He iti iho i te hunga aroha, he nui ake i te hunga hoa

Neke atu i te toru tau me te hawhe te roa mai i taku wehenga.

He mea mamae rawa te neke atu i tētahi hononga neke atu i te whā tau, mai i tētahi tangata i kite koe i te oati mō te 'ake tonu atu', te kitenga i a ia e wehe atu ana i te hononga me te kore e hoatu he whakamutunga.

He mahi koretake te ngana ki te whakapuaki i ngā momo kare ā-roto i pā ki ahau. I tino mamae i te tīmatanga, engari e ai ki te kōrero, ka ora te wā. Ahakoa te āhua kiriata, ki taku whakaaro ko ngā wā i noho tahi ai māua, harikoa, pōuri hoki, i puta pinepine mai i roto i tōku hinengaro. I hiahia ahau ki te rongo i tōna mahana, i te ngawari o tana pā, i te makuku o tana kihi. Engari ko te mea nui rawa atu, i hiahia ahau kia noho ko au te putanga o ahau i a au e noho tahi ana me ia – harikoa, marino, me te pai.

Āue! Kua riro atu ia, kua riro atu ake tonu atu, ā, kua riro atu ia mai i taua rā whakamataku.

I tēnei wā, i tūtaki ahau ki ētahi wāhine hou, i mōhio ki ētahi o rātou, ā, i whai hononga ā-tinana hoki ki ētahi. Engari i kite ahau kotahi te mea e pā ana ki ahau – te koretake. Kāore au i te wātea ki a rātou, engari i hiahia ahau ki te whakamarie katoa o te kare ā-roto. Kāore au i hiahia ki te moe tahi me rātou, engari i moe tahi ahau. Ina titiro whakamuri ahau inaianei, ka kite ahau i ētahi o rātou i pouri, nā te mea i kite rātou he ngoikore ahau i roto.

I panaia e au ahau kia matara atu i a rātou nā te mea kāore rātou i tika kia whiwhi i te tangata pōuri kua riro mai nei ahau. Kāore tetahi o rātou i kaha ki te whakahoki i ahau ki te noho noa, ā, kāore e taea e au te whakapae i a rātou. I tino mamae ahau.

I tētahi ahiahi, i a au e hikoi ana ki taku motuka e whakarite ana mō te taraiwa tekau hāora ki ngā pukepuke me te hararei e whā rā te roa mai i te mahi, ka waea mai ia ki ahau. He maha ā māua tūtakitanga i ngā pāti, ā, i pai te whanaungatanga. I tana pātai mai mēnā ka taea e au te tiki i a ia i te mahi, kāore au i whakaaro ka kite ahau i a ia e tatari ana me tana peke tuara, e rite ana ki te haere tahi māua. Inanahi noa nei ahau i kōrero ki a ia mō te haerenga, ā, ko tana kupu anake ko "Hmm...kia pai tō koutou ngahau!"

Pānui e pā ana: I muri i te tūnga kotahi o te pō, i ngaro ia i te aroha

I te wā i tū ai mātou ki Murthal mō te tina, ka kite ahau i tētahi atu tangata i kōrero tahi māua i ngā pāti. He maha ngā wā ka marino te tangata ki te kōrero ki ahau nā te mea ka whakarongo ahau, engari ko te āhua o tana whakatuwheratanga he rerekē i tētahi atu. I tukua e ia kia ngoikore, ā, kāore he tohu o te kopare kanohi. Mō te wā tuatahi i muri i taku wehenga, i whakaaro ahau ka taea e au te whakakore i taku āhua huna. I taraiwa ahau i te pō katoa e whakarongo ana ki tōna reo marino, e ako ana i ōna āwangawanga hohonu me ōna moemoeā tino porangi. I kite ahau i ōna kanohi e kanapa ana i te taunga mai o te māramatanga o ngā rama tiriti ki ōna kanohi roimata, i kite ahau i te hau makariri e mirimiri mārie ana i ōna makawe i ia wā e hurihia ana e ia ngā matapihi ki raro ahakoa te makariri.

I ngā rā e whā i muri mai, ka whakatuwherahia e au ōku whakaaro ki a ia, kāore i rite ki tētahi atu tangata i mua. I tangi ahau mō ngā hāora, me te awhi i a ia. I moe tahi māua, e awhi ana, ā, he maha ngā wā ka tangi i waenganui pō. I inu māua, i momi hikareti, i tunu kai tahi, ā, kāore i wehe i tō māua kāpata.

I te pō tuatoru, ka tīmata mātou ki te mahi ā-tinana. Kāore mātou i te haurangi, ā, i mōhio mātou ki tā mātou e mahi nei. I mōhio mātou kāore mātou i te aroha, engari i mōhio anō hoki kāore mātou i te rongo i ngā mea i pā ki a mātou i taua wā mō te wā roa, roa. I mahi aroha mātou me te mea kei te aroha mātou. He kaha, he ngākau nui, ā, he tino makona. I mōhio mātou me whakarērea e mātou ngā pukepuke ka hoki ki te ngahere raima, ki te mahi o ia rā i te ahiahi i muri mai. Ko te ata tuawhā tētahi o ngā ata pai rawa atu.

I noho puku mātou, e inu ana i te tī matomato, me te tirohanga ataahua i roto i ō mātou kanohi, me te pō hihiri i roto i ō mātou ngākau. Ehara te wahangu i te wahangu o te hara, o te whakama rānei, engari o te ngākau māhorahora. He ata onge tēnā i te wā e mōhio ai koe ki te noho o tētahi whanaungatanga whai tikanga ki tētahi atu tangata, te whānautanga o tētahi hononga whai hua.

I ēnei rā, he wāhanga nui ia o tōku ao, ā, e mea ana ia kei roto hoki ahau i tōna ao. Kāore māua i te piripono, kāore māua i te aroha, engari ka whai wāhi māua ki te mahi aroha nui i ētahi wā.

Ka haere tahi māua me ētahi atu tāngata ki te whakatau, ka kōrero mō te tūponotanga o te whanaungatanga ki a rātou. Ko te mea kāore māua i te noho mokemoke, he takoto kau. He nui atu māua i te hoa pai noa iho, engari ehara i te hoa aroha noa iho.

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