Njengobuntu bomuntu ngamunye, sonke sifuna futhi sifune izinto ezifanele izindlela zethu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi sivuleleke kangakanani ekushintsheni, sivame ukuthambekela ezintweni ezihambisana nalokho esikuthandayo nokunethezeka kwethu. Kodwa ebudlelwaneni, lokho kungadala izinkinga njengoba umuntu engajwayele ukuyekethisa. Yilapho izingxabano zobudlelwano ziqala ukubamba.
Ikakhulukazi ngenxa yokuthi ubudlelwano budinga ukuthi silungise umbono wethu futhi sifake okuthandwa ngomunye umuntu kanye nokunethezeka, ngezinye izikhathi siyenqaba ukwamukela noma siqale ukwenza ubugovu ebudlelwaneni. Ukukhaphela, ukungahlangabezani nalokho omunye akulindele noma amazwi alimazayo nakho kungezinye izizathu ezingadala izingxabano ezinobuthi.
Kujwayelekile ukuthi nilwe ebudlelwaneni njalo, empeleni ukulwa kungaba kuhle nasebudlelwaneni benu. Kodwa uma kufika lapho omunye ejikijela omunye ngevazi, yilapho izingxabano zenu zobudlelwano ziqala ukuba yingozi. Ukulwa ngenhlonipho kulungile kodwa uma impi iphenduka ibe yimbi noma uma uqala ukukhanda ngamatshe umlingani wakho khona-ke i-aftertaste yalezi zimpi iyababa ngempela.
Kodwa kunezimpikiswano ezingaba yingozi ngempela ekuphileni kobudlelwane bakho kanye nempilo yakho engokwengqondo. Ngosizo lwe Shazia Saleem (Ongoti kwiPsychology), onguchwepheshe ngokwehlukana nokwelulekwa ngokwedivosi, ake sibhekisise kabanzi izibonelo zezingxabano zobudlelwano nokuthi zenzeka kanjani.
Yini Edala Izingxabano Ebudlelwaneni?
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Izingxabano zobudlelwano zingaqala ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene. Ngokwesibonelo, imibhangqwana eqale a ubudlelwano obusha futhi basajwayelana bangase bazithole belwa nezingxabano eziningi ezintsha zobudlelwano. Kusukela ezingxabanweni ezijulile ezingazange zixazululwe esikhathini esidlule noma izicefe nje eziqala ukuthukuthela, izingxabano ezinobuthi ezinobuthi zingaqala noma kuphi.
Ngezinye izikhathi zivutha njengomlilo wequbula oshubile. Into eyodwa iholela kwenye futhi zonke izinkinga ezicindezelwe noma izikhalo ziqala ukuziveza ngendlela engakaze ibonwe ngaphambili. Lokhu kungaholela ochungechungeni olude lwezingxoxo ezishisayo futhi kusole imidlalo ezoniqeda amandla nobabili. Nansi iqoqo lokuthi yini edala izingxabano ebudlelwaneni:
- Ukungaboni ngaso linye ezindabeni ezinkulu nezincane, kusukela kuyiphi ifilimu okufanele uyibukele kuya ekubeni nomntwana esikhathini esizayo
- Ukungaqondi izifiso nezidingo zomunye umuntu
- Ukungaboni ngaso linye kanye nokungakwamukeli okufanayo kungaholela ekulweni ngokungafanele ebudlelwaneni
- Ukuxhumana okungacacile okubangela ukungezwani okujulile
- Imizwa yokunganakwa eholela ekubeni nomuzwa wokulahlwa
- Ukuba nokulindela okukhulu komunye nomunye nokungakwazi ukuphila ngokuvumelana nakho
- Ukufunda kabi izenzo nemizwa yomunye nomunye
- Icindezelwe imizwa yomona okuholela ekungabekezelelani
- Ukucasuka okuvela emikhubeni nasekuziphatheni komuntu
- Ukuntula ukwazisa ngemizamo yomunye nomunye
Ngezinye izikhathi, ngisho nosuku olunzima emsebenzini wakho noma ukulwa nomzali ngocingo kungase kuguqule kube ingxabano nomlingani wakho. Lapho umuntu ecindezelekile, kulula ukususa intukuthelo yakhe ezintweni ezingahlobene. Lokhu kuqalisa ukusabela kweketango.
Ngesinye isikhathi, uJenna wayenesonto elinzima ngenxa yokungavumelani okuthile nabangane bakhe basekolishi. Lapho umlingani wakhe ezama ukumbuza ngakho, wahluleka ukuchaza ngokucacile futhi waqala ukumpongoloza ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ekugcineni, naye wacasuka. UJenna uthe, “Siqale ukukhuluma ngezinkinga ebesibhekene nazo inyanga yonke, kubalulekile ukuthi sibhekane nezinkinga ebezikukhathaza noma enibhekene nazo njengezithandani ukuze nigweme ukuchitheka budedengu yonke indawo.
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Ingabe Kujwayelekile Ukuba Nezingxabano Ebudlelwaneni?
Ukulwa nomlingani wakho ingakushiya uzibuza ukuthi kujwayelekile yini ukuxabana ebudlelwaneni? Yebo, kuyinto evamile ukuthi yonke imibhangqwana ihlangabezane nayo ezindaweni ezihlukahlukene ebudlelwaneni babo. Eqinisweni, ubuhlobo obungenazingxabano noma ukulwa bungaba imbangela yokukhathazeka. Kodwa ukuxabana njalo ebudlelwaneni nakho kungaba yinkinga kakhulu.
Shazia uthi, “Kuyinto evamile ukuba nezingxabano kunoma ibuphi ubuhlobo. Umuntu ngamunye uhlukile ngezindlela zakhe ngezimiso zakhe zenani, izinkolelo kanye nombono wakhe. Ukwehluka kwemibono kungokwemvelo. Kuyoba khona ukungezwani ebuhlotsheni kodwa kungaxazululwa ngokucophelela.”
Izingxabano zobudlelwano zivela lapho umuntu engakwazi ukuhlanganisa imibono yangaphandle noma izenzo kulokho abakulindele kanye nezimfuneko zabo. Kodwa lokhu kungahambisani akufanele kubangele i-alamu enkulu. Njengoba kufanele sibe nezici zomuntu ngamunye, lokhu kungqubuzana okuyisisekelo kuzoqhubeka nokuba khona.
Uma nje zingaphindaphindi futhi zingabangeli ukukhathazeka okujulile, ukungabekezelelani okukhulu nezinye izinkinga, lezi zingaxazululwa kalula. Abanye Ukuhlola baphakamise ukuthi u-44% wezithandani ezishadile zithi ukuxabana nokulwa kuyabasiza ukuthi bagcine ubudlelwano babo buqinile futhi bunempilo. Futhi maningi amathuba okuthi baqhubeke behlala ndawonye ngoba bazijwayeza ukukhulumisana kangcono.
Ucwaningo futhi iphakamisa ukuthi ukungqubuzana nokuqophisana uma kwenziwa ngendlela ephusile kungasiza ekusimamiseni ubudlelwano bothando. Ngakho-ke kuyacaca ukuthi ubudlelwano obungenazingxabano noma ukulwa ngeke bube khona. Kodwa-ke, ukulwa ngaso sonke isikhathi kanye nokuphikisana njalo ebudlelwaneni kuyakhathaza kancane, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukulungisa.
Ukusingatha izingxabano ebuhlotsheni kufanele umuntu azijwayeze uthando, ukuzimisela ukwabelana ngokukukhathazayo kanye nekhono elihle lokulalela ukuze aqede ukujikijelana ngamazwi alimazayo ngokungenanjongo. Ungakhathazeki, ngoba izingxabano ebudlelwaneni zingokwemvelo inqobo nje uma niqabulana futhi nilungisane kamuva.
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Izimpikiswano Eziyi-11 Zobudlelwano Ezisho Ukubhujiswa Kwebhondi Yakho
Izingxabano zingaba nezimbangela eziningi, izimbangela ongase ungakwazi nokuzibona noma uziqonde ekuqaleni. Ngenxa yendlela yethu yokuphila ehlukene kanye nesikulindele, ukungqubuzana okuvamile kungokwemvelo, futhi ngokwezinga elithile kuyaqondakala. Izingxabano zobudlelwano zizoba khona ingunaphakade. Kodwa indlela abalingani ababili abakhetha ngayo ukuphendula noma ukubhekana nabo iyona enquma ukuthi hlobo luni lwengoma abangaholela umbhangqwana kulo.
Kunezinkinga ezimbalwa ezivamile eziyingxabano ezingangena ebudlelwaneni bakho ngezikhathi ezithile. Bese kuba nezindaba ezingaba yingozi ebunyeni benu. Ezokugcina, ngokwemvelo, ziyi amafulegi abomvu ukugwema. Ukukusiza ukuthi wenze lokho, nazi izimpikiswano ezinjalo zobudlelwano eziyi-11 ezingasho ukubhubha kwebhondi yakho:
1. Imali ingaholela ezingxabanweni ebudlelwaneni
Imali inquma kakhulu imisebenzi yomuntu futhi iqondise indlela yokuziphilisa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi usothandweni lapho wabelana khona ngemali yakho noma cha, ukungaboni ngaso linye mayelana nokuphuma kwemali kungase kuphakame.
UShazia uyasitshela, “Imali noma imali iyisici esiyinhloko sokuphila kwanoma imuphi umuntu. Ukuncane kakhulu noma ukweqisa kuyo kungaba kubi. Uma umkhaya ungenakukwazi ukuphilisa, kuyohlale kunezingxabano ezingenakugwenywa mayelana nemali nokuhlelwa kwezimali. Ngisho nokuba nemali eningi kungaholela ezinkingeni nasezingxabanweni zobuhlobo ezinobuthi ezingase zithathe inguquko embi.”
Umuntu oyedwa akumele aphathe zonke izindaba zemali futhi kufanele kuthathwe izinqumo ngokuhlanganyela mayelana nezindleko ezinkulu. Izidingo zomuntu ngamunye nazo kufanele zicatshangelwe ukuze bobabili abalingani bakwazi ukuchitha ngokulinganayo ezidingweni zabo nasezimfuno zabo. Uma umuntu oyedwa engalungile ngemali, omunye kufanele aqinisekise ukuthi uqapha futhi ubheka izimali zakhe futhi ukuhlukanisa izimali ngokunengqondo. Kugcine kuseduze kodwa ugcine lokho kubhalansi.
2. “Angibathandi abangane bakho!” kuyimbangela yezinkinga nokulwa ngokungafanele ebudlelwaneni
Uma usothandweni, ungase ungabelani ngombuthano ofanayo wabangane. Sixhuma futhi sithintane nezinhlobo ezahlukene zabantu. Akudingekile ukunyakazisa abangane bomlingani wakho futhi empeleni kuhle ukuba nesethi yakho yabangane ozwana nabo esikhundleni sokuhlala ezindaweni zomunye nomunye ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kodwa lokhu kune-con futhi. Izingxabano ebudlelwaneni zingavela lapho omunye umlingani engavumelani nabangane bomunye.
Ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi unabo futhi ubamema endaweni yakho kungase kumthukuthelise nakakhulu umlingani wakho. Kungase kubonakale kungalungile ekuqaleni futhi kushiye ngisho nomlingani enomuzwa wokuthi omunye ukhona ubugovu ebudlelwaneni. Omunye wozakwethu kungase kudingeke ayekethise kuleli cala. Kungcono ukuba nengxoxo evulekile futhi uyixazulule kunokuba ulwe ngaso sonke isikhathi.
3. Ukungaboni ngaso linye mayelana nesifiso sezingane kungabangela ukuxabana njalo ebudlelwaneni
Lesi isinqumo esikhulu esishintsha impilo futhi esinye sezibonelo ezinkulu zokuphikisana ngobudlelwano. Uma kungaxoxiswanga kahle, kungaholela ekuxabaneni njalo ebudlelwaneni kanye namagqubu amaningi.
Ingane yengeza inqwaba yezibopho empilweni yakho futhi izosebenza kuphela lapho bobabili abalingani betshalwe ngokulinganayo. Ukwenza isinqumo ngamawala mayelana nokufanayo kuzoholela ezingxabano ezengeziwe. Ukulungela kukaphathina ngamunye ukuba nezingane kudingeka kuhlolwe ngaphambi kokwenza lesi sifiso. Ngisho noma bobabili bengakakulungeli ngokulinganayo, kubalulekile ukwamukela lokho kanye nezifiso zomunye umuntu.
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4. Abazali nomndeni kungaba isihloko esinzima esingasingathwa
Njengabangane nje, umlingani wakho akaphoqelekile ukuthi athande yonke into ngomndeni wakho. Lokhu kungaholela ezingxabanweni eziningi zokuziphatha kanye nezimpikiswano zobudlelwano futhi. Umlingani wakho angase akugweme ukuhlangana naye okungase kwenze izinto zibe nzima nakuwe.
U-Shazia uthi: “Lapho kuhileleke abantu ababili, ukuhloniphana kwemikhaya yomunye kuvele kunamathele kulobo buhlobo.” Kodwa kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi njengoba nje abantu ababili bengase bangazwani ngaso sonke isikhathi, imikhaya emibili ingase ingahlangani.
Abanye abantu abazwani kodwa ungakhuthaza umlingani wakho ukuthi alondoloze inhlonipho nokukhathazeka okufanelekile. Ekugcineni bayobona ukuthi ubani obaluleke ngempela kuwe futhi balungise ukuziphatha kwabo ngokufanele. Bangase bakwazise ngisho neyakho izindinganiso zomndeni eziwumgogodla.
5. Amazwi angenampilo angabangela izingxabano ezinobuthi
Inani elithile lokugxeka okwakhayo liyadingeka ukunikeza umlingani wakho ukuphusha okuhle kodwa umuntu kufanele aqaphele ukuthi angeqi imingcele yakhe kule nqubo. Ukusho kakhulu noma ukuba nokhahlo ngokungadingekile kungaba nomthelela omubi ekuzibukeni nasekubalulekeni komlingani wakho. Ukuphawula ngendelelo ngezenzo zabo, umzimba noma imikhuba kungalimaza imizwa yabo ngokujulile.
Wonke umuntu unezitayela ezahlukene zokuxabana ebudlelwaneni kanti abanye baqala ukulwa ngokudelela noma ukusho izinto ezilimazayo komunye. Lokhu kungaholela omunye umuntu ukuba abe nesimo sengqondo sokuzivikela. Bangase baqale ukukuhlasela kabi babuyele nasemdlalweni. Qaphela amazwi akho futhi uxolise uma kunesidingo ukuze ugweme ukulwa ngaso sonke isikhathi.
6. Ukungafanelani ngokocansi kungaba yiphuzu elibuhlungu phakathi kwabashadile
Iswela ukuhambisana ngokocansi kungaholela ekuhlangenwe nakho okungakhululekile okusondelene kakhulu. Ngokungazidluliseli izidingo zakho kanye nokungaphatheki kahle kwakho, ungase uyeke ukujabulela ucansi futhi mhlawumbe ukugweme ngokuphelele. Lokhu kungashiya umlingani wakho edidekile futhi ethukuthele. Bangase baqale ukuxabana nawe, bakushaye ngamatshe noma bakuthule.
U-Shazia uphakamisa ukuthi, “Ukungafanelani ngokocansi kuyinkinga enkulu emphakathini. Uma bobabili bengakhululekile ukukhuluma ngezinto abazithandayo nabangazithandi embhedeni, bahlale bezama ukujabulisana futhi bayakhungatheka lapho bengaphumeleli. Kuhlale kuhle ukuxoxisana ngalokho umuntu akuthandayo. Ukukhuluma ngalezi zinto kufanele kube umkhuba ofanayo, ojwayelekile futhi onempilo.” Gwema lezi zingxabano zobudlelwano ngokwabelana ngalokho okuthandayo nongakuthandi futhi ufike endaweni emaphakathi enisebenzela nobabili.
7. Ukungahambisani kwesimilo kungaholela ekuxabaneni kusenesikhathi ebudlelwaneni
Njengobuntu bethu, ukuziphatha kwethu nakho kungahluka ngamazinga ahlukahlukene. Abantu abaningi bakwazisa kakhulu ukuziphatha kwabo. Uma lezi zimiso zingahambelani, kungaholela ekufuthekeni nasekuxabaneni kusenesikhathi ebudlelwaneni. Lokhu kungenye yezingxabano ezinkulu ezintsha ezisanda kuqala ukuthandana.
Ezinsukwini ezimbalwa zokuqala, kungenzeka ukuthi abazange baqonde izindinganiso eziyinhloko zomuntu. Kodwa njengoba sebekwazi ukubhekisisa, kungenzeka ukuthi abakuthandi abakutholayo. UGenevieve, udokotela ohlinzayo wezinzwa, wayesethandane noRicardo isikhashana manje. Wayengumuntu odla inyama, kodwa ekuqaleni, akazange amtshele uRicardo ukuthi uzizwa eqine kangakanani ngakho.
Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi lapho bobabili beqala ukuphola ngokukhethekile, akakwazanga ukwamukela ukudla ayekukhetha futhi wayelokhu egxeka lokho akuthandayo. Lokhu kwaholela ezingxabanweni ezihlala njalo ekhaya phakathi kwabo nasezindaweni zokudlela. Ekugcineni, wazitshela ukuthi kufanele ajwayele. Ukugcina umqondo ovulekile nokwamukela umlingani wakho njengoba enjalo kuwukhiye wokungabi nobugovu ebudlelwaneni.
8. Izinhlelo zesikhathi esizayo ezihlukene zingahlukanisa imibhangqwana
Abanye abantu bathatha ikusasa labo nemisebenzi njengento ebaluleke kakhulu futhi bakwenze konke kumephu. Abanye bathanda nje ukunyathela kancane futhi babone ukuthi igagasi libayisa kuphi. Ukufanekisa ikusasa elihlukene kanye nokulindela okwehlukene ezimpilweni zenu kungaba yinkinga eholela ekutheni nihlale nixabana ebudlelwaneni.
Ungase ufune ukuhlala kwamanye amadolobha noma uzame izinto ezintsha umlingani wakho angase angazifuni. Uma ikusasa lakho lingahambelani ngendlela obuyilindele, lokho kungadala isiphithiphithi nokunganeliseki ebudlelwaneni bakho. Ungase uqale ukungabaza ukuthi ubudlelwano benu buphokophelephi. Lapho nixoxa ngale mibuzo nezimo zokuphila, zama ukunamathela emithethweni yokulwa ngenhlonipho. Hlala uzolile futhi uvulekele ukwenza ukuzidela okumbalwa.
9. Ukungasichithi isikhathi esanele ndawonye kunganehlukanisa
Ukuba matasa kakhulu noma ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi nihlukene kungenza umlingani wakho azizwe enganakiwe futhi kubangele ukulwa ngokungafanele ebudlelwaneni ngenxa yezindaba ezingasho lutho. Kodwa amazwi nentukuthelo kuyoba ngokuphindwe kashumi. Umlingani wakho angase acindezele le mizwa futhi ayiveze ngezimpikiswano ezincane nezingenasidingo ngezinto ezingasho lutho.
Lesi esinye sezizathu eziyinhloko zokungezwani nokuxabana kusenesikhathi ebudlelwaneni. Ongakwenza nje ukubona lapho bezizwa ngale ndlela futhi ubonise ukuthi uzama ukusebenzisa imali eningi isikhathi sekhwalithi nomunye.
10. Imikhuba ekhathazayo ingase ibe isizathu sokulwa ngaso sonke isikhathi
Umlingani wakho angase abe nemikhuba ethile oyithola icasula kakhulu. Izinto ezinjengokuhona, ukuphuza, ukungabi nangqondo noma ukukhetha kakhulu ngezinto ezincane kungase kuqale ukukukhathaza ngokuhamba kwesikhathi. Eminye yale mikhuba kungase kube nzima ukuyiziba kuneminye. Kodwa esikhundleni sokugxumela isibhamu futhi ubhekane nabo ngolaka, batshele ngokunengqondo ukuthi yini ebikukhathaza futhi kungani.
Njengoba uShazia esho, “Imizwa ecindezelwe ngokuqinisekile iholela ezingxabanweni. Imizwa yethu iyasilawula futhi lolu hlobo lokulawula lungaholela ekuqhumeni njalo. Ubuhlobo buthatha umsebenzi omningi kunalokho obucabangayo. Ngeke kusebenze ngokuzenzakalelayo, ikakhulukazi uma ufuna ukumisa izingxabano zobuhlobo obunobuthi. Yekani ukunganaki niqale ukusebenzela ukwenza izinto zibe lula komunye nomunye.”
Cishe abayithandi imikhuba yakho eminingi futhi bafuna ngesineke isikhathi esihle sokubhekana nawe nabo. Ngakho-ke sebenzela owakho ukushiyeka futhi wabelane nabo ngokunengqondo ngalokho okulindele nabo.
11. Ukulahleka kwenhlansi kungaba yimbangela yezingxabano zobudlelwane
Izikhathi eziningi, ngenxa yezinhlelo ezimatasa, ukuntula ukusondelana nokuntuleka kwengxoxo, ungase uphawule intelezi ebuhlotsheni bakho ishelela kancane. Into enjalo ingokwemvelo futhi ingavuselelwa ngokwenza imisebenzi ethakazelisayo ndawonye kanye nokwamukela okwengeziwe.
Kwesinye isikhathi, ukukhungatheka okuvela kuleli banga kungaholela ezingxabano eziningi ezingadingekile zobudlelwano. Ningase nisolane ngisho nangezenzakalo ezingasho lutho. Kodwa empeleni kulula ukugwema ukuwela kulolu gibe. Cabanga ngalokho ongakwenza ngakho kunalokho.
Uzigwema Kanjani Izingxabano Ebudlelwaneni?
Uma kubhekwa amandla alimazayo okuxabana njalo nokulwa, kungokwemvelo ukuzibuza ukuthi uzigwema kanjani izingxabano ebudlelwaneni. Ungakwazi ukushintsha izimpikiswano zibe izingxoxo eziwusizo ngokuthatha isinyathelo sokuhlehla ukuze uhlole isimo. Ingabe umlingani wakho empeleni ungumsuka wenkinga? Ezimweni eziningi, lokho akulona iqiniso. Yeka ukubuka umlingani wakho njengenkinga ephelele. Faka phakathi izici zesimo kanye nokusabalalisa ingxabano nomngane wakho womshado.
Ukuze uphathe izingxabano kahle ebuhlotsheni, qaphela indlela owethula ngayo izimpikiswano zakho futhi ufunde okulungile amasu okuxazulula izingxabano. Ukuklabalasa noma ukusebenzisa izwi lokusola kungenza umlingani wakho azizwe ehlaselwa futhi ekhoneni. Gcina ithoni yakho kanye ne-tenor ihlola ukuze ugweme ukwenza ingxoxo ingajabulisi futhi ilimaze.
Uma unosuku olunzima noluyinselelo, qaphela futhi uqinisekise ukuthi awukususi ukukhungatheka osukwini lwakho uye ezenzweni zomlingani wakho. Lokhu kungaboni kahle kungadida umlingani wakho futhi kuholele kwezinye izingxabano zobudlelwano. Cabanga ngezinkinga zakho ngabanye futhi uhlaziye ukuthi yiziphi ozisho ebudlelwaneni bakho noma uziphonse kumlingani wakho ukuze ukwazi ukususa ingxabano nowakwakho.
Futhi lapho umlingani wakho ezwakalisa okumkhathazayo, vulekele ukulalela nokwamukela ukucabanga kwakhe. Ngisho nalapho bekugxeka kanye nezenzo zakho, lalela ngenhlonipho futhi uzichaze ngomoya ophansi. Okubaluleke kakhulu, zimisele ukugoba kancane kwezinye izimo futhi uzishintshe nawe. Uma ubulokhu udonsa kanzima ukusingatha izingxabano ebudlelwaneni, ungacabangela ukwelulekwa kwabashadikazi ukuze uthole ukuthi inkinga ilele kuphi. Abeluleki bethu abaku-inthanethi bangama- chofoza kude.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
Uma nihlale nixabana ebudlelwaneni futhi ningakwazi ukuxazulula ingxabano futhi ngezinye izikhathi izingxabano ziphendukela ngamazwi nokuhlukumeza ngokomzimba, lokho kuwukuxabana okungenampilo ebudlelwaneni.
Uma abashadile bexabana kakhulu kusho ukuthi abekho ekhasini elilodwa, abakwazi ukuxazulula izinkinga futhi kuba negebe elikhulu lokukhulumisana. Lokhu kuntuleka kokuxhumana kunikeza umfutho kulezi zimpikiswano.
Ungahlela izivivinyo zokuxhumana futhi uqinisekise ukuthi wenza umzamo ukuxhumana ngokunenzuzo. Khipha amagajethi akho futhi nizinike isikhathi sokuchitha ninobabili, lokho kuzobhekana nezinkinga eziningi zokuxhumana futhi nisuse ngokushesha ingxabano noshade naye.
Uma umuntu oyedwa eba namandla engxabanweni futhi ecindezela umlingani wakhe ngemibono yakhe kuwukulwa ngokungafanele. Uma ukhona ukuthandana nommeli ungase ungene ekulweni ngokungafanele ngoba bayohlale bekwazi ukuxabana kangcono kunawe. Ukulwa okungenabulungiswa ebudlelwaneni kuphinde kube lapho beveza izindaba ezingenasisekelo, izinkulumo ezingenangqondo ukuze zikuphathe kabi, zikukhohlise futhi zinqobe ingxabano.
Ukuxabana cishe kuzokwandisa isikhathi enisichitha ndawonye futhi nakanjani kuyoba singeziwe uma nihlala ndawonye. Ukuxabana kanye ngesonto okungathí sina kakhulu kungabhekwa njengento evamile. Ukuba nempi eyodwa enkulu njalo ezinyangeni ezintathu kuya kweziyisithupha nakho kuyinto evamile. Kodwa ngaphezu kwalokho, kungenzeka ukuthi udinga ukulungisa ezinye izinkinga maduze.
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