Izindlela Eziyi-10 I-Queerphobia Iqhamuka Ngaphakathi Kwendlu

Sekuphele iminyaka engu-32 iWorld Health Organization yalulaza ubutabane njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. Iminyaka engu-32. Yiminyaka yami leyo. Kufana nokuthi ngizalelwe kulobu budlabha obungenza ngibe ngumuntu oyisigebengu, angisathathwa njengomuntu ogula ngengqondo ngenxa yobulili bami. Um, ngiyabonga, baholi bomhlaba? Kodwa nakhu okwengeziwe. Eminyakeni emithathu eyedlule, i-WHO yagcina ivuke yathi ngeke isahlukanisa ukuba yi-transgender njengokuphazamiseka kwengqondo. 3 iminyaka. Hhayi-ke, i-IDAHOBIT ejabulisayo (Usuku Lwamazwe Ngamazwe Olulwisana Ne-Homophobia, I-Biphobia, I-Intersexism kanye Ne-Transphobia) kithi sonke!

Akukho ukulahla izithunzi ezinde zalokho 'ukuxilongwa' kwe-queerphobia* kanye nokucwaswa okuvame kakhulu kwezenhlalo namasiko kanye nezokwelapha ekuboneni, amalungelo, nokuphepha kwansuku zonke komphakathi wami. Lezi zinombolo zingesinye sezizathu eziyinhloko mina, kanye nabaningi abavela emphakathini we-LGBTQIA+, ngikholelwa ngokuqinile ukuthi i-queerphobia ivela ngaphakathi endlini.

Kungani I-queerphobia Iyingozi?

SONKE siyimikhiqizo yesistimu evumela futhi ikhulise i-queerphobia. Ngokwezinga abantu abavela emphakathini abalwa ngazo ne-homophobia kanye ne-biphobia, kanye ne-transphobia yangaphakathi, ngaphambi kokuvumelana ngokugcwele nento elula njengobulili bomuntu noma ubulili.

Ngokuphambene nombono ovamile, ukuthi singobani akuyinkimbinkimbi. Ukuba ngumuntu onobulili obubili kufanele kube lula nje ukuba umuntu oqondile, futhi ukuba umuntu oshintshashintshayo kufanele kube lula nje ngokuba umuntu we-cis. Kodwa akunjalo, ngenxa yokuthi ubunikazi bethu bubukelwa phansi kanjani, bungabonakali, bucwaswa, bugqilazwa, busongelwa, bucwaswa, futhi benziwa ubugebengu umphakathi ocishe ufane.

Uma utshela umuntu othanda ucansi ukuthi uyalwa ngoba ethanda ucansi, ukhohlwa ukuthi umzabalazo ubangelwa ukwesaba abantu abathanda ucansi okusabalele - hhayi ngenxa yobuntu bethu. Noma ubani uzobhekana nobunzima noma ahlupheke ngezinkinga zempilo yengqondo lapho umphakathi uklanywe ngamabomu ngokumelene naye. Nangaphakathi komphakathi, abantu abathanda ucansi banendlela ende okufanele bayihambe ngaphambi kokuba bafunde ukuthi bangaba kanjani abalingani nabantu abashintsha ubulili, abangebona abantu ababili (enby), kanye nabantu abaxube ubulili.

Yingakho izinsuku ezifana ne-International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Intersexism kanye neTransphobia zibalulekile ukuze sikhumbule izinhlobo ezahlukene ze-queerphobia ezikhona ngaphandle naphakathi komphakathi.

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Ilungelo Elilinganayo Lokushada Nokuthanda

Ngokusho kwe -Human Rights Campaign , kunamazwe angu-31 kuphela (inani kungenzeka ukuthi lishintshile kusukela ngesikhathi lokhu kushicilelwa) lapho umshado wobulili obufanayo usemthethweni khona. Ukuze sinikeze umongo, kunamazwe angaba ngu-200 emhlabeni. Futhi, la mazwe angu-31 awavikelekile ekuhlaselweni yi-queerphobia.

Umngane we-cishet usanda kuveza ukushaqeka ngaleyo nombolo wathi, “Ubhekana kanjani nokungakwazi ukushada nomuntu omthandayo? Khohlwa umshado. Ngisho nokungakwazi ukuveza imizwa yakho kothile omthandayo , noma ukukhuluma ngesithakazelo sakho sothando noma uthando lwakho ngaphandle kokwesaba – angazi ukuthi lokho kuzwakala kanjani. Angikwazi ukucabanga ukuthi ngivinjelwe kangaka, hhayi nje kuphela emphakathini kodwa nasemthethweni. Lokhu, kanye nokubhekana nokuzonda abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo, kumelwe ukuba kuyadabukisa futhi kuyacindezela kakhulu.”

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Yebo. Khonamanjalo, cishe abantu bakuthola kunzima ukusebenzisa ulimi olungakhethi ubulili ekhaya nasezindaweni zokusebenza. Futhi badinga kanambambili yobulili babo yonke indawo (Abesilisa nabesifazane! Owesilisa nowesifazane!) njengoba bedinga umoya-mpilo. Bakuhlanganisa kalula kangakanani okuhlangenwe nakho kwabantu okujwayelekile njengokuzizwisa ngokobulili, ukuthi bakhohlwa kalula kanjani ukuba khona okukhulu kwabantu abangavumelani nobulili (GNC), enby kanye nabantu abahlukile kobulili.

Ngakho-ke, ngalolu suku Lwamazwe Ngamazwe Olulwisana Ne-Homophobia, I-Transphobia kanye Ne-Biphobia, ake sikhulume ngendlovu enkulu ye-queerphobic ekamelweni. Nazi, ngiyakholwa, izindlela eziyishumi i-queerphobia eqhamuka ngayo ngaphakathi ezindlini zethu. (Isexwayiso sokuqala: ukukhuluma ngodlame olungokomzimba nolocansi olubhekiswe kubantu abayizinja, izibonelo ze-queerphobia, ukukhuluma ngokuzibulala)

1. Imishado ngenkani

Umngani wesifazane othandana nobulili obubili wake wangitshela ukuthi, “Ngiyazi ukuthi ngikhangwa abantu besifazane futhi ngifuna ukuba nomuntu wesifazane, kodwa ngiyazi ukuthi ekugcineni ngizoshada nendoda ukuze ngijabulise umndeni wami. Omunye umngani onabazali abamelene nezitabane ushaywe waze waboshwa umndeni wakubo ngesizathu sokweba emzini wabo ekubeni besazi ukuthi isizathu sokuthi angafuni ukushada nowesifazane wukuthi uyisitabane.

Omunye umngani wesilisa wabaleka ekhaya inyanga ngaphambi komshado wakhe, ngemuva kokuzama ngamandla ukukholisa umndeni wakhe iminyaka eminingi ukuthi ungamshadi nowesifazane. Owesifazane owagcina evumile ukuthi ungungqingili washada ngenkani futhi manje udlwengulwa ngumyeni wakhe njalo, ngoba ubungathi 'ucansi' olunjalo luvumelana?

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Amalungu omndeni kaCisset anesihluku uma kuza ekufezekiseni amaphupho awo ngezingane zawo. Bayasikhulisa, basilungiselela umshado nobulili 'obuphambene'. Bangaki phakathi kwethu ababeke bezwe izindaba zokuthi kufanele sinikezwe indoda uma sifika eminyakeni ethile, futhi bangaki abafana abakhuliswa ngokwazi ukuthi kufanele babe ngabayeni abaqotho kumakhosikazi abo?

Ingabe kwake kwaba khona ubuntwana eduze kwethu lapho abazali basebenzisa ulimi olungakhethi ubulili lapho bekhuluma ngabalingani bengane besikhathi esizayo? Cha. Lokhu kucatshangelwa kokuzenzakalelayo kobulili obuhlukile kuyi-heteronormativity. Inobuthi, futhi ikhona cishe kuyo yonke imindeni ngamazinga ahlukahlukene. Asikwazi ukushada nabantu esibathandayo ngoba imishado yethu ayiqashelwa ngumthetho, kunalokho, siphoqeleka ukuthi sishade engenalo uthando ngenxa yemindeni yethu kanye 'nokuhlonishwa' kwayo.

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2. Ukubhuqa, ukusolwa, ukuthula

Ubani owesifazane osebudlelwaneni? Ubani indoda? Nenza kanjani ucansi nonke? Akulona ucansi lwangempela lolo. Ucansi lwepipi emomozini kuphela ucansi lwangempela. Uzoba nazo kanjani izingane? Ukhangwa nguye ngoba ufana nendoda. Lol, bheka babambane ngezandla, kanjani izitabane. (Yebo, ungqingili, cishe uyakhohlwa ukuthi 'sithanda' ukuba gay). Unasiphi isitho sangasese? Uzohlinzwa nini?

Ngithanda abantu abathandana nabobulili obubili futhi ngizwe abantu becela abantu abathandana nabobulili obubili ukuba bakhethe uhlangothi, njengokungathi ubulili buyindlela enamachaphaza amabili. Sibizwa ngokuthi sinobugovu, sididekile, asithembekile futhi asithembekile. Abanye abantu bayabenqaba abantu abathandana nabobulili obubili njengabalingani ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi sizobakhohlisa. Ngiyabonga, abameli bezindaba abangenandaba, ngokuphoqelela lowo mkhuba. Konke lokhu akulona iqiniso futhi kuyisisekelo sokwesaba abantu abathandana nabobulili obubili.

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Inhlekisa ye-queerphobic ngokuvamile ivela emindenini yethu futhi. Eqinisweni, indawo yokuqala yokugconwa kwabantu abaningi abangama-queer umndeni wabo nabazali babo abaphikisana nezitabane. Bahleka usulu abantu abayizigangi ngoba abakakufundi okwabo ukucwasa ubulili. Bahleka usulu ngoba ubugebenga busongela izisekelo zomphakathi wabo ocishe ube yi-patriarchal. Basinika indlela yokuthula ebonisa ukudumala noma ukunengeka kwabo ngaphandle kokuqaphela ukuthi yithina esidumele ngabo.

Futhi, wonke umlando wemithombo yezindaba nowamafilimu ubulokhu usenza izinqe zamahlaya abo amabi. Buka i-documentary Disclosure (2020) ku-Netflix ukuze uvule amehlo akho ngezindlela eziningi abantu abathunyelelwe ngazo amanga futhi bahlekwa usulu esikrinini kusukela ekuqaleni kwamamuvi. Lokhu kwehlisa isithunzi sobuntu kuphuca abantu abangabazi isithunzi sabo futhi ekugcineni kufakazele ukufa.

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3. Udlame olubhekiswe ezinganeni zama-queer

Ngesikhathi sokuvalwa, amacala odlame lwasekhaya ayanda emhlabeni jikelele. Noma ibuphi udlame lwasekhaya lungakhula uma abenzi bobubi behlala besekhaya nomuntu onganakiwe. Kwaba njalo nakubantu abayiziwula. Phakathi nalolu bhubhane, ngike ngakhuluma mathupha futhi nganyusa imali yenqwaba yabantu abayizintandane (izitabane, izitabane, abantu abangebona nomambambili) ababehlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo, ngamazwi noma ngokomzimba nsuku zonke emakhaya abo - ngenxa nje yokuba yilokho abayikho.

Izinsuku eziningi ngesikhathi sokuvalelwa ekhaya, inhliziyo yami yayiba buhlungu lapho izindaba zomunye umuntu othandana naye oxoshwa noma obhekene nokuhlukunyezwa kwengane ngabazali zidlula ezindabeni ze-Instagram. “Ngicela unginikele imali ukuze ngiphume ekhaya lami elinobudlova”, “Ngidinga ukufuna umsebenzi endaweni ephephile lapho ngingaxhashazwa khona ngaso sonke isikhathi, ingabe ukhona onendawo ephephile engingayisebenzisa inyanga yonke?”, “Ngidinga imali ukuze ngithole ukunakekelwa kwempilo yengqondo engikudinga kakhulu, umndeni wami awungisekeli noma awungikhathaleli, ngicela ungisize.”

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Ngo-2021, abantu abangu-375 abangama-trans kanye nama-GNC babulawa ngokusho kwalo mbiko . Lawa ngamacala abikiwe nje. “Lezi zinombolo ziwumbono omncane nje weqiniso elikhona,” kusho abalobi bombiko. “Emazweni amaningi, idatha ayiqoqwa ngendlela ehlelekile. Amacala amaningi ayaqhubeka nokungabikwa futhi, uma ebikwa, awatholi ukunakwa okuningi.”

Futhi, njengoba sazi, izifundazwe zaseMelika ezingu-15 muva nje zibeke imingcele entsheni efuna ukunakekelwa kwezempilo okuqinisekisa ubulili. Njengokungathi lokho akukubi ngokwanele, njengoba kulo mbiko , le mithetho izovumela odokotela ukuthi benze ukususwa kwezitho zangasese zobulili phakathi kobulili ezinganeni ezizalwa zingabantu bobulili obuhlukile. Lokhu kuhloswe ukubenza bafaneleke ezigabeni zabesilisa nabesifazane - isikhathi eside ngaphambi kokuba bakhule ngokwanele ukuveza noma yiluphi uhlobo lobunikazi bobulili.

Ngokusho kwalesi sihloko , ukuhlinzwa kwe-intersex — iningi lazo elenziwa lapho izingane zingaphansi kweminyaka emi-2 ubudala — kungadala umonakalo wokuphila konke futhi kuholele ezibazini, ebuhlungwini obungapheli, ekungakwazi ukuzibamba isikhathi eside, ekulahlekelweni umuzwa wocansi, ukuvala inzalo, isabelo esingafanele sobulili, kanye nokulimala kwengqondo nocansi . Uyabona ukuthi i-queerphobia yethu inomthelela omkhulu kanjani empilweni, ekuphepheni, kanye nasekusebenzeni kwezingane, intsha kanye nabantu abadala?

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4. Abantu bakwa-Cis benza kabi sengathi bakhokhelwe lokho

Zama ukungaqondi kahle umuntu we-cis. Kwenze futhi futhi. Uke wayibona indlela abasabela ngayo? Angikho kahle. Kodwa abantu be-cis bavame ukungaqondi kahle i-trans, enby, kanye nabantu be-GNC. Abanye bakwenza ngamabomu. Noma 'ukuzijabulisa' 'njengasomahlaya' abaningi abadumile. Noma ngenxa yokuthi “kunzima kakhulu” ukuhlonipha ubulili bothile. Abanazingqinamba ekwenziweni kobulili yonke into encane ebazungezile, kodwa uma kukhulunywa ngomuntu ophelele obatshela ngobunikazi bobulili babo nezabizwana, kuvele kuvele amakhilikithi nokubukeka kokudideka.

Ngiyaqonda ukuthi udinga isikhathi sokuyeka ukufunda izindinganiso zobulili, engingakuqondi ukwenqaba ukukwenza ngoba 'akukuhle'. Ukufunda inhlonipho kufanele kube yingxenye yezindinganiso zomndeni , akunjalo? Ngokusho kocwaningo lwe-Trevor Project , intsha eshintsha ubulili kanye nentsha engeyona eyesibili ebike ukuthi izabizwana ziyahlonishwa yibo bonke noma iningi labantu empilweni yayo yazama ukuzibulala ngesilinganiso sesigamu salabo abangazange bahlonishwe izabizwana zabo.

Mhlawumbe kufanele ukhulume ngodaba lokungaphathi kahle ngobulili ngalolu suku lwamazwe ngamazwe olulwisana ne-Homophobia, Transphobia kanye neBiphobia. Lungisa labo abaphatha kabi amalungu omndeni wabo, ozakwabo noma abangani. Imele ukwahluka kobulili kanye nabantu abashintshayo ngisho noma bengekho eduze kwakho.

5. 'Ubudlelwano' obukude

Ngokuvamile sithola amalungu omndeni nabangane bezitshela ukuthi bangabambisene nabo. Phela, omunye wemisebenzi eyintandokazi eyenziwa cishe amat. Iqinisekisa ukuthi bathola yonke imivuzo yokwenza 'umsebenzi omuhle' ngaphandle kwesibopho sokuqhubeka nokufunda nokulungiswa kokuziphatha. Ezimweni ezinjalo, bangase benze sengathi bayeseka ngaphandle kodwa bangavumi ukuba khona kozakwethu oyingwazi yelungu lomndeni.

Bangase babhale indaba 'nge-trans lives matter' kodwa ngeke bazihlolele izingane zakubo ezingezona kanambambili. Ngeke babuze ukuthi ozakwabo bayabuhlonipha yini ubunjalo babo nokuthi kukhona abakudingayo mayelana nokusekelwa ngokomzwelo. Abantu abaningi abangamaqola, ngamafuphi, abazizwa bebonwa, besekelwe, futhi bephethwe imindeni yabo. Lokhu kunganakwa kuthinta uthando lwabo ngomndeni futhi impilo yabo yengqondo nayo inomthelela.

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6. Akunandaba nokuzifundisa

Kuye kwadingeka nginqamule abangani abangaba empilweni yami lapho isicelo sami esilula sokuthi bazifundise ngobunjalo bami kanye nomphakathi singazange sithathwe ngokungathi sína iminyaka. Iningi labangane bami abangabangane lidlule ekulahlekelweni okufanayo lapho sebanele ngabangane babo belahla imizabalazo yabo (lokho kubangelwa i-queerphobia), noma ukungahlanganyeli noma ukungaqondi injabulo yabo eyingqayizivele.

Yize kudingeke ukuthi sifunde ukuthi singabhekana kanjani ne-homophobia, abangani bethu nomndeni abakwazanga ukuzihlupha ngokufunda ukuthi kuyini ngisho nokucwaswa kwabantu abathandana nobulili obufanayo, nokuthi kwande kanjani njengenkambiso yomphakathi. Akukho ukuziphendulela noma intando yokufunda nokwenza ngcono.

Okubi kakhulu ukuthi iningi lincike kubantu abayiziwula ukuthi babafundise. Abaqondi ukuthi imibuzo yabo isikhumbuza ukucwaswa kwethu. Imibuzo yabo kwesinye isikhathi ayihloniphi, njengokuthi uma besibuza ukuthi siya kanjani ocansini noma ngesitho sangasese somuntu. Imibuzo yabo ayiphezi futhi ngeke kube yithi esisebenza kanzima ngokomzwelo ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuze cishe abantu basihloniphe ngendlela efanele.

Imibuzo yabo isikhumbuza ukuthi kubo, siseyizidalwa ezingavamile ezidinga ukuhlakazwa, ukucutshungulwa, nokuqondwa, ngokumelene nathi singabantu abathanda ubulili obuhlukile kobakho, noma ukuzwa ubulili bethu ngendlela ehlukile kobakho. Cishe imvamisa yenza kube nzima ubulili bethu kanye nobulili uma kungekho sidingo sokwenza kanjalo.

7. Konke kunobulili

Lapho ama-cishet kanye nemibhangqwana eqondile bephikisana nathi futhi bethi, “Vumelani abantwana babe ngabantwana”, nami ngithi okufanayo kubo. Yebo, ncamashi, vumelani abantwana babe ngabantwana. Bavumeleni badlale ngamathoyizi abawathandayo. Bavumeleni bathande imibala noma izingubo abafuna ukuzigqoka futhi niyeke ukuphoqelela imikhuba yenu yobulili kubo. Yekani ukutshela intombazanyana ukuthi ngelinye ilanga izoba nesoka noma umyeni. Yekani ukuphoqelela noma yiluphi uhlobo lobulili noma indima yobulili ezinganeni. Kuyamangaza ukuthi abantu abaningi emindenini yethu efundile kanye nemiphakathi yabangane bayaqhubeka nokwenza lezi zinto.

Ukusebenzisa amagama angathathi hlangothi ngobulili kufanele kube yinjwayelo. “Ngelinye ilanga ungase ukhethe ukuba nomuntu othandana naye. Kumele abe nomusa kuwe futhi akuthande lokho oyikho.” Kulula, akunjalo? Itshela ingane kusukela kusenesikhathi ukuthi ikhululekile ukuhlola ukuthi ingobani, nokuthi ungumlingani nendawo ephephile.

Ngokusho kwe-Trevor Project's 2022 National Survey on LGBTQ Youth Mental Health, ama-45% entsha engama-34,000 ye-LGBTQ (eneminyaka engu-13 kuya kwengu-24) kulo lonke elase-United States acabangele kakhulu ukuzama ukuzibulala ngonyaka odlule. Ingaphansi kweyodwa kwentsha engu-3 eshintsha ubulili kanye neyodwa ethola ukuthi ikhaya labo liqinisekisa ubulili. Ukubhekana nokuzonda abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo kanye nokuzonda abantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo kuba yingxenye ebalulekile yempilo yezingane eziningi, ikakhulukazi uma kuyimizi yazo engaphephile kakhulu.

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8. Fihla indlovukazi

Khohlwa ngokuziqhenya, imindeni eminingi inamahloni ngezingane zayo ezingontanga ngenxa yobulili bazo noma ukuthambekela kocansi/kothando . Abanye baze bafike ezingeni lokuxolisa ngokuba khona kwengane yabo phambi kwabanye abantu. Ukukhathazeka kwabo induduzo yomunye umuntu, hhayi eyengane yabo. Uma ingane ifisa ukuziveza sengathi ayihambisani nobulili, ihlazo lomndeni liyakhula, kanye nobuhlungu ingane edlula kubo.

Sifunda ukuthi singabhekana kanjani ne-homophobia kanye ne-transphobia kusukela sisebancane futhi sifunda ukuthi kufanele sifihle ubunqunu bethu obuhle ukuze sithandwe futhi sihlonishwe. Yilokhu okukhuthaza i-transphobia yangaphakathi kanye ne-homophobia yangaphakathi. Imindeni kufanele isifundise ukuthi singazithanda kanjani thina ngokugcwele; esikhundleni salokho, sifundiswa ukucacisa ukuthi singobani futhi siyazikhipha ukuze sibenze bajabule.

9. 'Ukwelashwa' kokuguqulwa

Ukwelapha ngokuguqula kuhlanganisa noma yiluphi uhlobo lomkhuba oluhlose ukwenza umuntu oyinqaba cishet. Ngokuyisisekelo, 'ukuguqula' i-lesbian ibe ngowesifazane oqondile, noma owedlule abe yindoda yama-cis. Ngamafuphi, benza okuphambene nemvelo nokuphambene nobuntu.

Abazali abaningi kanye nemindeni enobuthi baphoqa izingane zabo ukuba zivakashele umphilisi, umpristi, umxoshi noma umelaphi ongenasimilo ongakwazi 'ukwelapha' ubufebe obukubo. Ezimweni ezimbi kakhulu, ingane ithunyelwa ukudlwengulwa 'kokulungisa' lapho idlwengulwa khona (ngemvume evela emndenini) ngumuntu umndeni obona ubulili bakhe bufanelekela ingane yakhe. Akudingeki ukusho ukuthi, le mikhuba ishiya uphawu olunzima empilweni yengqondo yomuntu kanye nesithombe sakhe. I-India yavimbela ukwelashwa kokuguqulwa kwengane ezinyangeni ezi-3 ezedlule ngoFebhuwari 2022. Kwasithatha isikhathi eside LOKHO.

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10. I-“Be positive!” isizwe

Ngitshelwe ukuthi ngingayinaki i-queerphobia futhi “ngijabulele ukuphila” futhi “ngibe nombono omuhle”. Ngingathanda ukwenza lokho, uma nje ungakutshela lokho kumqashi owanqaba ngenxa yobugebenga bami. Noma uyitshele umnikazi wendawo owenqabile ukunikeza umngane wami oyi-trans indlu ngenxa yobunikazi bakhe. Noma emndenini womngane wami we-enby ongaziphathi kahle futhi ebahlukumeza njalo.

Unenzondo uma ucabanga ukuthi i-systemic queerphobia ingamane ishaywe indiva. Hlola ilungelo lakho. Yenza umsebenzi onzima wokuba umngane.

Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa

Imicabango Final

Lezi yizizathu ezenza igama elithi 'ikhaya' lisetshenziswe kakhulu kubantu abaningi abathandana nabantu bobulili obufanayo, ngakho-ke sithola amakhaya emindenini yethu esiyikhethile. Ngiyethemba ukuthi, ngalolu suku lwamazwe ngamazwe lokulwa nobandlululo lwabantu abathandana nabobulili obufanayo , ubandlululo lwabantu abashintsha indlela yabo yokuphila, ubandlululo lwabantu abashintsha indlela yabo yokuphila kanye nobandlululo lwabantu abashintsha indlela yabo yokuphila, nibheke lezi ziqondiso bese nicabanga ukuthi iyiphi yalezi eniyifakile kuyo isandla. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ngamazwi enu, ukuziphatha kwenu, izinqubomgomo zenu, indawo yenu yokusebenza, ubudlelwano benu, kanye nezinhlelo zenu zezinkolelo. Masenze 'ikhaya' libe yindawo ephephile kithi sonke.

*queerphobia: leli gama lizosetshenziswa kubhulogi ukufaka zonke izinhlobo zokucwaswa abantu ababhekene nazo - ukuzonda abantu abathandana nabantu abathandana bobulili obufanayo, i-biphobia, i-transphobia, i-interphobia, njll.

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9 Ibonisa I-Twin Lakho Ilangabi Liyakuthanda

Umnikelo wakho awuyona iminikelo yokusiza . Kuzovumela i-Bonobology ukuthi iqhubeke nokukulethela ulwazi olusha nolusesikhathini njengoba sifuna ukusiza noma ubani emhlabeni ukuthi afunde ukwenza noma yini.