Kua whakatau koe kia neke atu i te awhi me te kihi, te turanga tuatahi me te tuarua? Kei te whakaaroaro tonu koe ki te moe tāne me te wahine e arohaina nuitia ana e koe? Kua rite koe ki te rongo i tētahi i te ara tata rawa atu? Mena he 'āe' nui tō whakautu, kua rite koe ki te ruku. Kia maumahara he pānga nui te moe tāne mō te wā tuatahi ki te hinengaro me te tinana. Ka whakarerekē te moe tāne i a koe, i te taha hinengaro me te taha tinana. I te taha hinengaro, tera pea ka rongo koe i te harikoa, i te ngaronga ngawari rānei, kāore rānei koe e rongo i tētahi rerekētanga nui o ngā kare ā-roto. Engari ka tino rerekē tō tinana i roto i ngā huarahi maha i muri i te ngaronga o tō wahinetanga.
Te ngaronga o tō wahinetanga mō ngā wāhine, he mea e maumahara tonu ana rātou. He whakaaro tō te nuinga o tātou mō te āhua o tō tātou wā tuatahi. Ahakoa i rite ki te whakamahere, i te kore rānei, ka mau tonu ki roto i tō mahara ake tonu atu. He maha ngā pātai a ngā wāhine e manukanuka ana i mua i te mahi i tētahi mahi pēnei, ā, ka tuhituhi mai rātou ki a mātou mō ngā tohutohu. He mea noa te whai ruarua me ngā kōrero pakiwaitara, inā koa i tētahi whenua pērā i a Īnia he tapu rawa te kōrero mō te moepuku. Ka tuhituhi mai ngā kōtiro ki a mātou me ngā pātai mō ngā pānga o te ngaronga o te wahinetanga, ka tuhituhi rātou mō te huarahi hei whakapai ake, ā, ko te mea nui, mō te take ārai whānau katoa. Ko te tirohanga tawhito ko te he mamae te wā tuatahi ka taea te waiho ki tahaki. He mea whakamīharo, he ako I kitea e te Journal of Sex Research i muri i te 6,000 o ngā taiohi he nui ake ngā wāhine o ēnei rā e pārekareka ana ki tā rātou whakamātautau tuatahi ki te moepuku i mua atu.
Ngā Huringa Tinana i Muri i te Ngaronga o tō Wahinetanga
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E ai ki tā mātou i kōrero ai i mua, ko te moe tāne mō te wā tuatahi ka whakarerekē i te tinana i roto i ngā huarahi iti. Kāore ēnei huringa e kitea e tō whānau, e ō hoa rānei, engari ka waiho koe me te mamae reka me te ngau kino. I pātai mātou ki ā mātou kaipānui ki te whakapuaki i ō rātou wheako tuatahi i te pō, kua whakarerekētia ō rātou ingoa hei tiaki i tō rātou tūmataitinga, ā, tera pea ka ako koe i ētahi mea mai i tēnei. Engari mō ngā huringa o ō rātou tinana, he rerekē ngā whakautu a ngā wāhine, kua kōrerohia e mātou ētahi o rātou i raro nei. Mō te taatai, kāore he rahi kotahi e pai ana mō te katoa. He maha ngā wāhine kāore e pāngia e ngā pānga o te ngaronga o tō rātou wahinetanga engari mō ētahi, he tino kitea ngā huringa. Nā te mea kua kaha koe ki te taatai, tera pea ētahi kare ā-roto ka pā ki a koe, anei ētahi o aua kare ā-roto.
1. Kia rite ki te kite i te pakari me te rahi o ō ū
He pai ki ngā tāne ngā ū I te wā moe tāne, kāore? I muri i te moe tāne, ka piki ake pea te rahi o ō ū ki te 25%, neke atu rānei, i runga i te taumata o te whakaohooho. Me hoko pea koe i tētahi pōtae nui ake i tō kakahu. Ko te pikinga o te rahi o ngā ū nā ngā huringa homoni e puta ana i roto i te tinana i muri i tō ngaronga o tō wahinetanga. Nō reira, ko tā te tini e whakapau ana i ngā rau mano ki te whiwhi, he ū nui ake, he ū pakari, kua riro mai i a koe. Kia pai tō āhua hou, he taonga nā te ngaronga o tō wahinetanga! Anei tētahi kōrero i tae mai ki a mātou he i whakakahoretia e te tama te kōtiro nā te mea he iti ōna ūHe whakamataku, engari ka tupu tonu ēnei mea.
Engari, ki te kore koe e hiahia ki ngā ū nui ake, kaua e manukanuka, e kore e mau tonu taua rahi. Ka rerekē te rahi o ngā ū i runga i tō taumata hihiri. Heoi, i te nuinga o te wā, tera pea ka ahua nui ake, ka mārō ake i mua. Koinei pea tētahi o ngā huringa tinana tino kitea i roto i te tinana i muri i te ngaronga o te wahinetanga.
2. Ka tino tairongo ngā uma
Ko ō uma te taonga nui rawa atu māu, ā, ko tētahi hoki o aua mea nga waahanga erogenous o te tinana wahine. Whai muri i te moepuku, ka mamae, ka mākūkū ngā uma, ka nui ake te aro. Ka puta tēnei nā te mea ka nui ake te rere o te toto ki ngā ū, ki te areola, me te uma. Mā te pā paku noa, ka moemoeā te moepuku, ā, ka kite koe i te urupare mā te whakakīkī.
Nō reira, ka noho tonu aua kōroke me te pakeke i ia wā ka oho koe.
3. Ka ngāwari tō rohe tara
He piripono ngā pakitara o te tara me te kiore i te wā e wahine ana koe. Whai muri i te moe tāne, ka whānui haere ngā pakitara o te tara, ā, ka nui haere anō hoki te kiore. Mā te moe tāne anō ka nui ake te ngāwari o ngā pakitara, ka totoro kia pai ake ai te mahi, kia iti ake ai te mamae. Kātahi ka tino pai te urunga. Kia ngaro tō wahinetanga, ka tīmata te kiore ki te aro pai ki ngā mahi whakaipoipo. E ngā tāne, ki te pānui koe i tēnei, ka taea e koe te mahi he maha ngā mea hei hanga i tō wahine mākū i mua i tō haerenga ki te mahi whakamutunga.
Mena he ahua werawera tō tūtakitanga tuatahi, tera pea ka uaua ki a koe te hikoi nā te mamae iti o te tara. Ko ētahi tāne e pai ana ki te moe tahi me te wahine mō te wā tuatahi, ā, ka waiho pea tō tara ki te mānukanuka i muri mai. Ko ētahi e mōhio ana ngā tāne ki te pūkahukahu pai ake, kia āta haere hoki te mahi kia rite ai te ahuareka o te taatai ki ngā wāhine, ki ō rātou ake hiahia.
4. Ina ngaro tō wahinetanga, tera pea ka toto koe
Ahakoa kāore e toto katoa ngā wāhine, ko te hunga e kore e pakaru te hymen ka pāngia pea e te toto iti. Nā ngā hākinakina me ētahi atu mahi whakakori tinana uaua e mahia ana e ngā kōtiro i ēnei rā, ka pakaru te hymen ahakoa kāore he mahi moepuku, nō reira he mea nui kia kaua e mataku ahakoa he toto tōu, kāore rānei. I pā mai tētahi kōrero ki a mātou. he tangata e manukanuka ana kāore tana wahine e toto, me te mea he wahine ia.
Hoki atu ki tā tātou kaupapa matua, ahakoa kei te ora tonu tō hymen, tera pea kāore e pakaru katoa i te wāhanga tuatahi anake. Tērā pea ka roa pea ētahi wā hei whakaiti i te hymen. E mōhiotia whānuitia ana ko te haehaenga o te hymen, he whakamātautau wahinetanga tēnei i roto i ētahi ahurea puta noa i te ao.
Kāore te toto e puta tuatahi mai i te nuinga o ngā wāhine, nā te mea kua totoro pea te hymen i mua i te whakaurunga. Mēnā ka toto, tera pea ka kite koe i ētahi ira mō te rā kotahi, e rua rānei, ā, kāore e tika kia āwangawanga koe. I muri i ētahi wā, kāore e tika kia totohia koe i muri i te moe tāne.
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5. Tērā pea ka roa te wā o tō paheketanga
Ahakoa he mea maori te rongo i te pikinga o ngā homoni i muri i te moe tāne, ā, ka taea e tēnā te whakararuraru i tō huringa paheketanga mō te rā kotahi, e rua rānei, ki te roa atu i te wiki te roa, he tohu pea tēnei kua hapu. Kia mahara ki te aroturuki i tō huringa paheketanga. Ki te mea kua hē koe, ā, kāore i tangohia ngā mahi ārai e tika ana, tirohia tēnei tuhinga. Ko te kaupapa nui ko te haumaru o te tango pire i muri i te moepuku haumaru kore.
Mena kua moe tāne koe me te kore tiaki, ā, ka pāngia koe e ngā tohu pēnei i te whakapairuaki me te ānini o te upoko, me whakamātau koe mō te haputanga. Ka taea e te whakaroa o te paheketanga te waiho hei take āwangawanga, nō reira kia tūpato, kaua e pouri, me whakamahi i te tiaki. Ka taea e te haputanga kāore i te whakamaheretia te noho hei moemoeā kino. Kua whakamāramahia e mātou ngā ture whakatahe i roto i tō tātou whenua, mehemea kei te hiahia koe ki te pānui.
Ngā Huringa Kare ā-roto i muri i te Moe Tahi mō te Wā Tuatahi
He mea motuhake te wā tuatahi, ā, tera pea ka nui ake ngā tumanakohanga kare ā-roto e pā ana ki tēnā. Tērā pea ka hiahia koe kia noho tonu te tāne i konei i nāianei, kia nui ake tana aro me tana aro ki a koe. He mea tēnei hei hiri i te whanaungatanga, ā, me whakamana pea koe i te meka mai i a koe. Haunga tēnā, kei te pāngia hoki tō tinana e ngā huringa, ā, ka pā anō hoki tēnā ki tō oranga kare ā-roto. Ko ētahi o ngā kare ā-roto noa ka pā ki a koe ko:
1. Ka nui ake tō aroha
Ahakoa te roa o tō kōrua whakaipoipo, te roa rānei o tō kōrua marena, i muri i te moe tuatahi ka nui ake tō hiahia ki tō hoa. Ka puea ake tō aroha ki a ia, ā, ka nui ake tō whakapuaki i tō aroha, me te tumanako ka pērā anō ia. Whakamahia ngā kaha katoa e taea ana e koe, ā, whakamaheretia tō whanaungatanga. te pō tuatahi tahi me te tino tupato.
2. Ka harikoa koe
Ka eke koe i runga i te ekenga harikoa i muri i tō moepuku tuatahi. He whakapae mō te pai Tuhinga e tuku ana i te homoni e hari ai koe – te oxytocin. Mēnā kua tino piri koe ki tō hoa, ka mutu ka harikoa koe, ka makona, ka harikoa hoki. Waihoki, i ia wā ka whakaaroaro anō koe ki ngā āhuatanga o te pō motuhake, ka rongo koe i te pikinga ake o ngā homoni harikoa. Kia pai tō harikoa. I tae mai tētahi kōrero mō tētahi wahine kua rua tau te marena, ā, kei te wahine tonu ia.!
3. Ngā ture whakawhirinaki
Ehara i te mea ko te oxytocin anake, engari ka tukuna hoki e tō tinana te dopamine e whakanui ana i te whakapono ki a koe anō, me te whakatenatena hoki i ngā whanonga pāpori pai. Ka tukuna anō hoki te testosterone i muri i te moe tāne, ā, ka āwhina i a koe ki te kōrero mōu ake i roto i ētahi atu wāhanga o te ao. Ka harikoa koe, ā, ka āhua harikoa te ao, ahakoa he rite tonu ngā mea katoa.
4. Hihiri, ā, mataku hoki i te wā kotahi
I ētahi wā, ka whakama te tangata i te taatai - he tika? Ko ia te tangata? Koinei rānei te aroha mauĀ, mehemea he takaro noa iho tāna? E takaro ana ēnei pātai i roto i te hinengaro o te nuinga o ngā wāhine. Ā, ko te tikanga, kei reira te tumanako me te harikoa mō te wā e whai ake nei.
5. Ka tiaho tō kiri, kāore i rite ki mua
Tētahi atu take harikoa mō te moe tāne, e kī atu ana mātou ki a koe! I te wā e kaha ake ai ngā homoni pai i ngā homoni kino, ā, ka harikoa koe, ka maia, ka harikoa hoki i te harikoa, ka ātaahua hoki te kiri. Mā tō tinana marino ka puta he kiri hauora, kanapa hoki.
Mā ēnei homoni harikoa, whakakaha hoki i te māia, ka nui ake tō harikoa me tō harikoa i tō mua. Kia pai tō wairua harikoa, ā, kia tumanako atu ki te mahi ā-ira tangata.
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He aha ngā pānga o te paheketanga i muri i te moe tāne mō te wā tuatahi?
Ahakoa he mea ngahau, he mea whakaharikoa hoki te moe tāne, he tino whakararuraru te hāputanga kāore i te whakamaheretia. Ko te pātai nui rawa atu e pātaihia ana e te katoa, ka roa ake taku paheketanga, ka rerekē rānei taku huringa i muri i te ngaronga o taku wahinetanga. Kāore pea te whakautu e rite mō te katoa.
- I te wā moe tāne, ka kaha ake ō homoni, ā, ka taea te whakaroa i tō paheketanga mō te wā poto. Kāore e roa te whakaroa, engari ki te roa ake te wā, he pai ake te whakamātautau haputanga kia tino mōhio ai koe.
- Ko tētahi atu take mō te whakaroa ko te ahotea me te wehi tonu e pā ana ki te nuinga o ngā wāhine i muri i te moe tāne mō te wā tuatahi. He tokomaha e mataku ana kāore i te wātea te tiaki, nō reira e mataku ana kei hapu. He pai ake te noho marino, kaua hoki e manukanuka ki te whakaroa o te paheketanga tuatahi.
- He pai ake te whakamahi i te parenga mō te moe tāne me te wahine i te wā tuatahi. Mā tēnei ka mōhio koe he haumaru, ā, kāore koe e hapu i te wā tuatahi. Me tohe kia whakamahia he ure tāne tika me te hinu whakahinuhinu hei wheako i te harikoa o te hiahia me te aroha.
Kia maumahara he rerekē te haerenga o te taatai i ia wā, i ia wā. Mā ia wā koe e āwhina ki te ako atu mō tēnei mea, me te pai o tō ekenga ki runga i tō tāne. Kaua e whakakeke, tukua kia pai te haerenga e eke ana ki te tino pai. Hei āwhina i a koe, tēnei tētahi tohutohu whakamutunga hei whakawai i a ia, kia maumahara ai kōrua ki a ia.
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He tino āwhina tēnei tuhinga, e 25 ōku tau, ā, kua ngaro taku wahinetanga i ēnei rā tata nei, i tino āwangawanga ahau nā te mea kua paku rerekē ōku ū, ā, i roto i ngā tuhinga katoa i pānuihia e au, e kī ana kāore e taea e tō tinana te huri i muri i te wā tuatahi, nō reira he tino āwhina tēnei.
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