Uphelele. Usebudlelwaneni bamaphupho. Kungenzeka uke wahlangana nabazali. Isikhathi sokuyisa ubudlelwano 'kwizinga elilandelayo'. Ubungeke ucele lutho okwengeziwe. Kodwa (yebo, okubaluleke kakhulu 'KODWA'!) ukungabaza kobudlelwane kuqala ukukhulisa ikhanda labo elibi kubangele ukubola okukhulu kunganekwane yakho.
Ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa. Ukuba nokungabaza ngobudlelwano obusha, ikakhulukazi uma kuhamba kahle, kuyinto wonke umuntu osothandweni ahlangabezana nayo. Kungase kube ngendlela yokungathembani okuncane noma kungase kube ukukhathazeka okubangelwa amafulegi abomvu osanda kuwaqaphela akwenza ubuze sonke isibopho sakho nesithandwa sakho. Ngakho-ke, noma ngabe unokungabaza ngobudlelwano obusha noma ubudlelwano obudlule, sikutholile.
Ingabe Kujwayelekile Ukuba Nokungabaza Ebudlelwaneni?
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Cishe uzwile nge-imposter syndrome, evame ukubizwa ngokuthi i-imposter phenomenon ezifundweni zengqondo. Leli yiphuzu lapho abantu abaphumelelayo bekholelwa khona umbono wokuthi impumelelo yabo ayilona iqiniso noma ayivumelekile, nokuthi amakhono abo eqiniso, aphansi kunenkanyezi ayokwembulwa ngelinye ilanga. Ingabe ubukufanele ngempela lokho kwandiswa, lolo dumo, noma lokho kukhushulwa? Ingabe wena kanye namakhono akho ekugcineni kuzodalulwa njengamanga? Abantu abangu-7 kwabangu-10 baba nokungabaza okubeleselayo esikhathini esithile ekuphileni kwabo.
Ngakho yebo, ngokuzumayo ukungabaza ngobuhlobo kuyinto evamile futhi kwenzeka kuwo wonke umbhangqwana. Nakuba i-imposter syndrome ivame ukuvezwa njengendaba yomuntu siqu, imicabango eqhathaniswayo ingenzeka kumongo wobudlelwano bocansi. Uma ubuchwepheshe bakho budlula ukuzethemba kwakho, uwela esimweni somkhohlisi wobudlelwane - ngokuvamile ngenxa yokuthi usebenzisa izindinganiso ezingezona ezangempela, uzizwa unomgunyathi, futhi ukhathazekile ngokudalula iqiniso elifihliwe lokuxhumana kwakho.
Isenzo somkhohlisi wobudlelwane senzeka lapho wesaba, unokungabaza, futhi kukhona ukungaqiniseki ebudlelwaneni naphezu kwezimpawu zokuthi usesimweni esijabulisayo nesinempilo. Uyazibuza ukuthi ngabe yonke into ibonakala iyinhle kakhulu ukuthi ingaba yiqiniso, okushodayo, bese uqala ukungabaza yonke into.
Uqala ukubuza noma uzibuze lokhu okulandelayo:
- Ngikhathazekile ngokuthi ubudlelwano bami buzohluleka esikhathini esizayo
- Lapho abanye bencoma ubuhlobo bami, kungenza ngizizwe ngingakhululekile
- Ngezinye izikhathi ngiye ngithuke ukuthi abantu bazoqaphela ukuthi ubuhlobo bami bubi kangakanani
- Ngesaba ukuthi isoka lami liyangabaza ngekusasa lethu
- Ngikhathazekile ngokuthi abantu engibakhathalelayo bangabona ukuthi ubudlelwano bami abubuhle ngendlela abakholelwa ngayo
- Angikwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ngizwa sengathi ubuhlobo bami kufanele bube ngcono
- Ngisho noma ubuhlobo bami buhamba kahle, ngiba nobunzima bokukholelwa ukuthi buyohlala njalo
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Eminye imizwa yomgunyathi isuka ekulindelweni okuphezulu ngokungenangqondo okubangela ukuthi ushaye indiva izinkomba ezinhle. Izinto zilungile, kodwa zingahlala ziba ngcono. Izinto ezinhle sizithatha kalula sibe sibambelele kokubi. Sikhathazekile ngokuthi ozakwethu noma abanye (isb., abangani nomndeni) bazoqaphela ukuthi ubudlelwano bethu abukho njengoba bubonakala buyikho.
Nakuba kubi njengoba konke lokho kuzwakala, nansi into ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uyikhumbule: leyo mizwa yomgunyathi ivamise ukuba ihaba. Cishe ukhathazekile ngezinto ezingekho, utshala ukungabaza okungenasisekelo, futhi uze uzicindezele ukuba wenze izinqumo (isb., ingabe kufanele sehlukane?) okungadingeki ukuba uzenze. Ngaphambi kokuthi kuphuze kakhulu, lungisa imizwa yakho yokungabaza ngobudlelwano. Ngakho-ke ake siqale sazi ukuthi ziyini.
Kusho Ukuthini Ngokungabaza Ngobudlelwano?
Ukungabaza ngobudlelwano noma ukukhathazeka yileyo mizwa oyitholayo lapho usuchithe isikhathi esiningi nomlingani wakho kodwa ungabaza ukumethemba ngokuphelele. Uma uthando lweqiniso lushaya, yonke into kuthiwa iyenzeka ngendlela emangalisayo kodwa kwenzekani uma uqala ukungabaza imizwa yakho ngomuntu ngokuzumayo?
Kungase kuholele ekujikeni nasekucabangeni okungekuhle ngomzuzu wokugcina, ikakhulukazi ngaphambi komshado (cabanga Umakoti Obalekile okudlala uJulia Roberts noRichard Gere). Noma okubi nakakhulu, kungase kubangele ukudideka, ukwesaba, kanye nezinsolo ezijulile ezingase zibe nomthelela endleleni ophatha ngayo ubudlelwano bakho besikhathi esizayo.
Into yokuqala okufanele uyiqonde ukuthi ukubuza ubudlelwano ngokuvamile kuyimpendulo yezinguquko ezingazelelwe noma okuhlangenwe nakho okungalindelekile. Isibonelo, uma ubulokhu usesimweni esibi noma ubudlelwano obuhlukumezayo lapho uthola othile okukhathalelayo ngempela, ungase ukuthole kunzima ukukuyeka ukungabaza!
Kwesinye isikhathi lokho okulindele ngomlingani wakho akufani neqiniso. Isibonelo, kungenzeka ukuthi uhlabeke umxhwele ngegrafu yomsebenzi ka-bae wakho kuphela ukwazi ukuthi isimo sabo asifani njengoba bebesichazile. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukungabaza kungokwemvelo futhi kuphakama ukukhathazeka ebudlelwaneni.
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Ukungabaza Ubudlelwano - 21 Imibuzo Okufanele Uzibuze Ngayo Ukuze Usule Ikhanda Lakho
Nakuba ukuthambekela kokuba nemicabango yesibili neyesithathu mayelana nokuzibophezela nomshado kuvame kakhulu, kufanele ube nezizathu zokukhathazeka kuphela uma kufinyelela ezingeni lapho ungumuntu umbhangqwana onobuthi. Ngakho-ke uma ubulokhu uzizwa ungathandeki ebuhlotsheni noma ulokhu uzibuza imizwa yakho, zinike kancane ukuzindla futhi uzibuze imibuzo enzima.
Lokhu kungase kungakutholi nje ukucaciseleka; ingase ikusindise nasekubeni isithandwa esibalekile. Siqoqe imibuzo/izinkinga ezimbalwa ezijwayelekile ezidala ukuthi ube nokungabaza mayelana nobudlelwano. Zihlaziye bese ubhekisa kumitha yokungabaza ukuze uqonde ukuthi unesizathu sokukhathazeka noma ungomunye uThomas noma uTina ongabazayo!
Khumbula, ukungabaza ngobudlelwano kuvamile. Imitha ephezulu isho ukuthi ukungabaza kwakho ngawe noma ubuhle bakho kusemthethweni futhi kufanele uthathe isinyathelo, futhi amaphuzu aphansi asho ukuthi udinga nje ukuphuza iphilisi lokubandayo bese uphonsa phansi.
1. Ingabe ngiyakhangwa abanye abantu?
Amazulu amahle, kunjalo! Sonke singabantu, futhi cishe akunakwenzeka ukuphila ukhangwa umuntu oyedwa kuphela. Kungase kube ukukhangwa kosebenza naye, othile ohlangane naye emcimbini noma emakethe, noma ngisho nomdondoshiya wosaziwayo oyinyamazana othatha izintambo nakuba usumdala.
Kodwa ukukhanga kuhle. Ngenxa yokuthi usebudlelwaneni obuzibophezele, ubushade nomuntu oyedwa akusho ukuthi ungacisha izifiso zakho. Akusho ukuthi ungumuntu omubi, noma awukwazi ukuzinikela. Vele ugcine okukhangayo ekhanda lakho futhi UNGAZITHATHI kukho.
Esimeni esifana nalesi, kuvuka ukungabaza enhliziyweni yakho mayelana nokuthi unomuntu olungile yini. Khumbula umlando wobudlelwano benu ngaphambi kokuthi wenze noma yisiphi isinqumo.
Imitha yokungabaza: 4/10
2. Ingabe ngiyakhathazeka lapho exoxa ne-ex yakhe kaningi?
I-Ahem… ukuba nobungane ne ex yakho kuvamile ikakhulukazi uma ukuhlukana bekungekubi kakhulu. Kodwa kuzoncika ekutheni izingxoxo zinde kangakanani, uma engazinaki izidingo zakho zokumnakekela, noma uma ekufihlela imininingwane. Kulokhu, awugcini nje ngokuba inhloko yokukhathazeka.
Ungaphenduki u-obsessive stalker, ubheka ifoni yomlingani wakho, njll. Kulungile uma ubuza yonke into ebudlelwaneni, kodwa funda ukuxazulula ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa ingqondo yakho. Okuwukuphela komuntu okudingeka ukhulume naye umlingani wakho ukuze asuse noma yikuphi ukungabaza onakho. Ungangeni ku-stalker mode ngoba awuzihloniphi wena kuphela kodwa nozakwenu nobudlelwano.
Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
3. Imnandi kangakanani impilo yethu yocansi? Uma siphila impilo yocansi embi, ingabe izowuthinta umshado wethu?
Ucansi luncike ezintweni eziningi ezihlanganisa isikhathi, imizwa, amakhono okwenza uthando, nokunye. Ungamehluleli umlingani wakho nje ngekhono lakhe embhedeni. Ubudlelwano bukhiwa ezinye izici eziningi. Ubulili obumpofu buyinkinga enkulu kodwa akuyona inkinga engaxazululeki.
Ngakho-ke uma unokungabaza nokungaqiniseki ngokugxila ocansini, ungakhathazeki, zikhona izindlela zokuzungeza. Ingxoxo engagwegwesi, ukunonga izinto ngamathoyizi noma izingubo zangaphansi, noma ukuya ekululekeni kuyiziphakamiso ezimbalwa nje.
Imitha yokungabaza: 5/10
4. Ngicabanga ukuthi umama womlingani wami akangithandi. Ingabe kufanele ngiqhubeke nobudlelwano?
Ujabulile ngobhuti wakho? Uma kunjalo, yilokho kuphela okubalulekile. Yebo, uma ungahlali kahle nomkhaya, kungokwemvelo ukungabaza okungathi sína ngomshado nempumelelo yawo. Ungakuvumeli lokho kungabaza kuthikameze ubudlelwano bakho nomlingani wakho uma bekweseka. Umama ovikela ngokweqile noma ogxambukelayo akufanele kuholele ekutheni ube nokungabaza ngobudlelwano.
Uma uzibona ungumuntu ongafanele kuyena ngoba umndeni wabo awuzwani nawe, khumbula ukuthi akuwona umndeni othandana nawo. Ngumlingani wakho futhi umbono wakhe yiwona kuphela obalulekile.
Imitha yokungabaza: 4/10
5. Ngingakwazi ukulinganisa impilo yami yomsebenzi kanye nempilo yami yothando?
Ngabe izinselelo zomsebenzi zikushiya udonsa kanzima ukugxila othandweni lwakho? Impendulo yalo mbuzo izodalula ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho bungabaza yini ngokuphathelene nomsebenzi wakho osebenzayo noma cha. Umlingani osekelayo, oqondayo angakusiza ngempela ukuthi ukhule, ngakho xoxa ngezifiso zakho nesithandwa sakho ngaphambi kokuzibophezela ebudlelwaneni.
Umsebenzi wakho ubalulekile, kanjalo nobudlelwano bakho. Uma unokungabaza ngobudlelwano bakho kanye nempilo yomsebenzi, khuluma nomlingani wakho futhi nibheke kanzima isikhathi eside ezintweni eziza kuqala kuwe.
Imitha yokungabaza: 6/10
6. Ngingakwazi yini ukusebenzela ukwenza ubudlelwano obungaphelele busebenze?
Abukho ubudlelwano obungenasici! Impilo ayiphelele. Ukuphelela kanye nenjabulo njalonjalo kutholakala kumamuvi kuphela. Impilo imayelana nokulungisa kancane, ukuvumelana, ukupha futhi uthathe, nokwenza imigomo engokoqobo. Nokho uma sithola umaqondana osiphelelisa ngezindlela ezingcono kakhulu, kuhle ukulwela ubudlelwano bakho kunokungabaza.
Imitha yokungabaza: 3/10
7. Ngingakwazi yini ukuziba umlingani wami odlala ngothando nabanye?
Kuyavunywa, lokhu kungase kungakhululeki futhi kungase kuholele ekungabazeni okukhulu kobudlelwane. Uma ukudlala ngothando kozakwenu kukwenza ukhathazeke, ukungabaza kwakho ngokuziphatha kwabo kuyaqondakala. Kodwa ukukhulumisana kuyisihluthulelo futhi kuhle kakhulu ukuxoxa ngakho kunokuba uhlale ungabaza ukwethembeka kwabo. Kuzokusiza ukuthi ungene ekhasini elifanayo.
Nokho, khumbula ukuthi kunokudlala ngothando okunempilo, bese kuba nokudlala ngothando okukungcolisa ikhanda. Ukudlala ngothando okubangela ukungabaza nokukhathazeka okuphindaphindiwe kobudlelwane akukufanele.
Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
8. Nginomkhuba wokucabanga ngokweqile. Ingabe izophazamisa ubudlelwano bami?
Yebo. Iningi ukungabaza ubuhlobo ngokuvamile umphumela ukucabanga kakhulu futhi ungakhulumi ngokwanele. Sungula imigudu yokuxhumana okuvulekile, nokungagwegwesi kusenesikhathi ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ukungabaza noma izinsolo zingangena noma nini kodwa okungenani ungathola ukucaciseleka uma unenkululeko yokuxhumana.
Ukucabanga ngokweqile ebudlelwaneni kungaholela ekubeni nokungabaza ngezindaba okungenzeka zingekho. Ngakho-ke, beka phansi umthwalo wakho wokucabanga, zama futhi uphumule, futhi uma izinto ziba namandla kakhulu, cabangela ukwelulekwa. Zikhumbuze ukuthi usebudlelwaneni obujabulisayo nobunempilo nokuthi unomlingani omangalisayo.
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Imitha yokungabaza: 2/10
9. Ngike ngakhashelwa ngaphambili. Lokhu kungenza ngilingabaze isoka lami ngaphandle kwesizathu
Kungase kube nzima ukukwenza dlula ukungazethembi ngemva kwesiqephu sokukopela futhi ukungabaza kungakapakela nasebudlelwaneni obusha. Kodwa uma ufuna ubuhlobo obunempilo, uzodinga ukulungisa ukwesaba kwakho. Umlingani wakho omusha ungumuntu omusha, mnikeze leyo nhlonipho. Kujwayelekile ukuthi ube nokungabaza ngobudlelwano obusha, kodwa uma uqhubeka nokuphusha imithwalo yemizwa eyedlule ebuhlotsheni bakho obusha, awusoze wakwazi ukuqhubeka.
Ungavumeli imicabango engemihle ngobudlelwano bakho obudlule imoshe ubudlelwano bakho bamanje, ikakhulukazi uma unomuntu onothando futhi onakekelayo.
Imitha yokungabaza: 5/10
10. Ingabe mina nomlingani wami sinemigomo efanayo?
Umbhangqwana kufanele wabelane ngemigomo emikhulu ebuhlotsheni. Kungenjalo, kuba nzima ukuhamba ndawonye ebuhleni nasebubini bempilo. Ungase ube nemibono ehlukene kodwa uma izindinganiso zakho eziyinhloko zihluke kakhulu, khona-ke impumelelo yalobo budlelwano inzima.
Imigomo yakho yempilo yomuntu ngamunye ibalulekile, ungalokothi ukukhohlwe lokho. Ukuba nokungabaza mayelana nobudlelwano kanye nokuthi niyabelana ngezinjongo ezifanayo noma cha kungaba yinkinga, kodwa futhi, akuyona into ukuxhumana okucacile okungakwazi ukuyixazulula.
Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
11. Ungakwazi yini ukweseka umlingani wakho ebunzimeni nasebubini?
Uthando alusho nje ukwabelana ngezinjabulo nokuhleka. Kusho futhi ukwabelana ngemithwalo kanye nezibopho. Zibuze ukuthi uzimisele yini ukubona umlingani wakho ezikhathini ezinzima futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. Ukuze kube nobuhlobo obuqinile, kubalulekile ukuma ndawonye phakathi kokuhle nokubi.
Imitha yokungabaza: 5/10
12. Ingabe mina nomlingani wami sinezindlela ezifanayo zokusebenzisa imali?
Uthando lungaba yimpumputhe kodwa umshado ungavula amehlo akho ukuze ubone iqiniso. Enye yokungabaza okukhulu kobudlelwane obungabangela ubudlelwano obuningi obuqinile buhluleke isimo sengqondo esihlukile kwezezimali. Uma unokungabaza mayelana nendlela uphathina wakho asebenzisa ngayo imali noma uma wena nophathina wakho ninezimo zengqondo ezihluke kakhulu ekongeni, emalimboleko, njll, kungasho inkinga.
Uma kungazelelwe unokungabaza mayelana nobudlelwano phezu ukucindezeleka ngokwezimali, kuthathe njengophawu udinga ukuba nengxoxo futhi mhlawumbe futhi nihlele izimali zenu ngokuhlanganyela.
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Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
13. Ingabe umlingani wami uyangemukela ngendlela engiyiyo?
Abekho abantu ababili abafanayo kodwa umbuzo uthi, uhluke kangakanani kumlingani wakho? Futhi ingabe umehluko wamukelekile komunye nomunye wenu? Ukwamukelana, naphezu kokwehluka, kuyisihluthulelo sokuzulazula ezihlahleni ezibhekene nabo bonke ubuhlobo. Kunzima ukuhlala nomuntu olindele ukuthi ushintshe. Ukuhlala uzibuza ukuthi bayakuthanda yini kuyindlela yokunamathisela okukhathazayo futhi kungaholela ekucekeleni phansi ubudlelwano bakho.
Abaphikisanayo bangakwazi ukuheha futhi bayaheha, kodwa uma umbhangqwana ungavumelani nezimo zomunye nomunye, kungaholela ekungabazeni okunamandla nokukhathazeka ngobudlelwane.
Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
14. Nisakhangana na?
Ebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside, imibhangqwana iyajwayelana. Uthando nothando lungahlala kodwa ukukhangwa kungashabalala okuholela ekutheni kube khona izindaba. Ubudlelwano benu buyohlala isikhathi esingakanani kuzoncika kakhulu ekutheni nobabili nitshala malini ekugcineni inhlansi iphila.
Kunokuba ucabange ngokweqile ngalokhu futhi ukhathazeke ngokuntula ukukhanga, dlulisela amandla akho ekuvuseni kabusha inhlansi.
Imitha yokungabaza: 6/10
15. Ingabe abangani besoka lakho besifazane bakwenza ungakhululeki?
Qaphela indlela ozizwa ngayo uma isoka lakho lizungezwe abanye abantu besifazane. Abafana banayo abangani besifazane abaseduze. Ukhululeke kangakanani ngalokho? Uma njalo uzithola unemizwa yokungabaza isoka lakho lapho enkampanini yabesifazane, khona-ke udinga sibukisise ubuhlobo bakho futhi gauge ukuthi kuwufanele yini ukuya phambili nazo zonke ukwesaba ukubhukuda ekhanda lakho.
Imitha yokungabaza: 6/10
16. Niphikisana kanjani?
Izingxabano ziyingxenye nengxenye yabo bonke ubuhlobo. Kulesi simo, wena nomlingani wakho kufanele nihlose ukuba nezitayela ezahlukene zokuxabana. Uma nobabili nikholelwa emidlalweni yokuklabalasa, ubudlelwano buyoshabalala. Kungcono uma umuntu oyedwa ehlala epholile ngenkathi omunye eyeka umusi. Yazini izitayela zokuxabana ukuze nazi ukuthi yini okufanele niyilindele uma ningavumelani.
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Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
17. Iyini i-deal breaker yakho?
Lona ngomunye wemibuzo ebaluleke kakhulu okufanele uzibuze yona ukuze uthole ukucaciseleka. Bonke ubudlelwano bunemingcele ozibekele yona kanye nomlingani wakho okuthi, uma omunye wenu eqa, kuzwakale njengokufa kwesibopho senu. Yisiphi leso sikhathi - ukungathembeki, ukuqamba amanga, izinkinga zezimali? Lawa maphuzu avame ukudala ukungabaza okukhulu ebudlelwaneni.
Amadili anempilo ebudlelwaneni, kanjalo nokuba nokungabaza kobudlelwane. Ukungabaza kusho ukuthi uyabungabaza ubudlelwano bakho nokuthi buyakhula yini ngaphakathi kwemingcele oyibekile. Ungakukhohlwa lokho.
Imitha yokungabaza: 8/10
18. Yimiphi imizwa umlingani wakho ayivusa ngaphakathi kuwe?
Lapho uthandana nomuntu, kufanele kube umthombo wamandla. Ukucabanga ngomuntu kufanele kuvuse imizwa eyakhayo njengenjabulo, injabulo, induduzo, njalonjalo. Uma uzizwa ungaqinisekile futhi uma umcabango womlingani wakho uletha noma yini engemihle njengokwesaba, ukukhathazeka, noma intukuthelo, sekuyisikhathi sokuhlehla. Imizwa ye-organic ayikwazi futhi akufanele ishaywe indiva.
Imitha yokungabaza: 8/10
19. Ingabe uletha izinto ezilinganayo etafuleni?
Obunye ubuhlobo obusemthethweni bungabaza ukuthi umuntu ufukamela ukuthi ubani oletha lokho ebudlelwaneni. Awukho umshado noma ubambiswano okufanele lube uhlangothi olulodwa. Lokhu akusho ukuthi uya ebuhlotsheni bokuhweba lapho yonke into isikwa futhi yomile kodwa kufanele kube nokuthintana okuhambisanayo. Ubudlelwano obunohlangothi olulodwa bukwenza uzizwe ufushane, ngaleyo ndlela kubangele ukungabaza.
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Imitha yokungabaza: 7/10
20. Ingabe unamanani afanayo?
Izithakazelo zakho, izinto ozilibazisayo, kanye nezinkanuko zakho zingaphikiswana ngokujulile kodwa ingabe nabelana ngazo izindinganiso zomndeni eziwumgogodla? Kungaba ngezombangazwe noma ezingokomoya noma ezenkolo, kufanele kube nokuxhumana okunibophayo nobabili ngaphandle kwalokho ubudlelwano ngeke bube nekusasa eliqhakazile kakhulu. Thola impendulo yalo mbuzo ngaphambi kokuthatha isinyathelo esilandelayo.
Imitha yokungabaza: 8/10
21. Ingabe nikhuluma ulimi olufanayo lothando?
Kukangaki nithi “ngiyakuthanda” komunye nomunye? Ningase nibe nezindlela ezihlukene zokubonisa uthando kodwa niyezwana? Ngaphambi kokuthi wabelane okufanayo ulimi lothando, kubalulekile ukuba nayo. Ubudlelwano obunempilo yilabo lapho wabelana ngezinjongo zobudlelwano ezifanayo noma ngabe izindlela ozithathayo ukuze ufinyelele kubo zihlukile.
Uma unokungabaza ngobudlelwano, phinda uhlole izilimi zakho zothando futhi ubone ukuthi yiziphi izikhala. Ulimi lwenu lothando lungase lungafani, kodwa qiniseka ukuthi niyazi ukuthi nonke nixhumana kanjani ngokusondelana.
Imitha yokungabaza: 8/10
Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- Ukuba sebudlelwaneni besikhathi eside akusho ukuthi awukwazi ukungabaza
- Imibhangqwana ivame ukuhlukana ngisho noma sekunesikhashana bendawonye ngenxa yokushintsha kobuntu
- Ukwazi umehluko phakathi kokucabanga ngokweqile kanye neqembu langempela kubalulekile
- Zama ukuxazulula izinto nomlingani wakho ngaphambi kokuthi ugxumele kunoma yisiphi isiphetho
Kwesinye isikhathi ukungabaza ngobudlelwano akuyona into embi. Kukwenza uqaphele amafulegi abomvu futhi akukuvumeli ukuba uthathe ubuhlobo bakho kalula. Khona-ke ungase ulingeke ukuba uthathe izinyathelo zokuwuqinisa. Kodwa ngokuzazi kuphela lapho ungabona khona ukuthi lokho kungabaza kungukusebenza komqondo ocabangela kakhulu noma uma kukhona isisekelo kukho. Izimpendulo, njengenjwayelo, zingaphakathi kuwe.
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Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Ukubhekana nokungabaza ebudlelwaneni kuyinto evamile kakhulu. Anikwazi ukuba nobudlelwano besikhathi eside ngaphandle kokuxabana, izingxabano, nokuhlukana kwemibono okungase kubangele ukungabaza.
Ukukhathazeka kungenye yezimbangela ezinkulu zokungabaza kobudlelwane okuphindaphindiwe. Uma ungenalo ukholo kuwe noma kumlingani wakho, kubangela ukukhathazeka mayelana nempumelelo yayo ngakho, ngokwemvelo, kuholela ekungabazeni okwengeziwe.
Okokuqala, qonda futhi ubhale ukuthi kungani ubuza yonke into ebudlelwaneni. Zibuze imibuzo enzima futhi ubone ukuthi ukwesaba kwakho kuyiqiniso kangakanani. Ebudlelwaneni obuvulekile, obuqotho kufanele ube nenkululeko yokuxoxa ngisho nokungabaza kwakho okujulile. Futhi uma ungenayo leyo nkululeko, yisikhathi sokungabaza ubuhlobo.
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