He tukanga whakapouri te whakarere, kāore tetahi e hiahia ana ki te pā atu. Ina koa i roto i te hapori Inia matatika, he maha tonu te iwi e titiro ana ki tēnei hei 'koha'. Heoi anō, he maha ngā Inia e whiriwhiri ana i tēnei kōwhiringa kaua e mamae i roto i te marena tukino. Engari ko te marena anō te taahiraa whai muri i muri i te wehenga mamae? Me haere tahi te whakarere me te marena anō? He pātai tēnei e pā ana ki te tini o ngā tāngata whakarere i roto i ō rātou oranga. He mea nui kia mahara kāore koe i te mokemoke. Whai muri i te maha o ngā mamae, ngā mamae me ngā whakaaro kino, ka hoki mai anō tō 'herekore' hou me tētahi atu whai wāhitanga ki te noho takakau. Me tuku anō e koe taua herekoretanga hei hoatu i tētahi atu whakamātautau aroha? E ai ki ā mātou kaitohutohu whanaungatanga, he mea noa te mataku, te mataku rānei ki te herekore.' i tēnei wā. Kei te tino ngoikore koe, ā, kāore koe e hiahia ki te whakararuraru i tō oranga ki tētahi atu whanaungatanga. Ki te pēnei ō whakaaro, kāore koe i te rite mō te marena anō. Me nui te wā hei whakaora me te wikitoria i te mamae i puta mai i te whakarere mamae. He kōwhiringa te marena anō i muri i te whakarere i Inia, ehara i te whakahau.
Me Ora Koe i Muri i te Wehenga
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He roa te wā e ora ai ngā patunga o te whakarere me te ngākau pouri. Tērā pea ka pouri koe, ka mataku hoki i tēnei wā tonu i muri i te whakarere. He pai ki te whai wā ki te hoki ki te āhua noa. Engari i te mutunga o te rā, he nama tā tātou ki a tātou anō kia kaua e pupuri i ngā kare kino i roto i te ao. Ka pirau pea, ka huri i a koe hei tangata kawa. Kua ngaro kē tō hoa rangatira i tēnei whakarere, kāore e taea e koe te ngaro i a koe anō. I tētahi ara, koinei te papa ma e hoatu ana ki a koe te whai wāhi ki te tuhi anō i tō kōrero. Ngāna kia whakamahia katoatia i muri i tō oranga. He tokomaha e kite ana i tēnei wā hei wā o te 'whakahoutanga'He ngāwari te noho pūmau ki ngā mahara o mua, engari ehara i te mea ko te huarahi māmā te huarahi pai rawa atu. Anei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a koe ki te ora i muri i te whakarere:
Me pēhea te whakaora i a koe anō i muri i te whakarere
- Ora i tōu ao i ia rā, i ia rā. Arotahi ki te ārahi i tētahi rā hauora, whai hua hoki. Haere ki te whare takaro tinana, oma tere i te takutai moana, eke pahikara, ā, kia pai te noho. Engari kaua e whakaaro tonu ki ngā mea o mua me ngā mea o mua, whakaarohia te rā kei te heke mai. Arotahi noa ki te noho hei mea pai rawa atu i tēnei rā. He rā pai ētahi, he rā kino ētahi. Engari kāore he aha. Kāore i te tika te tuku i a koe ki raro i te pēhanga koretake.
- Arotahi ki tō mahi. Whakatūria he whāinga hou, ā, mahi ki te whakatutuki i aua whāinga. Whakaarohia te wāhi e hiahia ana koe ki te noho i roto i tō umanga i roto i ētahi tau mai i nāianei, ka ngana ki te mahi ki te whakatutuki i taua taumata. Mā te whakawhiti i ō kaha ki ngā whāinga mahi ka tino āwhina i a koe ki te hanga i tō āhua ake. Tērā pea ka waiho hei pūtake mō te whakarere. Heoi, kaua e wareware ki ō kare ā-roto, kaua hoki e ruku ki roto i te nui o te mahi, ā, ka wareware koe ki te aro atu ki tō mamae.
- Whakaritea he wā mō te whānau me ngā hoaNā tā rātou tautoko mutunga kore i āwhina i a koe kia rere i roto i te whakarere, kia puta atu ai i tērā pito. Arohaina, kia whakatipuria hoki ō whanaungatanga ki te hunga e nui ana ki a koe, me te hunga hoki i piri ki a koe.
- Kimihia te whakamarie i roto i tētahi mahi whakangahauTe peita, te haere roa, te tuhituhi auaha, te kaukau, te hākinakina, te māra rānei – whiriwhiria tetahi mea e pai ake ai tō wairua, ā, he rongoā hoki mō tō wairua.
- Kia maia ki te noho mokemoke. Kaua e hohoro ki te tīmata i tētahi whanaungatanga hou, i te mea ka mutu pea i roto i te fakaakeake
Hangaia anō tō oranga mēnā kei te whakaaro koe ki te neke atu i tētahi marena kore angitu. Mā tēnei koe e āwhina ki te whakarite mō tētahi atu whanaungatanga, ā, hei te mutunga, mō te marena anō.
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Kia mōhio koe kua nui te wā me te wāhi kua hoatu ki a koe anō hei whakaaroaro me te mārama ki ngā hapa o te marena, me te take e whakaaro ai koe me tuku he whai wāhitanga ki tētahi hononga hou. Ā, hei te mutunga, ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki te mārena anō. Te marena anō He wheako rerekē, he wheako hou hoki. Engari me āta whakaaro, me āta whakaaro hoki koe i tēnei wā. He tapu tonu te mārena anō i Īnia i muri i te whakarere i te whare mō te hunga kaumātua. Heoi anō, kei te tuwhera haere te hunga rangatahi mō te whakarere me te mārena anō i muri i te whakarere i Īnia. Anei ētahi tohutohu hei āwhina i a koe ki te whakatau kia mārena anō.
Ngā Pātai Hei Pātai I Te Wā E Whakaaro Ana Mō Te Wehenga Me Te Marena Anō
Whakapono mai, whakapono mai rānei, mā te whakarere koe e hanga he tangata pono ake, he tangata whakaaro nui ake, he tangata pono ake hoki, ā, nō reira, i roto i te whanaungatanga. I tēnei wā, kua mārama koe ki tāu e hiahia ana, ki tāu e kore rānei e hiahia ana mai i tō marena anō. Nō reira, i mua i te whakaipoipo, i te whakaae rānei ki te marena anō, pātai atu ki a koe anō i ētahi pātai nui kia mārama ai te āhua, kia kore ai hoki e hohoro te whakatau. He maha ngā tāngata e whiriwhiri ana ki te whiriwhiri i tētahi marena tuarua i Inia i muri i te whakarere. Heoi, me mahi noa tēnei mēnā kua mārama koe ki tāu whakatau me tō tūnga. Kia mārama ai koe, pātai atu ki a koe anō i ēnei pātai:
He aha te mea e akiaki ana i a koe ki te marena?
Kei te aroha pono koe ki tēnei tangata? Ki tō whakaaro ka pai te hototahitanga me te māramatanga o te tokorua mō tō whanaungatanga? Mena āe, kei te huarahi tika koe. He mea nui ō whakaaro me ō hihiri mō te hiahia ki te moe anō. Kaua e hohoro te whakatau i tēnei nā te mea kei te koroheke koe, nā te mea rānei kei te akiakihia koe e ētahi atu. Ko te moe "mō te hiahia noa iho" te mea kino rawa atu ka taea e koe te mahi ki a koe anō me tō hoa. Mena he mārama rawa tō whakaaro ki tō hoa o nāianei, he take pai tēnei hei whakaaro mō te moe anō.
Kua whakaaroarohia e koe tō marena i rahua, ā, kua ako koe i ngā mea kua riro mai i a koe?
Kua whakaaro pea koe i ngā miriona wā mō ngā hapa i puta i roto i tō marena o mua. Tērā pea ko te te wawaotanga mai i ngā hungawai te whanoke rānei i arahi i a koe ki te wehenga? Ki te mōhio koe ki ngā take, tātarihia tō whanaungatanga o nāianei mai i tētahi tirohanga koretake. Kia tino mohio kei te haere tēnei i roto i te tauira kotahi. Kōrero ki ō hoa mō ngā tohutohu tika. Kia tino mohio koe kei te tino hiahia koe ki tēnei whanaungatanga, ā, kāore e whai i ngā ara o tō whanaungatanga o mua, ka taea e koe te whakaaro ki te marena anō. Mā te haere i roto i tētahi marena kore angitu ka ako koe i ngā mea katoa e pai ai, e pakaru ai rānei tētahi marena. He mea nui kia whakatinanahia e koe ēnei akoranga ki roto i tō whanaungatanga hou, ā, kaua e whakahoki anō i ō hapa. He waimarie, kei te rongonui haere te marena anō i muri i te wehenga i Inia i ēnei rā. Ko te nuinga o ngā marena tuarua i Inia he angitu.
Kua nui te wā i pau i a koe ki te whakaora?
Te tere ki te whai hononga He kino te marena me te kore e ora mōu. Nō reira, hoatu he wā tika ki a koe anō hei whakaora, hei wikitoria hoki i ngā pānga kino, i ngā kare ā-roto kino rānei o te whakarere. Kia mahara kāore he wā "tika" hei whakaora i te whakarere. Kāore koe e hiahia ki te tere. Kia roa te wā e hiahiatia ana hei whakaora i tō marena tawhito, kia tae atu ki te wāhi e whakaaetia ai koe. Me marena anake mēnā e hiahia ana tō ngākau, ā, e whakaae ana koe ki tēnā. He roa te haere o te whakaroa. Mēnā kei roto koe i tētahi hononga pumau, tonoa rātou kia tatari mēnā kei te whakaaro koe kāore anō koe kia rite ki te marena. Kāore tēnei e waiho hei raruraru mēnā kei te aroha pono rātou ki a koe. He pai ake i te marena tere me te pouri i muri mai.
Kua pāngia ngātahi kōrua e ētahi wero?
Me pēhea te kimi mēnā kei te tautoko tō hoa o nāianei i a koe? I a koe e whakaipoipo ana, ka whakaatuhia e te katoa ō rātou ake āhua pai, engari ka puta noa mai ō rātou āhua tūturu i te wā o te raruraru. Nō reira, kōrerohia ngā āhuatanga whakaoti rapanga pea i muri i te marena me tō hoa. Tātarihia ā rātou whakautu, kia pai ake ai te whakaaro mō te āhua o tā rātou whakatau i ēnei āhuatanga. Mā tēnei koe e whakarite mō ngā āhuatanga kāore e hiahiatia i muri i te marena anō. Ina whakaaro koe ki te marena anō i muri i te wehenga, he mea tino nui tēnei. Me whakarite hoki kia tirohia e koe te roa o te tatari ture a te tangata i Inia i mua i te taea e te tangata te marena anō. He āwhina te tango tohutohu ture mō ngā ture hou mō te whakarere me te mārena anō i Īnia me ō tika ture i roto i tō mārenatanga tuarua.
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Kei te whakapau kaha rātou ki te hono atu ki āu tamariki/mātua?
He tokomaha ngā tāngata pakeke e rapu ana i te marena anō me tirotiro i ō rātou māramatanga me te hototahitanga ki ngā tamariki. Mena he tamariki āu, kaua rātou e māharahara mō tō marena anō. Hoatu he wā ki a rātou kia whakaae ki tō hoa rangatira o nāianei. Tukua rātou kia piripono i roto i ngā wā iti pēnei i te pikiniki, i te kiriata rānei. Me haere tonu ki te marena anō mena kei te koa ngā tamariki, ō mātua rānei ki tēnei hononga. He mea nui ngā tamariki ki te nuinga o ngā mātua, nō reira, ki te kore te tangata hou i roto i tō ao e piripono ana ki āu tamariki, ka puta he raruraru mōu. He maha ngā wā ka kore e angitu ngā marena anō i Inia nā te mea kāore ngā tamariki e whakaae ki ngā hoa rangatira hou. Me tino tupato te whakahaere i tēnei āhuatanga. He roa te wā e whakaae ai ngā tamariki ki tētahi mātua whāngai hou, engari e aro nui ana rātou ki tō harikoa. Mā ngā mahi a koe me tō hoa rangatira hou ka āwhina i āu tamariki ki te whakaae ki tēnei āhuatanga hou.
He hototahi ō pūtea?
He maha ngā marena i Inia ka mutu nā te kore e taurite te āhua o te pūtea.
Ngāna kia kitea mēnā he tangata whakapau moni tō hoa o nāianei, he tangata nama rānei. Ko wai te tangata e whiwhi moni nui ake ana i waenganui i a kōrua? Ka taea e kōrua te tautoko tetahi i tetahi, mēnā ka ngaro te mahi, te pakihi rānei?
Kōrerohia ēnei take, kātahi ka whakatau mēnā kei te pirangi koe ki te haere tonu. Ko te whakarere me te mārena anō he mahi takitahi i ia wā.
Āhea ka taea e koe te mārena anō i Inia i muri i te whakarere?
Kia tukuna te ture whakarere, ka taea e koe te marena anō i ngā wā katoa e hiahia ana koe. Kāore he aukati motuhake mō te marena anō i muri i te wehenga. Heoi, he maha ngā wā ka tono ngā hoa rangatira kua wehe kē ki te kooti kua akiakihia te wehenga ki a rātou nā te mea i hiahia te hoa rangatira kia wawe te marena. Tāpiri atu ki tēnā, he whakatau tere Ka raru pea tō whanaungatanga hou nā te mea kāore anō kia ora, ā, kāore anō kia tino mōhio he aha tāu e hiahia ana mai i te marena.
E ai ki te ture Inia, mēnā kua whakakorea te marena e te ture whakarere, ā, kāore he mana piira mō te ture, mēnā rānei he mana piira pērā, kua pau te wā piira me te kore he piira i tukuna, mēnā rānei kua tukuna he piira engari kua whakakorehia, ka tika kia marena anō tetahi o ngā taha o te marena.
Ngā raruraru pea o te mārena anō i muri i te wehenga
Ehara i te mea ngāwari te whakatau ki te marena i muri i te whakarere. Tērā atu anō i ngā take i tautohetia ai te whakarere me ngā raruraru pēnei i te utu tautoko. Ka nui ake te uaua ina he tamariki kei roto. Heoi, ehara i te mea onge. He tokomaha tonu te hunga e harikoa ana ki te marena anō ahakoa kua tautohetia te whakarere i Inia. He tokomaha kua kitea he oranga hou i muri i te marena anō. Ka taea e rātou te kimihia tō rātou hoa wairua Ahakoa i muri i te wehenga, ā, tera pea ka pērā anō koe. Engari, i mua i tō kī 'Ae', ngana ki te tirotiro i ētahi raruraru ka puta pea, ā, ka taea te karo.
Kia pēhea te wawe o te wā mō te marena anō i muri i te whakarere?
Kāore he wā tika mō te mārena anō i muri i te whakarere. I raro i te ture, ka taea e koe te mārena anō i te rā ka hainatia e koe ō pepa whakarere i Inia. Engari me whakarite koe i a koe anō ki te whakawhirinaki ki tō hoa hou i te taha hinengaro, i te taha pūtea me ō tamariki mēnā kei roto rātou i te whārite. Hei whakatutuki i taua taumata māramatanga, me mōhio koe ki a rātou me te whakapau i te wā ki a rātou. Kāore he hiahia ki te tere ki te here anō i te pona. Kaua e tukua te hapori kia takaro ki tō hinengaro me te akiaki i a koe ki te mārena anō. Tukua tō aroha kia puāwai, me ngana ki te mārama ake ki te tangata i mua i tō whakatau ki te peke atu ki te mārena anō.
Te marena anō i muri i te wehenga me ngā tamariki
He tokomaha ngā tāngata kua whakarerea te marena ka moe anō. I roto i ēnei, he maha ngā wā ka whānau he tamariki nā te marena o mua. I roto i tēnei āhuatanga, he mea nui kia āwhina ngā mātua whānau me ngā mātua whāngai hou i ngā tamariki kia mārama ake ki ngā take mō te whakarere me te moe anō i muri i te whakarere. Me tuku mārire ngā tamariki kia tau ki te āhua hou, kia whakaae hoki ki ngā huringa.
Te marena anō mō te aroha
Kāore te whakarere e ārai i te tangata kia hoki anō ki te aroha. He tokomaha ngā tāngata kua whiriwhiri ki te mārena anō i muri i te whakarere kua kitea te aroha i roto i tā rātou hoa hou. Kei te aroha te mana ki te wikitoria i ngā āhuatanga katoa, me te kamupene tika, me te wā tika hoki. Ki te tino mōhio kōrua ki te aroha o tētahi ki tētahi, kāore he mea e aukati i a kōrua ki te mārena anō mō te aroha. He maha ngā wā ka puta te mārena anō i Inia nā te mea kua kitea e te tangata te hoa wairua.
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Te hototahitanga pūtea
Kāore e taea te whakakorekore ko te hototahitanga me te māramatanga ā-pūtea te kī ki te angitu o ngā whanaungatanga maha. He maha ngā wāhine kua whakarerea, kāore nei i te motuhake ā-pūtea, e uaua ana ki te whakahaere tamarikiKo ētahi kāore e whiwhi moni nui ana i roto i te tautoko tamariki, i te ara rānei o te tautoko tamariki. He maha ngā tāngata kua whakarerea e whakatau ana ki te moe anō i runga i te hototahitanga pūtea me ā rātou hoa hou. He tino whakamarie te mōhio kei te pai te āhua pūtea o te whānau hei pupuri i te haere pai o te whānau. Ina koa ki te hunga e utu ana i te tautoko tamariki.
Te marena anō ina hiahia koe
I muri tata mai i te wehenga, tera pea ka hiahia koe ki te marena anō mō ngā take hē katoa. Kei te mokemoke koe, kei te mamae, kei te mataku hoki. Engari kaua e tukua ki ēnei kare ā-roto. Taria kia ora rawa koe i te mamae kare ā-roto me te hinengaro o te wehenga. Ko te marena tuarua i muri i te wehenga ka taea te tu atu i ngā whakamātautau o ngā wā ina mahia ana i runga i te hiahia, ehara i te mea he take. He rite te haere i roto i te wehenga ki te whenua uaua. Heoi, ko te wetekina mai i te marena raruraru ka hoatu ki a koe te herekoretanga. Ka hoatu he whai wāhi ki a koe ki te marena anō, me te kimi anō i tō hoa rangatira. He ture hou kei roto i te ture marena i Inia e taea ai te whakarere me te marena me te iti ake o te ngangau. Mā te whakaora tika me te haumi whakaaro nui, ka taea e te marena anō te kawe mai i te harikoa hou ki roto i tō ao, ā, ka āwhina anō hoki i a koe ki te hanga anō i tō whānau.
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