UKUHAMBA NGOKUGQIBELELEYO
• Ukuhenda kumalunga nonxibelelwano lweemvakalelo, ulindelo, kunye nokudlala, kungekuphela nje ngeentshukumo zomzimba
• Ukuzithemba, ukubakho ngokwenene, nokufunda iimpawu zeqabane lakho kuyathandeka ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na indlela enye.
• Umthetho wegolide: mshiye efuna okungakumbi
Nokuba nisandul’ ukuqala ukuthandana kwaye nifuna ukufudumala izinto, okanye benisoloko nikunye ixesha elide kwaye nifuna ukongeza inkanuko kulwalamano lwenu, ukuhenda isoka lakho kunokuba yimvula yokuqala ngelo xesha leenyanga zasehlotyeni ezinzima. Kukho olu vuyo, ulindelo, kunye nolwaneliseko oluninzi olulandelayo. Kwaye sikuxelela ngqo indlela yokuhenda indoda.
“Ukuhenda akumenzi umntu into angafuni ukuyenza. Nabani na othe le migca ingentla ifake inkcazo egqibeleleyo yokuhenda. Ngelixa abanye befowuna ukuhenda ubugcisa (esivumelana nayo ngokupheleleyo), njengodongwe okanye uyilo lwezakhiwo, abanye bathi bubugqwirha.
URobert Greene, umbhali we Ubugcisa bokuhenda, ithi ukuhenda “ngumdlalo wengqondo, hayi ubuhle” kwaye “kusezandleni zanoma ngubani ukuba yingcaphephe kulo mdlalo”. Yiyo loo nto. Ukuhenda ngumdlalo wolonwabo, umnqweno, ukufumanisa, kunye nokwaneliseka. Kwicala lothando, sisakhono esibalulekileyo ekuqiniseni ubudlelwane bakho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle kubudlelwane obude nobudinisayo, yinto yokuhenda eyenza ubomi bakho bube mnandi kwakhona. Ngexesha elithile ebomini bethu, sonke siza kudlala njengomhendi. Ngoko ke, kufuneka ufunde imithetho ngoku. Kalula nje, kuyonwabisa kakhulu ukuhenda iqabane lakho. Kwaye nazi iindlela ezili-18 wena nesoka lakho eninokuzithatha ngayo ezo ndlela zokuzonwabisa, kwaye ningafunda ubugcisa bokuhenda.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuhenda isoka lakho?
Isiqulatho
Ukuhenda isoka lakho kulula njengokubonakalisa ukuhenda kwakho ngeendlela ezimenza azive efunwa, evuyile, kwaye edibene nawe nzulu. Ukuhenda, eyona nto iphambili, sisimemo sokusondelana esithandwa ngamaqabane omabini. Oku kwakhelwe phezu konxibelelwano lweemvakalelo, ukuhendana ngokwasemzimbeni, kunye nokulindela ukudlala ukuze lisondele kwaye livuselele umnqweno.
Nangona amadoda amaninzi esenokungavumi ngokucacileyo, athanda ukuba uqale udlale. Ngoko ke, musa ukuvumela ukuzibamba kukuthintele. Ukuba ukuthetha iingcinga zakho ezimbi kakhulu kuvakala kunzima, kuthekani ukuba ungamhenda iqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuthetha? Ewe, ukufunde kakuhle oko. Zininzi iindlela zokuhenda indoda ngokwasemzimbeni ngaphandle kokuthatha indlela yokuthetha izinto ezingcolileyo.
Ubugcisa bokuhenda ngumdlalo wengqondo. Asikuko ukulwa ngobuhle okanye umzimba othanda izinto ezininzi. Nabani na angafunda indlela yokuhenda isoka lakhe. Okubalulekileyo kukuqonda into eyenza iqabane lakho likwenze, ukuzithemba kwinto onokumnika yona, nokwazi ukuba uza kuhlekisa nini kwaye uza kuyeka nini. isifundo papashwe kwincwadi Zesini bafumanise ukuba ubudlelwane bexesha elide bufuna ingqalelo eqhubekayo ngokweemvakalelo nangokwesondo, kwaye ukuhenda, okwenziwa njengobugcisa bemihla ngemihla, kunceda ukugcina ukutsalana, ukukhuthaza unxibelelwano, kunye nokuqinisa ubudlelwane ngokuhamba kwexesha.
"Ukuhenda kubudlelwane obuzibophelele kugxile ekwenzeni iqabane lakho lizive libonwa, linqwenelwa, kwaye likhuselekile ngokweemvakalelo. Awudingi amaqhinga okanye iindlela. Xa omabini amaqabane efumana uhlobo olufanelekileyo lwengqwalasela, ukusondelelana ngokwasemzimbeni kulandela ngokwemvelo."
—Rashmi Shah, ingcali yezengqondo kunye nomcebisi wobudlelwane
Kutheni Ukuhenda Kubalulekile Kubudlelwane
Ukuba ubucinga ukuba ukuhenda kongeza izinto kwigumbi lokulala, awuchanekanga. Ubugcisa bokuhenda buqinisa ubudlelwane bakho nesoka lakho kwaye bubuse kwinqanaba elilandelayo, apho ningamaphupha omnye komnye kwaye niwenze abe yinyani. Xa wenza indoda ikunqwenele, uvuselela intlantsi kulwalamano lwenu kwaye uqinise ulwalamano lwenu. Nantsi indlela:
Ivuselela ulwalamano olusondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo
Ukuhenda kungaphaya komzimba. Kubonisa iqabane lakho ukuba usanomdla kakhulu kulo. Oko kuqinisekiswa ngokweemvakalelo kwakha ukuthembana, ukusondelana, kunye nokuziva uxatyisiwe. Kubudlelwane bexesha elide apho imisebenzi eqhelekileyo inokunciphisa uvuyo, nezenzo ezincinci ezinomtsalane zikhumbuza omabini amaqabane ukuba kutheni ekhethe omnye komnye.
Iyaqinisa ulwalamano lwakho ngaphaya kwegumbi lokulala
Xa uzama ukuhenda isoka lakho, utyala imali kulwalamano. Ukulindela, ukudlala, kunye nokuba sesichengeni okufanayo kwaloo maxesha kudala iinkumbulo kunye namahlaya angaphakathi akubophayo. Ukuhenda kuba yinto ehlekisayo. ulwimi lothando eyeyayo.
Ingqondo engasemva komnqweno kunye nomtsalane
Research kwi-stimuli yokubona yamadoda kunye nokuvuka komzimba kubonisa ukuba iziko lokulawula iimvakalelo zobuchopho, i-amygdala, libonisa amanqanaba aphezulu kakhulu okusebenza kumadoda abukela i-stimuli yokubona ngokwesondo kunabasetyhini ababukela imifanekiso efanayo. Oku kuthetha ukuba into oyinxibayo, indlela oshukuma ngayo, kunye nendlela oziveza ngayo ishiya impembelelo enamandla kwiminqweno yesoka lakho.
Kodwa ngaphaya kweempawu ezibonakalayo, ezingokweemvakalelo ezifana nokulindela, ukumangaliswa, kunye nokuziva ufunwa kukhokelela ekukhutshweni kwe-dopamine kunye ne-oxytocin, iikhemikhali zobuchopho ezinoxanduva lolonwabo kunye nokubophelelana.
Ukuze uhende isoka lakho, into oyifunayo yinjongo, inkanuko ethile ngaphakathi kuwe, kwaye ukulungele ukuvuselela ubomi bakho besondo. Kungekudala, uya kuba nalo likucela ukuba ukwenze. Nangona lisenokungavumi, isoka lakho kumele ukuba lalikucingela ukuba uza kuhamba ngaloo ndlela ngenye imini.
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Iindlela ezili-18 zokuhenda isithandwa sakho kwaye umshiye efuna ngaphezulu
Nazi iingcebiso ezili-18 ezingenakukwazi ukuphumelela ukuze ungene emzimbeni nasengqondweni yendoda yakho. Ngaba unomdla? Masiqale le klasi iphambili yendlela yokurhwebesha indoda.
1. Mhlekise
Le yindlela elula neyakudala yokuhenda indoda ngaphandle kokuthetha nto, ehlala isebenza. Nxiba iimpahla zasebusuku ezinombala okhanyayo, ngaphantsi zize. Mhlekise, kodwa ungamvumeli ukuba akuchukumise. Ungazama nokutya itshokolethi enyibilikisiweyo, ngamanye amaxesha umjonge kakubi ngelixa ukhotha iminwe yakho.
| Icebiso Pro: Indlela yokutsala nokutsala iyasebenza kuba ivuselela ulindelo. Ingqondo yakhe ikhupha i-dopamine engaphezulu ngexesha lokufuna kunangexesha lokufumana. |
2. Zama umthetho othi akukho-zandla
Ungajonga, kodwa ukungachukumisi mhlawumbi yeyona ndlela ilula yokwenza indoda ikunqwenele kwaye ikufune ngaphezu kwanini na ngaphambili. Ukuba icebo lakho liyasebenza, uya kuyenza icele okungakumbi. Kodwa xa isebenzisa izandla zayo, yixelele ukuba akuvumelekanga. Oko kuya kuyivuselela ngakumbi. Uza kubona ukuba zeziphi iindlela zobuchule amadoda anokuza nazo.
3. Umbhalo omdaka
Ngombulelo kwitekhnoloji ezandleni zethu, ngoku zininzi iindlela zokuhenda indoda yakho naxa ingekho nawe ngokwasemzimbeni. Xa esemsebenzini okanye engekho, khohlisa umntu wakho ngeetekisi. Kuya kudala umoya wokulindela kuye. Thetha into enje, “Ndifuna ukwenza izinto ezingalawulekiyo kuwe namhlanje kangangokuba andinakuzithetha”. Sibheja ukuba uza kujonga izizathu zokuleqa ekhaya aze akubonise ixesha elimnandi.
4. Thumela imifanekiso enomtsalane
Ukuze utsalele indoda emzimbeni, kufuneka uzibeke apho. Yeyiphi indlela engcono yokwenza loo nto kunomfanekiso omnandi kodwa onomtsalane. Hayi, asithethi ngokunxiba izinto ezingenanto kodwa sithetha ngento efana ne-top ecacileyo, engenasibindi. Okanye isiketi esifutshane esinomphetho weempundu zakho. Olu luhlobo lomfanekiso oluya kuvusa iihomoni zakhe zokulala. Lindela ukuba abuye ekhaya kungekudala.
| Icebiso Pro: Soloko uqinisekisa ukuba wena neqabane lakho nikhululekile ukutshintshiselana ngeefoto ezikufutshane. Imvumelwano kunye nokuthembana sisiseko sothando olusempilweni. |
5. Mse uyothenga
Hayi, ayilulo uhambo oluqhelekileyo lokuya kwindawo yentengiso. Uyayazi nawe ukuba yenye yeendlela zokumncwasa umntu wakho leyo. Ukuba nantoni na, iya kubulala i-libido yakhe. Sithetha sithenga iimpahla zangaphantsi. “Siyokuthenga iimpahla zangaphantsi kwaye uya kukhetha,” ngokuqinisekileyo uphumelele ukuba ujonge ukuhenda indoda ngesivakalisi esinye. Menze ahlale kufutshane negumbi lovavanyo kwaye ummeme ukuba akrobe. Ngaba angathanda ukuzikrazula kuwe, emva koko? Oh ewe! Le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhenda umntu wakho.
6. Mmangalise ngenkangeleko ehendayo
Xa ukubudlelwane bexesha elide, awukhathali ukuba ukhangeleka njani. Ibhanti emdaka eneepyjama yikhowudi yakho yokunxiba. Kodwa kwixa elizayo xa enkqonkqoza emnyango, mbulise ngeenwele ezivulekileyo, nezithambiso ezingephi, kwaye wenze ngokwesiqhelo. Uya kuvuka ngomdla. Lonto uhenda indoda ungatsho nelimdaka. Umsebenzi wakho wokuyenga uyenziwa apha. Lixesha lokuthatha izinto uzise kwinqanaba elilandelayo.
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7. Emva koko, khulula
Njengoko umdla wakhe uqala ukumnqoba, mhlalise esofeni, mhlawumbi umgalele isiselo, uze ukhulule iibhulukhwe zakho kunye nebra phambi kwakhe. Ukuba wenza izinto ungazi, kungcono nangakumbi. Uza kukulandela njengenjana. Le yindlela entle yokuhenda indoda. Ezinye iimfihlo zokulala ngaphezulu, ukwenzela wena kuphela!
8. Umdlalo wangaphambili, uze uhambe
Ungayikhohlisa njani indoda uze uyiphambanise? Ngokuyishiya ifuna okungakumbi. Mnike yonke into ayifunayo, uze uhambe ngaphambi kokuba uye kuhlamba mhlawumbi, okanye unike isizathu sokuba kufuneka uye kwitheko lobusuku bonke. Mbukele enqwenela ebhedini ngenxa yakho. Musa ukuba ngumntu ohlekisayo, nangona kunjalo, buya uze ugqibezele oko ukuqalileyo.
9. Thatha ishawa kunye naye
Xa engayilindelanga, chwechwa naye uye kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Ishawa yindawo egqibeleleyo yokuhenda indoda ngokwasemzimbeni, ngakumbi xa ingayilindelanga. Iya kunitshisa kuni nobabini. Zidenge kunye naye, mhlawumbi uzibandakanye kwi-foreplay kwaye umxelele ukuba abambelele kuloo ngcamango imini yonke. Sithembisa ngesondo esilungileyo sobomi bakho sikulindele xa nobabini nidibana ekupheleni kosuku.
10. Liyeke ivumba lakho
Sebenzisa i-perfume yakho oyithandayo okanye i-hairspray enevumba elimnandi. Hamba, ushiye ivumba lakho elimnandi ngakuye. Umm...uzophambana. Kukho isayensi yevumba kunye nomoya, yisebenzise ngokwenzuzo yakho. Intwana yevumba elilungileyo yindlela omawuhambe ngayo ukuba ufuna iindlela zokuhenda indoda ungatsho nelimdaka.
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11. Yenza imo
Izijekulo ezincinci zothando ziphakathi kweendlela ezingaphumeleliyo zokuhenda indoda yakho. Thatha indlela yakudala kwaye uphume konke. Udlala umculo wothando, amakhandlela anevumba elimnandi, nxiba isiqwenga esincinci kwaye umlinde ngeerozi. Kubonakala ngathi umsebenzi omninzi, kodwa sithembe, kufanelekile. Kufanelekile ukuhenda indoda.
12. Yiba yimasseuse yakhe
Ungayihenda njani indoda? Ngokuyenza ithande ukuchukunyiswa nguwe ingacaci ukuba yintoni ekhokelela kuyo. Ngelixa uhlikihla, lumka uchukumise iindawo zayo eziphuma ukungcola. Ukumanga emqaleni, ukuluma ezindlebeni zayo, kunye nokujikeleza iindandatho zenkaba yayo. Umzimba wayo uya kusabela ekuchukunyisweni nguwe ngeendlela ezingenakucingelwa. Ungazama nomdaniso omdaka.
13. Cwangcisa impelaveki yothando
Ukukhohlisa akukhona nje ngomzimba. Kukwamalunga nokukhulula ingqondo yomntu. Ukuphumla. Cwangcisa into eyothusayo uhambo oluya kwindawo yothando kwaye uzalise uhambo lwakho ngemisebenzi embalwa enomdla efana nokumasaji, isidlo sangokuhlwa esikhanyiswe ngamakhandlela kunye nesidlo sakusasa ebhedini. Uza kuba nombulelo kwaye anamathele kuwe ngokweemvakalelo. Luhlobo olwahlukileyo lobuhle oza kuba nalo phezu kwakhe. Ukuze umtsalele indoda ngesivakalisi esinye, mxelele nje uthi, “Mna nawe sikwindawo yokuhlala kule mpelaveki.”
14. Dlala i-strip poker
Ukuhenda iqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuthetha nelizwi, zibandakanye kwipoker ngokujija. Kwaye qiniseka ukuba ulahlekelwe ngaphezulu phambi kokuba uqale okuphumelela. Ungasoloko ukongeza ukwahluka kwakho. Yiya uyilo!
15. Umdlalo wokulinganisa
Mbuze ngeengcinga zakhe kwaye wabelane ngeyakho. Mbuze ukuba ngowuphi umdlali webhanyabhanya amfumana eshushu. Kwaye umothuse ngokudlala intombazana yakhe yephupha ebomini bokwenyani. Udinga zonke izakhono zakho zokudlala apha. Ungade uzame BDSMUkuzimisela ukutyhala imida yamava akho esondo nokuvuleleka ekuzameni ebhedini yimfihlo yokwenza indoda ikunqwenele.
16. Mbambe ekuhleni
Asingabo sonke esinokususa indawo ye-elevator ye-Christian Grey in Amathunzi angamashumi amahlanu nantlanu kagreyiKodwa ukuba nikunye, zama ukumshukumisa umlenze ngeenyawo zakho. Mchukumise phantsi kwetafile uze uzichukumise ngokufihlakeleyo. Oko kuyatshisa, kubonisa, kwaye kuyamema. Uza kuyifumana ingcebiso. Leyo yindlela yokuhenda iqabane lakho ngaphandle kokuthetha nto.
17. Zama indawo entsha ebhedini
Amadoda ayayithanda xa abafazi bethatha ulawulo ebhedini. Ngoko vuthela ingqondo yakhe ngezinye ezintsha kunye neentshukumo ezibukhali ebhedini. Unyanzelekile ukuba abuyele kuwe ukuze afumane okungakumbi. Buza iingcebiso kubahlobo bakho, funda malunga nezikhundla zesini okanye ujonge iphonografi yakhe kwi-Intanethi kwaye ubambe iintshukumo ukusuka apho. Zama oku, kwaye ntombazana, uya kuvuthuza ingqondo yakhe.
18. Funda iintshukumo ezimbalwa ezivuselela inkanuko
Xa isenziwa ngokufanelekileyo, iintshukumo zomdaniso ezifanelekileyo ziya kumtsala ngemizuzu embalwa. Ungafunda ezinye iintshukumo uze ukhethe iimpahla ezinomtsalane. Ngelixa udansa, ungakhulula okanye udlale ngomzimba wakho, usoloko ubonisa kodwa ufihla okungakumbi. Ngaba uyazi? iindawo erogenous emadodeni? Ukuba akunjalo, kufuneka uzame ukuzifumanisa.
Indlela Yokuhenda Isoka Lakho Ngokusebenzisa Imiyalezo
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale kwigumbi elinye ukuze uhende isoka lakho. Enyanisweni, ezinye zezona ndlela zisebenzayo zokuhendana zenzeka ngesikrini, ingakumbi ukuba nikwibudlelwane obude okanye nifuna nje ukwakha ulindelo ngaphambi kokuba nibonane.
Iingcebiso zokuthumela imiyalezo yesondo ezakha umnqweno
Ukuthunyelwa kwemiyalezo Isebenza kakhulu xa ikhawuleza ukutsha. Musa ukuyityhila into eninzi ngaxeshanye. Qala ngento ekhuthazayo, efana nokuthi “Andinakuyeka ukucinga ngayo izolo ebusuku”, kwaye vumela incoko yakheke ngokwendalo. Yenza izinto ngokuzenzekela endaweni yokubhala phantsi. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukwenza azive efunwa ngelixa uhlekisa ngento ezayo.
Imiyalezo emihle yasekuseni ehlekisayo
Ukuthi “Molo, mhle. Ndikuphuphe izolo ebusuku” kunokwenza ukuba acinge ngaloo mini yonke. Imiyalezo ehlekisayo yentsasa ayithandwa kangako. Ixelela isoka lakho ukuba liyinto yokuqala engqondweni yakho, enomtsalane kakhulu.
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Iifoto ezibonisa inkanuko zisebenza njengekhubalo
Iifoto ezibonisa inkanuko zinamandla. Kodwa ixesha libalulekile. Ukuthumela i-selfie eveza kancinci ngaphambi kokuba ahambe emsebenzini kudala ulindelo lwangokuhlwa. Yigcine imnandi kwaye ushiye indawo yokucinga. Igxalaba elingenanto, ukubona impahla yangaphantsi phantsi kwehempe yakho, okanye i-selfie nje enxibe impahla ayithandayo.
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Indlela Yokuhenda Isoka Lakho Ngaphandle Kokuthetha Nelizwi
Ukuba usemtsha koku kwaye uneentloni zokuthetha iminqweno yakho, yazi ukuba ungamhenda isoka lakho ngaphandle kokuthetha. Enyanisweni, ezinye zezona zinto zinamandla zokuhenda zenzeka ngaphandle kwelizwi elinye. Ukuhenda okungekho lizwi kusebenzisa ulwimi lomzimba wakho, amehlo akho, ivumba lakho, kunye nobukho bakho bomzimba ukubonisa iminqweno.
- Uqhagamshelo lamehlo: Esi sesona sixhobo sakho sinamandla. Mjonge emehlweni uze umbambe ixesha elide kunesiqhelo. Zive ukuzithemba kwakho, kwaye i-aura yakho iya kuzibonakalisa ngaloo mbono. Ukuba uyakujongisisa kwaye amehlo akho ayadibana, sele uchaze injongo yakho. Musa ukuba neentloni. Ncuma. Inomtsalane kakhulu
- Impawu zomzimba: Vumela umzimba wakho wenze okuseleyo. Indlela oziphethe ngayo xa unaye ityhila yonke into. Thembela kancinci xa ethetha. Luma umlomo wakho ongezantsi. Dlala ngeenwele zakho. Lingisa izimbo zakhe ngendlela engabonakaliyo. Ezi zimpawu zincinci zenza ukutsalwa okungaphantsi kwengqondo okumtsalela kuwe
- Chukumisa: Ukubamba ngokomzimba yibhulorho phakathi kokuthandana nokudlala kwangaphambili. Ukumcofa kancinci emqolo xa umbulisa, ukutyibiliza izandla zakho ezifudumeleyo kancinci engalweni yakhe, okanye eso senzo sincinci sokumkhathalela sokumlungisa ikhola sinokuthumela umbane kuye. Qala ngokumchukumisa kancinci. Mhlawumbi uxukuxa ingalo yakhe ngexesha lencoko, vumela isandla sakho sihlale ixesha elide kunoko kufunekayo. Sebenzisa ukuchukumisa kancinci ukuze umzuzu ngamnye uzive unenjongo kwaye unefuthe.
- Kubonakala: Vumela indlela oziphethe ngayo ithethe ngaphambi kokuba wenze njalo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba unxibe ngendlela evuselela inkanuko. Kodwa yiba nenjongo ngendlela ozibeka ngayo. Impahla ekhethwe kakuhle efanela umzimba wakho, ivumba eliqaqambileyo, kunye nokuzithemba okuvela ekwazini ukuba ubukeka umhle kwanele ukutsala indoda ngaphandle kokuthetha.
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Iimpazamo Eziqhelekileyo Zokuhenda Okufuneka Uziphephe
Ukwazi into ONGAFANELE UYIYENZI kubaluleke njengokwazi into esebenzayo. Nazi iimpazamo eziqhelekileyo ezinokubulala imeko endaweni yokuyakha:
1. Ukuba nethuba lokufumaneka ngokukhawuleza kakhulu
Ukuba umnika yonke into ngaxeshanye, akukho nto iseleyo yokuyinqwenela. Umthetho obalulekileyo wokumhenda kukusoloko umshiya efuna okungakumbi. Yakha ulindelo, mchule, mtsalele umva, uze umvumele eze kuwe.
2. Ukuyigqithisa okanye ukuyinyanzela ukuba ivakalelwe ngendlela engafanelekanga
Ukuhenda kufanele kubonakale kuyinto yendalo, kungabi yinto edlalwayo. Ukuba uzama ngamandla onke, mhlawumbi ufunda kwiskripthi, ubhala into evakala ingaqhelekanga, okanye umtyhale xa ebonakala ukuba akakho kwimeko entle, kuya kubuyela umva. Funda igumbi. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuhenda ivakala ilula.
3. Ukungawunaki unxibelelwano lweemvakalelo
Ukuhendwa ngokwasemzimbeni ngaphandle kokusondelana ngokweemvakalelo kubonakala kungenanto. Ukuba kukho ingxwabangxwaba engasonjululwanga, inzondo, okanye umgama ngokweemvakalelo kulwalamano lwenu, ukuhendwa kukodwa akuyi kuyilungisa loo nto. Jongana nesiseko seemvakalelo kuqala. Indoda eziva inxulumene nawe ngokweemvakalelo isabela ngakumbi ekuhendweni ngokwasemzimbeni.
4. Akafundi izikhokelo zakhe okanye inqanaba lakhe lokuthuthuzela
Ukuhenda yindlela evulelekileyo. Nika ingqalelo kulwimi lomzimba wakhe kunye neempawu zokuthetha. Ukuba ubonakala engakhululekanga, ediniwe, okanye ephazamisekile, ukutyhala ngamandla akusiso isisombululo. Imvume kunye nentuthuzelo zisisiseko sayo nayiphi na intsebenziswano esempilweni. Iqabane eliziva lihlonitshwa kwaye likhuselekile liya kuba lula ngakumbi ukuhendwa.
5. Ukuzithelekisa nabanye
Ukuhenda kuyinto yobuqu kakhulu. Oko kusebenza komnye umntu kusenokungasebenzi kuwe okanye kwisoka lakho. Musa ukuzama ukuphinda into oyibonileyo kwimuvi okanye oyifunda kwi-intanethi ukuba ayivakali ngathi iyinyani kuwe. Amandla akho akhethekileyo, ubuntu bakho, kunye nonxibelelwano lwakho nesoka lakho zezona zinto zikwenza ukuhenda kwakho kube namandla.
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Ukuhendana akusosenzo sexesha elinye kodwa yinto eqhubekayo. Abantu ababini abaqhubeka behendana, bemangazana, kwaye bebeka phambili ubudlelwane bomzimba nobeemvakalelo badla ngokuxela ulwaneliseko olukhulu kulwalamano. Nantsi ingcaciso emfutshane yendlela onokusebenzisa ngayo iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuhendana nesoka lakho, ngokusekelwe kwimeko yakho ethile:
| Indlela yokuhenda | Eyona ilungiselelwe | Inqanaba loMzamo |
| Ukuthumela imiyalezo kunye nemiyalezo yesondo ehlekisayo | Ulindelo olude, umgama omde emini | lula |
| Inkangeleko engaqhelekanga / utshintsho lwempahla | Intlantsi yemihla ngemihla, ukuphula indlela yokusebenza | lula |
| Ukumangaliswa kwengubo yangaphantsi okanye ukuhluba iimpahla | Ubusuku bokudibana, izihlandlo ezikhethekileyo | phakathi |
| Ukuphulula inkanuko | Emva kosuku olude, ukusondelelana kancinci | phakathi |
| Ukudlala indima okanye ukuhlola intsomi | Ulwalamano olusekwe, izinto ezintsha | Advanced |
| Iholide yothando ngempelaveki | Ukunxibelelana kwakhona ngokweemvakalelo + ukuhenda | Advanced |
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FAQs
Qala kancinci kwaye udlale ngamandla akho. Akufuneki ube nesibindi okanye ube nomdlandla ukuze ube nomtsalane. Ukumjonga ixesha elide egumbini, ukumncoma kancinci, ukunxiba ivumba lakhe alithandayo, okanye ukuthumela umyalezo ohlekisayo xa ningekho kude kunokuba luncedo kakhulu. Ukumtsala umntu kuthetha ukuba ufuna ukuzithemba, hayi ukusebenza. Kwaneempawu ezibonisa uloyiko, xa ziyinyani, zinokuba nomtsalane kakhulu.
Qala ngento ethetha izinto ezibonisa iimvakalelo zakho kodwa engacacanga, njengokuthi “Andinakuyeka ukucinga ngayo izolo ebusuku” okanye “Ndinento endingazokumangalela ngayo ngokuhlwanje.” Yakha uxinzelelo kancinci kancinci ngemiyalezo ehlekisayo imini yonke. Sebenzisa umxube wezincomo, ukuhlekisa, kunye nokulindela. Injongo kukumenza acinge ngawe ngaphandle kokuma phambi kokuba nibonane.
Eyona nto inomtsalane kakhulu kukwenza azive ethandwa ngokwenene. Oku kungenziwa ngokumjonga emehlweni ngokuzithemba, ukuqala ubuhlobo bomzimba, ukumxelela kanye into oyithandayo ngaye, okanye ukummangalisa ngento ebonisa ukuba ubucinga ngaye. Ukunyaniseka nokuzithemba kuyathandeka ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na indlela enye.
Okokuqala, sombulula uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo. Ukuhenda akuyi kusebenza ukuba kukho ingqumbo engapheliyo. Nje ukuba nobabini nizolile kwaye nithetha, isenzo somzimba esithambileyo sinokunceda ukuvala umsantsa. Ukumbamba kancinci ingalo yakhe, ukumncoma ngokwenene, okanye ukumbamba nje ngaphandle kokulindela kunokuguqula isimo sengqondo ukusuka kwingxabano ukuya kunxibelelwano. Vumela ulwalamano lwakhiwe kwakhona ngokwendalo.
Ukuhenda kunokuvuselela ngokupheleleyo intlantsi kulwalamano oluye lwaba yinto eqhelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, kusebenza kakuhle xa kuhlanganiswa nonxibelelwano oluvulekileyo malunga neemfuno kunye neminqweno yomnye nomnye. Ukuba ukukruquka kuyanda kwaye kukho imiba ekhulayo efana nokungabikho konxibelelwano lweemvakalelo okanye ukukhula kwamaqela, ukuhenda kukodwa akusosisombululo. Cinga ngako njengesixhobo esinye kwisixhobo esikhulu sempilo-ntle yolwalamano.
Ubuchule bunomtsalane ngakumbi kunokubonakalisa ingcinga. Sebenzisa ulwimi lomzimba, sondela kuye xa ethetha, mjonge emehlweni, mchukumise ingalo ngokungakhathali. Nxiba into ekuchukumisayo ngaphandle kokumbonisa ingcinga. Shiya ivumba lakho kumqamelo. Mthumelele umyalezo othi, “Bendicinga ngawe nje” ngaphandle komxholo ongaphezulu. Imfihlakalo kunye nokungathethi kakuhle zezona zinto zikwenza kube nzima ukuzibamba.
Nangona ukhetho lwahlukile, uninzi lwamadoda lutsaleleka kakhulu ekuzithembeni, emdlandla wokwenene, nasekuziveni efunwa. Ngaphaya koko, uphando lubonisa ukuba amadoda ayasabela kakhulu kwiimpawu ezibonakalayo (into oyinxibayo, indlela oziphethe ngayo), ivumba, kunye nento yokumangaliswa. Umfazi oqalayo, ongoyikiyo ukuveza iminqweno yakhe, nolinganisela ukuhlekisa ngokufudumala uyathandeka kuyo yonke indawo.
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Manenekazi, nantsi ke into—yonke into ekufuneka uyazi malunga nendlela yokutsala umntu wakho emzimbeni nasengqondweni. Ubugcisa bokuhenda abusoloko bumalunga nokumguqula. Yindlela eluncedo kakhulu nedlalayo yokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho nesoka lakho. Ungaze ulibale umthetho wegolide nangona kunjalo: ayingombandela wokumnika yonke into ngexesha elinye. Ingombandela wokumshiya efuna okungakumbi. Qala ucwangciso lwakho kunye neqhinga. Ulindile!
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