I hiahia ia ki te aroha, i aroha rānei ki te hiahia?

He aha te mea ka puta ina panaia te tangata e te aroha ki te hiahia anake , ā, ka tīmata ia ki te aroha ki te hiahia, me te pupuri i te aroha kia tawhiti? He kōrero tēnei mō tētahi tangata i hiahia ki te aroha anake, engari i mamae tōna ngākau, kātahi ka mawhiti atu i a ia mō ngā tau tae noa ki tana whakatau ki te tango i te aroha i tōna ao, ā, ki te whai i te hiahia anake. I mutu tana hoatu i te hiahia ki te hiranga katoa o tōna ao, ā, kāore i hiahia ki tētahi whanaungatanga i te wā e mamae ana tōna ngākau. Nō reira, i roto i te tautohetohe i waenga i te hiahia me te aroha i roto i tōna hinengaro, ko te hiahia te mea i toa. He aha? Pānuihia tonu…

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Te ngākau pouri

I a ia e pakeke haere ana, tae noa ki te mutunga o ōna tau 1920, ka tīmata ia te whakakeke. I aroha ia ki tētahi kōtiro i te kāreti. I te taenga ki tana whakawhiwhinga tohu, ka kitea e ia kei te tinihanga ia i a ia. I tino pōuri tōna ngākau. I roto i tōna tamarikitanga me tōna taiohinga, ko tana hiahia anake kia harikoa, ā, ko te wā i noho tahi ai ia me tēnei kōtiro i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga, koinei pea te wā tino harikoa o ngā wā katoa.

Pānuihia atu: He aha te hiranga o te hiahia kia mārama ai ki te aroha

I kaha ia ki te wareware i a ia. He maha ngā pō kore moe i pau i a ia e whakaaro ana ki tōna aituā, nāna anō i tinihanga. Ka tīmata anō ia ki te whakaipoipo. Me tētahi rōpū hoa, ka tīmata ia ki te haere ki ngā karapu, ki te whare takaro me te hikoi, kotahi te kaupapa. I hiahia ia ki te moe. Ināianei ko te hiahia anake tana i hiahia ai, ā, kāore ia i hiahia ki te aroha. I puritia e ia ōna kare ā-roto kia mau, ā, tukua kia riro i a ia te hiahia.

I roto i ana mahi katoa ki te kimi hoa moepuku maha, i whakaaro ahau mēnā i roto i a ia, ko te hiahia anake kia ngaro tana mamae i te tinihangatia e tana hoa o mua, he hiahia nui rānei ia. Nā te mea kāore e taea te whakakore i te meka i aroha nui ia ki te kōtiro i te kāreti, ā, ko tana hiahia kia waiho te hiahia nui hei mea nui ko te moepuku utu anake.

Pānuihia atu: Te whakaatu a te pūrākau o Kama rāua ko Rati i te whakanuinga o te aroha kua warewaretia i Īnia

I kite ia kāore tana hiahia e whai pānga ki tana kotiro

I tae atu tana kōrero aroha me tana hiahia ki tana hoa wahine, ā, i tumanako puku ia ka hae ia ki ana mahi, ka hoki mai ki a ia. Kāore he mea pērā i tupu, ā, kāore ia i toro atu ki a ia, ā, ka tīmata ia ki te totohu haere ki roto i te poka aroha kore o te hiahia. I te mutunga, kāore he mea nui ake, ā, ka tīmata ia ki te pārekareka ki ana mahi. te moepuku kore here ngā mahi maminga. I tino tukua ia e te hiahia, ā, ko te mura whakamutunga o te aroha i whai tumanakohanga mō te aranga mai kua ngaro atu ake ake.

Te kimi i te aroha mō te hiahia

He kōrero rongonui tēnei mō tētahi tangata ngākau maru e hiahia ana ki te rapu utu mā te moe tahi. I a ia e ngana ana ki te whakakore i tōna mamae mā te moe tahi, ka tino riro i a ia tōna taha tairongo e tōna aroha hou ki te hiahia. Kāore i taea e au te kore e whakaaro, mēnā ko tōna tamarikitanga, ko tana whakatipuranga e tētahi whaea takakau, ko te kōtiro rānei i whiriwhiri i te hiahia nui i te aroha te kawenga mō ngā kōwhiringa i roto i tōna ao.

Engari mōna, i mārama ahau mō te tini, ka waiho te taatai ​​hei hihiri ki te mahi i tetahi mea i te ao. He tikanga kino tēnā? Kāo, he tino mahi ia, ā, he tino pono ki ana hiahia ki ngā wāhine katoa e tūtaki ana ia. Kāore ia e oati ki a rātou he marena , he whanaungatanga rānei. "Kaua rawa e kī kāore. Mā wai e mōhio ka hinga anō ahau ki te aroha!" ka mea mai ia ki ahau i ētahi wā.

He kōrero aroha me te hiahia

I pātai atu ahau ki a ia i tētahi wā, he tino pai ki a ia tēnei momo noho tahi , ā, he tino ngahau rawa atu rānei? I whakaae ia i te tīmatanga he mea hei wareware noa i tana hoa wahine, he ngana noa ki te whakaora i tōna ngākau maru. Kātahi ka tīmata ia ki te aroha ki te hiahia. Ka tumanako ia ki ngā wā moepuku, ki ngā momo rerekētanga, ki ngā mea i akohia e ngā wāhine katoa i te moenga , ā, ko te mea kāore he mea nui atu i te moepuku, i hari ai ia. I whakaaro ia kāore he wehi ki te tiaki i te ngākau maru i muri mai. Nō reira, ka horapa ngā hononga ki ngā hararei, ki ngā tina, ki ngā noho ki ngā wāhi hararei mutunga wiki, ā, i ia wā ka hoki mai ia ki te kāinga me te whakarite kia haere. Ko tēnei oranga anake tana i hiahia ai. Kāore he mea i hiahiatia e ia, ā, ko ngā wāhine i tūtaki ai ia i pai hoki ki te hiahia , ā, kāore i hiahia ki te whai hononga.

Kei te patuki te aroha i te tatau?

I tā māua tūtakitanga whakamutunga, i kōrero mai ia i tētahi mea tino whakamere. I tūtaki ia ki tētahi wahine i te pāti a tētahi hoa, ā, ka honoa rāua. I muri i tō rāua pō tuatahi, ka kite ia he rerekē tetahi mea engari kāore i taea e ia te tohu he aha te mea. Kātahi ka tae mai tetahi mea ki a ia i tana hononga e whai ake nei, i muri i te tina i tētahi wharekai papai, ā, kāore ia i tino hiahia ki te moe tahi me ia. Ka whakarērea ia e ia ki te kāinga, ka hoki ki te kāinga, ā, kāore he moe tahi werawera. Kāore i taea e ia te mārama he aha te mea, engari ko te wahine anake i tūtaki ia ki a ia i te pāti a te hoa, ā, kāore te moe tahi me tētahi atu i roto i tōna hinengaro.

Mō ngā wiki tuatahi, i kī ia ko te hiahia anake ki a ia, ā, ka moe tahi rāua, engari kāore ia i maia ki te pātai ko wai kei te moe tahi tonu rāua, mehemea rānei ko ia anake. Kāore anō kia herea te whanaungatanga, engari he momo hiahia anō kei te kitea e rāua i roto i te moenga o tētahi ki tētahi, e toru, e whā rānei ngā wā i te wiki. He mea kāore anō kia tupu ki tētahi atu i mua. Kāore tonu ia e hiahia ki te whakapono he aroha tēnei, nā te mea kāore anō ia kia tino mōhio kua ora tōna ngākau kia whakamātau anō, engari ka taea e koe te kī kei te pai ia ki te hiahia ki tētahi wahine takakau i tēnei wā, ā, e hiahia ana ia kia mau tonu taua āhua mō tētahi wā. Heoi anō, mā te ao tūroa e whakatau, e ai ki a ia.

Ehara tō takoha i te koha aroha . Mā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe tonu mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

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