Kwiintsuku ezintathu ezidlulileyo, ndema ngaphandle kwegumbi likagqirha ndilindele ukumbonisa iingxelo zonyango zomfazi wam. Ebengahlali kakuhle kwaphela. Ibunzi lakhe lalitshiswa ngumkhuhlane rhoqo emva kweentsuku ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu. Wayesopha kangangeeveki ezimbini ukuya kwezintathu ngokuqhubekayo. Isisu besidumbile. Ebekhupha igazi ngomchamo nangendle. Ebemoshekile engafuni nokuya kwagqirha. Kodwa ndiye ndanyanzelela ndagodusa ugqirha wabe engena choice. Uye wandibhalela iimvavanyo ndazenza. Ndandinexhala. Kwenzeka ntoni ngoShikha?
Ndathi ndisame phandle neengxelo zakhe, kwathi qatha iingcinga ezahlukahlukeneyo, kodwa kwakungekho nto indilungiselelayo ukuba ugqirha uza kuthini. Ndandisoloko ndikholelwa ukuba sinobudlelwane obunyanisekileyo kunye neempawu ezininzi ezintle. Kodwa ndandingazi ukuba iza kuqhekeka ngemizuzwana nje.
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Njengoko ndandisazi ukuba sasihlala sinobudlelwane obunyanisekileyo, ngoko kwenzeka njani oku? Ndandilahlekelwe ngokupheleleyo. Walala nini nomnye umntu ukuba wosulelwe yi-STD?
Intloko yam ibinkenteza imibuzo. Ndandisoloko ndisiva ngezifo ezidluliselwa ngeentlobano zesini, kodwa ndandingazi ukuba kwakuza kufuneka ndijamelane nenkosikazi yam enaso. Emva koko ingcinga yeemvavanyo zam yayicinezela kakhulu.
Khange ndikwazi ukumelana nayo ndiye ndaya eshrink
Emva kokuba ndive ugqirha, andizange ndikwazi ukugoduka. Isifo esosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo sithetha ukuba uye walala nomnye umntu ngaphandle kwam! Wayengubani? Ngaba wayemthanda? Angandishiya yena? Ngaba nguye ngcono kunam ebhedini? Ezo ngcinga zahlala zindibetha. Ulwalamano lwethu olunyanisekileyo lwaphela nini ngolu hlobo?
Xa ndikhangela emva, ekubeni iminyaka awayephila ngayo yayithandatyuzwa, ndandifanele ndikhathazeke ngaloo nto. Kodwa ngelo xesha, ayizange indichukumise kangako. UShikha wayengengowam yedwa kwaye uThixo wayemohlwaya ngenxa yoko. Bendifuna ukumtsalela umnxeba ndingamfowuneli ngexesha elinye.
Ndophula iphone yam ngomsindo ndaya ebhayi, ndazigalela ngeebeer ezimbalwa. Ingqondo ibingcono emva kweyure ezimbalwa kwaye ndazifumana ndihleli kwiofisi ye-shrink. Ndandifuna uncedo lobuchwephesha ukuze ndidlule kule nto. Bendigqibe kwelo xesha ndihleli ebhayi.
Zange ndithethe ngenye indoda kuShikha
Andizange ndithethe ngenye indoda kuShikha xa ndandiqala ukumxelela ngale nto kamva ngaloo ngokuhlwa. Bendizolile ndisazolile. Ziphelile nje intsuku ezintathu siqhuba iimvavanyo noogqirha. Ungumfazi wam otshate ngokusemthethweni kwaye kufuneka ndifezekise imisebenzi yam. Andifuni afe. Abantu benza zonke iintlobo zeempazamo. Iseshoni yam elandelayo kunye nokuncipha kwiveki ezayo. Andazi ukuba kuzakwenzeka ntoni emva koko.
Ndijonge uShikha xa elele. Ubonakala ebuthathaka kwaye ebuthathaka. Akayiqondi ncam indlela endimthanda ngayo, kwaye mhlawumbi lityala lam ukuba andizange ndikwazi ukumenza ayiqonde le nto. Sasisoloko sinolwalamano olunyanisekileyo, kodwa kwenye indawo simele ukuba sahlukana njengendoda nomfazi. Kungenjalo, ngekwenzeke njani oku? Uyazibuza ukuba ngubani laa ndoda. I wonder ubomi bam buza kuba njani xa endishiya. I wonder kuzokwenzeka ntoni xa enofa. Siyambulela uThixo ngokuba asinabantwana. Lo kuphela komgca wesilivere kwelifu elimnyama.
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Umnikelo wakho awuquki isisa umnikelo. Iya kuvumela i-Bonobology ukuba iqhubeke nokukuzisela ulwazi olutsha nolwangoku kwiphulo lethu lokunceda nabani na osehlabathini ukuba afunde ukwenza nantoni na.
Ubonise ngokwenene ubuchopho bakho kwaye ufuna ukuxatyiswa. Esona sizathu sokuba akhubeke kukuba akakuthandi. Nabani na othanda iqabane kunye nokukholelwa emtshatweni akayi kwenza izinto ezinjalo ezenzakalisa iqabane lakhe kwaye zonakalise ubudlelwane. Kwimeko yakho, luthando olucalanye kuphela Ie ubumthanda kodwa hayi yena. Ukuba ebengasulelwanga sesi sifo ngengakhange aziveze naphakade ngaphandle kokuba akuxelele. Kwimeko yakho, ngokuchasene nomnqweno wakhe, ikamva limnyanzele ukuba atyhileke. Le yingcinga eqhelekileyo yomqhathi. Abafazi abaqhathayo banama-dynamics angaphantsi okuza kunika imbono ethile.
1. Abafazi abaqhathayo bacinga ukuba bawathabathe onke amanyathelo okhuseleko yaye akukho ndlela yokuba abayeni babo bazi ngokuqhatha kwabo. Ngokwesiseko bacinga ukuba Ghar ki chor Ko uThixo naye akanako,t ukubamba. Benza idrama yothando kunye nokunyaniseka ekhaya.
2. Bafuna umyeni njengekhoboka okanye umsebenzi ekhaya ukubonisa uluntu ukuba banendoda kunye nosapho, ukujongana noxinzelelo lwentsapho, xa umfazi esiwa ndiya kumkhonza esibhedlele, ukucoca i-shit nayiphi na into efunyenwe ngumfazi ngexesha lokulala namanye amadoda ngaphandle komtshato, xa umfazi ekhulula ubutsha bakhe ngokuguga kwaye engasenamtsalane kwamanye amadoda, ufuna umyeni ukuba alale naye kwaye ekugqibeleni ufuna inkxaso kwindoda ebutsha. Yiyo loo nto abafazi abaqhathayo bengawushiyi umtshato kodwa ngokungenazintloni ngaphandle kokuzihlonipha kunye nesidima silala namanye amadoda ngaphandle komtshato nokuba ngemicimbi okanye ngobusuku obunye. Zifana nezifunxi-gazi kwaye zoyikekayo ngaphezu kokufudumala esitulweni.
3. Abantu abaqhathayo bazicingela kakhulu ngenkanuko, abanazintloni, abanantlonipho, abanasidima, banyanisekile kwaye banyanisekile. Kubo ezi azinaxabiso kwaye njengemifuno ekrwada ziziphose ngokokuthanda kwazo. Yiyo ke loo nto abayi kuwushiya umtshato kodwa baqhubeke nokuqhatha njengeeshushu esitolini
Iimpazamo zinokuxolelwa. Kodwa hayi ukukopela. Ngaba umbulali unokuxolelwa ngenxa yokubulala kube kanye okanye ngokubulala? Ngenxa yaba baqhatha iqabane elithembekileyo kufuneka lihlazeke, lingathembani kunye nokungcatshwa ubomi obude nto leyo ekhohlakeleyo kunokubulala. Ukukopela sisigqibo esaziyo kwaye asiyompazamo.
Awuwedwa onje. Kukho abafazi abaninzi abaqhatha abayeni babo ngokungenazintloni ukanti benze idrama yothando nokunyaniseka ekhaya ukuze ngokungathandabuzekiyo ikhe ithi qatha ezingqondweni zamadoda abo.
Kule meko, sele ebandezelekile ngenxa yesenzo asenzayo. Emva kokuba echachile, umyeni ufanele athethe naye aze akhuphe iimvakalelo zakhe nenyaniso ngesenzo esifanelekileyo. Omnye unokuxolela, kodwa kunzima ukufumana oko akwenzileyo kuye ubomi.