Uthando kwiBhokisi: Ukuphonononga iSimboli yezipho kubudlelwane bothando 

Xa intombi yakho ithi ifuna "into esebenzayo," ngaba yimpazamo ukumthatha ngokwelizwi lakhe kwaye umnike i-oveni yepizza, okanye ngaba ubuhambe nomtya weeperile endaweni? (Impendulo: iiperile…mhlawumbi.) Embindini wazo, izipho zimalunga nokomeleza ubudlelwane. Ke ukunika isipho kumntu omkhathaleleyo kubonakala kufana nesifundo. Akukho sizathu sokufunda kakhulu kuyo, akunjalo? Akunjalo. 

Enoba unenjongo yoko okanye akunjalo, sonke isipho osinikelayo sesomfuziselo. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa ukuphana izipho kusenzeka phakathi kwamaqabane athandanayo. Ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho liya kufunda ngakumbi kwisipho kunokuba, uthi, umntakwabo okanye ummelwane, kuyafaneleka ukuthatha ixesha lokuqwalasela ukuba izipho zakho zithini malunga nobudlelwane bakho. Ukugcina ukufunda ukuze ufunde ngakumbi malunga nomqondiso wezipho zakho.  

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Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, amadoda namabhinqa aneembono ezahlukahlukeneyo ngentsingiselo yezipho. Abasetyhini badla ngokunikela izipho ngezizathu ezingokweemvakalelo. Umba luphawu lokuncamathela. Ngenxa yoko, baya kulindela okuthile ngembuyekezo. (Guys, qaphelani: ukubuyiselana kubalulekile, ngakumbi kumanqanaba okuqala obudlelwane.) Amadoda, kwelinye icala, athanda ukubona izipho njengentengiselwano ngakumbi. Oku kunokubangela ingxabano kubudlelwane obukhulayo. 

Ke ngoku wenzantoni? Yigcine ilula. Iintyatyambo ziyi-classical for a umhla wokuqala ngesizathu esivakalayo. Mahle, kodwa awabaxi kakhulu, kwaye ngaloo ndlela adlulisa ubungakanani obufanelekileyo beemvakalelo. Amacici edayimani ngomhla wesithathu, kwiimeko ezininzi, ngokukhawuleza kakhulu. Ukugcina a ubudlelwane obutsha ukuhamba kwicala elichanekileyo, ixabiso lemali kunye notyalo-mali ngokweemvakalelo zezipho zakuqala kufuneka zithobeke, kwaye zilingane okanye zilingane. 

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Yintoni iNkuthazo Yakho?

Xa kufikelelwa kumbandela wothando, isenzo nje sokwenza isipho sinokubonisa ukukhula kolwalamano. Oku kuyinyaniso kuzo zombini izini kodwa kuyinyaniso ngakumbi xa amadoda esenza. Izipho zikwasetyenziswa njengoxolo, elinye iqhinga elidumileyo phakathi kwamadoda. Kwaye, kunjalo, izipho zinikezelwa ukubhiyozela iziganeko ezikhethekileyo ezifana izikhumbuzo. 

Abasetyhini kunokwenzeka ukuba banike isipho ukubonisa ukuzinikela. Amadoda adla ngokunikezela ngezipho kwangethuba njengendlela yokubonakalisa umnqweno wokuthatha izinto ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo. Amadoda aneentloni ngokukhethekileyo asebenzisa izipho njengendlela yokubonisa umdla. 

Kufanelekile ukuphinda ukuba izipho zangaphambili akufanele zibe mkhulu kakhulu ukuphepha ukujonga ngathi uzama ukuthenga uthando. Kulwalamano oluhambele phambili ngakumbi, izipho zikwayindlela yokukhuthaza ukunyaniseka kwiqabane, into eyaziwa ngokwenzululwazi njengokugada iqabane. Ngoko ke, umzekelo, a ilitye lokuzalwa njengesipho kwiqabane elisekiweyo sibonisa ukucinga kunokuba sibonakale siphezulu.

Njengoko ubudlelwane buqhubela phambili, ukubuyiselana kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye utyalo-mali olukhulu lufanelekile kodwa ukucinga kunye nentsingiselo yobuqu kufuneka ihlale ithatha indawo yokuqala. Lilonke, intshukumisa yokupha izipho yahluka ngokusekelwe kwisini somntu ophayo nakwinqanaba lolwalamano. 

Impembelelo yesipho

Ukuqwalasela ukuba izipho ziphethe isimboli esibalulekileyo, akuyi kumangaliswa ukuba isipho esine-bungled sinokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane. Iimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo malunga nezipho zinokubangela ukuba ubudlelwane buphele. Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngasentla, amadoda atyekele ekunikeleni izipho ukuze enze izinto zibe mbi ngakumbi kodwa ukuba isipho sento eninzi kakhulu kwangethuba, lowo usinikwayo unokuziva exhalabile, ecinezelekile, okanye esetyenziswa kakubi. Indlela engcono yokuzisa ukusondelana kukwenza umsebenzi onika umdla. 

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Ukwenza i-adventure kunye yindlela eqinisekileyo yokwenza unxibelelwano kunezipho zamaxabiso. Ukufunda isakhono esitsha somzimba kunye, okufana ne-kayaking okanye ukusefa; ukukhwela imincili kwipaki yokuzonwabisa; okanye ukuyihleka kwiklabhu ye-comedy zonke ziindlela ezilungileyo zokuhlangana kunye nokwakha umnqweno kwangoko. 

Kufuneka ezimbalwa izimvo zomhla cheap? Ninokucwangcisa ukuzingela, ivolontiya, okanye nivavanye iiresiphi ezintsha kunye. Emva kokuba ulwalamano lusekiwe, izipho zinika indlela yokuqinisekisa ukunamathela kunye nokubonisa uxabiso. 

Ixabisa iSplurge?

Izipho ezibizayo kwangethuba ayisiyiyo eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphumelela kubudlelwane, kodwa kuthekani kamva? Ukugcina a ubudlelwane bexesha elide, izipho zisenendima ebalulekileyo. Nokuba yeyiphi na ibango lobulumko obuqhelekileyo, uphando lubonisa ukuba amaqabane exesha elide athanda ukukhetha izipho ezithandekayo kunezo zisebenzayo (kungoko iiperile kuneoveni yepizza), kwaye kwakhona, utyalo-mali ngokweemvakalelo kufuneka luqwalaselwe. 

Nangona kubudlelwane obusekwe kakuhle, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ixabiso lezinto lingakanani, ukuba ummkeli akayi kuwuxabisa, akufanelekanga ukuba i-splurge. Nditsho kwaye ngakumbi xa usazi iqabane lakho iminyaka, uluhlu lokudlalwayo lweengoma ezingathandekiyo lunokuthetha okuninzi kunegajethi ye-elektroniki yamva nje. 

Abantu badla ngokuthi, “Akukho nto,” xa benikela izipho, kodwa oko akuyonyaniso. Qiniseka ukuba izipho zakho zithumela umyalezo ochanekileyo ngokuzigcina zilula kwaye zicinga kwangethuba kubudlelwane. Kwakhona, khumbula ukuba amava anokuba sisipho esingcono kunezinto eziphathekayo xa usaqala ukwazi umntu. Ubudlelwane obuqolileyo bunokuqinisekisa iminikelo emikhulu, kodwa kuphela ukuba umamkeli ufuna ngokwenene. Intsingiselo yomntu iphumelela phezu kokutshiza ngalo lonke ixesha. Into elula njengenqaku lothando elibhalwe ngesandla okanye isaphetha esincanyathiselwe ebunzini lakho sinokuthandana, ukuba akunjalo xa kufikwa ekuboniseni uthando lwakho. 

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