I tēnei ao e werohia haeretia ana ngā tūranga ira tangata tuku iho, kua awhi tō mātou whānau i tētahi āhuatanga ahurei: ko au te pāpā noho-kāinga, ko taku wahine ia te kaiwhakawhiwhi moni. Ahakoa he rerekē tēnei whakatau ki ētahi, kua kawea mai e tēnei whakatau he harikoa nui me te whai hua. He tohu tēnei i te āhua o te whanaketanga o ngā whānau hou me te mana o ngā moemoeā tahi me te tautoko tahi.
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Āe, ko taku wahine te kaiwhakawhiwhi moni i roto i tā māua marena
Ripanga o Ihirangi
I ētahi wā ka whakahengia ahau, i ētahi wā ka riri, engari i te nuinga o te wā, ka makona ahau. Ki taku whakaaro he nui ake te mana o taku wahine i roto i tā māua marena nā te mea ko ia te kaiwhiwhi moni i roto i tō māua whare, engari he aha rawa, kāore au e māharahara.
I tīmata katoa i te wā i riro mai ai te mana whakahaere o te kamupene i mahi ai ahau. I roto i ētahi marama, ka whakamutua taku mahi, ā, me wehe atu ahau. I te mea kua tupu, i whiwhi taku wahine i tētahi tono mai i tana kamupene hei tumuaki mō tētahi wāhanga ki tāwāhi me tētahi utu hei whakapiki i te moni whiwhi a tō mātou whānau, hei hoatu hoki i tētahi whai wāhi ki a ia kia rere pai i roto i tana mahi.
Ko ia, i te mea i whakaaro ia ki te reti i te 40 o ōna tau, i kitea ohoreretia e ia kei te tata ia ki tētahi panonitanga nui i roto i tana mahi. Mēnā ka whakaae ia ki tēnei, ka rerekē tōna oranga mahi mō te wā roa. Kāore e taea e ia te whakaaro ki te reti wawe, ki te okioki i tana mahi, ki te ora rānei i aku moni whiwhi nā te mea kāore ia i hiahia ki te mahi. He taahiraa nui tēnā. Mēnā i mau tonu taku mahi, kua whakaarohia pea e ia te tuku mai i taku tirohanga. Mā te whakawhiti whenua, kāore au e āhei ki te mahi, ka mutu, ka mutu rānei taku mahi.
I tangohia e ia tētahi tūranga hou whakahihiri i te mahi
I tautohe māua. I tautohetohe māua. I tangi ia, i riri ahau. I whakaatu ia i te riri. Ā, i amuamu ia – i te wā tonu i whakaaro ai ahau ka taea e au te mutu me te aro ki ngā tamariki, nāu mātou i whakanoho ki tēnei āhuatanga. I mōhio ahau ki te wā me kati te waha, nō reira i whakarongo ahau, pērā i te whakarongo a te hoa ki te whakapuakitanga a te hoa.
Kāore i roa ka tau te rongo ki tō māua āhua. Kua roa ia e whakarērea ana tana mahi, ā, me whakaae ahau, he mātau ake ia i roto i tana mahi i ahau. He tangata māori ia ina tae mai ki te ao pakihi, engari me whakapau kaha ahau kia tutuki ai ngā hua. Whai muri i ētahi rā tautohetohe, ka tīmata ia ki te kite i te tikanga o te tango i te tono. Ka tīmata ia ki te moemoeā mō te angitu me te mana, he mea i tino maia ia ki te mahi engari kāore i taea e ia nā te mea ko taku mahi te mahi matua hei oranga mōna.
Heoi anō, he maha ngā wā i moemoeā ai ahau mō tētahi tau okiokinga i te wā o te kāreti, me tētahi wā okioki mahi hei mahi i te tohu PhD, hei whakatū i taku ake pakihi hou, hei whakauru atu rānei ki ngā whakangungu umanga. Kāore au i te tino mārama i taua wā, engari i tino mōhio ahau kāore au e hiahia ki te reti i tēnei mahi. Koinei pea te ao e mahi tahi ana hei āwhina i ahau ki te whakatutuki i aku moemoeā.
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I whakamahia e au hei whai wāhitanga ki te tūhura i ētahi atu mea
"Me pēhea rā te ngaro o tō tuakiri hei kaiwhiwhi moni?" te kata a taku wahine. I tawai ahau i tana āwangawanga. "Oati mai ki ahau e kore rawa koe e kōrero moni i a tāua e tautohetohe ana, ā, ka ora tāua." I whakapau kaha taku wahine i a ia e mahi ana i te mahi me te kāinga, i te kāinga i te wā kāore au e taea te tango wā, engari kāore ia i whakapouri i ahau mō te kore i reira i te wā e hiahiatia ana e te whānau.
I kite ahau i tēnei hei whai wāhitanga ki te noho tahi me aku tamariki. I a rātou e tamariki ana, he maha ngā wā i mahi ahau moemoeā mō te āheinga o te noho hei pāpā noho ki te kāinga hei noho tahi me ngā tamariki, hei mātakitaki i tō rātou tipu, awhiawhi i a rātou i te rā katoa, ā, i whakangungu hoki i a rātou ki te whutupaoro, ki te pēnitimana rānei, ahakoa ko tēhea te mea e pai ana ki a rātou. I pōuri ahau i ia wā ka hoki mai ahau ki te kāinga ki ngā tamariki e moe ana, ā, i whakaaro ahau mēnā he manaakitanga huna tēnei; he whai wāhi ki te whakakapi i te wā i ngaro. He whai wāhi ki te tango wā mai i te oranga pakihi uaua.
Koia ahau i noho ai hei tāne noho whare, ā, ko taku wahine te kaimahi mō te whānau.
I te tīmatanga, he āhua rerekē te 'noho' i runga i ana whiwhinga moni, te tono moni ki a ia mō ngā whakapaunga o te whare, me te whakamārama i te moni i pau. He pai ki a mātou kāore i whakaritea āna pūkenga mahi kāinga me aku pūkenga, nā te mea kei ngā whenua rerekē mātou, ā, kāore he pūtake mō te whakataurite, ki te kore, e tino mōhio ana ahau kua rahua ahau.
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Kua pai ake te āhua o tō māua whanaungatanga
I te mea kua ngaro te mahi, kua iti ake te ahotea, ā, ka taea e au te mahi i ngā mea kāore i taea e au i tēnei wā. I aro nui atu ahau ki a ia, ā, i aroha ki a ia i tana hokinga mai i te mahi. Nui atu tā māua hononga i mua, nā te mea, he mea noa iho te whakataurite i te kāinga me te mahi, nō reira, he nui ake te wā mō māua hei tokorua. I hararei māua i ngā mutunga wiki, ā, me te mea kei te mōhio anō māua tetahi ki tetahi.
Mō te wā tuatahi i roto i tōku ao, i whai wāhi ahau ki te whai i tētahi mahi whakangahau. I horoia e au te puehu o taku kāmera DSLR, ā, ka tīmata ki te whai i tētahi akoranga whakaahua. I taea e au te whiwhi i ētahi whakaahua marena me ngā whakaahua pāti, ā, i whiwhi moni pēke ahau. Kātahi ka tīmata ahau ki te tuku kauhau i ngā kāreti MBA. Ae, ehara i te mea i whiwhi moni nui ahau engari he pai, ā, kāore mātou i manukanuka ki te kore rawa o te moni whiwhi. I whiwhi taku wahine i tētahi putea utu nui, nō reira kāore mātou i pāngia e te ahotea o te ngaronga o taku mahi. Nō reira, he ngāwari ake te urutau ki te ao hou i tā mātou i whakaaro ai.
He hoa mahi māua ko taku wahine. Kāore māua e hiahia ana ki te whakataetae.
He hoa akomanga māua, ā, i mōhio māua ki ngā ngoikoretanga o tētahi ki tētahi, me te mea nui ake, ki ngā kaha. He hoa piri māua i mua, ā, i muri mai he hoa rangatira, ā, ināianei kei te whakahou ake māua i tō māua whanaungatanga. Nō reira, kāore i puta te whakapehapeha i waenganui i a māua.
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E maioha ana ia ki taku mahi
I whakaae māua he rerekē ā māua huarahi ki te tiaki tamariki, ā, kāore ia e pokanoa ki te huarahi e whakatipu ai ahau i ngā tamariki hei kaitiaki matua. Mō te wā tuatahi, i kite ahau i tētahi panoni i roto i te huarahi e taunekeneke ai taku wahine ki ahau. I whai wā ia ki te mihi mai ki ahau, ki te whakamoemiti mai mō tētahi mahi pai, ā, i tukua ahau kia whakahaere i ngā whakataunga mō ngā āhuatanga o te kāinga. He kapa pai tonu māua, ā, nā tēnei waiaro i āwhina i a māua ki te urutau ki ngā tūranga o tētahi ki tētahi me te kore e taumaha. I puta noa tēnei panoni i roto i te āhua tūturu, i roto i tētahi āhua kāore au i te whakaaro he tangata whakahihi ahau, engari i te whakaaro he maioha ahau mō te mangere i kitea e au i roto i te whare.
I kite ahau i te nui ake o te whakapono ki tana huarahi ki te whanaungatanga ā, me kī atu ahau, kāore au e amuamu ana mō āna mahi tinihanga hou i roto i te rūma moe.
I tēnei rā, kua tīmata taku whakahaere i tētahi rōpū whakangungu umanga. He tīmatanga noa iho tēnei, ā, kāore au i te tino mōhio kei hea ahau e ahu mai ai i tēnei kaupapa. I tēnei wā, e makona ana ahau ki taku tūranga hei kaitiaki kāinga, ā, e harikoa ana hoki ahau ki te whakatipu i aku tamariki.
Ka aro atu hoki mātou ki ngā tumanakohanga pāpori e pā ana ki tēnei momo whakaritenga. Ka aro atu mātou ki ngā pātai pēnei i:
Me pēhea tā tātou whakahaere i ngā whakataunga pūtea me ngā whanaketanga mana?
Ko tētahi o ngā pātai e tino pā ana ki a tātou hei whānau he wahine e rapu moni ana, he tāne e noho ana ki te kāinga, ko te āhua o tā tātou whakahaere i ngā whakataunga pūtea me te kore taurite o te mana ka ara ake.
- Ngā Kōrero Moni Auau: He wā motuhake tā mātou mō ngā kōrerorero mō ā mātou pūtea. Kei roto i tēnei ko te whakatakoto tahua, ngā whakapaunga, ngā penapena, me ngā whāinga pūtea ā meake nei.
- Te Whakawhitiwhiti: Kei a māua katoa te urunga atu ki ngā mōhiohio pūtea katoa, ā, e tuwhera ana hoki māua ki ā māua tikanga whakapau moni.
- Whakatau Tiritahi: Ahakoa ko taku wahine te moni whiwhi matua, mā māua tahi e whakatau kaupapa pūtea.
- Te Whakanui i ngā Mahi a Tētahi, a Tētahi: E mōhio ana mātou, e maioha ana hoki ki te uara motuhake e kawea mai ana e tātou katoa ki tō mātou whānau. Ko tā taku wahine takoha pūtea he mea nui, pērā i taku tūranga ki te whakahaere i te whare me te tiaki i ā mātou tamariki.
- Pūtea ohorere: He pūtea āwhina ā-rōpū tā mātou hei utu i ngā whakapaunga ohorere, e whakarato ana i te haumarutanga pūtea me te rangimarie o te hinengaro.
- Whakaaetanga: E mārama ana mātou ka rerekē pea ngā āhuatanga. Mēnā ka rerekē te whiwhinga moni a taku wahine, ka whakatau rānei ahau ki te mahi wā-wāhanga, ka pai mātou ki te whakarerekē i tā mātou mahere pūtea me ā mātou kawenga.
E whai mana ana māua, e whai uara ana hoki i roto i ā māua mahi, ā, e whai wāhi ana tēnei ki te oranga whānau harikoa, angitu hoki.
FAQs
1. Me pēhea tāu whakatau i ngā tumanakohanga me ngā whakatau a te hapori mō ōu tūranga?
He pono kua tino pūmau ngā tūranga ira tangata tuku iho i roto i tō tātou hapori, nō reira kua tino tūtaki tātou ki ētahi o ngā tukemata ara ake me ngā whakaaro kāore i tonoa. Kua ako tātou ki te arotahi ki ngā mea e pai ana mō tātou, me te karo i ngā whakaaro kino. Ka kitea hoki e tātou te kaha i roto i te hono atu ki ētahi atu whānau kua awhi i ngā tūranga kore tuku iho.
2. Me pēhea e whakarite ai koe kia whai mana, kia whai mana hoki ngā hoa tokorua i roto i tēnei whakaritenga?
Ka whakapau kaha māua ki te mihi me te maioha ki ngā takoha a tētahi ki tētahi. Ka whakanui māua i ngā whakatutukitanga mahi a taku wahine me āna patunga tapu hei oranga mō tō māua whānau. I taua wā anō, ka mōhio māua ki te hiranga o taku tūranga ki te atawhai i ā māua tamariki me te pupuri i tētahi kāinga aroha. Ka whakatairanga anō hoki māua i te whakapau i te wā kounga ki te taha o te tokorua me te whānau.
3. He aha ētahi o ngā wero nui rawa atu kua pā ki a koe?
Ko tētahi wero ko te whakahaere i te kawenga hinengaro o ngā kawenga o te whare me te tiaki tamariki. He uaua pea i ētahi wā te aroturuki i ngā mea katoa. Ko tētahi atu wero ko te noho mokemoke i te taha pāpori; ka taea e te noho hei mātua kāinga te noho mokemoke. He mea nui kia whakapau kaha ki te hono atu ki ētahi atu pakeke me te pupuri i te oranga pāpori.
Thoughts Final
Ahakoa ngā wero o te whakatere i tēnei ara tauhou, he nui atu ngā hua i puta. He tino whai hua te kite i te whanaketanga o ā tātou tamariki, te poipoi i tētahi hononga kaha i runga i te whakaute tetahi i tetahi, me te whakahē i ngā tikanga tawhito.
Ko te kōrero mō tō mātou whānau he tohu e kitea ai te harikoa me te angitu i roto i ngā momo āhua maha. Ahakoa e piri ana koe ki ngā tūranga tuku iho, e hanga rānei i tō ake ara, ko te mea nui ko te awhi i te aroha, te whakaute, me te tautoko pumau e herea ai te whānau.
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Ko te aroha te mana tino kaha rawa atu i runga i tēnei ao.
Ā, he kōrero anō tēnei e whakamāori ana i tēnei.
Ki te aroha kōrua tetahi ki tetahi, kāore he panoni nui e ranea. Aroha.