E mahi tahi ana māua, nō reira kāore e taea e au te mawhiti atu i a ia
Ripanga o Ihirangi
Ka kōrero a Sneha i tana kōrero: "He wahine atamai, he ātaahua hoki ahau, e 25 tau te pakeke, e mahi pai ana. Ko te angitu me te mahi uaua kua noho hei hoa mōku i tōku ao katoa, ā, kāore he wāhi mō tētahi atu mahi whakangahau. He hoa mahi ātaahua a Avinash, e 32 tau te pakeke, ā, he maha ngā kaupapa i mahi tahi māua. I mihi tonu ahau ki a ia, ā, i tētahi wā i pērā ai tana mahi."
"I nui ake ngā mahi i ngā wā tina, i whai tikanga ake ngā kaupapa, ā, i ataahua ngā haerenga mana. Kiia he pūrākau aroha pōuriuri, he tūponotanga rānei, koinā anake ngā mea i kitea e mātou."
"E ai ki te kōrero, ka mutu ngā mea pai katoa. I whakarērea ahau e Avinash i te wā ohorere, kāore he otinga i puta. He tata taku mahi tahi me ia, ā, ko ngā mamae o te tata me te wehenga e haehae ana i tōku ngākau kua whara. Ko te kakara o tana heu i muri i te heu e mōhiotia ana ka waiho ahau kia pōuri, kia hiahia hoki. Me pēhea taku haere tonu me te kore ia? He ara anō kei waho i tōku raruraru?"
Ehara tēnei i te mea onge. He pōturi ngā mahi o ēnei rā, he roa hoki ngā hāora mahi. I ēnei wā, ka noho pea ngā hoa noho noa hei pūnaha tautoko mō tētahi ki tētahi. Ki ētahi he hiahia, he mea hou, he mea whakamīharo rānei, ki ētahi he moe tahi noa iho i te pō kotahi. Ā, ina mutu, ka mutu te oranga mō te tangata kua mahue. Nā, me pēhea te aro atu ki tēnei āhuatanga?
He pai te tangi mō te mate
Ina mutu te whanaungatanga, he mea noa te pouri me te tangi mō te mate. Tērā pea ka tangi te tangata, ka tukuna ngā kare ā-roto, ka kōrero rānei ki ngā hoa kia pai ake ai te āhua. Ehara tēnei i te tukanga whakaora i te pō kotahi, nā te mea he roa te wā e pau ai te wā ki te tango i te mamae mai i te pūnaha. Tērā pea ka tata ki te toru marama te roa kia taea ai e koe te whakaae ki te āhuatanga, ā, i muri i tēnā ka rite koe ki te titiro whakamua. Nō reira, kaua e aukati i a koe anō ki te tangi, ki te patu rānei i ngā urunga. Tērā pea ka whiriwhiri koe ki te tākaro pere i runga i tana pikitia e iri ana i te pakitara. Kāore he aha.
Whakaaetia tō tūranga i roto i taua mea
Tuatahi, me mārama koe he rite tonu te kawenga o ngā tokorua mō te hui i te tari, ā, me whakaae koe ki tāu mahi. Ki te kore he whakapae, kua tino whakahaeretia te āhuatanga. Ki te whakapae te tangata i mahue i te hoa rangatira i te hoa rangatira, kei roto ia i te āhua o te patunga, ā, he tino ngāwari te mimiti o te aroha ki a ia anō. Ina tangohia e te tangata te kawenga, ā, ka whakaae ki tāna mahi, kei te tuku huarahi rātou mō te whakaora, nā te mea e tino mōhio ana rātou ki te āhuatanga.
Pānui e pā ana: He aha te uaua ki te tuku i a koe, ahakoa kāore te tangata e aroha ana ki a koe?
Kati te ngana ki te hono atu ki a rātou
E whakaarohia ana mā te kati i te hononga ka puta te māramatanga me te whakaae. Tērā pea ka ngana ētahi o ngā hoa aroha kua whakarērea ki te whai i tā rātou hoa o mua ki te rapu i te take mō te wehenga, ki te ngana rānei ki te whakaara anō i ngā kare ā-roto kua ngaro. Engari mō te tangata nāna i whakapuaki te wehenga, kāore pea ēnei mea e pā ana, nā te mea kua neke atu tōna hinengaro i mua i te wehenga tinana. Nō reira, kaua e tukua ki te whakamatautauranga o te whakapā atu ki tō hoa o mua me te tumanako kia houhia te rongo, nā te mea ka nui ake te mamae o tō wairua. I ngā wā e puta ake ai tēnei hiahia, ngana ki te tahuri i tō aro mā te haere tahi me ngā hoa, me te whānau rānei. Kaua e noho mokemoke i tēnei wā. Ka memeha te hiahia, ā, ka iti ake te āwangawanga mōu.
Hurihia tō mahi/tari mēnā ka taea
Ko te noho tata i muri i te wehenga ka whakanui ake i te mamae mō te tangata i mahue. Ko te mātakitaki i tō hoa o mua e ora ana i te oranga noa ka tino mamae rawa atu. He mea pai ki a koe te rapu mahi rerekē, te tono rānei kia huri ki tētahi tari rerekē. Mā tēnei ka ora ai koe i te mamae o te tūtaki ki tētahi hoa o mua kāore e aro.
Ina kore e taea e koe te whakarerekē i tō mahi/tari
Ki te mea he uaua ki a koe te whakawhiti tari, mahi rānei i tēnei wā tonu, kaua e mataku. Ngāna kia noho atawhai ki a rātou. Ki te mea kei te mahi tahi kōrua i tētahi kaupapa, kia whai wā ki te whakaoti i te awatea, ā, tono kia hoki mai anō i te ata e whai ake nei. Ki te kore e taea te karo i ngā hāora pōuri, ngana ki te tāpiri atu i tētahi atu tangata. Ki te kore tēnei e tupu, me whakatakoto mārama he rohe, ā, me piri ki tēnā. Tērā pea ka whakararuraru ngā taiao mōhio me ngā maharatanga uaua i a koe, engari kaua e tukua ki aua kare ā-roto poto. Koinei te wā kia kaha tonu, kia pumau tonu.
Whakauru ki ngā akoranga hou, tīmata rānei i tētahi mahi whakangahau
Kia whiti koe i te taumata o te tangihanga kaha, ko te mahi e whai ake nei ko te whakapau kaha ki tō ao. Whakauru atu ki tētahi akoranga hou i roa koe e hiahia ana, ki te tīmata rānei i tētahi mahi whakangahau e tino arohaina ana e koe. Ina pukumahi koe ki ngā mea e pārekareka ana ki a koe, ka iti ake te wā ki te whakaaroaro ki ngā mea kāore i te tino kitea.
Ko te wehenga tēnā; ko te mutunga tēnā o tētahi whanaungatanga, ehara i te mea ko tō oranga.
Ahakoa he roa te wā e mārama ai ki tēnei, ka whiti te rā ka taea e te tangata te neke whakamua me te hiahia.
Engari i mua i te puta o tēnei mea, me ahu mai i a koe te whakatau kia titiro whakamua. Ina whakatau koe ki te neke whakamua, kia kaha, kia pumau ahakoa te aha, ka hoki mai te mana i roto i ō ringaringa.
Nō reira, kaua e ngakaukore, kei te tatari mai a āpōpō ki te whakaara ake i tō wairua ngoikore. Kāore ianei koe e hiahia ki te whakahoki mai i ō whakaaro pai?
Kāore tō koha e kiia he kaupapa aroha takohaMā tēnei ka taea e Bonobology te kawe mai i ngā mōhiotanga hou me ngā mōhiotanga hou ki a koe i roto i tā mātou whainga ki te āwhina i te tangata katoa o te ao ki te ako me pēhea te mahi i tetahi mea.
Kia marino.. kaua e mahi i tetahi mea. Kaua e rapu whakamarie i te huarahi e rapu ai i tētahi atu hoa tāne/hoa aroha mō tētahi wā poto. Me whakaaro ki a ia me he hoa mahi koe mēnā kei te mahi tahi kōrua i te kaupapa kotahi.
Kaua e tīmata, kaua hoki e whakatenatena i te kōrero pakupaku..tērā pea ka roa te wā e puta ai ngā kare ā-roto piripono. Kaua e tukua ia kia hoki mai anō mēnā ka ngana ia ki te hoki mai..Ā tōna wā ka mōhio koe ki te aha me mahi.
Ko te mea i mārama ko te kore he aha te tangihanga mō te mate. Ngā mihi…
Āe, ahakoa he pono, he rūpahu rānei te hononga. He ngaronga tonu te ngaronga.
Tokorua ōku hoa tata e raru ana i tēnei. Ko te mea nui, ahakoa te nui o tā rātou hiahia, kāore e taea e rātou te whakakore. E mārama ana hoki ahau he aha. He rite ā rātou hoa aroha ki te hau hou, e mōhio ana rātou kei te kitea rātou. He okiokinga tēnei mai i ngā mahi hoha o ia rā. Ae, me āwhina rātou nā te mea kei te pouri hoki rātou. I tēnei wā, kāore ā rātou tāne i te mōhio engari ina mōhio rātou, ka tino pōuri!
He hau pirau ēnei hoa aroha. He wā poto noa iho. Ko te mea nui ko tāu e hiahia ana i roto i tō ao. He hua poto mā te ahotea, he rangimārie mō te wā roa rānei me te iti o te whakaae.