Njengoba uqala ukuthandana nomuntu omusha futhi uqala ukuba nemizwa ngaye, inkinga yokuthi ungasho nini ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” okokuqala iqala ukukukhathaza. Ayikho impendulo elungile noma engalungile lapha, awukho umthetho oqinile futhi osheshayo wokunquma ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi esihle sokubeka inhliziyo yakho obala komunye umuntu, alukho uhlaka oluzoqhubeka. Ingabe ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngemva kwezinyanga ezimbili kuyindlela efanele yokwenza lokho? Noma ingabe ukulinda izinyanga eziyisi-6 indawo enhle, ephephile?
Mhlawumbe yingakho lo mbuzo udlulele endaweni yempicabadala engapheli. Ukulungiswa kwe-idée kwalabo abafunda izintambo zothando olusha. Isho ngokushesha futhi uzibeka engcupheni yokuhlukumeza umlingani wakho ngokuphelele. Linda isikhathi eside, futhi ungase uphuthelwe isikhathi sakho futhi ubadumaze, ngisho. Ukwazi ukuthi yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuthi “ngiyakuthanda” kuyisihluthulelo sokuqinisekisa ukuthi amazwi akho anomphumela ofanele.
Ukuze ngikusize uxazulule imfihlakalo yokuthi ungasibeka kanjani isikhathi esifanele sokumemezela imizwa yakho, ngicwaninge izincwadi futhi ngachitha ucwaningo, ngakhuluma nabantu - labo abaye basha ngokuveza uthando lwabo ngesikhathi esingafanele kanye nalabo abaye bafika esicongweni - futhi ngafuna ulwazi kudokotela wengqondo olulekayo uDhriti Bhavsar (M.Sc, Clinical Psychology), ogxile ebudlelwaneni, ukuhlukana, kanye nokwelulekwa kwe-LGBTQ. Ake singene kukho, akunjalo?
usho nini ukuthi "ngiyakuthanda"? Izimpawu Ukuthi Ulungile
Ephendula umbuzo wokuthi kunini lapho kufanele khona ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” nokuthi wazi kanjani ukuthi usukulungele, uDhriti ulandisa ngesibonelo, “Intombazane eyayisemsebenzini wokwelapha nami yaphatheka kabi ngemva kokuba ubuhlobo bayo bube bubi kakhulu lapho itshela isoka layo ukuthi liyayithanda, okokuqala ngqa, phakathi nempi enkulu.”
"Wayecabanga ukuthi ukulwa kungasho ukuthi izinto seziphelile phakathi kwabo futhi wazizwa ephoqelekile ukutshela umfana ukuthi uzizwa kanjani ngaye. Kodwa-ke, isoka lakhe alikubonanga ngaleyo ndlela. Wayecabanga ukuthi uphonse ibhomu le-L ukuze amcindezele ngokomzwelo ukuba ahlale ebudlelwaneni. Lokho kwenza izinto zaba zimbi kakhulu." Uyabona ukuthi amagama amathathu amancane angalimaza kanjani ubudlelwano bothando uma engahlelwanga ngesikhathi esifanele.
Uma ubulokhu uzibuza ukuthi, “Usho nini ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” ebuhlotsheni obusha?”, uzofuna ukugwema isimo esifana nalesi. Manje, lokhu kungase kukushiye ubambana nemibuzo efana nokuthi, "Ingabe izinyanga ezi-3 maduze ukuthi uthi "Ngiyakuthanda"?" noma “Ngingasho ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” ngemva nje kwezinsuku ezimbalwa?”
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Njengoba ngike ngasho ngaphambilini, angeke kube khona umugqa wesikhathi oqondile noma imithetho eqinile nesheshayo yokuthi “ngiyakuthanda” okokuqala ngqa. Noma ngisho nokubikezela ukuthi maduzane kangakanani ukuthi uthi "Ngiyakuthanda". UDhriti uthi, "Angiwusekeli umbono wokuthi udinga ukulinda isikhathi esithile ngaphambi kokusho lawo magama amathathu omlingo. Thembela kukhampasi yakho yangaphakathi, bheka ngaphakathi, futhi uqonde imizwa yakho. Uthando luwumuzwa ofudumele, onethezekile okunzima ukuphuthelwa noma ukunganaki. Kufana nechashazi elibomvu odongeni olumhlophe, lizodonsa ukunaka kwakho kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzama kangakanani ukunganaki, uma uthandana nomuntu.
Ukukusiza ukuthi uqiniseke ngokuphelele ngemizwa yakho, nazi ezinye izimpawu zokuthi usukulungele ukutshela othile ukuthi uyamthanda okokuqala ngqa:
- Uyikhathalela ngempela injabulo nenhlalakahle yomlingani wakho
- Yize kuwubudlelwano obusha, uzwa ukuxhumana okujulile nomlingani wakho
- Uzizwa ukulungele ukuthatha izinyathelo ezilandelayo ebudlelwaneni bakho
- Usudlule esigabeni sokuthatheka futhi uyawabona amaphutha nezinselele zomlingani wakho, kodwa lokho akuthinti imizwa ejulile onayo ngaye.
- Uzizwa uvikelekile uma unabo
- Ufuna ukuba sengozini nabo, ubeke inhliziyo yakho obala ku-SO yakho futhi wabelane ngezinto ongakwazanga ukukhuluma nanoma ubani omunye ngazo.
- Ufuna ukwazi umlingani wakho nawe
- Uyaqiniseka ukuthi uzoba khona kubo ebuhleni nasebubini
- Uzinike isikhathi sokuhlala nemizwa yakho futhi uyaqiniseka ukuthi lokho okuzwayo ngayo kuwuthando lwangempela
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Kunini lapho uthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngokokuqala ngqa
Uzibuza ukuthi uzokusho nini ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” okokuqala? Ukhathazekile ngokuthi kusheshe kangakanani ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”? Noma ukhathazekile ngokuthi ubudlelwano bakho bungase buhlupheke ngenxa yokungasho ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” ngesikhathi esifanele? Nokho, impikiswano yakho ayisekelwe ndawo. Sonke siyazi ukuthi ukusho ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” ngokushesha kungaba nemiphumela emibi ebudlelwaneni bakho. Kusukela “kulungile” kuya “ngiyabonga” kanye nokuthula emsakazweni, izimpendulo zesimemezelo esingalindelekile semizwa yakho zingathinta umphefumulo. Ingasaphathwa eyokuthi ubudlelwano, okungenzeka ukuthi bebuqhubeka kahle kakhulu kuze kube manje, bungafika esimeni esibi.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, linda isikhathi eside futhi ubusha bothando kungenzeka ukuthi sebugugile ngesikhathi usho lawo mazwi omlingo. Bese usala ubhekana nemiphumela yokungasho ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” maduzane. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile futhi ukuthi ungalindi isikhathi eside kangangokuthi umlingani wakho uqala ukungabaza ukutholakala kwakho ngokomzwelo. Konke kuncike ekutholeni isikhathi esifanele. Nawu umhlahlandlela wokutshela othile ukuthi uyamthanda okokuqala ngqa, ngesikhathi nasendaweni efanele ebudlelwaneni bakho:
1. Thatha izinga lokushisa lobudlelwano
Nganginento enhle yabangane-ne-izinzuzo eyenzeka ekuqaleni kweminyaka engu-20. Sasizwana njengendlu eshayo. Ngaphezu kokukhangwa okunamandla ngokomzimba, kwakukhona ukuhleka nenjabulo kulokho kulinganisa okungacacisiwe. Ngaze ngahamba ngayonakalisa yonke into ngokusho into eyisiphukuphuku njengokuthi “I love you” (faka ithrekhi kaRobbie William). Ngemva kocansi oluyichilo, sasizulazula embhedeni wasehhotela, siphuza ubhiya, lapho enza into ethandekayo.
Ngokwemvelo, ngagoba ukuze ngimqabule futhi ngalandela ngokuthi, “Hawu, ngiyakuthanda kakhulu.” Kwalandela ukuthula okungajwayelekile. Ekugcineni, sobabili sagqoka sahamba. Ngisazisola ngakho. Njengokungathi ukulwa nemizwa nge-FWB yami kwakunganele, nganezela inhlamba ekulimaleni ngokukhuluma lawo mazwi anzima. Udokotela wezifo zengqondo uDkt. Jenn Mann, umbhali we- The Relationship Fix , weluleka ngokumelene nezifiso ezinjalo. Ngokusho kwakhe, kubalulekile ukuthatha izinga lokushisa lobuhlobo ngaphambi kokuthi ucabange ngalo mcabango.
Uthi, “Ingabe ubuhlobo benu buphawulwa yizinto ezishintshashintshayo ezishisayo nezibandayo? Noma ingabe ubudlelwano obuqinile obungakhula bube ukuzibophezela komunye nomunye, kwesikhathi eside? Uma othile ezimisele ukuba yedwa nawe, noma okungenani akucabangele umngane wakhe oyinhloko lapho ukuba nomfazi oyedwa kungewona umgomo, khona-ke lokho kuwuphawu oluhle lokuqhubeka.” UDhriti uyanezela, “Ukuze uthole ukuthi ungasho nini okokuqala ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuthi umlingani wakho ukuphi ngokomzwelo, ikakhulukazi uma esaba ukuzibophezela noma esacubungula imizwa yakhe.”
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2. Lalela inhliziyo yakho nethumbu lakho
Khumbula lokho uDhriti akushoyo ngomuzwa wothando — ichashazi elikhulu elibomvu odongeni olumhlophe. Akunakuphuthelwa, akunakuphikwa. “Uma uzizwa unothando lweqiniso ngomuntu, akukho ndawo yokungabaza. Awungabazi imizwa yakho. Yilapho ukukhanga noma ukuthatheka kuhluka khona kakhulu othandweni . Ngakho-ke, uma uqinisekile nge-100% ngendlela ozizwa ngayo, vele uthembele emzwelweni wakho wesisu ngokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” okokuqala,” enezela.
Ingqondo yakho yemvelo akuvamile ukuba iphume uphawu, yethembe
Abaqeqeshi bobudlelwano nababhali u-Aaron noJocelyn Freeman baphinda umuzwa ofanayo eselulekweni sabo emibhangqwaneni. “Uma abantu beqala ukwenza amasu uma kusenesikhathi noma sekwephuze kakhulu, kuqala ukuletha isici sokungathembeki ekuqomisaneni. Ngakho yeka ukucabanga kakhulu bese uqhubeka ulandele imizwa yakho. Ngisho noma ningavumelani futhi umlingani wakho engakakulungeli ukusho, kuzokukhulula ukwabelana ngemizwa yakho.”
Elandisa ngokuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe ngokuthi kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani ngaphambi kokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”, uMadhu Jaswal waseKolkata uthi, “Uzokusho nini ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” esokeni lakho noma entombini yakho okokuqala? Lapho inhliziyo yakho ikhululekile futhi umuntu ezizwa sengathi usekhaya. Yileso sizathu lapho umuntu engakhulumi nje kuphela ngemizwa yakhe kodwa nesenzo sakhe ngasinye siveza nendlela azizwa ngayo, ngokuzwakalayo nangokucacile.”
3. Bheka ukusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba ebudlelwaneni
Yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuthi “ngiyakuthanda” kothile okokuqala ngqa? U-Dhriti uthi, "Bheka izimpawu zokusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba ebudlelwaneni bakho. Uzizwa kanjani eduze komlingani wakho? Uma umthanda ngokweqiniso othile, izikhathi zakho zokusondelana zizizwa njengendawo ephephile. Eqinisweni, abantu abathandanayo bazizwa bezolile futhi bekhululekile ngokugona noma ukuba nobuhlobo obuseduze ngokomzimba, lokhu kwaziwa ngokuthi ukucindezelwa kwemizwelo futhi kuwuphawu olubalulekile lwempilo yobudlelwano.
"Lo muzwa wokuphepha udlulela nasekuboniseni imizwa futhi. Uma umthanda ngokweqiniso othile, ungaba sengozini kuye ngaphandle kokwesaba ukwahlulelwa noma ukuhlehla. Lokho kungenxa yokuthi kunokholo ngokwemvelo kumlingani wakho." Uma uzuza lokho kukholwa nokwethemba, ngeke usasaba ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” kuqala noma uchithe isikhathi ukhathazekile ngokuthi maduzane kangakanani ukuthi uthi “Ngiyakuthanda”.
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4. Uma ingekho enye indlela efingqa imizwa yakho, sekuyisikhathi sokuthi uthi “ngiyakuthanda”
Yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuthi “ngiyakuthanda” okokuqala ngqa? Nokho, lapho ezinye izinkulumo ezinjengokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”, “Ngiyakukhumbula”, noma “Anginandaba nawe” zingasafingqa kahle imizwa yakho, sekuyisikhathi sokuvuma uthando. UDhriti wabelana ngesibonelo, “Izithandani engizaziyo zazinobudlelwano obukude, futhi zazivame ukuthi “ngiyanikhumbula” komunye nomunye.
Nokho, endaweni ethile phansi, lona wesifazane waqala ukuba nomuzwa wokuthi “ngiyakukhumbula” akusakubambi ukujula kwemizwa yakhe, futhi wanquma ukuthi kwase kuyisikhathi sokuthi athi “Ngiyakuthanda.” Okwamjabulisa ukuthi umlingani wakhe wazizwa ngendlela efanayo.
5. Ukwesaba ukwaliwa akukubambi
Ingabe ukusho ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” kusenesikhathi kakhulu? Kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani ngaphambi kokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”? yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”? Ingabe izinyanga ezintathu zisenesikhathi kakhulu sokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”? Esinye sezizathu ezenza lokhu kungabaza kusiqede futhi le mibuzo isikhungathekise ukwesaba ukubhekana nokwenqatshwa . Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokuba uzibeke lapho ngalawo magama amathathu asabekayo kakhulu, lungiselela wonke amathuba.
Nakuba ingekho isayensi eqondile yokunquma isikhathi esifanele sokuvuma uthando, ukuziphatha, izenzo, nesimo sengqondo somlingani wakho kungakunikeza umbono omuhle kakhulu wokuthi angaphendula kanjani. Noma kunjalo, kuhle kakhulu ukuzilungiselela yonke imiphumela bese unquma ukuthi uzophendula kanjani noma ukuthi ubudlelwano bakho buzoya kuphi ukusuka lapha uma umlingani wakho ekubuyisela, engakubuyiseli, noma ecela isikhathi sokuphendula. Lokhu kungakwenza kube lula kuwe ukweqa izithiyo zakho futhi uthathe ukweqa ukholo,
Ukuthi "Ngiyakuthanda" Futhi Ukungakuzwa - Ukubhekana Kanjani
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ucabanga kangakanani ngokuthi yisiphi isikhathi esifanele sokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”, kuhlale kukhona ithuba - kungakhathaliseki ukuthi lincane kangakanani - lokuthi umlingani wakho angase angazizwa ngendlela efanayo ngakho. Ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda” kodwa ungakuzwa lokho kumuntu othanda amaphupho akho akuyona into elula. Nazi izindlela ezimbalwa zokubhekana nobuhlungu benhliziyo nokungalahli ukholo ebuhleni bobudlelwano bothando unomphela:
- Khuluma nomlingani wakho. Cishe badinga isikhathi esengeziwe ukuze bafinyelele lapho ukhona khona manje
- Ungazishayi indiva uma befuna ukuqeda ubudlelwano. Cabanga ngazo zonke izindlela zothando owala ngazo ngenxa yokuthi awuzange uzizwe ngendlela efanayo. Kulokhu, kungenye indlela
- Unganikeli kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lothando olwedlulele njengokuhlala ucabanga ngalo muntu, ukumcupha, noma ukuhlala unethemba lokuthi uzophinde athande nawe ngelinye ilanga.
- Kungase kubukeke njengokuphela kwezwe manje kodwa ungavumeli ukwaliwa nokukodwa kuvimbele impilo yakho ukuba ihambe ngesivinini sayo.
- Ungazisoli ngesimemezelo sakho sothando umzuzwana. Akukho lutho olunamahloni ngokwethembeka ngemizwa yakho
- Zilolonge, thola okuthile okukujabulisayo, uhambe, uhambe ngezinsuku, futhi ufune ukwelashwa uma unenkinga yokubhekana nokwaliwa.
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Kunini Lapho Kungafanele Ukuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”?
Usho kanjani futhi nini ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” okokuqala kubalulekile
Uma uzama ukuthola ukuthi ungasho nini ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngokokuqala ngqa, ngaphandle kwalapho nindawonye (ukuba nezinsuku ezinhlanu okungenani kuwumthetho ojwayele ukwenziwa), isigaba sobudlelwano okuso — ngokwesibonelo, ingabe awukhethekile okwamanje? - futhi isikhathi lapho ukhetha ukuveza imizwa yakho nakho kubalulekile. UDhriti uthi, “Ungacabangi nje ukuthi kufanele ulinde isikhathi esingakanani ngaphambi kokuthi uthi “Ngiyakuthanda” kodwa cabanga nokuthi uzokusho kanjani futhi nini ngoba lezi zinto zibalulekile.
“Owesifazane ebengimeluleka wasala edidekile lapho insizwa ayenaye okokuqala ithi “ngiyakuthanda” maqede yavala ucingo, uma usuyivezile imizwa yakho, ungabalekeli noma uhoxe emoyeni. Yiba khona nesithandwa sakho futhi usijabulele leso sikhathi.
Ngamanye amazwi, ukunquma ukuthi kulungile nini ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda”, kubalulekile ukuqonda uma kungenjalo. Nazi izimo ezimbalwa lapho okungafanele neze:
- Uma udakiwe: Kunini lapho uthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngokokuqala ngqa? Nakanjani hhayi uma uneminyaka iziphuzo eziyisithupha phansi. Ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” kumlingani omusha ophuzile kufanele kube khona lapho lapho edakiwe ethumelela umuntu owayekade edakiwe ohlwini lwezenzo eziwubuwula ezingakuletheli lutho ngaphandle kokuzisola. Uma usho lamagama amathathu udakiwe, omunye umuntu akazi ukuthi enzeni ngakho. Ukungakhululeki kusukela ngaleso sikhathi kungachithekela ebuhlotsheni
- Ukuthi "ngiyakuthanda" ngokokuqala ngqa embhalweni: UDhriti uthi, “Ukuthi "ngiyakuthanda" ngokokuqala ngqa phezu kombhalo kufana nokuhlukana phezu kombhalo. Kuwukudelela nokungacabangi, ingasaphathwa eyokususa imizwa.” Uma usebudlelwaneni bebanga elide, ukukusho mathupha kungase kube ukunethezeka ongenakho, noma kunjalo, okungenani ukusho kukholi yevidiyo noma phakathi nedethi ebonakalayo
- Ngaphansi kwengcindezi: Ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngoba uzizwa ucindezelwa kuyifulegi elibomvu eliqinisekile. Ngenxa yokuthi umlingani wakho uzizwa ngendlela ethile futhi uyigcwalisile imizwa yakhe, akusho ukuthi ubophekile ukuba ukuphendule. Okubi kakhulu kunokungaphindiswa kwemizwa yakho ukuthi umuntu akusho lapho engaqondile. Ngakho-ke, ziphephise wena nomlingani wakho lobo buhlungu, futhi ungabuphumi ngaphandle uma umthanda ngokweqiniso othile
- Ukuvusa ucansi: Ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” ukuze umlingani wakho avume ukulala nawe kungu-CHA omkhulu. Ungasebenzisi imizwa yakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyiqiniso kangakanani, ukunxenxela umlingani wakho ukuba avume ukulala nawe. Kuwuhlobo lokukhohlisa, futhi ukuvuma ukuvuma kwakho ngeke kuhluke kakhulu ekuvumeni okuphoqiwe
- Ngokushesha ngemva kokuqala ukuphola: Ingabe ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngokushesha kuyifulegi elibomvu? Ngokuqinisekile, yebo! Uma ubungamazi lo muntu ngaphambilini futhi ubunezinsuku ezimbalwa kuphela kuze kube manje, nix umqondo okwamanje. Kungase kube ukuxhamazela kwamahomoni okuzizwa ejabule egazini lakho akutshela ukuthi uyamthanda lo muntu. Ngakho-ke, ungakusheshi. Linda uze udlule esigabeni se-honeymoon, futhi uhlale nemizwa yakho isikhathi esithile ngaphambi kokuvuma izono kumlingani wakho.
- Ukugcina ubudlelwano: UDhriti uthi, “Uma uthi “ngiyakuthanda” ngokokuqala ngqá ngoba wesaba ukuthi ubuhlobo benu buzochitheka uma ungakwenzi lokho, wenza ngenxa yazo zonke izizathu ezingalungile.
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Izikhombi Ezibalulekile
- Asikho isikhathi esimisiwe sokusho uthando lothando komunye umuntu. Nguwe kuphela onganquma uma isikhathi sesilungile
- Umuzwa wokulondeka, ukufuna ukuyisa ubudlelwano kwelinye izinga, nokuthanda umlingani wakho naphezu kwamaphutha akhe nezinye izimpawu zokuthi usukulungele ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda”
- Izinga lokushisa lobudlelwano bakho, ithumbu lakho, izinga lokusondelana ngokomzwelo nangokomzimba, nokujula kwemizwa yakho kuzokutshela uma kuyisikhathi esifanele sokutshela isithandwa sakho ukuthi uyamthanda.
- Ungakusho ngocingo oludakiwe noma umqhafazo noma ngaphansi kwengcindezi ngoba beshilo
- Qiniseka ukuthi lolu uthando, hhayi ukuthatheka futhi usukulungele ubudlelwano nabo bonke ubuhle bayo kanye nobunzima
Nakuba uchitha isikhathi esiningi namandla ekutholeni ukuthi ungasho nini ukuthi “ngiyakuthanda” entombini yakho noma esokeni lakho okokuqala ngqa, khumbula futhi ukukusho lapho ubuhlobo sebuqala. Lisho uma ufuna ukubonga uma ubona umbhede usuwendluliwe, lapho izinto ezincane zinakekelwa, lapho bepakisha noma bekhipha imithwalo yakho, lapho bekwenzela inkomishi yetiye noma bekunikeza i-massage enhle.
Ukulondoloza uthando kuvame ukuba nzima kunokuthandana, futhi ukwenza umkhuba ukuveza imizwa yakho njengoba wenza lapho uqala ukuthandana kungaba yisihluthulelo salokhu kudla. Ungafihli uthando lwakho kanye nokwazisa kwakho ngomlingani wakho oyingqayizivele. Phuma kukho. Futhi noma nini lapho ukwenza, qiniseka ukuthi ukusho njengoba usho – leso yisihluthulelo sobuhlobo obujabulisayo.
Imibuzo Evame Ukubuzwa
1. Ingabe sikhona isikhathi esifanele sokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”? Ngokocwaningo nezinhlolovo, abantu abaningi bayavuma ukuthi noma yikuphi phakathi kwezinyanga ezi-3 nezingu-5 ngemva kokuqala ukuphola yisikhathi esifanele sokusho ukuthi ngiyakuthanda kumlingani wakho okokuqala ngqa. Nokho, lo mugqa wesikhathi awumisiwe etsheni. Uma uzizwa unamandla ngabo futhi uqiniseka ukuthi okuzwelayo ngabo uthando olumsulwa hhayi nje ukuthatheka noma ukukhangwa, kuhle kakhulu ukukusho ngokushesha futhi.
2. Yini engingayisho esikhundleni sokuthi “Ngiyakuthanda”? Amagama amaningi ahlukahlukene ansuku zonke abonisa uthando lwakho ngomlingani wakho futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. "Ngishayele uma ufika ekhaya." “Uyiphuzile imithi yakho?” “Bengikukhumbule” zonke lezi ziyizibonakaliso zothando ngokwazo. Kodwa lezi ngeke zithathe indawo yokuthi uyabathanda okokuqala ngqa. Udinga ukusho lawo magama amathathu ukuze ushayele ekhaya umlayezo wokuthi uzizwa kanjani ngomunye umuntu.
3. Kushesha kangakanani ukuba indoda ithi “ngiyakuthanda”? Ngokwezifundo nezinhlolovo, amanye amadoda akholelwa ukuthi kwamukelekile ukuvuma uthando phakathi nesonto lokuqala uthandana nothile. Lokho, ngazo zonke izinyathelo, kuseduzane kakhulu kunoma yimuphi owesilisa noma owesifazane. Siphakamisa ukuthi utshale isikhathi nomzamo ukuze wazi omunye umuntu futhi uhlole imizwa yakho ngaphambi kokuthi uveze uthando lwakho kothile.
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