He maha ngā tāngata e manukanuka ana, e whakaaro ana he hangai te whakarite i te moe tāne. Kua meinga tātou kia whakaaro ko te moe tāne i whānau mai i tēnei hiahia nui, ā-roto hoki, e ahua nei kāore e taea te aukati. Ahakoa he kiriata, he pukapuka rānei, he wheako ake rānei, kua kīia mai ki a tātou me noho te moe tāne ki te āhua maori, e hiahiatia ana, e tūpono ana, e whakahihiri ana hoki kia pai ai. Koinei te āhua o te mahi, tika? Kāore pea.
Ahakoa he tino mīharo te ngākau nui o te taatai e puta mai ana i te kukume me te taumahatanga o te taatai, ā, ka tino whakaoho i a koe me aua homoni, kāore he he o te whakarite i te taatai mena kei te ahua he ngā mea i roto i tō whanaungatanga. He ngawari te noho pukumahi ki ngā mahi me ā tātou kaupapa porangi, ka waiho te taatai ki muri, ka heke hoki ō tātou hiahia taatai. Koia te take, i ētahi wā, me ngana kaha koe ki te whakahoki mai i taua hihiri.
Kei te pōhēhē tonu koe? Āe, kāore koe e pōhēhē ina oti i a koe te pānui i tēnei mea katoa. Hei āwhina i a koe ki te mārama ake, kei a mātou tētahi tohunga nāna i kawe mai tētahi kōrero tūturu i tūtaki ai ia i tēnei rā. Ko Minnu R Bhonsle, Ph.D., he kaiwhakaora hinengaro me te kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro, ko tana tāne ko Rajan Bhonsle , MD, he kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro i roto i te rongoā moepuku me te kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro. Kei te whakahaere tahi rāua i tētahi pokapū whakaora ahurei, ko Heart-to-Heart, ā, i tuhi i tētahi pukapuka, ko The Ultimate Sex Education Guide.
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I haere mai a Abigail, he kaiwhakahaere hokohoko, he whaea hoki nōna ngā tamariki tokorua, 32 tau te pakeke, ki te kōrero ki a mātou i ngā marama e toru kua pahure. He tangata ia e hiahia ana ki te tino pai, ā, e whakahīhī ana ki te whakahaere pai i tōna kāinga me tana wāhi mahi. Nō reira, ahakoa tōna pūkenga ki te whakahaere i ngā mea o te kāinga, he raruraru tāna i hiahia ai ia ki tā mātou āwhina.
Ko te ngenge anake i pā ki a ia mō te taatai. Ko te roa o te haere ki te kāinga, te mahi o ia rā me te mahi kāinga, te tiaki i ngā hiahia o āna tamariki nohinohi, tae atu ki te mahi tahi me tōna hungawai wahine, me te kore e ranea te wāhi manawa (tinana me te wāhi kare ā-roto) i whakararu i te tokorua, ā, koinā tana i kōrero mai ai ki a mātou.
Hei tāpiritanga, kua neke atu i te 30 ōna tau inaianei, ko te puhoi o tana pākia o te tinana me te iti o tōna āhua noho kei te whakapūpū ake i tōna taumaha ki tōna hope, ā, ki tōna whakaaro, ka kino ake ngā mahi a rāua ko tana tāne i waenganui i ngā whāriki moe.
"Me pēhea te whakapai ake i te taatai mō tāua tokorua?" ko tana āwangawanga tēnei
Ahakoa e mōhio ana ia kāore e tika kia pāngia tōna āhua tinana e te tāpiritanga o ētahi kirokaramu, kua tīmata ia te pōuri. I tohutohu tētahi hoa kia tūtaki ia ki tētahi tohunga kai hei āwhina i ngā kiritaki i roto i tā rātou haerenga whakapakari tinana. I tīmata anō a Abigail ki te whai i tētahi tikanga whakakori tinana, mā te ara wawe me te oma tere.
Engari i te whakamarie i a ia, i mahi kē tana tākuta kai i te ritenga kē. I kai a Abigail i tētahi tina māmā noa iho i ia rā – he hupa heihei me te huamata anake. Nō reira, i mahue iho ia me te tinana ngenge, te hiamoe, ngā waewae mamae, te waha haunga kino, me te puku amuamu. Ko te moe anake te mea i hiahiatia hei oranga ngākau māna. Engari i tana tūranga moepuku tino pai, ko tana moemoeā anake he pereti heihei parai parai!
I mārama ki a mātou, ko te mea tuatahi, me whakakore e ia tōna ao me ōna whakaaro. He pono, kua piki ake tōna taumaha. Engari i tino aroha tana tāne ki a ia, ā, he tangata māia ia. Kāore rawa he take ki te whakaranu i ōna raruraru pākia me ōna raruraru moepuku . Ahakoa pēhea, i ngana ia ki te tiaki i tōna hauora, ā, i mahi hoki ki te whakapakari i tōna tinana.
I kī atu mātou ki a ia ko te tikanga o te kai me te whakapakari tinana he mea hei whakamama ake i te tinana, hei whakapakari tinana, hei whakakorikori tinana, hei whakaora i te ngenge me te hiakai me te manawa haunga! Nō reira, mēnā koinei te āhua, me kōrero a Abigail ki te tohunga kai, me te hanga i ngā huringa e tika ana ki tana kai kia whakapakari tinana ai ia, kia kore ai e ngaro te kaha. I tohutohu mātou kia tirohia ia e te rata kia kite ai mēnā me whai tāpiringa hei whakanui ake i tōna kaha, hei aromatawai hoki i tōna hauora whānui.
Engari, i kōrerotia atu hoki e mātou ki a ia te hiranga o te whakarite i te taatai i roto i te marena
I a tātou e tamariki ana, i akona tātou i te kura ki te mahi i runga i te wātaka, ā, i taea e tātou katoa te ako i ētahi kaupapa i ia rā mā te whai i tēnei wātaka i te kura. Waihoki, i ēnei rā, he mea nui kia whakaritea ngā kawenga, ngā mahi kāinga, te wā "mōku", te wā whānau, me ētahi atu mea, me te wā "tātou" kia tutuki ai te taurite i waenganui i te mahi me te oranga .
Kāore e hiahiatia kia moe i te pō anake. Ina hoki, i muri i te mahi i te rā katoa, ka hiahia pea te tangata ki te matakitaki i tētahi wāhanga o Friends , kātahi ka moe. He nui te kaha e pau ana i te awatea mō te mahi, te haereere, me ērā atu mea. Kāore e taea te tumanako kia moe i te mutunga o te rā, i ia rā. Kāore pea e ranea te kaha e toe ana i te wā e moe ai te tangata.
Koinei te wāhi e puta ai te whakaaro mō te whakarite i te moe tāne. He nui te kaha, te hihiri, me te hiahia e hiahiatia ana e te moe tāne. Nō reira, ko te mea e tupu ana i roto i ngā tāne mahi o ēnei rā he mea taiao, he mea ā-tinana hoki. Ko te wā pai rawa atu mō ēnei āhuatanga ko te moe tāne i te ata pō. I muri i te moe pai i te pō, ina okioki pai tō tinana me tō hinengaro, ā, kua ora anō koe, ka kitea e koe he kaha me te ngākau nui. Ahakoa a Vatsyayana i roto i te Kamasutra kua tūtohu i te ata pō hei wā pai mō te whanaungatanga piripono. I runga anō i te āhua ā-tinana, ko te homoni testosterone, te kawenga mō te hiahia moe tāne/te hihiri/te libido i roto i te tangata, ko te mea teitei rawa atu i ngā hāora o te ata. Kāore ianei i te tino tika?
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Whakahaerehia tō wā kia pai ake ai te oranga moepuku
Waihoki, me tuku ētahi mahi ki ētahi atu (ngā mema o te whānau me ngā kaiawhina utu), ā, ko ētahi mahi kāore i te tino hiahiatia me whakarite anō i ia rua wiki, i ia marama rānei, kaua i ia rā. Hokohoko ipurangi, whakamahia te wā haere ki te mahi ki te kōrero ki te whānau kia kore ai te wā o te tokorua e pokanoa ki ngā waea a te whānau, whakakahoretia ngā tono ohorere, ā, ko te mea nui, kia mārama tahi kōrua ko tō hoa mō te hiahia ki te hanga anō i tēnei taurite kia kore ai kōrua e mau tonu ki roto i te marena kore ira tangata.
Kāore i te tino whakanuia te tūponotanga o te moe tāne, ā, he maha ngā wā ka taka ngā tāne me ngā wāhine ki ngā marena kore-ira tangata nā te mea e aro nui ana rātou ki te tūponotanga. Ka taea e te moe tāne kua whakaritea te hanga i tētahi āhua ataahua, ā, he nui atu i te moe tāne ...
Kua tae ki te wā ki te whakamahere i te taatai!
Whakawhanakehia te whanaungatanga piripono ki tō hoa mā te whakamahi i ngā taupānga karere, whakaritea he wā 'tātou' me te kapu tī i te ata i roto i te rūma moe, mā te hikoi 15 meneti rānei i muri i te tina me te kore tamariki, me ngā waea atamai rānei. Mā tēnei ka mau tonu te wāhi 'tātou', ā, ka tino whai hua te whakarite i te whanaungatanga piripono.
He pō whakaipoipo kotahi i te wiki, kotahi i te rua wiki rānei, he hararei mutunga wiki kotahi i roto i te rua marama, ka taea tonu, ki te whakaritea. Engari kia maumahara ki tētahi mea. He pai katoa mēnā kei te hiahia koe ki te whakamahere i te taatai, me te whakarite i ngā wā me te whakapau kaha ki te whakapau i te wā ki a koe anō. Engari he mea nui kia mōhio koe ko te 'kounga' o te whanaungatanga te mea nui, ehara i te 'rahinga'. Kāore he pai o tō maramataka taatai mō te marena mēnā kāore koe e mahi ana ki te hanga i te taatai kia pai, kia whai hua hoki mō te tokorua.
I whakamārama mātou i ēnei mea ki a Abigail. I hoki ia ki te kāinga me te hiahia kia angitu tana marena, me te whakamātau i ēnei tohutohu hei whakahoki mai i te hihiri. I waea mai a Abigail ki a mātou i ēnei rā tata nei, ā, i mihi mai ki a mātou mō te whakahoki mai i te moepuku ki a ia i roto i te huarahi i ahua reka ake ai te whanaungatanga piripono i ana moemoeā kai katoa! I tino harikoa mātou i āwhina mātou i a ia, ā, i taea e mātou te whakarērea ēnei kōrero pakiwaitara katoa mō te whakarite moepuku.
(E ai ki te kōrero ki a Roshni Mitra)
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Ko tā mātou tumanako, nā te kōrero a ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro i whakaatu ki a koutou te painga o te whakamahere i te moe tāne i roto i tō kōrua marena, i roto rānei i tō kōrua whanaungatanga. Engari i ētahi wā, ina kore e kitea ngā tohu o te hiahia tahi , ā, he maha ngā wā kua ngenge kōrua, kua pukumahi rawa hoki mō kōrua, ka rerekē pea te āhua o ngā mea, ā, ka rite ki te mahi uaua rawa atu i mua. Hei karo i tēnā, he mea nui kia tika te whakarite i te moe tāne.
Hei tīmatanga māu ki te mahi pai i tēnei, me te mahi tika hoki, kia mōhio ki ngā mea e whai ake nei.
1. Whakauruhia te nuinga o ngā takaro i mua i te moepuku
Whakapono mai ki a mātou mēnā ka mahue i a koe te takaro i mua i te moe, ka poto rawa rānei, he hē katoa tāu mahi. I ētahi wā, ko te takaro i mua i te moe te whāinga o te whanaungatanga piripono, ehara i te mea ko te whakaurunga. Ko te whakahihiri i tō hoa, me te tino whakarite kei te hiahia rātou, kei te uru atu, he mea tika kia pai ai te moe i roto i te whanaungatanga . Ki te mahue i a koe te wāhanga pai rawa atu ka neke tika atu ki te wāhi e mahi ana, ka nui ake tō ngenge, ā, ka hiahia koe kia mutu wawe. Kāore rawa tēnā e pai ki tō maramataka moe. Ā, e kōrero ana mō tēnā, āe, me whai maramataka moe koe.
- Waihangahia ngā tikanga e ārahi ana ki te wā (hei tauira, he tina aroha, he mahi tahi rānei).
- Whakamahia ngā mea e whakaoho ana i ngā kare ā-roto pērā i te rama, te puoro, ngā kakara rānei hei whakapakari i te hononga.
"Ehara te whanaungatanga i te mea e pā ana ki te wā; engari e pā ana ki te ngākau pono. Tīmatahia te whakarite i te kaupapa matua o tō hononga i tēnei rā!"
2. Hangaia he maramataka moepuku hei whakarite i te moepuku
Mena kua pānuihia e koe te pou tae noa mai ki tēnei wā, ā, kāore tonu koe i te whakaaro he mea nui te whai maramataka moepuku, ka kī atu anō mātou he mea nui tēnā. Ina whakaritea e tō wahine te moepuku kia pai ake ai te oranga moepuku māu, me haere whakamua, me te whakaatu ki a ia kei te hiahia nui koe mā te tuhi i tētahi maramataka. Ki te kore tēnei, kāore koe e whai kawenga mō te whakatutuki i te whāinga, ā, ka rapu tonu koe i ngā take hei karo i tēnā.
- Me whakarite he wā whānui engari me whai wāhi mō ngā whakarerekētanga.
- Kaua e tukua kia mārō—arotahi ki te hononga, kaua ki te karaka.
3. Kia mau tonu te hihiri mō tō kaupapa moepuku
Ehara i te huarahi ki te whakarite i te moe tāne mā te tuku karere kuputuhi "Kaua e kawe mai i tetahi kai hei kai māu i tēnei rā, e mōhio ana koe ka nui te hau i roto i ahau, ā, me moe tāua i tēnei pō". Engari, tukuna atu he emoji aubergine ki a ia, me te tuku karere kuputuhi whakawai , pēnei i te, "E tatari ana ahau ki te kai i a koe i tēnei pō." Ka tino whai hua tēnā!
- Whakaritea ngātahitia ngā wā e pai ana mō ngā hoa e rua.
- Kia tuwhera tonu te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero mō ngā hiahia me ngā manakohanga.
4. Ngāna kia whakahari tetahi i tetahi
Kaua e hiahia nui ki te moe. Ko te kaupapa matua o tēnei mahi he tuku i aua endorphins, he whakahari tetahi i tetahi, he whakanui hoki i te whanaungatanga tata atu i mua. Hei whakatutuki i tēnā, me whakapau kaha koe ki te mārama ki ngā mea e pai ana ki tō hoa i runga i te moenga. Ko te whakarite i te aroha ehara i te mea mō kōrua anake, engari mō kōrua tokorua i roto i tēnei whanaungatanga.
- Tukuna he karere whakawai, he mahi rānei i ngā wā o te awatea.
- Me whakaaro ki te whanaungatanga kua whakaritea hei tatau whakamuri ki te hihiri.
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5. Kōrerohia ō hiahia ki te mahorahora
Ka pai te haere o tō kaupapa moe tāne mēnā ka mutu tō whakaaro he mea tika kia mahia, ka tīmata te titiro atu ki tēnei mea hei mea e hiahia ana koe ki te mahi. Kia taea ai e koe te tumanako atu ki tēnei mea, kia tino pai ai te moe tāne, me kōrero koe i ngā mea e pai ana ki a koe me ngā mea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakamātautau. Ahakoa he taonga takaro tāne, he mahi i runga i te kaute o te kīhini, he whakamātau rānei i tētahi mea tino whakakatakata – rukuhia hōhonu ngā mea e hari ai koe me ngā mea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakamātau. Kātahi, kōrerohia ki tō hoa hei whakakoi ake i tō oranga moe tāne.
"Me pēhea te whakapai ake i te moe tāne mā tāua?" – ko te tumanako kua āwhina tēnei aratohu taahiraa-i-te-taahiraa i a koe ki te mārama ki te whakautu. Nā, he aha tāu e tatari ana? Hangaia taua maramataka ka tīmata!
FAQs
Kia rua ngā wā i te wiki, ki te hiahia koe kia hoki anō tō whanaungatanga ki tōna āhua pai.
He mea noa tēnei, ā, he tino painga anō hoki mō tētahi whanaungatanga e pāngia ana e te maroke, e te kore rānei o te hiahia.
Ina tīmata koe ki te whakarite i tētahi wā moe tāne, ehara i te mea ka nui ake tō kawenga ki te whakatika i tēnei wāhanga o te whanaungatanga, engari ka nui ake tō ngahau ki tēnei mahi i a koe e whakapau kaha ana me te hiahia ki te whakahou i te mahana me te piripono o ngā mea i waenganui i a kōrua.
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Kāore e hiahiatia kia rite te whakarite i te moe ki te mea haumanu, ki te mea whakamā rānei. Mā te whakaaro anō he mahi manaaki ā-hinengaro mō tō whanaungatanga, ka taea e koe te whakarite i te whanaungatanga piripono i roto i te ao pukumahi. Kia maumahara, ehara i te mea ko te hononga tinana anake te whāinga engari ko te poipoi i te piripono kare ā-roto hoki. Ka taea e ā mātou kaiwhakaora hinengaro te āwhina i a koe me tō hoa ki te whakatere i ngā wero, te kōrero tuwhera, me te whakaoho anō i te mura o tō whanaungatanga.
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Ko te kupu "moepuku kua whakaritea" he mea whakamataku ki te nuinga o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine. Kei a mātou te whakaaro he mea tūpono tonu te moepuku, nō reira ko te whakatau ki te whakarite i te moepuku he rite ki te whakaae kua mate tō oranga moepuku. Engari ehara i te mea pēnā. Ki taku whakaaro he huarahi tēnei hei whakaatu ki a koe me tō hoa e whakanui ana koe i tō oranga moepuku. Ka whakarite mātou i ngā mea e nui ana ki a mātou. He aha e kore ai e taea e mātou te whakarite i te moepuku?