He aha te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine, me pēhea te mahi?

He aha te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine? Āe, hei tauira, he tohu kei te huri haere te wā! Ko ngā mea i kiia i mua he tikanga tuku iho, he tikanga whakaaetia mō te ira tangata, kua huri kētia inaianei, ā, he tika kia whakaae tātou, kia urutau hoki ki ēnei kōwhiringa hou.

I ngā wā o mua, i whakaaetia, i whakatōkia hoki e tātou katoa tētahi tauira rongonui kotahi mō ngā whanaungatanga aroha, ngā hononga marena rānei. Ko te tāne e rapu moni ana, e aro nui ana ki te mahi, me te wahine e noho puku ana, e tiaki kāinga ana. Engari he aha te mea ka puta ina hurihia tēnei ariā? Ina whakawhitiwhiti mana te tāne me te wahine?

Ta-da, he whanaungatanga wāhine kei a koe — he whanaungatanga kore-tūturu e āhei ai ngā wāhine me ngā tāne ki te whakarerekē i ngā tūranga mana me te rangatiratanga. Nā, he aha te tikanga o te FLR? He hauora? Ka taea e tētahi whanaungatanga pēnei te angitu? Kei konei mātou hei whakautu i ō pātai katoa.

He aha te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine?

Nā, he aha te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine? Ko te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine, ko te marena rānei e arahina ana e te wahine, he wāhanga o tētahi ngaru hou o ngā whanaungatanga me tētahi mea rerekē hei tuku. Koinei te momo whakatairanga wahine e whai hua ana ki ngā tāne.

Ina kōrero tātou mō ngā tohu whanaungatanga, ngā FLR rānei, e whakahaerehia ana e te wahine, e pā ana ki tētahi āhuatanga kei reira te ngā kaha o te mana i roto i te whanaungatanga he mea rerekē nā te mea ko te wahine te rangatira i roto i te hononga. Inaianei, tera pea koe e pātai, he aha te tikanga o te "rangatira"? He rite tonu ki te mana rangatira, ko ngā wāhine te kaiwhakahaere o te whānau, te whakatau i ngā whakatau nui, me te whakamahi i te nuinga o te mana, ko te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine e whai ana i ngā mea katoa o runga ake nei. Me wehewehe tēnei:

• Ko te tikanga o te FLR e horapa atu ana i tua atu i te whakatūnga ōritetanga i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, ka piki ake te tauine hei painga mō ngā wāhine ki te whiriwhiri ko wai rātou e hiahia ana. Ka taea hoki e ngā tāne te whakatau i ā rātou mahi.
• I roto i tētahi āhuatanga tino pai, ko te tikanga o te FLR ka taea e te hoa wahine te whai tūranga rangatira i runga ake i tana hoa (ehara i te mea i roto i te rūma moe anake). Ko tōna tikanga he whakawhitiwhiti mana i waenga i te tāne me te wahine.
• E whai ana kia eke ki tētahi taumata hou o te ōritetanga engari kāore e taea te whakatutuki me te kore he whakapau kaha mai i ngā hoa e rua, me te wairua hauora o te whakahaere. Nā te mea, he whakatipuranga o te mana rangatira, nga mahi ira tangata tuku iho, me te whakahāwea ira tangata e pā ana ki tēnei i konei — he mahi nui tēnei!

Ahakoa he uaua te kimi i ngā tatauranga tika mō ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e ngā wāhine (nā te mea he maha ngā tāngata kāore e tuwhera ana mō ō rātou momo āhua noho rerekē e pā ana ki te wahine hei kaiwhakahaere mō tētahi whanaungatanga), he rangahau tata E ai ki ngā pūrongo a dominantguide.com, 72% o ngā kaiwhakautu i uru atu, kua uru atu rānei ki tētahi FLR.

Ko tetahi atu rangahau I runga i ngā tatauranga whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine, e whakaatu ana tata ki te 60% o ngā tāne me ngā wāhine i uiuitia kua whakamātau i te FLR. I te nuinga, ko ēnei ōrau teitei e whakaū ana kei te piki haere te rongonui o ngā kōwhiringa whanaungatanga rerekē pēnei i ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine.

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He pēhea te mahi a te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine?

He aha te whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine, ā, me pēhea te angitu i roto i tō tātou hapori patriarchal? Ahakoa i ngā wāhi tino ahu whakamua o te ao, ngā tāne e mau ana i te tūranga matua i roto i ngā whanaungatanga e kitea whānuitia ana, e whakaaetia ana hoki. Ahakoa te kaha o tā tātou ngana ki te whakatū i te ōritetanga i waenga i ngā ira tangata, ka ngokingoki haere mai tō tātou whakatipuranga me te whakatipuranga hapori, i tētahi ara, i tētahi ara.

Ahakoa e noho tahi ana te tāne me te wahine i te utu ōrite, e tunu kai tahi ana, ā, he tūtohi horoi kakahu anō hoki hei whakatau ko wai ka mahi i te mahi i tēhea rā, ka piri tonu tātou ki ngā mahi whanaungatanga roa-poto, kāore e wetewetehia. Haunga te huri i ngā tikanga tawhito o ngā tikanga me ngā mahi a te ira tangata, ko ētahi o ngā tohu whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine ko:

• Ka tukuna te mana ki ngā ringa o te hoa wahine
• He rerekē ngā taumata whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine i runga i te tūranga e mau ana i a ia — he tūranga e hiahia ana ki te mana me te whakamana.
• Ka tirohia anō te āhua o te moepuku, ka hua ake he whakamātautau me ngā taumata hou o te makona moepuku.
• I te wā kotahi, ka tukuna te tūranga o te hoa tāne ki muri i roto i ngā whakatau kaupapa, me nga kawenga putea
• Ka taea e ngā tāne te tuku i te mana, ā, ka nui ake te ngoikore
• Ka taea e ngā FLR te whakarei ake i te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero, ā, ka hua ake he hononga kare ā-roto hōhonu ake

Nā, kua oti i a tātou ngā kaupapa matua te kōrero, me ruku hohonu ake tātou ki te ao o ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine.

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Ka taea te whakarōpū i ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine ki ngā momo rerekē i runga i te kaha o te mana whakahaere. Kei roto i ēnei ko:

1. Mana whakahaere taumata-iti

I tenei momo hononga whaiāipo, he iti te mana o te wahine. Ahakoa he whanaungatanga rerekē tonu tēnei, arā, ka tukuna he mana whakahaere ōrite ki ngā hoa e rua mō te whakatau kaupapa, kāore i te maha ngā wā ka kiia tēnei whanaungatanga iti te mana whakahaere hei paerewa koura mō ngā FLR. I konei, kāore pea te wahine i te tino rangatira o te whanaungatanga engari kāore tonu i raro i te mana o tana hoa.

2. Mana whakahaere taumata-waenga

Ka neke ngā taumata whanaungatanga e arahina ana e ngā wāhine ki te FLR mana whakahaere taurite ina mana whakahaere wahine Ka kitea whānuitia. I konei, ka koa te hoa tāne ki tana tūranga ngohengohe ake i roto i te whanaungatanga, ā, ka whakaae hoki. Ka whakaaetia te wahine hei tangata whai mana ake e whakatau ana i ngā whakataunga o ia rā, o ia rā. Heoi anō, ka whakatau anō hoki ia ko tēhea te rohe me te wā e okioki ai ki te tākaro mana.

3. Mana whakahaere kua tautuhia

Ko te FLR mana whakahaere kua tautuhia he hononga mahi tahi e whakamāramahia ana, e whakarārangihia ana hoki te tūranga me te mana o te wahine. Tērā pea ko ia te rangatira o te nuinga o ngā whakatau, ā, ko ia te hoa rangatira i roto i te whare. Ko ngā rārangi o te kawenga i roto i te whanaungatanga kua mārama te tuhi, ā, ka whakaae ngā taha e rua.

4. Mana whakahaere tino nui

Ka taea e te wahine te kī haumaru, "Kei roto ahau i tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine", mēnā ko ia anake te rangatira o te whare. Ko te FLR me te mana whakahaere tino kaha e whakahē ana i ngā tikanga pāpori katoa. I konei, ko te wahine te tangata matua i ngā āhuatanga katoa o te whanaungatanga. Ka riro i te tāne te tūranga ngohengohe, ā, ka tukuna e ia te mana katoa i roto i te hononga.

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Ngā Painga me ngā Huakore o te FLR

He rite tonu ki ngā momo whanaungatanga katoa, he painga, he ngoikoretanga anō hoki ō ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine. Ko te mutunga iho, kei ngā taha e rua e whai wāhi ana, me ngā āhuatanga pēnei i te hototahitanga o te whanaungatanga. whakaute tahi, me te ngākau hihiko ki te whakarerekē me te whakatutuki i ngā hiahia me ngā rohe o tētahi ki tētahi.

Ngā Painga o te FLR	Ngā ngoikoretanga o te FLR
Ko te noho i roto i tētahi whanaungatanga e kaha ana te wahine ka taea te whakanui ake i te herekore me te harikoa o te taatai	Ko ngā momo whanaungatanga tino kaha e arahina ana e te wahine, pērā i ngā whanaungatanga tino mana whakahaere, ka whakaititia, ka tukino hoki mēnā kāore e pehia.
He iti ake te pakanga nā te iti ake o ngā ngā pakanga mana i roto i te whanaungatanga	Kei reira tonu te wehi kei kore e taurite te mana, ā, ka mamae tetahi tangata nā te mea ka puta.
Ko te āhua tonu o te whanaungatanga e hiahia ana kia tuwhera, kia pono hoki te kōrero	He whakama pāpori kei roto i ngā whanaungatanga kore-tūturu. He uaua te whakahē i te whānau, i ngā hoa, me te hapori kia kore ai e pakaru tetahi whanaungatanga.
E whakaae ana ngā hoa mahi e rua ki ngā whāinga me ngā mahere ā meake nei	Tērā pea ka pāngia te hoa ngākau ngohengohe e te raruraru whakawhirinaki-tahi ka aukati i te tipu whaiaro.
Ka taea e ngā FLR te whakaiti i te pēhanga ki te tāne, ā, ka nui ake te wā hei tūhura i a ia anō.	Ko te kore e ngāwari o ngā tūranga whanaungatanga i roto i ētahi momo whanaungatanga tino kaha e arahina ana e te wahine ka ārai i te whanaketanga whaiaro me te tipu o te whanaungatanga.

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Kāore he mea miharo, he uaua te whakatere i tētahi FLR nā te mea he ariā hou tēnei, ā, kāore anō kia tino rongonui ngā tohutohu whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine. Engari, pērā i ngā whanaungatanga katoa, me whai ture koe kia angitu ai tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine. Kei roto i ēnei ko te tautuhi anō i ngā tūranga ira tangata e pā ana ki ngā mahi o te whare me te wehewehe i ngā kawenga i waenga i ngā hoa mahi, te whakahaere pūtea, me te whakatau kaupapa o ia rā.

Ka puta mai i tētahi miro kōrero a Quora mō ngā ture mō te whanaungatanga hauora e ārahihia ana e te wahine kia tupu ai ētahi tirohanga whakamere. Hei tauira, ko te kaituhi o Quora Matiu Naidu e whakarārangi ana i ngā ture motuhake mā te hoa tāne hei whai mā te hoa tāne i roto i tētahi FLR. E kī ana ia "me whakatau tonu ngā ture o tētahi whanaungatanga e whakahaerehia ana e te wahine i mua i te wā, ā, ko te mea nui ake, me whakaae tahi ngā hoa e rua."

Nā, he aha te mea ngaro mō te angitu o tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine? Me titiro tātou ki ētahi ture hei whai mā tātou kia angitu ai tētahi FLR:

1. Te Panui

Ko te tohutohu matua mō ngā whanaungatanga e ārahitia ana e te wahine hei aro atu ko te whakawhitiwhiti kōrero. Ahakoa te tūranga o te wahine, ko te me tuwhera ngā ara whakawhitiwhiti kōrero ā, e whakautehia ana i roto i te FLR. Me tuwhera, me pono hoki ngā taunekeneke a ngā hoa e rua.

2. Whakaute

Ko te nekehanga o te mana i roto i ngā whare e arahina ana e ngā wāhine e hiahia ana kia whakautehia te tangata matua o te hononga. Kāore e taea e tetahi FLR te angitu me te kore he hoa tāne. te whakaute i tana hoa wahinengā whakaaro me ngā whakataunga a te.

3. Te āhua me te whakapaipai

I roto i ētahi FLR tino mana whakahaere, ka taea e te wahine te whai wāhi ki te āhua tinana me te whakapaipai o tana hoa tāne. Ā, i mua i te tīmatanga o te hamama me te hamama mō te ahua wairangi o tēnei, me okioki tātou, me whakaaro anō ki ngā tāne e "tohe" ana kia kakahuria, kia ātaahua hoki ā rātou wahine. Nō reira, kāore tēnei i te tino rerekē, engari kua huri te tūranga ngohengohe, tika?

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4. Te whanaungatanga

I roto i ngā whanaungatanga e tukuna ana te mana whakahaere katoa ki te hoa wahine, ka uru atu te whakatau ki te ao o ngā whanonga moepuku. Ko te wahine rangatira te kawenga mō te whakatau i te oranga aroha me ngā moemoeā moepuku o te tokorua. Me whakarite hoki e te hoa tāne te hauora tinana me te hauora o tana wahine, o tana hoa wahine rānei. hiahia aronganui e whakatairangatia ana i ngā wā katoa.

5. Te tipu whaiaro

Haunga te whakatau kaupapa me te whakahaere i ia rā, ka taea hoki e ngā whanaungatanga e whakahaerehia ana e te wahine te whai wāhi ki te tautuhi i te tipu whaiaro o te hoa ngohengohe. Tērā pea ka akiakihia ia ki te whai i ngā ara motuhake e arahi ana ki te tipu whaiaro me te whanaketanga mahi, e ai ki ngā hiahia o te wahine kei roto i te tūranga matua.

6. Ngā mahi o ia rā

Ka hurihia ngā tikanga pāpori i roto i ngā whare e arahina ana e ngā wāhine. I roto i ngā whanaungatanga tuku iho, ko te tāne te kaiwhiwhi moni, ko te wahine te kaitiaki whare; i roto i te FLR, ko te hoa tāne te nuinga o te wā. pāpā noho-kāinga ahakoa ngā whakama katoa ā, ka nui ake ngā mahi o te whare e tukuna ana ki a ia pēnei i te tunu kai, te horoi, me te tiaki tamariki, ko te hoa wahine ia he mahi uaua ake tā te hoa.

7. Ngā take moni

Ko tētahi o ngā panonitanga nui rawa atu i roto i te whakawhitiwhiti mana i waenga i te tokorua ko ngā whakataunga pūtea. Ko ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te tāne ka tukuna ki te hoa tāne matua te whakatau whakamutunga mō ngā whakapaunga me te tahua. Heoi, i roto i ngā FLR, ka tono pea ngā tāne kia whakaaetia ngā whakataunga pūtea mai i ā rātou hoa wahine.

Kia ora tonu ai te FLR, me whakaae ngā taha e rua ki tētahi huinga ture. Ko te mea pai ko ēnei:

• Te kōrero pono
• Te tūwhera ki ngā tumanakohanga a tētahi ki tētahi
• Arotakehia i ia wā te hanganga o te whanaungatanga
• Te whakaae ki ngā rohe
• Kia whai hua te whanaungatanga mō tetahi ki tetahi
• Te mārama he whakatau me te momo noho tēnei e pā ana ki a kōrua anake, ā, kāore he tangata kē atu e tika ana kia whai wāhi atu ki tēnei whakatau.
• Te whakaae ki te āwhina mai i ngā kaiwhakaora hinengaro me ngā kaiwhakatakoto whakaaro mēnā e hiahiatia ana kia pai te whanaungatanga

Marisa Rudder, he kaituhi whanaungatanga wahine me te kaiako oranga, i kī i roto i tētahi miro Quora mō te neke ki tētahi FLR, "Ko te huarahi pai ki te kimi i tētahi whanaungatanga wahine ko te kōrero tuwhera ki tō hoa. He maha hoki ngā pukapuka pai kei reira hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau whai whakaaro. Kia whakatau kōrua ki te uru ki tētahi FLR, he mea nui kia kitea e te tāne me pēhea te whakahari i tana wahine. Tērā pea ka roa te wā e taunga ai ki tēnei, nō reira he mea nui kia hoatu he wā ki te whanake."

Me pēhea te kimi i tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine?

Ki te mea he tino ātaahua te whakaaro o tētahi whanaungatanga e whakahaerehia ana e te wahine, he mārama noa iho. Ko te nuinga o ngā whanaungatanga e whakahaerehia ana i runga i ngā ture me ngā kawenga rerekē, ā, he iti noa te wāhi o te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi ki roto i te mana whakahaere. Ko te whakaaro ka taea e ngā wāhine te whakahaere, ā, ka whakautehia hoki mōna, he tirohanga tino ataahua.

Ki te hiahia koe ki te rēhita me te kī whakahīhī, "Kei roto ahau i tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine", tera pea koe e whakaaro me pēhea te tīmata. Ka arahina tātou ki tā tātou pātai e whai ake nei: kei hea e kitea ai ēnei whanaungatanga e whakahaerehia ana e te wahine?

Tuatahi, me pātai tātou he aha te take e rapu ai te wahine i tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine i te tuatahi. Āe, he iti noa ngā take e tū mai ana i tua atu i te hiahia noa ki te whakahaere:

• Ina ko te wahine te rangatira o te whanaungatanga, ka puta he whakawhitiwhiti mana i waenganui i te tāne me te wahine.
• He mea nui ake, i roto i te angitu o te FLR, kāore he pakanga mana, ā, ngā tautohetohe i roto i te whanaungatanga, e hua ake ana te rangimārie whānui
• Ko te tāne e whakapono ana ki tōna āhua tāne, ā, e whakaae ana ki te tuku i te mana katoa ki tana hoa wahine rangatira, e akiaki ana i tētahi taumata hou o te whakaute tetahi ki tetahi.
• Ko te nuinga o ngā momo whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine ka tīmata te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata. Ina whai wāhi nui te wahine ki te whanaungatanga ā-ira tangata, ka tino wātea, ka whai hua hoki.

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Nā, he aha rā te take e rapu ai te tāne i tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine? Kua roa te ao e noho ana ngā whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te tāne, e ngā whanaungatanga tuku iho rānei. Engari kei te huri haere tonu tēnei. He tāne anō kei ēnei rā e maioha ana ki tētahi wahine rangatira. E harikoa ana ki te tuku i te whakatau me te whāngai moni ki ā rātou hoa wahine.

Ko ētahi atu take e rapu ai ngā tāne i te FLR ko ēnei pea:

• Te āheinga ki te whakakore i ngā tumanakohanga me ngā pēhanga a te tāne
• Te kore o te whakama, te kore rānei o te hara mō te tango i ngā tūranga ehara i te mea tāne
• Ka whakaaetia he tikanga o te ahuru me te whakamarie
• Mō te tāne ngāwari noa, he nui ake te whai hua o te FLR i te whanaungatanga tuku iho.

Ahakoa kei roto koe i tētahi hononga e arahina ana e te wahine, e arahina ana e te tāne, e noho tahi ana rānei, ka tū tonu ngā wero me ngā whakamātautau ki a koe. Ko te huarahi e taea ai e ngā hoa e rua te whakakore i ēnei arai me te whakaae ki te anga whakamua te mea nui.

Pērā i ngā momo whanaungatanga rerekē katoa, kāore pea ngā whanaungatanga e whakahaerehia ana e te wahine e pai mō te katoa. He mea nui kia mārama he pai anō hoki tēnei. Kaua tetahi e akiaki i tetahi ki roto i tētahi hononga e whakamā ai i a rātou, e whakahē ana rānei i ō rātou whakapono me ā rātou whāinga.

Mena he tangata koe e rapu ana i tētahi whanaungatanga e whakahē ana i ngā tumanakohanga pāpori, e hiahia ana rānei koe ki te tūhura i tētahi hononga tauhou, he kōrero mō te āheinga o tētahi whanaungatanga e arahina ana e te wahine te mea pea e hiahiatia ana e koe. Kia maumahara, ki te hiahia āwhina koe ki te wehewehe i ngā taipitopito o tētahi hononga pēnei, ki te hiahia rānei koe ki te ārahi i te kaupapa, ka taea e koe (ā, me tika) te kōrero ki tētahi kaitohutohu whanaungatanga, ki tētahi kaiwhakaora hinengaro rānei e tohunga ana ki te ira tangata me te kanorau ā-ira tangata mō ngā tautoko katoa e hiahiatia ana e koe.

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