He pai ake ki tōku whānau Īnia te rūma kakahu

Te Noho i te Kōrero teka: Te utu mō te huna i tōku tuakiri i roto i tōku whānau Īnia

LGBTQ | June 5, 2017 | Naufal Khan , Kaituhi Pūrongo Tohunga
Whakahōungia i te: 5 o Pēpuere, 2025

Porohia te aroha

Koinei pea te tuhinga tino pono ka tuhia e au mō te noho takatāpui i roto i te ahurea Īnia, e ai ki taku ake noho me te wehi takatāpui i roto i tōku whānau.

Te Putanga Mai i roto i te Whānau Inia

Ripanga o Ihirangi

I te 35 o ōku tau, e kore ahau e whakamahi i ngā kupu āhua pēnei i te mamae, te kore ngākau, me ērā atu whakaahuatanga whakaari hei whakapuaki i ngā kare ā-roto o te tangata e pāngia ana e te takatāpui me te whakahē i roto i te whānau Īnia.

I a au e rua tekau mā rima tau te pakeke, i whakaaturia taku hiahia mō te ira tangata ki te whārangi tuatahi o te nūpepa Inia tino rongonui o te Rātapu i Āwherika ki te Tonga, te 'Sunday Times Extra.' I pai ahau ki tēnā; kāore au i mataku, kāore hoki i whakama mō taku ira tangata. I horapa te rongo puta noa i tōku whānau, ā, he tokomaha i oma ki te hoko i tētahi kape o te nūpepa kia kite ai rātou i te "whakama" i kawea mai e au ki ōku mātua.

Te pānui e pā ana: Ko ahau Gay, Kua Mārena, Ā, E Rapu Ana Au I Te Ōritetanga – He aha ai Gay Me te marena…

Whanau Reactions

I whakakahoretia tonutia ahau e te nuinga o rātou, ko ētahi i kata noa, ko ētahi i mea ka huri ōku whakaaro i tētahi wā. Kāore anō kia huri ōku whakaaro. Kua tata ki te tekau tau, engari aroha mai, e te iwi! He Īnia whakahīhī tonu ahau, he Muhirama-Hīndu, tangata takatāpuiE toru ngā tuakiri tokoiti e hanga ana i ahau.

Aroha me te Wehenga

Kei te aroha tonu ahau ki tōku whānau, engari ki taku whakaaro kua rerekē tō rātou aroha. Kua mutu taku ngana ki te whakaatu ki a rātou ko ahau tonu te tangata i mua i taku whakakitenga i taku hiahia ki ngā tāne. I kōrero mai tōku whānau ki ahau i ngā tau e rua i muri i taku haerenga, engari kāore he mea i toe engari ko te koretake e toe ana tae noa mai ki tēnei rā. Kāore au i rerekē; ko au tonu te kaiwhakarato mō rātou, ehara i te mea ko te taha pūtea anake, engari i kite ahau ahakoa te nui o te moni e ringihia ana e au ki a rātou – kāore ahau i te wāhanga o tēnei whānau i ēnei rā. Kua rite ahau ki te mate ki a rātou.

Pānui e pā ana: "Ahakoa he LGBT, he aroha tonu te aroha" - Piriniha Manvendra Singh Gohil

Te Whakangā me te Whakakore i ngā Tikanga

Kāore au e whakaaetia kia kōrero mō tōku ira tangata, kia whakahua rānei i tōku #mancrush, i tētahi atu rānei hei hoa rangatira mōku. Mēnā ka puta he ihirangi mō ngā wāhine takatāpui, ka hurihia te pouaka whakaata ki tētahi atu hongere.

I roto i tō mātou whānau, kāore ngā mea ngaro e puritia noa - he mea tuku iho."

Ko te kupu tonu 'takatāpui' i pā mai te mataku kei 'hurihia' e au ngā mema taitamariki o taku whānau hei hunga takatāpui i tētahi wā. Ae, koinei te huarahi whakaaro whakamuri e noho ana. Kaua rawa e tukua kia puta a Imran Vagar i te pouaka whakaata! Ka whakapaetia ia mō ētahi o aku mahi takatāpui. Koia te āhua; kei te kī atu ahau 'koia,' nā te mea kei te pērā tonu te raruraru i roto i te nuinga o ngā kāinga Inia.

Te Whakaae me te Aroha ki a Ia Anō

Kāore au e rapu ana i te aroha i konei, he pai ahau – ko te mea kotahi kei a au ko te whakaaro noa.

E kore rawa e taea e au te whakarerekē i ngā tirohanga a tōku whānau piripono i roto i te miriona tau, engari ka taea e au te kī atu ki a koe: Kua whakarerekē ahau i te huarahi e anga atu ai tōku aroha.
-ki ahau

Ki te taea e koe te hono atu ki ahau i roto i tō kāinga Inia, ā, ki te pakaru koe i te tukino aronganui he iti noa iho te rahinga o te whānau e puta mai ana, ka taea e koe te whakarerekē i tēnā. Kia rawe, kia mutu te mahi; koinei taku tohutohu pai māu. He nui atu i te aroha rūpahu e mōhio ana koe kei te whiwhi koe e tika ana.

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FAQs

1. He aha ngā whānau Īnia e hiahia ana ki te pupuri i ngā mea tūmataiti?

Ko te pūtake o te tūmataitinga he wehi kei whakahengia e te hapori, me te aro nui ki te pupuri i te āhua 'tino pai' o te whānau.

2. He aha ngā take e kore e kōrerohia e ngā whānau?

Ko ngā kaupapa pēnei i te hauora hinengaro, ngā whanaungatanga, ngā pūtea, me ngā whiringa mahi he mea tapu, he mea whakararuraru rānei.

3. Me pēhea te tīmatanga o te whakatuwheratanga o ngā whānau?

Mā te waihanga i tētahi wāhi haumaru e rangona ai, e whakautehia ai hoki ia mema, ka taea te whakatenatena i te tuwhera me te ngoikore.

I tētahi huihuinga whānau, ka puta he tautohe i waenganui i ōku mātua, engari ka ataata tonu rāua i te taenga mai o ētahi atu ki te rūma. Me te mea nei kua mukua ō rāua kare ā-roto i te wā tonu i tuwhera ai te tatau.

Thoughts Final

Ko te ahurea huna i roto i ngā whānau Inia e ahu mai ana i te aroha me te tiaki, engari ka taea e ia te hanga arai ki te hononga pono me te māramatanga. Mā te whakatipu kōrero, te whakaatu i te aroha, me te wero i ngā tikanga tawhito, ka taea e tātou te huri i ō tātou whanaungatanga hei wāhi whakawhirinaki me te whakaae. Ka taea e ā mātou kaiwhakaora hinengaro te ārahi i a koe ki te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero tuwhera me ngā whanaungatanga hauora. Whakapā mai ki a mātou i tēnei rā mō tētahi kōrerorero.

Pehea a takatāpui i āwhina tōna hoa i a ia kia whakaae ki a ia anō he wahine takatāpui

Gay Ngā raruraru o te ahua tinana e puta mai ana i te wehi o te kore te riroraa aroha

Ko ia Gay Ā, he wahine harikoa kua marenatia

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.