apho yonke into isikwa kwaye yome kodwa kufuneka kubekho isenzo sokubuyisela. Ulwalamano olucalanye lukushiya uziva ungento yanto, nto leyo ebangela amathandabuzo.
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Imitha yamathandabuzo: 7/10
20. Ngaba unemilinganiselo efanayo?
Izinto onomdla kuzo, izinto ozonwabisa ngazo, kunye nezinto ezizithandayo zinokuchasana ngokugqibeleleyo kodwa uyabelana ngazo imilinganiselo yosapho engundoqo? Nokuba yipolitiki okanye yokomoya okanye yenkolo, kufuneka kubekho unxibelelwano olunibophelelayo nobabini kungenjalo ubudlelwane abuyi kuba nekamva eliqaqambileyo. Fumana impendulo kulo mbuzo phambi kokuba uthathe inyathelo elilandelayo.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 8/10
21. Ngaba nithetha ngolwimi olufanayo lothando?
Kukangaphi usithi “Ndiyakuthanda” omnye komnye? Ninokuba neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokubonisa uthando kodwa ngaba niyaqondana? Ngaphambi kokuba wabelane ngokufanayo ulwimi lothando, kubalulekile ukuba nenye. Ubudlelwane obunempilo lelinye apho wabelana ngeenjongo zobudlelwane ezifanayo nokuba iindlela ozithathayo ukufikelela kuzo zahlukile.
Ukuba unamathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane, phinda uhlole iilwimi zakho zothando kwaye ubone ukuba ziziphi izikhewu. Ulwimi lwakho lothando lusenokungafani, kodwa qinisekisa ukuba uyayazi indlela eninxibelelana ngayo ngokusondeleyo.
Imitha yamathandabuzo: 8/10
Iimpawu eziphambili
- Ukuba kubudlelwane bexesha elide akuthethi ukuba awunakuba namathandabuzo
- Abantu abatshatileyo badla ngokuhlukana naxa sele bekunye ixeshana ngenxa yokutshintsha kobuntu
- Ukwazi umahluko phakathi kokucinga ngokugqithisileyo kunye nokuzimela kwangempela kubalulekile
- Zama ukulungisa izinto kunye neqabane lakho ngaphambi kokuba utsibe kuso nasiphi na isigqibo
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuba namathandabuzo ngobudlelwane akuyonto imbi. Ikwenza uqaphele iiflegi ezibomvu kwaye ayikuvumeli ukuba uthathe ubudlelwane bakho. Usenokuhendeka ukuba uthathe amanyathelo okuwomeleza. Kodwa kuphela ngokuzazi unokuthi uqonde ukuba loo mathandabuzo kukusebenza nje kwengqondo ecinga kakhulu okanye ukuba kukho nasiphi na isiseko kuwo. Iimpendulo, njengesiqhelo, zilele ngaphakathi kuwe.
Eli nqaku lihlaziywe ngoNovemba ka-2022
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Ukujongana namathandabuzo kubudlelwane yinto eqhelekileyo. Awunakuba nobudlelwane bexesha elide ngaphandle kokuxabana, iingxabano, kunye nokungafani kwezimvo ezinokuthi zibangele amathandabuzo.
Ukuxhalaba ngomnye woonobangela abaphambili bokuthandabuza okuphindaphindiweyo kobudlelwane. Xa ungenalo ukholo kuwe okanye iqabane lakho, oko kubangela ukuxhalaba malunga nempumelelo yayo ngoko, ngokwendalo, kukhokelela kumathandabuzo amaninzi.
Okokuqala, qonda kwaye udwelise ukuba kutheni ubuza yonke into kubudlelwane. Zibuze imibuzo enzima kwaye ubone ukuba lunyanise kangakanani na uloyiko lwakho. Kulwalamano oluselubala, olunyanisekileyo kufuneka ube nenkululeko yokuxoxa kwanawona mathandabuzo akho angaphakathi. Kwaye ukuba awunayo loo nkululeko, lixesha lokubuza ubudlelwane.
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