Kua whakarērea ahau e taku hoa pai me taku hoa tāne, ā, kei te whakaipoipo rāua

E hoa,

I kōrero kino taku hoa ki taku hoa tāne mōku, i whakarērea ahau e ia, ā, kei te whakaipoipo rāua inaianei.

E riri ana ahau, ā, kāore e taea te wareware i tana mahi paru kia riro mai ai i a ia. E pōuri ana hoki ahau i taku hoa o mua kua tinihangatia ahau, nā te mea i whiriwhiria e ia te whakapono ki taku hoa, kaua ki ahau, whai muri i ngā tautoko katoa i hoatu e ahau ki a ia i te matenga o ōna mātua, me ngā whakapau kaha katoa ki a ia mō ngā tau e toru.

E pōhēhē ana ahau mēnā i tukua e au tēnei tinihanga o te whakawhirinakitanga, ā, mēnā koinā, he aha. E riri ana ahau ki a rāua tokorua, ki ahau anō hoki mō te āhua o taku noho i tēnei rā. Kāore e taea e au te whakakore i te mamae me te riri. Me aha ahau?

E kī ana a Aman Bhonsle:

E te wahine rangatahi,

Kua ngaro i a koe tētahi whanaungatanga me tētahi hoahoa. Ko te mamae me te riri e pā ana ki a koe i tēnei wā he tauhohenga tūturu ki te mate. Pātai atu ki a koe anō mēnā i tua atu i te mamae o te tinihanga e pā ana ki a koe i tēnei wā, kei te wehi anō hoki koe kei 'kāore pea koe i te pai rawa'?

He raruraru whānui te whakakorekore i a koe anō, engari he wāhi onge tēnei māu ki te whakarerekē i tō tirohanga ki a koe anō.

Anei ētahi kōrero hei whakaaroaro māu:

• He maha ngā mea e pā ana ki a tātou i roto i ō tātou ao he mea tūpono noa iho, nō reira ehara te whakapae i a tātou anō i te kōwhiringa pai.
• Ka hiahia koe ki ētahi wā hei tukatuka i ō kare ā-roto.
• Tērā pea ka pōhēhē te āhua i te tīmatanga, engari kāore he kino o te tangihanga mō tētahi mea kua ngaro. Inaa, he huarahi hauora tēnei hei whakatau i te mamae.
• Me hoki anō koe ā tōna wā ki te tirotiro i ō kaupapa matua.

Kaua e pātai "He aha ahau i pēnei ai?", engari pātai atu ki a koe anō "I whai wāhi atu ahau ki tētahi mea i tukua ai tēnei kia pā ki ahau?"

Kua "maru" tō whakaaro mō tō ake mana i tēnei tinihanga, ā, e mārama ana kei te ngana koe ki te mārama ki tēnei āhuatanga i tēnei wā tonu. Kia manawanui ki a koe anō.

Ko te mamae te mea tino pai o te taiao hei whakaoho i te huringa. E ako ana i a tātou kia mataara, kia tiaki hoki i te taiao, kia ako ai tātou ki te tiaki i ō tātou ake painga.

Ahakoa ko tō hoa me tō hoa tāne te kawenga mō tā rāua whakatau ki te whanonga i roto i te āhua i whara ai koe, he kawenga anō hoki nāu kia ako kia pai ake te whiriwhiri i te huarahi e uru ai koe ki te oranga o ētahi atu tāngata, me te tūranga e 'tautapahia ana' ki a koe i te nuinga o ngā wā i roto i ngā huihuinga rōpū.

Ui ia koe ano

• He tino ngāwari rawa tōu whakaaro?
• He tino kuware rawa koe?
• Kāore rānei koe i te tino arohia e ētahi atu?
• He maha ngā wā ka KŌREROtia mai ki a koe ngā mea me mahi e koe?
• Kāore ianei koe e whakapuaki i ō kare ā-roto me te mārama?

Me whakaae koe ki tō tūranga i roto i tēnei āhuatanga. Ehara tēnei i te mea ngāwari ki te mahi.

Ko tō noho mai i roto i tōna ao i te matenga o ōna mātua he toronga atu anō tēnei o ō kare ā-roto e aroha ana koe ki a ia, ā, heoi anō, kāore e rite te hua o ngā mahi pai katoa ki a ia, nā te mea he pukuriri te tangata, ā, i ētahi wā ka whakaaro pea koe he 'tika' tō rātou, he 'kore whakawhetai' rānei.

Kia mōhio koe ki tō tūnga, ā, kia hoki anō te mana whakahaere. Whakaharatauhia te māia, akona te kī 'Kāo' 'ki te wāhi e tika ana'.

Arotakehia ō ake hiahia, kaua rawa e warewarehia.

Haunga tēnā, ka taea e koe te whakatau i te pouri mā te noho pukumahi, te noho tahi me ō hoa tata, te whakatairanga i tō hauora (tukuna aua endorphins!), te whai wāhi ki te tiaki i a koe anō (haere ki tētahi hararei poto, ki tētahi wāhi mirimiri rānei) te kai rānei i tāu whakaaturanga tino pai me te kai reka. Haere i taua hikoi roa, ka titiro ake ki ngā whetū! He ao mutunga kore ngā mea ka taea e koe te tatari mai.

Kia mōhio koe koinei te tīmatanga o tētahi haerenga nui hou māu.

Ko nga mea pai katoa

aman

I moe tāku hoa mahi i te mahi, engari kua wehe māua ināianei. Me pēhea taku whakatau?

Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.

Tirohia ta maatau Tukanga Etita

Tutaki ki ta maatau Poari Arotake

Tiri Urupare

He aha ō urupare?

×

āwhina Pūrongohia he Hapa He mea anō (kōrerohia mai he aha te horopaki)

Tuku